Hey I went through this too recently actually. Whenever I had something good happened I literally was afraid to tell her because I felt she had that āI hate youā and envious attitude, downplaying good stuff , so I always avoided telling her good news. My other friend never acted like that but this girl always did stuff like that i just had enough. I also deleted other people who were just off, it felt like they were snooping rather than friendly. Youāre just wrong for protecting your energy. A real friend will always be consistent with you even on their off days . Tbh even though she might not have meant harm or ill intentions , something in your mind told her that her energy & behavior not sit right with you. You opened up doors to more aligned friendships coming towards without second guessing yourself ā¤ you deserve REAL Loving respectful and genuine people around you
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you're right ..but somehow cutting off people/blocking them immediately will always be a better option but yes in that way you might block a real person too
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Be gentle with yourself. I tend to do the same thing with people. Healing takes self awareness and you have that down pat. Give yourself grace. ā¤
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Yes I can feel you the same and the 20's reality is hitting hard then we ever imagine šÆ i experienced same and am glad i cut off the fakeness from my life
1 month ago | 2
I feel you on the trust issues aspect, we will get through this even if the path isn't linear!
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I had the same experience where I felt the energy shift but then I called my best friend who is also on a healing journey & tapped into spirituality and asked advice which I rarely do... With the information I provided she said not to cut them off just yet as it would've been to hasty & just keep an eye out. Sure enough not even 2 weeks later I got to talk on the phone with this person again and they spoke on their own anxieties etc. And we were able to gain clarity and move forward even stronger.
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i got this same feeling from one of my closest friends. She literally just show her face like i did something so wrong.But then whenever she needs help she turns the attitude and i can see jealousy towards me she told me smth bad abt a girl and rn she stick to her everywhere in the school like howwww .i cant cut off 100% since we meet every school day and we have been hanging out for a lots of time.CAJELLLL I need a sub abt this kind of problemā¤ā¤ā¤
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As long as you had conversations before blocking them then valid (I know you said you gave them multiple chances so hopefully you pointed it out to them also). I still think the one who you mistakenly judged as one of the red flag lot can still be communicated with even after blocking, just have to reach out and be open about how you felt, what you realised and what you want moving forward. I know you said you werenāt as close to this person but if you see her being a good friend eventually then having this difficult conversation will help develop a stronger friendship I feel. Or even without the expectation of being solid friends could still reach out and be apologetic about making a rash decision about her or if itās not worth the conversation aka really not that close, then a unblock should be okay š¤·āāļø it is what it is and if you ever come across her again, could just have a quick conversation about it and re follow
1 month ago | 1
Just found your channel, by looking at the video titles, the topics seem so interesting, not to mention the thumbnails. Can't wait to start listening to them
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I feel sorry for you .This also happened to me.Everything became confusing and I started to hate maself.Fighting,Cajel. You are helping us in somehow. You will get healed and krama will work itself.
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As a woman always listen to your intuition the first time. Always listen to that gut feeling you have it may not make sense now but in due time.
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I been through that too babe, i have a huge heart and full of emotions but something leads me to burn bridges with ease. But in your situation, i feel like your intuition is strong and if your gut and heart lead you to burn a bridge it was part of the story and was supposed to happen, i doubt you just wake up and choose to say fk off to someone. Real and good friends wouldnt treat you like that even on a bad day, or at least not treat you bad without saying hey im going through things so FLAGS UP, but just to pick and choose when and when not to be good to you NO. Youre not made of rubber MY OPINION, love you babeā¤ļøā¤ļøā¤ļøā¤ļøšsending love and hug
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Hey! This is so real! Iāve experienced friends who never liked me deciding to be my friends but the dislike or inferiority lens they view you from never disappears or friends who have been secretly jealous and malicious towards me, etc that I couldnāt really read my best friend/close friend after a while with so much betrayal and anger clouding my judgment sometimes weād hang and I feel like we were missing ships in the night, next Iād be having panic attacks thinking she hate me, until our last hangout where I was sure she didnāt really like me and I was torn was I gonna lose another friendship or spare it and let it go I couldnāt bare to lose the friendship but I also couldnāt bare not communicating what Iād been feeling. And Iām glad o decided to sleep on it and take a walk to reflect with another friend (I didnāt talk about it with the friend cause I didnāt want to dump on them but getting out of that rumination helped me a lot) and when I communicated to my friend I had realize we were just missing each other a bit because we had outgrown of knowledge of each other but we were also growing together still. So we are making plans to catch up as friends (not roommates because we use to be college roommates our freshmen year) and me communicating helped her understand me more and even make her feel more comfortable speaking up and it really showed us how special the dynamic we have is. And itās still scary and uncomfortable being vulnerable and navigating friendship past conflict. Iām just glad I wouldnāt have to lose a great friend due to self sabotage or genuine betrayal cause Iāve had enough of that for my early 20s š
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Same here cajel. In the past I had huge trust issues that's why I didn't believe anyone quickly and I didn't know how to talk with someone for so long ( if I know someone today but I'm not sure if she talk me tomorrow or not . So most of the time I stay alone . I didn't talk with anyone and separated myself from everyone ) I wasn't talked some people they're really nice to me . Honestly, I regretted for those things that I did š
1 month ago | 0
you put exactly how i feel into words thank you, so much anxiety over this
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I just experience the same, i blocked two of my friends just because they don't talk to me out of no where because they don't feel like it and when i start distance myself from them ,they start blaming for distancing from them.And i was right they both talk shit about me behind my back and spread rumors about me.
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You have absolutely the right to do that if necessary Cajel. Your mental health is important and donāt let them attack your good energy
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Cajel Amirah's š«§šø
Just sharing šø
I blocked some friends thinking they were fake to me cuz they were kinda confusing. Some days they were nice to me. Some days they just didnāt give the āniceā vibes and had this āI lowkey hate youā micro expressions.
Things like this made me spiral into dilemma. I hated it. I hated how they made me feel sometimes. Iāve seen fake friends before. I didnāt wanna wait around and find out and make a fool out of myself. So I blocked them after giving them five chances.
Then in this retrograde, I found out one of them was actually really nice. She wasnāt that close to me. I only gave her two chances and they were kinda blurry. The red flag wasnāt really red. It was more of a brownish red? Maybe it was just brown. And not red. Maybe I just read her wrong. I blocked her quickly with a bunch of other ā100% sure itās redā people. And today I found out that she never had ill intentions towards me. The vibrant redness of other people made me think she might also be red. Ngl it gave me this very humbling self-reflective moment.
Not judging myself. Cuz I know i went through a lot of backstabbings. But itās just that healing does need more time and reflection. I should double-reflect on my trust issues before I cut some people off. I do like the way Iām quick to burn bridges with anyone, it kinda protects me from unnecessary drama but I also think that if I donāt work on my trust issues, cutting off quickly could develop into self-sabotage. I could lose some really good friends that probably were just having some bad days. And I could hurt feelings of friends that love me genuinely. This is what early 20s feels like, ig.
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