What I Really Mean When I Talk About Modern Masculinity
I appreciate the thoughtful comment that sparked this post. It raised a question many men quietly struggle with: what do we really mean when we talk about masculinity today?
Let me clarify something important:
Discipline and responsibility are universal values, not owned by masculinity. But when I talk about men being ‘feminised,’ I’m not attacking emotional awareness or sensitivity. I believe deep emotional connection with our children, partners, and inner selves is part of what makes a man truly powerful.
What I am pushing back against is the cultural narrative that says masculinity is broken by default. That men must either become soft, deferential versions of themselves, or be labeled toxic.
The Real Issue Isn’t Sensitivity. It’s Submission The “feminised man” I’m describing is the man who’s adopted feminist ideology to the point that he sees men as inherently flawed, and women as the moral standard.
That’s not emotional intelligence, that’s ideological surrender. And it erases what is strong, noble, and necessary about being male.
This Is About Earned Power Not Alpha Theatre When I talk about masculinity, I’m not selling some rigid, outdated ‘tough guy’ act. I’m talking about:
Earned power. Internal order. Physical presence. Clarity of purpose. The strength to lead when everything falls apart.
Most of what’s out there isn’t built for men in their 50s who’ve lived, bled, and survived. We smell BS from 100 yards, and instantly see through their latest spin, and that’s who I’m here for.
The Real Crisis: A World Without a Framework for Men We’re not living in the same world our fathers or grandfathers did.
The roles that once gave men identity - provider, protector, builder have been outsourced, deconstructed, or declared obsolete.
So what happens?
Men become workhorses for a system that no longer values them or worse, quietly resents and demotes them.
Now we see two dominant male archetypes rising from the ashes:
The Delusional God: the man who performs status, power, and confidence online while being hollow inside. He believes he’s the main character, but craves constant validation.
The Broken Shell: the man who feels worthless, unseen, and disconnected. He’s been told he’s the problem, so he shrinks, apologises, and numbs himself with distractions.
Somewhere in between stands a third man, a man who sees both options and says, ‘Not for me.’ He opts out. He becomes quiet, disengaged, often depressed. But that man has the most potential. He doesn’t want slogans or shame. He wants truth, structure, and direction, something that answers the question: What now?
Discipline alone is not enough. It’s a tool but tools are useless without purpose. The question isn’t whether masculinity is too narrow. It’s whether we have the courage to reforge it in a way that’s honest, grounded, and adapted to the world we live in now without erasing everything that once made it strong.
What I’m building here is not a throwback, it’s not nostalgic alpha theatre. It’s a reconstruction project. One that starts with owning our reality, redefining our role, and rising together.
Historically, men like us would sit around a fire sharing ideas, stories, and scars. Not shouting over each other, but building a shared understanding in front of the younger men. Our wisdom, while different, would meet in conversation and sharpen like steel on steel.
I don’t claim to have 100% of the answer. This is a big problem. But here’s the point: if I bring my 100%, and you bring yours and then more men bring theirs, before long we have thousands of men, aligned in purpose, each contributing a piece to something sustainable and future-proof.
This isn’t about returning to the past. It’s about carrying the best of it forward and rebuilding something modern men desperately need: meaning, clarity, and brotherhood.
What do you bring to the fire, brother? Drop your 100% below. Let's build it together.
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What I Really Mean When I Talk About Modern Masculinity
I appreciate the thoughtful comment that sparked this post. It raised a question many men quietly struggle with: what do we really mean when we talk about masculinity today?
Let me clarify something important:
Discipline and responsibility are universal values, not owned by masculinity.
But when I talk about men being ‘feminised,’ I’m not attacking emotional awareness or sensitivity.
I believe deep emotional connection with our children, partners, and inner selves is part of what makes a man truly powerful.
What I am pushing back against is the cultural narrative that says masculinity is broken by default.
That men must either become soft, deferential versions of themselves, or be labeled toxic.
The Real Issue Isn’t Sensitivity. It’s Submission
The “feminised man” I’m describing is the man who’s adopted feminist ideology to the point that he sees men as inherently flawed, and women as the moral standard.
That’s not emotional intelligence, that’s ideological surrender.
And it erases what is strong, noble, and necessary about being male.
This Is About Earned Power Not Alpha Theatre
When I talk about masculinity, I’m not selling some rigid, outdated ‘tough guy’ act.
I’m talking about:
Earned power.
Internal order.
Physical presence.
Clarity of purpose.
The strength to lead when everything falls apart.
Most of what’s out there isn’t built for men in their 50s who’ve lived, bled, and survived.
We smell BS from 100 yards, and instantly see through their latest spin, and that’s who I’m here for.
The Real Crisis: A World Without a Framework for Men
We’re not living in the same world our fathers or grandfathers did.
The roles that once gave men identity - provider, protector, builder have been outsourced, deconstructed, or declared obsolete.
So what happens?
Men become workhorses for a system that no longer values them or worse, quietly resents and demotes them.
Now we see two dominant male archetypes rising from the ashes:
The Delusional God: the man who performs status, power, and confidence online while being hollow inside. He believes he’s the main character, but craves constant validation.
The Broken Shell: the man who feels worthless, unseen, and disconnected. He’s been told he’s the problem, so he shrinks, apologises, and numbs himself with distractions.
Somewhere in between stands a third man, a man who sees both options and says, ‘Not for me.’ He opts out. He becomes quiet, disengaged, often depressed. But that man has the most potential. He doesn’t want slogans or shame. He wants truth, structure, and direction, something that answers the question: What now?
Discipline alone is not enough. It’s a tool but tools are useless without purpose. The question isn’t whether masculinity is too narrow. It’s whether we have the courage to reforge it in a way that’s honest, grounded, and adapted to the world we live in now without erasing everything that once made it strong.
What I’m building here is not a throwback, it’s not nostalgic alpha theatre. It’s a reconstruction project. One that starts with owning our reality, redefining our role, and rising together.
Historically, men like us would sit around a fire sharing ideas, stories, and scars. Not shouting over each other, but building a shared understanding in front of the younger men. Our wisdom, while different, would meet in conversation and sharpen like steel on steel.
I don’t claim to have 100% of the answer. This is a big problem. But here’s the point: if I bring my 100%, and you bring yours and then more men bring theirs, before long we have thousands of men, aligned in purpose, each contributing a piece to something sustainable and future-proof.
This isn’t about returning to the past. It’s about carrying the best of it forward and rebuilding something modern men desperately need: meaning, clarity, and brotherhood.
What do you bring to the fire, brother? Drop your 100% below. Let's build it together.
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