I recently ended a friendship and left a friend group of 4-5 people. Feels way better this way.
1 week ago | 107
I wouldnt have friends with "power hierarchy", id rather be alone
1 week ago | 42
The self-deprecating humor is a double-edged sword. You can use it to preemptively disarm folks who’d make fun of you. There’s, however, a difference between an occasional self-deprecating joke or picking up someone’s attempt to poke fun at you and going with it (as opposed to getting angry or sulky) and choosing to be repeatedly made fun of because it’s either that or they don’t talk to you at all.
1 week ago | 8
Im struggling with the after efdects of this, i used to be very much like that, (the self depriecating humor is very relatable) now i am much more open to people but i now feel im kind of an outcast since i isolated myself for so long and most groups are already established.
1 week ago | 65
I actually don't give a crap. I show up as I am, and if friendship happens, great. If it doesn't I'm already enjoying my own company.
1 week ago | 38
Can all us group losers come together and form a loser super group where we’re all kind and inclusive to each other cause we all get what it feels like to feel we have no value or importance.. 😂
1 week ago | 10
Caring less about being in a group stems from the realization that you dont need go be in that group. Youve lived without that group before, you can do it again. Aka, be confindent in being by yourself.
1 week ago | 6
Overcoming the fear of rejection and being who you want regardless is the biggest advantage you can have in general, not to say you shouldnt also consider others if theyre also a very respectful human being. That and if you have a solid sense of self you will feel less lonely by yourself than feeling that in bad company.
1 week ago | 33
If you’re treated like the ‘unimportant’ friend it’s better to be alone and find people who treat you like the ‘important’ friend
1 week ago | 0
I was always the unimportant friend and was never either clinging or trying to be non threatening lmao. I think most of my life people just disliked me ?? I think when I was younger I just wasnt that fun or cool to be around
1 week ago | 1
yeah, I had to learn this the hard way. focusing on not getting ejected, being non threatening, adjusting to the emotional temp of the room and chameleoning behavior basically made it so I was contributing nothing. I had to remake myself in my 20s and 30s to get out of this.
1 week ago | 1
Get out of that grp whenever you get wiser and start valuing yourself ..
1 week ago | 4
If never call your friends out on their bs are they a friend or are they a vessel to satisfy your social needs? A real friend isn’t afraid to call you or them out on bs. I’ve done things from telling my friends that the girl he wanted isn’t interested when he didn’t get the message to holding an intervention for being alcoholic. If you don’t want your friends to grow with you then you don’t have their best interest at heart.
1 week ago (edited) | 1
I have no issues with my friend groups, and they generally enjoy my company. I just have self-deprecating humor because I hate myself.
1 week ago | 2
I was in groups of friends filled with people who self loathe and told self depricating jokes often. I was ostricised from a couple of these groups. I think these separations have shown my growth and rising self respect.
1 week ago (edited) | 5
Don't have to worry about this stuff if you jump off a very high building 👍
1 week ago | 0
Yeah at this point if not wanting to be ejected makes people think you're not an important friend then people are just awful for treating them like that. So annoying to even maintain friendship and then this came along.
1 week ago | 0
HealthyGamerGG
New vid: Why You're the Unimportant Friend
Ever felt like you were left out or unimportant in your own friend group?
Does it feel like your friends are more important to you than you are to them?
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