Love is the answer but it’s not always the solution – Daily Dose 38
You can’t love someone enough to make them love themselves. And, if someone doesn’t love themselves, they’re not going to do the things they need to do to have a healthy relationship with you.
I know this first hand. I didn’t even like myself until I was 35 years old. True story. I also had never had a healthy relationship.
I honestly didn’t know I was toxic. I was too busy feeling like a victim to my circumstances to even realize that I wasn’t loving myself.
Maybe you’re waiting for someone else to love you before you feel worthy of love? That’s a tough place to sit – trust me.
What ends up happening is you get needy and that manifests in ugly social skills, especially in romantic relationships.
If you’re with someone who doesn’t love themselves all that might sound familiar.
People-pleasing, beating themselves up all the time, putting up with toxic relationships, putting others ahead of their own needs – are all indicators that someone doesn’t love themselves enough to do what they need to do to have healthy relationships with others.
So, what can you do? If it’s you – hit the books – my book even, videos – I have over 200. Seek out any source of learning you can tap into. Try some stuff, keep trying until something clicks.
If it’s someone that you know, wish them well and go on with your life. Or pull up a chair - because you’ll be stuck in their classroom until you do.
Happy Matters with Dawn Super
Love is the answer but it’s not always the solution – Daily Dose 38
You can’t love someone enough to make them love themselves. And, if someone doesn’t love themselves, they’re not going to do the things they need to do to have a healthy relationship with you.
I know this first hand. I didn’t even like myself until I was 35 years old. True story. I also had never had a healthy relationship.
I honestly didn’t know I was toxic. I was too busy feeling like a victim to my circumstances to even realize that I wasn’t loving myself.
Maybe you’re waiting for someone else to love you before you feel worthy of love? That’s a tough place to sit – trust me.
What ends up happening is you get needy and that manifests in ugly social skills, especially in romantic relationships.
If you’re with someone who doesn’t love themselves all that might sound familiar.
People-pleasing, beating themselves up all the time, putting up with toxic relationships, putting others ahead of their own needs – are all indicators that someone doesn’t love themselves enough to do what they need to do to have healthy relationships with others.
So, what can you do? If it’s you – hit the books – my book even, videos – I have over 200. Seek out any source of learning you can tap into. Try some stuff, keep trying until something clicks.
If it’s someone that you know, wish them well and go on with your life. Or pull up a chair - because you’ll be stuck in their classroom until you do.
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