The Attractive Man

The #1 Way To Avoid Friend Zone

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1 day ago | [YT] | 47

The Attractive Man

Here’s what guys don’t realize…

Most attractive women are barely getting approached by confident men.

They are however:

-Getting catcalled.
-Getting the weird creepy guy approaching them.

Do you see what I see?...

I see opportunity.

Most guys are swiping themselves silly on dating apps.

Or are in the club at 3am stumbling on their words.

That’s your competition.

Most guys would live simpler lives if they didn’t have to be out till 3am drinking in order to speak to women.

Some guys feel it’s “weird” to speak to women during the daytime.

The guys who say “f*ck that” are the ones who really live the best dating lives.

Every woman you speak to - that’s progress.

You give the waiter a compliment?...

That’s a win.

Spark up a conversation in the grocery store?...

Nice work.

You don’t even have to say anything crazy.

Just don’t be attached to the outcome, and you’ll come from the right place.

Be attached to progress instead.

That is what counts.

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The Attractive Man

You can feel it coming.

She’s taking longer and longer to respond…

Her texts are getting shorter and shorter…

And finally…

2 hours before the date…

She sends you this:

“Sorry I’m not feeling well today, don’t think I can make it. :(”

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Getting flaked on is frustrating as hell, isn’t it?

It makes you question yourself and every word you’ve said to her… 

But keep reading and I’ll share with you 3 steps to handle it and potentially turn things around.

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Step 1 - Differentiate excuses from actual conditions.

Sometimes life gets in the way.

And in this case, she’ll just suggest a different time.

“... can we do same time tomorrow if you’re free?”

There shouldn’t be much to worry about.

Just reschedule to a different time, and let the date happen.

But if she flakes like this over and over again…

That’s a sign maybe she’s not the right person.


Step 2 - Don’t react emotionally

When she flakes on a date…

The last thing you want to do is to react emotionally…

Like sending back an angry or frustrated text…

Or telling her how much you’ve wanted to see her.

That just sounds needy… 

It’s normal to feel frustrated about it… but just don’t show that over texts.


Step 3 - Text her this instead… 

When she flakes on you, it’s usually a sign of low interest.

Your best response is to show that you’re not butt hurt about it and can walk away.

You can send something along the lines of:

“Ok no worries, maybe some other time. Have a good one.”
“Ok no worries, have a good week till we chat next :)”
“K no worries. Feel better.”

Short. Sweet. And don’t send anything else.

This way, you’re giving her time to think about the conversation, 

She might reach out in the future.

And if you really like the girl, you can also try again after a few weeks or a month.

But being willing to walk away is your best choice at that moment.

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There you have it. 3 steps to handle a flake.

And it’s true… sometimes she’s just not a good fit.

But, sometimes, she flakes because you did something that turned her off.

Just think about it:

If you have a great conversation with her.

And she’s fascinated by you… 

Why would she flake on the date?

Don’t even be surprised if she’s the one confirming the date will happen.

But you gotta nail that first conversation before asking her out.

I’ve shown this method to 1000s’ of guys from over 40 countries in the past 10 years.

So that they can meet women naturally and easily… even having women asking them out on dates.

And if that’s something you want… 

Go here to book a Breakthrough Call with one of our coaches: attractyourdreamgirl.com/book-your-call

6 days ago | [YT] | 56

The Attractive Man

Don’t hate women… 🚫

Hate your inaction. ✅

Hate your lack of results.

And use that as fuel to change.

To light a fire inside you. 🔥

To say “I will approach her”.

To say “I love rejection”.

To say “I am confident”.

So don’t sit on the sidelines and get bitter.

Get out there and take action. 💪

Your dating life will improve.

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1 week ago | [YT] | 123

The Attractive Man

My coke-addict roommate was about to throw me through a window... my girlfriend watched what I did next
(and couldn't stop talking about it for weeks)

I was 27 years old.
Living in Newport Beach with my drug addict roommate, John.
His coke habit turned him unbearable.
Sweaty. Talking 100 miles per hour.
Keeping me awake with electro-house beats.
My name was on the lease.
I decided to move to Vegas with my girlfriend Amanda.

Amanda was gorgeous.
Petite, busty blonde.
Worked as an atmosphere model and bottle service waitress.
The kind of girl I thought was "out of my league" years earlier.
But if I moved, John had to move too.
He didn't like that idea.

Night before we were supposed to vacate.
John still hadn't packed.
He was at the club, high as a kite.
Amanda suggested we pack his stuff in garbage bags.
Speed things up.
When he came home, high and drunk, he found his things in trash bags.

Red-faced. Vein bulging from his forehead.
He unleashed a hurricane of hate.
Got in my face. Yelling. Screaming at the top of his lungs.
So close I could feel his saliva hitting my skin.
Stench of stale alcohol from his mouth.
He was so close, he accidentally head-butted me.

Normally, I would've just knocked him out.
But this was different.
He was high on coke. Extraordinary energy.
There was a low-hanging window right behind me.
Several floors up.
If he pushed me through, I'd die or be paralyzed.
Amanda was watching from the kitchen. Phone in hand.

Despite the chaos, I didn't feel anxious.
A deep sense of calm wrapped around me.
Fully in control of my body, mind, emotions.
I was totally grounded.
I didn't yell back. Didn't back down.
"Hey man, let's talk about this. Everything's fine. I understand you're upset. Let's sit down and talk it out."

"Fuck you, man! I'm going to kick your ass!"
He cocked back his fist.
I kept my hands at my side.
"Look, I know you're mad. But we've been friends for a while. I'm sure we can work this out."
He stamped around in a circle.
I reached out. Squeezed his shoulder.
"It's going to be okay. We'll figure this out, bro."

John collapsed onto the couch.
Buried his face in his hands.
"Where the hell am I going to go now?"
I sat down next to him. Handed him my phone.
Within minutes, he was calling family he hadn't talked to in years.
The crisis was over.
I walked into the kitchen expecting Amanda to call me a coward.

She pulled me in tight and kissed me.
"Oh my God, that was so hot. I've never seen a man handle a situation like that. You were so calm and confident."
She kept gushing about it for days.
Women don't want a man who fights.
They want a man who CAN fight but doesn't NEED to.
Who stays grounded when chaos erupts.
That's the #1 thing that creates attraction.

1 week ago | [YT] | 48

The Attractive Man

Most guys fail with women before saying a word.

Their hunched shoulders, lack of eye contact and nervous energy scream insecurity to her.

Fix your posture. Take up space. Move deliberately.

Your body language tells her everything before your mouth opens.

She decides if you're confident or desperate in the first 3 seconds.

Before you rehearse what you're going to say, fix how you're standing.

Shoulders back.

Eye contact steady.

Movements smooth and intentional.

The words matter less than you think.

How you carry yourself matters more than you realize.

1 week ago (edited) | [YT] | 122

The Attractive Man

Do you know what stops most people from getting their ideal girlfriend?

A) Their looks, height, or jobs.

B) There are no beautiful women around them

C) They don’t know what to do to meet women

The answer is none of the above…

It’s a trick question.

Most people give up because they never learn to enjoy the journey.

But you may ask:

“Matt, how can I enjoy the journey when women are rejecting me all the time?”

Well, I got you covered.

Here are 3 ways you can make this journey fun and enjoyable.

#1: Find a quality wingman

Just like the old saying: if you want to run far, run together.

If you have a wingman that you enjoy hanging out with, it will make the journey so much more fun for both of you.

When you have a bad interaction with a girl, you can talk to your wingman and laugh about it.

And when things go well, you can also celebrate success together.

(Our wingman groups are a great place for you to find wingman in your local city, so check it out at TAMSociety.com/)

#2: Reframe the “rejection”

Here’s the truth: a girl who has just talked to you for 30 seconds… can never reject you.

Because she never gets to know you!

She only rejected your approach.

It has nothing to do with you… and you can easily improve your approach.

When you stop taking things personally, you can start asking yourself these questions:

What did you do well?
What can you improve on?
What was funny about the interaction?

This way, you’re always improving and making it lighthearted and fun.

#3: Keep the passion alive

This is the biggest mistake guys make when they get better.

They stop seeing their wins.

After each interaction, they only see the negative.

“That was so bad…”
“I didn’t do enough…”
“I could’ve done…”

That’s when things become draining.

If you’ve ever talked to women during the day, then you must remember the relief and joy you felt after your first approach, right?

Don’t let that go away.

Learn to celebrate the wins, even if they’re small.

So that’s how you enjoy the journey of meeting women.

It’s simple but super effective.

When you truly enjoy this journey, nothing will stop you and you will go a long way.

And just imagine all the possibilities you’ll have in your life…

All the exciting adventures with beautiful women that you truly desire…

And the memories you’ll keep with you for the rest of your life…

Even when I’m writing this, I feel excited for you.

Keep the passion with you.

Matt Artisan

P.S. Coincidently, these are the most common feedback for our bootcamps:

“Meeting women is actually so much fun!”
“I learned how to never take rejections seriously.”
“I made incredible friends who are on the same journey!”

And they are right.

At our bootcamps, you’ll learn the most effective way to attract women, have a ton of fun, and often meet your best wingman.

>>> Go to AttractYourDreamGirl.com/ to apply for a dating breakthrough call

1 week ago | [YT] | 75

The Attractive Man

Your dating life will change the moment you realize this truth:

Getting rejected by 10 women today is better than obsessing over 1 woman for 10 days

Volume creates skill. Skill creates options. Options create confidence

Stop hiding from rejection. Start collecting experiences

Every guy who's good with women went through this.

They got rejected 50 times before they figured it out.

You're trying to avoid the very thing that will make you better.

That girl you've been texting for 2 weeks who's giving you nothing?

Let her go.

Approach 10 new women today instead.

One of them will respond better than she ever did.

2 weeks ago | [YT] | 176

The Attractive Man

HERE’S what you should do…

Don't panic. 🙅

Lots of guys when they see a woman,

They panic.

They listen to their approach anxiety.

Bail on the approach.

And she walks off into the distance - never to be seen again. 😢

Instead…

Don’t listen to your approach anxiety.

Learn how to approach properly. 💯

Get a mentor. ✅

And girls won’t be walking off into the distance - never to be seen again.

But instead, they’ll be walking with you down the aisle (if that’s what you want).

Or simply, you’ll be walking on an instant date together. 🔥


Join the free community at Tamsociety.com to access the approach blueprint, cheat sheets, meditations, and connect with guys on the same path.

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2 weeks ago | [YT] | 101

The Attractive Man

There are nearly 4 billion women in the world.
-> Be lean and athletic -> Have a classic wardrobe -> Wear a good cologne daily -> Get your grooming on point -> Build social skills & charisma
You'll be in high demand if you do the above.
It's not about being perfect.
It's about being better than the guy standing next to you.
And right now, that bar is on the floor.
Most men have given up on themselves.
They're overweight, poorly dressed, and can't start a conversation.
Do these 5 things and you're automatically top 20%.
The women you want are waiting for a man who has his act together.
Be that man.

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