There comes a point in many peopleโs lives when they know deep in the very being of their bones that something has to change.
It usually starts as the dawning realisation that theyโve been going through the motions for too long:
Maybe theyโre โstuckโ in a job that slowly kills their soul; maybe their relationship is more about playing out learned roles than real connection. Maybe theyโve been performing a version of themselves thatโs palatable, polite, and that people even โlikeโ but thatโs completely unreal and keeping them lost to the Void.
Whatever it is, something in them starts to stir โ a quiet voice, a gut feeling, or an existential panic attack at 3am.
What theyโve found themselves on is a turning point โ the threshold between their โoldโ unreal life and a newer real life that is more aligned with who they really are and what life is. They reach a point where the soul says โEnough is enoughโ and where they awaken to the idea of making actual changes but thenโฆ nothing happens.
In this state, the realisation, ideas, and desires are all there but โ despite this pull towards something more real โ action never seems to be taken and so nothing seems to change (or, if it does, it ends up being hesitant, half-hearted, or sabotaged).
Oli Anderson | The Realness
๐ ๐๐๐ซ ๐จ๐ ๐๐๐๐ฅ ๐๐ก๐๐ง๐ ๐: ๐๐ก๐๐ง ๐๐จ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐๐จ๐ฆ๐๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ ๐๐๐๐ฅ ๐ ๐๐๐ฅ๐ฌ ๐๐๐๐ซ๐ฒ
๐๐๐ฎ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ค๐ช ๐๐๐ฃ๐ฉ ๐พ๐ค๐ข๐๐จ ๐๐๐ฉ๐ ๐พ๐ค๐ฃ๐จ๐๐ฆ๐ช๐๐ฃ๐๐๐จ
There comes a point in many peopleโs lives when they know deep in the very being of their bones that something has to change.
It usually starts as the dawning realisation that theyโve been going through the motions for too long:
Maybe theyโre โstuckโ in a job that slowly kills their soul; maybe their relationship is more about playing out learned roles than real connection. Maybe theyโve been performing a version of themselves thatโs palatable, polite, and that people even โlikeโ but thatโs completely unreal and keeping them lost to the Void.
Whatever it is, something in them starts to stir โ a quiet voice, a gut feeling, or an existential panic attack at 3am.
And that something always says the same thing:
๐๐ฉโ๐จ ๐ฉ๐๐ข๐ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐๐๐ฉ ๐ง๐๐๐ก ๐๐๐๐๐ฃ.
What theyโve found themselves on is a turning point โ the threshold between their โoldโ unreal life and a newer real life that is more aligned with who they really are and what life is. They reach a point where the soul says โEnough is enoughโ and where they awaken to the idea of making actual changes but thenโฆ nothing happens.
In this state, the realisation, ideas, and desires are all there but โ despite this pull towards something more real โ action never seems to be taken and so nothing seems to change (or, if it does, it ends up being hesitant, half-hearted, or sabotaged).
Why is this?
๐ฝ๐๐๐๐ช๐จ๐ ๐๐ค๐๐ฃ๐ ๐จ๐ค๐ข๐๐ฉ๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ง๐๐๐ก ๐๐ก๐ฌ๐๐ฎ๐จ ๐๐ค๐ข๐๐จ ๐ฌ๐๐ฉ๐ ๐๐ค๐ฃ๐จ๐๐ฆ๐ช๐๐ฃ๐๐๐จ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฉ ๐ฌ๐ ๐ข๐๐๐๐ฉ ๐ฃ๐ค๐ฉ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฌ๐โ๐ง๐ ๐ง๐๐๐๐ฎ ๐๐ค๐ง (๐๐ช๐ฉ ๐ค๐ฃ๐ก๐ฎ ๐๐๐๐๐ช๐จ๐ ๐ค๐ช๐ง ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐๐ก๐ค๐ฃ๐๐จ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐ฉ๐๐ โ๐ค๐ก๐โ ๐ซ๐๐ง๐จ๐๐ค๐ฃ ๐ค๐ ๐ค๐ช๐ง๐จ๐๐ก๐ซ๐๐จ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฉ ๐ฌ๐โ๐ง๐ ๐ฉ๐ง๐ฎ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐ค๐ช๐ฉ๐๐ง๐ค๐ฌ).
These consequences may not always be catastrophic ones but they will always be an invitation into some deeper truth:
Emotional consequences. Relational consequences. The kind of consequences that ask us to face our lives honestly.
For most people this verges on the cusp of being terrifying but it doesnโt have to be this way.
Letโs dig a little deeper (full article): olianderson.co.uk/fear-of-real-change/
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