Absolutely, it's all about how genuine the bond is between each other.
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Time is a measure of love because love goes beyond what you are feeling at the present moment. It is a promise to remain duty bound to the other person indefinitely. So yes, if you leave the person just because they don't give you the fuzzies in your stomach anymore, it speaks volumes on how much you actually loved them.
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Yeah, it's called chasing the 🦋✨🦋 Feelings as facts are how you bring a nation to its knee
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Absolutely, two of the worst broken hearts I’ve ever experienced were gals that I only dated for a relatively short time. Ones that we were dating for a few to several months. Even now, looking back over the decades, I can’t figure out why it hurt so bad at the time.
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True however we tend to think the longer the better and that’s not always true.
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Yeah and you can feel everything and 2 weeks later there's no longer a connection anymore. It goes both ways from my experience. Just because you're meant to be for a time doesn't mean it's "meant to be" forever.
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Time might not be the measure of love; but money is a measure of liability and vulnerability. And when love becomes a contract, then the measures of liability and vulnerability need to be weighed.
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The danger is the lie that love is all about emotion. That isn't Biblical, but even if you aren't Christian (or Jewish: is "ahavas chessed" really that different from "agape?"), you must realize that emotions are transient. Do you want to build a family on transients? In our species, it takes almost 2 decades (some of that is cultural, but even when the lifespan was only forty-something, people weren't functioning adults before around 15, nor even reproductive until 12ish) for our offspring to become functioning adults safely independent of their parents. It takes commitment to raise children. Do you then base the relationship that produces children on fleeting/changeable emotions? Actual love is accopanied by emotions, sure, but it is a *commitment*, a covenant decisión at its core, not "the tingles."
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It's critical to deal with and let go of emotional baggage from previous relationship(s) before considering marriage, otherwise you risk projecting your insecurities on the other person and repeating the same toxic behavioural patterns. Nowadays, marriage is like playing Russian roulette: there is always that chance that despite your best intentions and efforts, a marriage can quickly turn sour and become your hell on earth. Single mothers need to be acutely aware of the financial implications because at the end of day, the new husband has no legal, social or spiritual obligation to provide for another man's child(ren). Proverbs 17 verse 1 states that it is better to eat a dry crust of bread than to feast in a house full of trouble. If the husband chooses to provide for the other man's child(ren), consider it a blessing and don't take it for granted. It is not wise to be led by emotions into marriage.
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