I needed to hear that - so bad - being ultra noble has only made my boundaries disappear and ensured everyone continued walking over me till there is almost nothing left of me to walk over - having to start from zero with almost no energy left, why are we given such impractical advice about being good to everyone and suffering till collapse - You are doing the most brilliant work spreading the word to stand up for ourselves with no shame or guilt attached . Thank you Lisa . ❤️🙏🏻
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True. I'm ill because I've always cared more about others rather than prioritizing my own needs and wishes. This is something I'm learning right now the hard way. Thank you for these thoughts. I needed to read them
4 days ago | 26
Exhausted. Thank you for explaining it in a way I can get ❤️
4 days ago | 32
It’s the “who do you think you are” part of this. I heard it every time, as a child, when I tried to set a boundary. As an adult I heard it in my head. Thinking of myself was not acceptable. Now it happens with some people if my opinion differs from theirs no matter how sensible, well researched and thought out my opinion is! I reached a point where I was so fed up with it that I accepted being called selfish and started to take care of myself first. There is a limit to tolerance and hopefully the rest of you start looking after yourself well before you hit it. LET THEM DOWN. It’s time they put on their big boy pants and looked after themselves.
4 days ago | 6
Attempted to set boundaries with my mom and she told me to stop acting bipolar. Now she'll get the cold treatment
4 days ago | 13
Absolutely. I’m a precision healthcare practitioner and thank God I have wonderful clients who allow me time to simply rest.
3 days ago | 1
Keep fighting warrior 💪 Same boat, huge empath, horrid pain, health issues, gut issues, amongst others, brain fog, defeated daily despite goals! Cleaning stuff up, natural health now, others can wait, I have ZERO to offer them! And, that's OK
3 days ago | 2
Thank you, I needed to hear this. Have to move away from my teen kids (they’re living at their dad’s for school) so I can get better health care and it’s been tearing me up inside.
4 days ago | 4
I’m so proud to know that the women of today are finding out this truth sooner than I did.
3 days ago | 11
Amén, sister. Rock on! I've recently quit my job because it wasn't allowing me to take care of my family. I was afraid to let my boss down, but I am EVEN MORE AFRAID to let the people I love down!
4 days ago | 3
Thank You, this came in the right time, as a reminder! ❤️💯 So, duble Thank You!!!
3 days ago | 3
I needed to see this...thank you so much. Self care is not selfish it's a MUST!!!!
4 days ago | 1
Lisa Bilyeu
Self care can be damn hard when you care so much about others. So I'm not gonna bs you and say "Who cares! You do you!" Because the truth is I don't feel like that. I HATE letting people down. Like in the pit of my stomach it makes me feel terrible. And I don't actually want to start seeing “caring about people” as a negative thing. So i just own that yes, yes i care if i let someone down. But... (yes of course theres a but) over the years with so many health issues I have had, I can truly and honestly say that there is nothing... and i literally mean NOTHING more important than your mental and physical health. Like nothing. Hit me with something!
My relationship with Tom? Well I learnt the hard way with my severe gut issue that it’s not much of a thriving relationship when you can barely stand up from the pain.
My business? Well, when I had brain fog and became extremely forgetful it was no longer a business I can really be excited about and focus on.
My family and friends? When you can barely muster the energy to text them because you're so malnutrition it's hard to hang out and be there for them if they need you.
So I come back to this quote. While yes, yes its bloody heartbreaking, if taking care of yourself means letting someone down. But, heartbreaking or not, let. Them. Down.
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