I'd like to hear more guidance on and insight into learning to forgive yourself for the things you've said or done poorly, including the crummy decisions you may have made while you weren't healthy. Not just why we do the things we do, but how to really forgive yourself and move past it. With this, I think it would be really helpful to understand when and how to make amends to those you've hurt along the way, as well as how to discern when the best thing you can do really is just to stay away, move on and not reach out to them to even try to "make amends," bc sometimes maybe trying to do so just causes more harm than good. Something to help try and figure all that out would be super beneficial.
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how to get out of freeze mode in conversations in relationships as a fearful avoidant
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First i want to say that Thais Gibson is doing phenomenal work with attachment styles/theory💯 To answer the question though: I wish people would seek to really understand people's individuall blueprint or root causes to their attachment, sure the meaning or definition is accurate if you do a Google search, however I feel like not every FA, DA, or AP will behave the same
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It ties into it but how children grow up. I rarely see adults that take children seriously and I fear it always leads to them growing up misguided where people in one extreme or another pretend a problem isnt there or just dont think they have the mental capacity to understand our world when they can even at decently young ages.
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How to hold avoidants accountable for plans or promises they make about the future (a script) , how to communicate reciprocity and social or relational etiquette, how to communicate or help give perception to those who cannot see perception. How APs can stop feeling rejected by DAs lack of consistency in sex and also words/actions thus leading to resentment. A lot of these conversation scripts are great but in real life, they are met with one word answers or minimizing or being told "i can't do this right now" si theres no script if that occurs. 😊 thank u for all ur guidance and video
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What does Secure Attachment look like? How do they show up in a relationship?
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What could i (46 FA healing secure now) see if a severe dismissive avoidant (55) who doesn’t want to be in a conventional relationship because, he told me, it could ended.. (which I don’t want too cause it’s exhausting and I need my time alone in my place) start to heal or open up to something gradually? We both don’t like terms of love (I found that they were so easy to receive from exes that finally were more trying to bring my in their project without even knowing or respecting my needs.. which is not love for me
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I second @Frksilky - how to help our children so they can have secure attachment style when they venture out on their own
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Thais Gibson - Personal Development School
What’s a topic or question you wish more people talked about when it comes to healing attachment or relationships?
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