Thank you for the thoughtful comments and messages during my absence. It's clear this work resonates with many of you navigating similar territory.
My first video in this new series is live: "Stuck, Triggered, & Crushed? How Therapy Helps Us Heal the False Self and Find Our True Identity." If you haven't seen it yet, check it out. I'm curious to know if it resonates with you. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Lguf...
I examine three fundamental states that bring many of us to therapy:
***Stuck - disconnected from essential resources like clarity, purpose, and inner compass ***Triggered - nervous system dysregulation, that "bees buzzing" disconnect from calm ***Crushed - the liminal space of heartbreak living between who you were and who you're becoming
What matters isn't just managing these states - it's understanding how they reveal our relationship with the false self, that survival persona we constructed when the world felt unwelcoming. And if you've ever realized you've been living as someone you're not, I have empathy for you - that discovery can be so disorienting and grief-inducing.
I've been working on some things during this break that feel important to share. There's a newsletter now where I can go deeper into these concepts. The first one explores what it means to feel stuck - not just surface-level frustration, but that profound sense of being cut off from your own resources. I also created a 43-page workbook called Finding Yourself that goes alongside the video. It's designed to help you reconnect with who you are underneath all the layers.
I needed time away, and I talk about some of that in the newsletter. But this next phase focuses on what I've always been most interested in: those attachment patterns that shape how we move through the world, the particular loneliness that comes from not knowing who you are underneath all the roles you play, and what it looks like to find your way back to yourself when you realize you've been living someone else's version of your life.
Question for you:
What's one thing you're working on understanding about yourself these days?
Alan Robarge / Attachment Trauma Therapist
Hello.... I'm back. lol.
Thank you for the thoughtful comments and messages during my absence. It's clear this work resonates with many of you navigating similar territory.
My first video in this new series is live: "Stuck, Triggered, & Crushed? How Therapy Helps Us Heal the False Self and Find Our True Identity." If you haven't seen it yet, check it out. I'm curious to know if it resonates with you. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Lguf...
I examine three fundamental states that bring many of us to therapy:
***Stuck - disconnected from essential resources like clarity, purpose, and inner compass
***Triggered - nervous system dysregulation, that "bees buzzing" disconnect from calm
***Crushed - the liminal space of heartbreak living between who you were and who you're becoming
What matters isn't just managing these states - it's understanding how they reveal our relationship with the false self, that survival persona we constructed when the world felt unwelcoming. And if you've ever realized you've been living as someone you're not, I have empathy for you - that discovery can be so disorienting and grief-inducing.
I've been working on some things during this break that feel important to share. There's a newsletter now where I can go deeper into these concepts. The first one explores what it means to feel stuck - not just surface-level frustration, but that profound sense of being cut off from your own resources. I also created a 43-page workbook called Finding Yourself that goes alongside the video. It's designed to help you reconnect with who you are underneath all the layers.
I needed time away, and I talk about some of that in the newsletter. But this next phase focuses on what I've always been most interested in: those attachment patterns that shape how we move through the world, the particular loneliness that comes from not knowing who you are underneath all the roles you play, and what it looks like to find your way back to yourself when you realize you've been living someone else's version of your life.
Question for you:
What's one thing you're working on understanding about yourself these days?
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