This is one of the traits that make it difficult to have long term friendships. I heard often in my life that I'm too much and too emotional just living my life. At first people love that but after a while they will blame me because they are not able to handle emotions.
3 months ago | 46
I have had to explain this to quite a few of my non-ADHD friends and once I mention that I only ever feel emotions when they start to run over, and that until then I'm neutral/numb, they kind of get it. Some don't, but at least I've gotten smart about picking friends that won't shame me for being emotionless.
3 months ago | 28
At one point my therapist wondered if I was bipolar, but it didn't really fit. This explains my life long mood swings and why I was soooo cranky, touchy, sensitive, angry and sometimes mean with hormone swings in my teens and twenties. The birth control pill smoothed out my hormones but I had no idea I was also dealing with ADHD. This explains a lot!
3 months ago | 24
"Don’t expect everyone to understand." is the one of the best keys of life I have ever found and personally supports my wellbeing as I navigate all the things :hands-yellow-heart-red: Sending good vibes 💖
3 months ago | 9
Yes, you can’t expect them to understand, but you don’t have to understand an emotion to care about the person experiencing it. If your adhd friend is lower than seems logical, you just comfort them, you don’t rationalize with them. If they’re higher than seems logical, give them a high five and move on, don’t tell them to calm down.
3 months ago | 3
Thanks, that's a very valuable information! But also we don't have to forget to check in with reality, like, who people around us really are. As people with ADHD, we tend to forget bad things and shift the focus. I recently discovered that 98% of my surroundings are narcissists. These people can't possible care because they don't have natural empathy and mostly concentrated on themselves, which supported the fact that I was gaslighted when I felt like they were pretending to care.
3 months ago | 21
This explains a lot why I dont like the word "Okay" or "fine". There is only "Good" or "bad" I still dont like okay or fine answers.
3 months ago (edited) | 6
This is interesting. 20 years before I was diagnosed with ADHD, I asked a manager in Human Resources what my co-workers thought of me. She said "People here either really love working with you, or feel the opposite. There is no in between." I now wonder if there is some correlation between that external response and what you posted here about ADHD people internally.
3 months ago | 13
ty i am near the LA fires and needed to hear this as I keep checking the map and news
3 months ago | 4
Really needed to read the whole passage... Going through a tough time recently ❤
3 months ago | 1
I've given to you a burden to bear The lowest of lows and highest of highs Give into me and all we can share is Our sweet demise, with tears in our eyes
3 months ago | 0
ADHDVision
If you have ADHD you may often feel like people aren’t as happy for you as you are for you...
..but it’s not because they don’t care, but because of how your brain processes dopamine
Something I learned after my diagnosis is that your adhd brain experiences good intense emotions as well as less pleasant ones more powerfully than others...
..while neurotypical people are at a 4-6 you’re either a 2 or a 9 and so often your high or low can’t be beat.
You’re either flying above the clouds or feel stuck in the depths of despair.
And while this can make you a very passionate and strong-willed person who will either go all or nothing, it can also confuse the people around you.
And so become aware of this. Don’t expect everyone to understand.
And if you’re going through a low blow right now, know this too shall pass and tomorrow may be bright as day.
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