It's important to know what kind of family you have. Healthy families are focused on care in the present to set children up for success in the future. Keeping children in a safe harbor involves everything from healthy attachment to protection to emotional honesty. We are tethered into healthy caregivers in a good way until we're ready to go out on our own. A toxic or abusive family isn't focused on the children's success. The focus is often rooted in chaos or drama, where the children are often caught up in the parental storm - on a short chain to "family." In our adulthood, a healthy family still provides a safe harbor through emotional connection and shared support. When life happens, members still have a safe and sound enough place to go to be vulnerable. For those in the toxic family, the storm never really ends. *The alcoholic stepdad has to come to the wedding, or mom won't go, and it's the same old. *You're required to still be the responsible parent to your parent or sibling, and it doesn't matter if you are struggling in your own life. *A simple visit returns to the old gross dynamics, and we leave triggered and disconnected, wondering what could have been done. We have tethered to the family's anchor as their storm drags us around, damaging our worth. What was that storm for you?
How does it play out, and most importantly - where does it leave you?
Patrick Teahan
It's important to know what kind of family you have.
Healthy families are focused on care in the present to set children up for success in the future. Keeping children in a safe harbor involves everything from healthy attachment to protection to emotional honesty. We are tethered into healthy caregivers in a good way until we're ready to go out on our own.
A toxic or abusive family isn't focused on the children's success. The focus is often rooted in chaos or drama, where the children are often caught up in the parental storm - on a short chain to "family."
In our adulthood, a healthy family still provides a safe harbor through emotional connection and shared support. When life happens, members still have a safe and sound enough place to go to be vulnerable.
For those in the toxic family, the storm never really ends.
*The alcoholic stepdad has to come to the wedding, or mom won't go, and it's the same old.
*You're required to still be the responsible parent to your parent or sibling, and it doesn't matter if you are struggling in your own life.
*A simple visit returns to the old gross dynamics, and we leave triggered and disconnected, wondering what could have been done.
We have tethered to the family's anchor as their storm drags us around, damaging our worth.
What was that storm for you?
How does it play out, and most importantly - where does it leave you?
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