as someone who could describe myself as an androgynous to masc presenting transfem non-binary genderfluid lesbian, i feel everything in this video so hard. (go check it out, by the way, it's really good)
i could introduce myself with just "queer", but then people would likely make false assumptions. i could say *all* of those labels, but that's very awkward, and would be very confusing too. i could introduce myself with just 1 or 2, but that would also lead to false assumptions.
if i just said i'm transfem, people would assume i'm femme, which i am not. if i just said i'm a lesbian, people would likely assume that i don't have anything going on with my gender, which i very much do. if i just said i'm genderfluid, people would assume my gender goes across the full spectrum, while it's really only ever fluid different shades of non-binary. (or maybe a girl sometimes? i'm not sure, gender is confusing)
i could just go without labels and just say my gender is weird, but personally, i want people to have a decent idea of what my gender is like - and, most importantly, be able find community with people who use the same labels as me.
labels are inherently a very flawed concept, but honestly, i think the only problem with their use is *expecting* people to use labels. if we removed the expectation of people having labels, i think they would honestly just be a helpful tool for people like me who *do* want to use them - even if they are still far from perfect. ⠀
Erin the Enby
as someone who could describe myself as an androgynous to masc presenting transfem non-binary genderfluid lesbian, i feel everything in this video so hard. (go check it out, by the way, it's really good)
i could introduce myself with just "queer", but then people would likely make false assumptions. i could say *all* of those labels, but that's very awkward, and would be very confusing too. i could introduce myself with just 1 or 2, but that would also lead to false assumptions.
if i just said i'm transfem, people would assume i'm femme, which i am not. if i just said i'm a lesbian, people would likely assume that i don't have anything going on with my gender, which i very much do. if i just said i'm genderfluid, people would assume my gender goes across the full spectrum, while it's really only ever fluid different shades of non-binary. (or maybe a girl sometimes? i'm not sure, gender is confusing)
i could just go without labels and just say my gender is weird, but personally, i want people to have a decent idea of what my gender is like - and, most importantly, be able find community with people who use the same labels as me.
labels are inherently a very flawed concept, but honestly, i think the only problem with their use is *expecting* people to use labels. if we removed the expectation of people having labels, i think they would honestly just be a helpful tool for people like me who *do* want to use them - even if they are still far from perfect.
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