I dont lie, cheat, or gaslight. However I do manipulate due to my reactivity. When I get upset, I raise my voice or speak from my anxiety. Its stressful for others and after I calm down, I feel so bad for them and ashamed of myself. I try not to react. I even plan out how I want to react in the future. I've also just tried to say, "firstly, I love you.." which helps a bit I think. But I get so mad at myself when I bubble over. I've lost a really kind and loving partner because of my dysregulated emotions. I think sometimes maybe I should just stay alone. I'm not lonely, but it is nice to have someone you care about to share life with at times. I feel selfish, because if I were a stronger man, I would be able to put other people's feelings first instead of just erupting. It isn't that I dont love them. I understand why they don't want to live like this anymore because neither do I.
1 week ago
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I'm not sure but the way how I'm treated is it all starts when my partner fails to acknowledge the effort I put in , I think that after a huge thing that I done for her it will be remembered and would bring changes in their attitude, they do say in words yes I accept it , but soon when she see I'm meeting my family or friends , scorn and satire would come , and then I'll question that it was not how we decided we thought that we will bring all relationship together who were broken from us as a result of this marriage. But she isolates me scorns me and if I question she would cry and change topic and will never admit that she is trying to isolate me , that being set , I will feel fear that she is against my family n friends , and I'll have a feeling too of unhappiness in return to her act, after someday she would say yes I apologized why u still like that , n then soon after that she will bring baseless issues , the issues which we already mutually decided and will then play victim because of my reaction to her action. And thats the loop.
6 days ago
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That's not true. A victim needs to know with clear inner certainty because only a narc cannot change. With other personality disorders there is have Hope for change IF the perpetrator wishes to change. Therefore you people who educate should stop trying to shut victims down from asking questions. We need to know because when a victim has that level of of addiction to a narc they need to know definitively whether or not it's a permanent disorder that cannot be changed. It doesn't mean they won't want to leave necessarily. It just means they want to understand the full scope of what they're dealing with and you as an educator should not shut that down as not mattering. It matters BECAUSE NARCS CAN'T CHANGE
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