Good on you for seeing something you didn’t like and being the change you want to see. ❤
2 months ago | 3
It's amazing for you to share this so honestly. It really speaks to things people don't often say out loud. I'm wishing you strength, progress and fruitfulness on your weight loss journey..
2 months ago | 0
Been there (still there but working on it) and lived it. People have no idea the strength of character it takes to put up with the attitudes, comments, bias, you name it. How about the restaurants who give you smaller portions than your friends with you? Ever experienced that? I have. It’s pretty hard to discern but not when people get the same dish as you and there is a volume difference. Then there’s the door thing. Ever watch a man hold the door for the woman ahead of you and then step in front of you to go through the door himself and not even try to hold the door for you? Yep- that happened fairly often. Lose a bunch of weight and guess what- suddenly you deserve courtesy. As a person who struggles with weight issues, you get used to the negative behavior as much as it sucks. It’s kind of the devil you know. What no one prepares you for is the “positive” attention you start to get when you lose weight. “You look so good NOW!” Is just one comment I’ve heard. It turns out my issue is related to a metabolic derangement. So while I spent most of my life being blamed for my weight and appearance, it turns out it really wasn’t my fault. It is a medical condition. So before people treat those who are overweight or obese with disdain and their other biases, take a moment to think about whether you actually have the right to attack them. Because 9/10 times, you don’t.
2 months ago | 0
Bye Bye Fatman
What They Don’t Tell You About Being Fat
It’s not just about food, it’s about dignity, fear, and trying to survive in a world that wasn’t built for your body.
People think being fat is just about eating too much.
But that’s only the surface.
What they don’t see, what they don’t tell you, is the quiet pain you carry every single day.
Let me tell you what it’s really like.
It’s walking into a room and scanning for chairs, not people.
Because if the chair has arms, you might not fit.
Because you’ve broken one before.
Because the fear of crashing to the floor in front of others never quite goes away.
It’s dreading flights.
Will the seatbelt fit?
Will the person next to you shift uncomfortably?
Will the air crew hand you an extender like they’re doing you a favour?
It’s public judgement.
The glances, the whispers, the slow shake of the head from a stranger who doesn’t know your story but thinks they know everything based on your size.
It’s hiding.
In group photos, behind humour, behind other people in the queue, behind big clothes that you hope might make you invisible.
It’s struggling to shop.
Not because you’re fussy, but because nothing fits, or if it does, it’s labelled like a warning.
It’s pretending to be fine when you’re not.
You laugh louder than anyone, because you think if people are laughing with you, they might stop laughing at you.
I’m Bye Bye Fatman, and I’ve lived all of this.
I’ve made jokes to deflect pain.
I’ve avoided mirrors.
I’ve apologised for my body just by existing in public.
So if you’re reading this and you’ve felt any of it, you are not alone.
This journey is hard, not because we’re weak, but because the world was never built for us.
But that doesn’t mean we give up.
It means we walk forward, with honesty, with courage, and with compassion — for ourselves and for each other.
#ByeByeFatman
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