Until then, I thought, "I know what the 5 love languages are; I don't need to read the book."
Then I read it and realized what a big mistake I had made. The nuances of the love languages matter. Hearing real-life experiences matter. A holistic understanding matters. I thought I understood the love languages, but after reading this book, I had so many breakthroughs that I felt inspired to take action, and my relationships became more fulfilling almost overnight.
What does this have to do with hunger or food?
Well, you often hear bits of advice about your relationship with food. Things like "follow your appetite cues," "eat everything in moderation," or "if you think you're hungry, you might just be thirsty."
These simplified statements can be helpful starting points, but they can also be limiting if taken at face value.
With any of these bits of advice, the nuances matter. Hearing real-life experiences matter. A holistic understanding matters. By oversimplifying the advice, we actually make it confusing, and many people walk around thinking they understand when they don't.
I spent 4 hours reading the love languages book, 4 hours journaling about it, and practicing daily since then. That’s what improved my relationships—not just hearing about the concepts.
Our clients with disordered eating spend 1 hour of active learning, 8 hours of listening, 3 hours of journaling, and 2 weeks of daily practice 'just' to get in touch with appetite cues and distinguish between physical and emotional hunger.
Why? Because that’s what it takes for real, deep change to happen.
Without the holistic understanding and the practice and the skill building, surely we have no other option than to rely on willpower and turn "Eat when you're hungry and stop when you're full" into some strange new dieting rule?
Gaining a healthy relationship with food that comes naturally to you will take effort and there will be ups and downs, but any step you take towards understanding is valuable. If you think you might want to give it a go, then we're here ❤️
Rachael Wrigley
Hearing -> knowing -> understanding -> practicing -> being.
I recently read the book 'The 5 Love Languages.'
Until then, I thought, "I know what the 5 love languages are; I don't need to read the book."
Then I read it and realized what a big mistake I had made. The nuances of the love languages matter. Hearing real-life experiences matter. A holistic understanding matters. I thought I understood the love languages, but after reading this book, I had so many breakthroughs that I felt inspired to take action, and my relationships became more fulfilling almost overnight.
What does this have to do with hunger or food?
Well, you often hear bits of advice about your relationship with food. Things like "follow your appetite cues," "eat everything in moderation," or "if you think you're hungry, you might just be thirsty."
These simplified statements can be helpful starting points, but they can also be limiting if taken at face value.
With any of these bits of advice, the nuances matter. Hearing real-life experiences matter. A holistic understanding matters. By oversimplifying the advice, we actually make it confusing, and many people walk around thinking they understand when they don't.
I spent 4 hours reading the love languages book, 4 hours journaling about it, and practicing daily since then. That’s what improved my relationships—not just hearing about the concepts.
Our clients with disordered eating spend 1 hour of active learning, 8 hours of listening, 3 hours of journaling, and 2 weeks of daily practice 'just' to get in touch with appetite cues and distinguish between physical and emotional hunger.
Why? Because that’s what it takes for real, deep change to happen.
Without the holistic understanding and the practice and the skill building, surely we have no other option than to rely on willpower and turn "Eat when you're hungry and stop when you're full" into some strange new dieting rule?
Gaining a healthy relationship with food that comes naturally to you will take effort and there will be ups and downs, but any step you take towards understanding is valuable. If you think you might want to give it a go, then we're here ❤️
Rachael x
shethrives.co.uk/your-journey
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