Id love to see you make a video on the feeling of inadequacy and resentment. Often times I feel like when people talk about the feeling of inadequacy, they talk about someone whos objectively a loser feeling like theyll never "measure up" to their successful peers. Yet for me, its the opposite. Even though I have everything going for me, I still feel inadequate conpared to the people who rejected me in the past- even though they can objectively be considered bad people, the most bottom of the barrel "nothing is ever my fault" bums of society. I used to look up to those people though, so it still hurts. Especially when they made fun of me while i was dealing with stuff like homelessness beyond my control. Youd think after getting into self improvement and surpassing them mentally, I would feel happy, but Im not. Its like because i was never seen as "worth it" when it came to my parents no matter how much I accomplished, my brain is in this constant state of feeling like Im never good enough for anyone. That no matter what I overcome or work hard for, its never enough. I hate it. These people dont deserve to be put on such a high pedestal by me, they have done absolutely nothing to deserve it. Yet I cant help it. I dont have any friends and I never really had friends most of my life. Im a recluse. I know I should put myself out there and all that but I cant shake off this depression. I tried seeking professional help yet they are completely useless at their job, I cant afford it.
2 months ago | 8
I'll only suffer once , I'll suffer in studies till I get it better so I don't have to suffer on exam day too . I'll suffer only once .
2 months ago | 7
Hey really love ur content been here since id say 2023 ig i love this point u raised there is this exact beleive in our religion islam which i really love which is devine decree where its the same thing. u are supposed to be patient when anything out of ur reach happens eg u get ina accident lose both your hands u couldn't stop the accident but u can however choose to be patient and grateful because u could've been unalive so we are taught to always be grateful as something worse could happen again a very very hard thing practically but for that we also believe that this world is a test and that u can be fully happy here and the afterlife for the patient people will be more than anyone can ever imagine so it really helps us be motivated and ofc its a skill u learn so yea really love that fact
2 months ago | 2
damn this really changed my perspective on a lot of things happening rn in my life. TIMING IS INSANEEE
2 months ago | 3
What you are trying to say is that express your emotions instead of holding them back. Express the anger , annoyance ,etc. Don't hold it back and then get over it. Trying to sugar coat things when we don't feel that sugary about it just makes the anger, annoyance piled up and that's why people often have breakdowns when that piled up things get burst like a volcano. Getting over it after expression is LETTING IT GO if you have no control over it.
2 months ago (edited) | 0
OH MY GOD, the words and Damnnnn after so long he finally posted 😭
2 months ago | 2
This works and I've figured this out in my holidays while reading some manga and stuff. Its a great mindset to have but be mindful yourself of how you act or take decisions(my experience was I was getting too arrogant or carried away ig).
2 months ago | 0
Thanks. This is one of the posts I read before bed every day and yes it makes sense when you elaborated it like this.
2 months ago | 0
"Christ suffered once to pay for all our sins" thats the thought I had while reading this. Very epik stuff ruff, hope that little mini movie project is going well! cant wait for your next upload.
2 months ago | 0
Ruff what would you do in life , when u set really really big goals in a long term and fuck up really bad on those goals , would the failure instill a sense of fear within you for even setting goals in the future? and if that feeling is instilled how to get over it? therapy , mindfulness or set another goal?
2 months ago | 0
Ruff
Only Suffer Once
These 3 words have shaped my life a lot over the past while, in small and big moments.
There are 2 types of suffering. There is the REAL suffering, which occurs in the real world. Something occurs which causes us pain. The bus could skip your stop, you could drop your drink or your family could get run over by a drunk driver going at 69 miles per hour in a school zone - take your pick.
That’s the real suffering. You don’t have much control over it.
But then, after that, we choose whether we suffer or not. So the bus skips your stop and you can either get mad at that (thus suffering a second time) or you could just sit and wait for the next bus.
And so the question I ask myself is “What is the utility of suffering a second time?” And usually there is none. Being mad at the bus won’t cause the bus driver to back up and open the doors for you like you’re Thor pulling back your hammer magically to your command.
And so if you can’t change it - you may as well not suffer again. This is so much more realistic than what a lot of self improvement people say which is “Duuuude everything is in ur MIND. Just be zen and meditate. Pain is an emotion so if you can control your emotions, you can choose to not feel it.”
Which on paper is true but unless you’re a monk that has meditated for 50 years… It’s not practical at all. Yes I know suffering is technically all in your mind - but knowing that won’t stop me from suffering for the rest of my life.
I think trying to avoid suffering is impossible. But trying to only suffer once… that’s a balanced way forward.
And this is absolutely game changing. Every single time something happens, just say “I’m only gonna suffer once.” And leave it at that. I feel the buildup of annoyance gather in my chest… then once I say those magical words, I feel it physically go back down and disappear.
So today, just try it once. When you experience something unpleasant - Say those words. Only suffer once.
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