Here is something a client of ours said to me during a progress review today:
"I have always hated my body for not looking the way I want it to look. I feel so ashamed, and the thought of other people seeing me consumes me with anxiety. But it's not just that. I worry about 'little' things, like whether I made dinner for friends well enough! I never realised until this moment that I have this intense need to be seen as perfect. If I'm anything less than perfect, I don't feel good enough."
"Good enough for what?" I asked.
"To belong," she said. "Growing up, I had to hide the messiness of our home life from the outside world. I thought we were abnormal in our struggles. Ever since then, I've believed I'm not good enough. I blamed that for not having the sense of belonging and connection I need. I thought if I tried harder, that would change. But I have made a terrible mistake. I don't have a sense of connection because I haven't allowed myself to recognise and nurture what people really value about me. I also haven't allowed myself to be vulnerable. My perfectionism arose to help me gather a sense of belonging, but my perfectionism is the very thing that has alienated me."
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If you struggle with your body image and your relationship with food, you can reach out any time ❤️ www.shethrives.co.uk
Rachael Wrigley
Struggling with never feeling good enough?
Here is something a client of ours said to me during a progress review today:
"I have always hated my body for not looking the way I want it to look. I feel so ashamed, and the thought of other people seeing me consumes me with anxiety. But it's not just that. I worry about 'little' things, like whether I made dinner for friends well enough! I never realised until this moment that I have this intense need to be seen as perfect. If I'm anything less than perfect, I don't feel good enough."
"Good enough for what?" I asked.
"To belong," she said. "Growing up, I had to hide the messiness of our home life from the outside world. I thought we were abnormal in our struggles. Ever since then, I've believed I'm not good enough. I blamed that for not having the sense of belonging and connection I need. I thought if I tried harder, that would change. But I have made a terrible mistake. I don't have a sense of connection because I haven't allowed myself to recognise and nurture what people really value about me. I also haven't allowed myself to be vulnerable. My perfectionism arose to help me gather a sense of belonging, but my perfectionism is the very thing that has alienated me."
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If you struggle with your body image and your relationship with food, you can reach out any time ❤️
www.shethrives.co.uk
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