I do worthwhile things and still don’t feel accomplished. Sometimes people minimize their achievements. (Example- I got pregnant at 17 and had social anxiety so bad I wanted to actually hide under my desk. Each day forcing myself to go took a Herculean effort. I did end up graduating with decent grades but I wrote it off as something EXPECTED of us to accomplish. I rarely FEEL accomplishment.) It’s weird, I am intrinsically motivated but I get no reward. Or sporadic rewards so it’s addictive…..Makes me feel I’m just being dutiful and going thru the motions.
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The more we pursue feeling better all the time, the less satisfied we become as pursuing something only re enforces the fact that, we lack it in the first place. -Allan Watts The Backwards Law
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The only way to do shit worth feeling good about is to know what shit not to do.
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I am reading this while taking a shit. The truth never made more sense
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tell that to someone with chronic illness that stops you from doing anything
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I used to subscribe to the idea that “you are inherently worthy” which is true… AND your worthiness and enough-ness isn’t an excuse to not work harder for a better life. Yes you are worthy. But most people can’t just sit around all day, work a dead end job, put in the bare minimum effort and feel like they are worthy. The way to feeling worthy IS to do worth while things. Everyday is an opportunity to choose. What your future self will be proud of and gain more respect for yourself for. Easy decisions = hard life. Hard decisions= Easy life. I’m sorry but nobody gives value to the world by merely existing. If anything an existence of doing the bare minimum is benefiting a weird fucked up system and leaves individuals is a perpetual state of victimhood and struggle. You have to work, have discipline and pursue your goals to be worthy to YOURSELF. At least I do. I don’t expect to “provide value” by merely existing. This narrative that you can do nothing with your life and be valuable is never going to make YOU happy. You’re miserable because you’re not resilient. You walk away before the lesson is learned and you feel like the world owes you something. News flash, nobody owes you shit. Not even your parents. (once you’re an adult). So make your damn bed, cook yourself a meal, stop impulse buying and start doing something meaningful. Or don’t.. but next time you wonder why you’re struggling with anxiety or self confidence, consider how confidence is built. By making mistakes, feeling like an idiot and not giving up when things get hard. Stand tall in the storm. Take responsibility for your life. Nobody’s coming to save you. Everybody has trauma. Everybody feels anxiety. But if you never face it and you just “can’t” you’ll never gain respect for yourself. Unless you’re some Buddhist monk or something, then this probably doesn’t apply to you.
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It’s halfway true but also a trap if misunderstood. If you believe the only way to feel good about yourself is by doing things, then you're stuck in the cycle of earning your worth. That’s conditional self-worth—it means you're never truly enough unless you're constantly achieving. The truth is: You’re already enough. Doing great things can be a natural expression of your worth, but it shouldn’t be the source of it. Otherwise, you're just running on a treadmill of "I must do more to be enough."
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The combo of being told & I've always know something was wrong with me, makes me know my best will never be enough. I was able to behave my way out of Special Ed but did it make me smarter nope, didn't make me feel better. I learned to fake being "normal" while people being consistently disappointed with my mediocre skills. I don't see a point in trying yet I care too much to still try. It's a vicious cycle cause I just want to be proud of myself but that will never happen, cause my best will never be enough. I was able to buy the kitchen staff lots of time by playing logic games with a table, they had fun- I got fired for not being enough.
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I'd feel better if I could pay rent, groceries, bills and still have money left for myself while working my 5$/hr ABOVE min wage job.
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Disagree this is basically saying your self esteem would be depednt on your work which is unhealthy
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I'm not sure. It assumes you can't feel good about yourself without doing or proving something. Where is the data in support of this conclusion?
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I feel better about myself when other people do good shit for me also . 😂
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I just relapsed on porn after 2 months of cold turkey, but I'm just going to keep consistent with my exercise and I won't let this stop me.
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A worthwhile goal That’s what I need Something WORTH pursuing!! Worth the effort!! How do you find PURPOSE!
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Mark Manson
The only way to feel better about yourself is to do shit worth feeling good about.
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