Just turned 50. When I was a kid, all I wanted to do was sew all day. Easiest and longest lasting hyperfocus sessions ever. But my parents said no child of ours is going to be less than a doctor, lawyer, or engineer. I had no artistic talent that they could see anyhow, so I could keep my silly ugly creations as a hobby, but I needed to really TRY at school, stop being lazy. I went into STEM in college. I flunked again and again. I watched the fashion program girls and wished I had real talent like they did. My parents got sick of paying for college I couldn't pass, they gave up and realized that I was just mediocre at everything so they suggested I find a man to take care of me. So I did that...it turns out I'm a fun girlfriend but a terrible housewife. One thing nobody has ever tried to take from me is that I was a fun, dedicated mom, and I taught my kids to take their passions and run hog wild with them. I got diagnosed adhd at 25 and started really working on it. And I kept up my ugly hobby of sewing and added fiber arts of all kinds. Finally at 50 with 2 grown happy kids and feeling sick of being unfairly judged, I'm a bridal dress and custom couture lace maker, and the biggest problem adhd makes for me now is I have to be careful not to take too many orders. I'm booked 6 months out now. Mom and Dad are gone, and I earn the $ that pays the weekly visit from a competent housecleaner. Younger ADHDers, don't listen to the naysayers. Find your thing and do it your way. People have made the world in a way that doesn't make sense to you, they have bullshit priorities and ridiculous expectations. Go your own way. Don't waste 25 years trying to become what other people wanted me to be. I took so much shame and blame. Don't do that. Find your passion. Don't worry if it's some crazy obscure niche, like twisting little bits of thread into lace for a gown someone might wear once. You can find a way to make almost anything work out. Embrace both your differences and your passions.
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Present! Suspected AuDHD, but diagnosed ADHD. Currently trying my best to follow through on a big project that I fell in love with, even though it's kicking my ass 💜
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🙋🏻♀️late diagnosed at 50 checking in! Thank you for your content! You have truly helped me to learn and understand ADHD and Autism. Much love and success to you💜🙏💜 To my fellow ADHDers...I'm moved to tears reading the comments because I can relate to all of you. May we find our people of support and utilize our super power to understand and support others. Much love my peopl
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Late Diagosed last year and learning about ADHD has really opens eyes to how little it is discussed as far as women go.
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Right here lol I’ve ADHD since I was as 8 yrs old. It can be a benefit but it can also throw me off sometimes when I try to do too much. Thank you for all your advice ✌🏽🧡 helps immense
6 months ago | 1
Didn’t know it was our month of awareness👌🏾. 🙋🏾♀️ Officially diagnosed with (adult) ADHD! Was costly but totally worth it. Hoping others who need it can get testing done a
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Hey 👋 ADHD diagnosis at age 22/23 & it’s been 10 plus years since then. Learned SO MUCH from my knowledge search, webinars, ADA ( Adults with ADD/ADHD organization), professional ADHD specialists, & my ADHD tribe over the years. It’s been a JOURNEY & I’m still learning! There’s days when ADD/ADHD KICKS my butt & days when I WIN working WITH my ADD/ADHD. It’s a roller coaster sometimes
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Was just working on an application for a training program I've been dreaming of, and felt awful for taking weeks on a simple application. Had to sit back and tell myself it's ok to submit on the very last day, as long as I submit it. Took some of the pressure off and made it with a few hours to spare 😁
6 months ago | 1
I'm an educational psychologist and special education specialist. I was diagnosed in the 80s as ADD - now ADHD inattentive type.
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Damn, so it’s all just will power. Got it. So all I need to do is just do the things I need to do. Perfect.
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Late diagnosis at 26 and my mom still refuses to accept it. Like she'll say I have anxiety, but doesn't even want that managed. What's worse is she'll pride herself about being around patients with it and "the letter Hyperactivity, you don't have that!" that's not how the disorder works! Lol
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lol I’m Surgical tech school you know taking all day to complete my five discussion boards 😂
6 months ago | 4
Just got diagnosed add inattentive. I still can't function. I'm probably cptsd from the trauma I experienced in my youth. a lot of the psych issues I'm experiencing seem to overlap.
6 months ago | 0
Thank you for this. I have been struggling. I just wish I had someone to talk to.
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Kojo Sarfo, DNP
October is ADHD Awareness Month! Where are my fellow ADHDers at?
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