Hello! I am Joe, I'm in my early 40s. I've always struggled with anxiety, panic, depression and huge insecurities, yet somehow I've travelled all over the world, played live gigs in front of thousands of people, had long term relationships and lots of different jobs, careers and life experiences. I’ve learned how to function and keep going, despite my struggles. I want to discuss how these issues affect all areas of our lives, from day to day life, to gaining confidence in work, relationships and more.
The aim of this channel is to talk to people who suffer with similar issues. This is NOT intended as an alternative to professional counselling or therapy - both of which I have experienced and I would absolutely recommend. This is just a guy trying to talk about the difficult things we struggle with.
If you’d like a little extra reassurance, I’ve also set up a small, optional Patreon here:
www.patreon.com/cw/AnxiouslyAdulting
Anxiously Adulting With Joe
Some loneliness is louder when you’re not alone.
If you’ve ever felt more isolated inside a relationship than you did when you were single…
today’s video might put words to something you’ve been carrying quietly.
It goes live at 6:30pm UK.
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I didn’t post a long video this weekend — honestly, I needed a moment to breathe.
But I’m very clear on one thing: this channel is going somewhere this year.
I’d love to know — which of these feels closest to what you’re living right now?
🔹 Loving someone who’s emotionally unavailable
🔹 The empathy trap (understanding him but losing yourself)
🔹 Knowing when it’s time to leave — and why it’s so hard
🔹 Anxious–avoidant cycles (why you keep going back)
🔹 Healing after walking away from someone you loved deeply
Or if it’s something else, tell me in the comments.
I read everything — and I make these videos with you in mind.
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When you’ve given all you can give… check out the latest video
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How long has it taken you to get over THAT relationship - and are you still getting over it?
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Be honest… which one describes your last relationship? (No judgment — just patterns.)
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Tomorrow’s video is Part 2 of the avoidant series.
And honestly… this one might hit you harder than the first.
If you’ve ever felt that slow, confusing shift…
If he went from warm → distant → unpredictable…
If you kept blaming yourself for “being too sensitive”…
Part 2 is going to explain exactly what was happening.
Drops tomorrow at 6:30pm (UK).
Get ready — this one changes how you see the whole relationship.
— Joe
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Ladies… I’m working on a new video all about the EARLY signs of avoidant behaviour — the tiny things you notice in the beginning but don’t realise are red flags until later.
Before it drops, I want to hear from YOU:
Which avoidant behaviour was BOTH the first early sign you ignored…
and the one that ended up hurting you the most?
Vote below 👇
Tell me in the comments:
What was the moment your gut whispered, “this isn’t right”… but your heart hoped he’d change? #avoidantattachment
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💬 New avoidant video tomorrow (8pm UK)
Tomorrow’s video is one a lot of you have been asking for.
It’s called “How Avoidants Control the Relationship Without Realising It.”
If you’ve ever felt like you were doing all the work, walking on eggshells, or trying to “manage” the relationship while he stayed distant, this one is for you.
It breaks down the subtle behaviours avoidant partners use — not to manipulate, but to protect themselves — and how these patterns end up controlling everything.
Drops tomorrow at 8pm (UK time) ❤️
Let me know in the comments if you want the follow-up video about what to actually do when you notice these patterns.
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🎉 We just crossed 1,000 subscribers.
When I started Anxiously Adulting With Joe, it was just me, a camera, and a head full of thoughts I wasn’t sure anyone would care about. This little corner of the internet has turned into something I never expected — a space where people come to understand themselves, feel less alone, and breathe for a moment.
Thank you for being here.
For listening.
For sharing.
For growing with me.
Here’s to the next chapter together. ❤️
— Joe
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Ever had a man act like he cared… then go ice-cold the moment it mattered?
Today’s video is for that moment.
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