The Attractive Man
Learn how to attract women you like, how to get a date, how to get a girlfriend, how to talk to girls without being creepy, plus more deeper and natural attraction advice. This is Honest Dating Advice that's non-manipulative. We offer coaching for men and in-person as well as online mentroship too, with online dating tips and methods to increase your self confidence and self esteem to bring out the best, most attractive version of yourself. The Official YouTube Channel of The Attractive Man Team.
The Attractive Man
Practice social skills everywhere. Here’s why…
If you can't handle a simple conversation with your grandmother at Christmas dinner...
If you avoid eye contact with the cashier at the grocery store...
If you've never had small talk with a stranger on the bus...
Then you'll freeze up when you see that gorgeous woman you actually want to meet.
Social confidence isn't something you turn on and off.
It's a muscle you build every single day.
Start with low-stakes conversations. Build momentum. Get comfortable being uncomfortable.
Then when you see her, you won't choke.
For most guys it isn’t your career or bank balance holding you back.
It’s what she feels when she’s in front of you.
And if you’re avoiding speaking to women, it makes it infinitely worse
For a guide on how to meet women ANYWHERE (and do it respectfully & confidently)
Comment “BLUEPRINT” below and I’ll send it over
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The Attractive Man
Dan Bilzerian says spam approach. Andrew Tate says just get rich.
They are both wrong.
If you lock yourself away to focus purely on cash and muscles, you neglect the most important pillar of attraction: your social skills.
You’ll just become the socially awkward rich guy.
The second you open your mouth, she’ll lose interest, or she'll just see you as a walking ATM.
On the flip side, approaching hundreds of women without fixing your inner insecurities just leads to endless, painful rejections.
The 1% man that women actually crave doesn't rely on a numbers game or a bank account.
He builds his purpose, but he also forges his masculine presence by stepping into real-life tension.
He approaches women in everyday situations, looks them in the eye, and owns his desire without apologizing for it.
An average guy with elite social skills beats a socially awkward millionaire every single time.
Ready to stop hiding behind excuses and build the skills that actually work?
If you want to build that version of yourself, book a call, link in bio.
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The Attractive Man
Every man can go from Ugly > Attractive
Guys you can do a lot to improve your appearance.
Wear better clothing.
Style your hair.
Or at least add volume to it…
Drop a few extra pounds.
Lift weights every now and then.
Wear an epic outfit to your date.
Try figure out your strengths and double down on them.
Style is HUGE… guys.
I’ve seen guys go from bad style…
To good style…
And in a matter of hours their results with women improved.
If you look better, she’ll be more interested.
But, there are diminishing returns.
If you’re amazing looking…
But terrible with social skills and confidence…
Improving your looks further won’t do much.
So be realistic at the same time…
If you want help making the switch, book a call, link in bio.
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The Attractive Man
You must know if a woman is into you.
There are signs…
If she keeps talking to you when you approach her.
She’s smiling.
She’s asking you questions.
Then she’s interested.
If she barely stops and tells you she’s running late…
That’s low interest.
If she just keeps walking past you and doesn’t acknowledge you at all…
She ignores you…
That’s very low interest.
She likely has a boyfriend.
Maybe she’s talking to someone already.
Or simply doesn’t like you.
But…
I suggest you don’t wait for signs that she’s into you.
I suggest you just approach.
If I waited for signs that she was into me…
I probably would’ve approached 5% of the women I’ve approached in my lifetime.
So go out there and shoot your shot.
If you want help making the switch, book a call, link in bio.
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The Attractive Man
Men’s social skills are at an all-time-low.
I hear guys say “dating is impossible these days”.
But actually…
It’s never been easier to stand out.
How many guys can confidently approach a girl stone cold sober?
Much less than was the case 20 years ago.
That’s why when we teach guys this…
Even guys that aren’t traditionally “chads”...
Their dating results skyrocket.
They gain experience.
They get positive feedback.
Which leads to confidence.
Which leads to more dates.
It’s a snowball effect.
It compounds.
So don’t trick yourself into believe dating nowadays “sucks”.
It’s never been easier to stand out.
If you want help making the switch, book a call, link in bio.
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The Attractive Man
Everyone assumes dating gets HARDER as you get older.
I'm here to tell you it's the opposite, once you understand why.
The truth is most guys lose before they even start... because they're only playing the online dating game. And online, age filters are brutal. A 25-year-old sets her Bumble range to 35 and you're already gone.
But that's the trap. Online dating shows her a NUMBER. In real life, she feels a MAN.
I've watched this play out with hundreds of clients in their 40s, 50s, and 60s. The guys who understand this outdate men half their age.
Here's why it works:
→ Women mature emotionally faster than men, they're often looking for the maturity a younger guy simply doesn't have yet
→ Status and stability matter more to her than they do to you, and older men usually have more of both
→ In person, she trusts what she FEELS over what she thinks she should want
My own dating life is proof. I've dated women all over the world, at every age gap, because I stopped hiding behind a bank account or a six-pack and started actually showing up in front of women.
Will every woman be into the age gap? No. Some will, some won't. So what? You only need one.
If you're 40+ and think your dating life is behind you, it's not. It might be about to get better than it's ever been.
Want help putting this into action? Book a free call, link in bio.
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The Attractive Man
Let the internet complainers stay angry.
You see it all the time: guys wasting hours in comment sections arguing about societal shifts, what other men are doing, or how the modern dating market is rigged.
It is the ultimate victim mentality.
A high-value man operates on radical responsibility.
He takes 100% ownership of his results and his life instead of blaming external factors.
If you aren't getting the dates you want, it isn't because of what other guys are doing, it is because you are sitting on the sidelines instead of taking action.
Instead of focusing on things outside of your control, adopt a growth mindset and audit your own behavior.
Are you putting yourself out there?
Are you mastering masculine groundedness so you can be an emotional anchor when you actually talk to a beautiful woman?
Are you dialing in your grooming and focusing on your life's purpose?
The less competition there is, the easier it is for the men who are actually willing to do the work.
Stop complaining on the internet and start building a lifestyle and a skillset that naturally attracts women.
Ready to stop making excuses and take total ownership of your dating life?
If you want help making the switch, book a call, link in bio.
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The Attractive Man
"Just wait. She'll approach you eventually."
That's the advice a whole corner of the internet is selling men right now.
Sit back. Do nothing. Let it happen to you.
Meanwhile those same guys are sitting at home.
Single. Watching nothing change.
I've coached men in 40 countries since 2008 and not one man built the dating life he wanted by waiting around for it to come to him.
Every single transformation starts with a man deciding to go first.
Waiting isn't a strategy. It's an excuse.
Bold men don't wait for permission.
They build the life, then they walk up and start the conversation.
If you want help making the switch, book a call, link in bio.
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The Attractive Man
Most men need two drinks in before they'll say a word to a woman they don't know.
Nobody ever taught them a different way, so liquid courage became the only tool in the box.
Here's the thing, take the alcohol away and the nerves are still running the show. It was never solved. Just muted for a few hours.
When my band broke up and my girlfriend left, I had to learn this the hard way.
Cold sober, broad daylight, at grocery stores, shopping malls, just walking around downtown.
No bar, no liquid courage, no dark lighting to hide behind.
It forced me to build the real skill instead of borrowing confidence from a drink.
That's still the foundation of everything I teach (sober, daytime, anywhere confidence).
It's rare because almost nobody trains it.
But it's exactly why the men who have it stand out so hard.
If you want to build that skill for real, book a call, link in bio.
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Most men treat rejection like a verdict on who they are.
One "no" and they're replaying it for a week (what they said wrong, what they should've said instead, whether something's broken in them).
A high value man doesn't do that math.
He gets a no and walks straight back into a life he's already excited about (his goals, his friends, his mission).
That's the mindset I drill into every man I coach: think like a king, not the jester performing for approval.
Women want your desire, but only once they've earned it, not the other way around.
Some will want you. Some won't. So what?
Life doesn't pause for a rejection. It just keeps going.
Want to build that kind of unshakeable base? Book a call (link in bio).
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