It's like they tell you on an airplane, put the oxygen mask on yourself before you try to help someone else.
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The desire to help others has cost me so much freedom, so I am really trying to be of service to myself first. My people pleaser addiction is finding it hard, but SWL is pushing me to be better to me.🙏🏼❤
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I feel that paying attention to others is not only natural to me but also programmed through conditioning. I enjoy being a pillar for others and holding a tether for them to feel connected. I do this almost constantly. So taking a step to replenish myself, quiet the “other voices” and ensure I am grounded, recalibrated, healing and striving myself will allow me to participate in the world and others lives to the best of my ability. Many demands are made in my time, energy and bandwidth, it is much harder for me to pull back or create a boundary, than it is to pour myself into others.
2 weeks ago
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I’m a middle aged woman. I’ve put my share of time into people and spent a good part of my life prioritizing myself last. Not to be rude but I’ve earned my self focus. Doesn’t mean I don’t care about others. Just different priorities in my life at the moment. No harm no foul.
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We're putting ourselves first as we need to for physical & mental health & survival as have never had anyone else ever do that for us. We too have put lots of energy into others for over 3 decades. Keep going everyone you are worthy & do deserve it! Xxx
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Trying to help others only leads to more and more confusion because it feels like I'm trying to convince them they need to change or need the help. I'd rather focus on myself and maybe they'll come to me when they see I can help them.
2 weeks ago
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I am done with helping. Others, or myself. Now I live. I go for my dreams, full force. I will always keep learning, because I am curious and love to learn, but no more "healing" work. Now it's painting and drawing and writing. Reading poetry, learning sassy British ways to express things, yoga and running, guitar lessons, dancing and singing in the company of trees and the moon.
2 weeks ago
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I love being of help to others! But as of now I'm helping myself - primarily, becoming financially stable and doing inner work, of course.
2 weeks ago
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I’m having a difficult time in early motherhood balancing the two. My almost 1 year old depends on me, which is totally fine! but I also cannot be the most present, creative, and receptive parent if I am constantly running on empty. I’m tired of the self-sacrificing burnt out martyr-mom being the staple of how motherhood is portrayed. It is definitely a challenging balance to navigate but I’m sure with time I’ll figure it out! It’s made me re-examine the essence of what proper self care means especially with limited time. A good nap has replaced hours of reading and journaling, making sure I’m drinking water and taking my daughter for a walk to get outside has replaced a “perfect morning routine”. Giving myself 30 minutes to draw in the evenings after she has fallen asleep has replaced hours of painting until 3am. A few deep breaths and stretches have replaced long sessions of yoga and meditation. I have mourned this loss in the last year, but I’m also excited to embrace parenthood and to learn and grow from it, longer forms of self care will come back in time, but for now, it’s about reading my own cues and meeting my needs efficiently and my daughter’s cues as well. I find that the key to effective self care is not how long you do it, but how consistent, intentional, and present you are with it, all these things also sprinkle into good parenting as well so it’s a win win! I’m excited because I feel like everything I’ve been learning the last few years is finally coming full circle after being a people pleaser for so long, and having enough and then hermiting into healing/self care routines for awhile☺️ sorry idk where I was going with this just a tired mom rambling tbh! 🤣
2 weeks ago
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I feel that the current world situation is making it difficult to balance helping myself with helping others. I am able to help others through my profession but outside of work I find I am always concerned with my needs above all else. It is much more convenient to be selfless in a stable society. I honestly fear the distance between myself and my Self are growing, that this period is one of regression for many of us.
2 weeks ago
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I love helping others. But I’m in a bad spot right now and have to focus on myself to get to a better place. My spirit is actually a little hurt because I help people so much, but when I need it, it’s not there 😭 I’m going to get through this though! I have God!
2 weeks ago
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I prioritise my own healing but I’ve been much more successful at helping others. I have a 3 decade long IV meth user living in my shed, 4 months sober and might take my farm job when I move on in June
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At this moment in time jordan it has to be both for me, & thinking about it, in some way that's how it will always be, but as time goes on the pendulum will swing more on to me than it will on others as I've come to realise that having a time out & focusing all my energy on myself would be a greater advantage in being able help others in the future. My heart will always want to help others but my head at some point in the next 12 to 18 months needs to run away. The thing is jordan when that time comes, I will be spending more of my time with you 😁 Have a great weekend brother 🙏
2 weeks ago
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As there are 24 hours each day, there seems to be enough time to do both. Help myself and helping others ,both to be done in healthy ways.
2 weeks ago
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If you help yourself first, you create more room to help others. You don't negatively rub off on them, and you positively affect yourself and them, and so on..
2 weeks ago
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Honestly, what can I say? I am debating answering this but I voted so I shall. Basically I chose to be a mom, I chose to coexist with a pet. I therefore am responsible to put these little beings before myself, and I do so lovingly and honored to... and because it's so easy to wear the same clothes more than once and leave my hair in a bun a little too long and to push my own shoulds and eventually musts to the back of my desperately cobwebbed mind with the desperately neglected shadows that have grown to ridiculously immense proportions... that it's easy to forget that you are even still here, still waiting in the back of my mind quietly observing, to be rediscovered and tended to some day.
2 weeks ago
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Because I gave myself empty for years. 😔 Emtying my cup for others, having nothing left for me. I still help, but on my terms
2 weeks ago
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Coming out of a period of Reflection. 2024 was the hardest year of my life. After a lot of loss and big changes in living circumstances, I've come to mostly know what made those losses significant (and to what extent). I can now use that significance to pursue more truly personal meaning in my life. Some part of that is helping others.
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Jordan Thornton - Inner Work
BE HONEST: what is your priority right now?
Vote below & comment your reasoning
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