Act like you want the people in your world to act – Daily Dose #40
Recently, a friend of mine hurt my feelings very deeply. Not on purpose.
Ten years ago, I would have had an attitude, been mad, given the silent treatment… wanted them to “feel bad.”
I’m different now but my old default used to be – strike first, think later.
Sleep deprivation affects your ability to control yourself.
Hypervigilance is staying overly alert, trying to control everything to prevent bad things.
But, I can’t just “blame” my narcolepsy or my past traumas and never work on my own baloney. That’s what my dad did…
The #1 thing that helped the most was to tell myself to “Have a nice steamy mug of STFU,” to help me bite my tongue.
With my son, when he was driving me crazy, I would say, “What are you… 11?” Because he was acting like a normal kid. It helped me not react.
Recently I heard, “Act like you want the people in your world to act.” I thought about that going through the emotional rollercoaster of the recent situation with my friend.
It helped me respond in a healthy way, the way I would want if it were me. So, I’m adding it to my list of things to use. That’s what it looks like to lead yourself with love – finding solutions to help you grow and implementing them.
If you need help getting there, visit my website for resources.
Happy Matters with Dawn Super
Act like you want the people in your world to act – Daily Dose #40
Recently, a friend of mine hurt my feelings very deeply. Not on purpose.
Ten years ago, I would have had an attitude, been mad, given the silent treatment… wanted them to “feel bad.”
I’m different now but my old default used to be – strike first, think later.
Sleep deprivation affects your ability to control yourself.
Hypervigilance is staying overly alert, trying to control everything to prevent bad things.
But, I can’t just “blame” my narcolepsy or my past traumas and never work on my own baloney. That’s what my dad did…
The #1 thing that helped the most was to tell myself to “Have a nice steamy mug of STFU,” to help me bite my tongue.
With my son, when he was driving me crazy, I would say, “What are you… 11?” Because he was acting like a normal kid. It helped me not react.
Recently I heard, “Act like you want the people in your world to act.” I thought about that going through the emotional rollercoaster of the recent situation with my friend.
It helped me respond in a healthy way, the way I would want if it were me. So, I’m adding it to my list of things to use. That’s what it looks like to lead yourself with love – finding solutions to help you grow and implementing them.
If you need help getting there, visit my website for resources.
#MentalWellness #DailyDoseOfDawn #HappyMatters #LeadWithLove #MindsetMagic
2 weeks ago | [YT] | 5