The Connected Self

Pressure and peace feel very different in the body and in the soul.

Pressure rushes, constricts, and demands.
Peace steadies, clarifies, and orients.

This song explores that difference - not as a technique, but as a way of noticing what’s actually guiding us.

https://youtu.be/J-Fv1TMh93o

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The Connected Self

Faith was never meant to feel like constant pressure.
When it does, something important has usually been confused... often direction has been replaced with demand.

Pressure pushes behavior.
Faith is meant to form a life.

This video looks at how faith can become burdensome, and how recovering its orienting purpose changes the experience of following Christ.

1 week ago | [YT] | 0

The Connected Self

Sometimes staying in the same place isn’t about failure.
It’s about patterns that haven’t been noticed yet.

This song reflects on what keeps repeating beneath the surface... not to judge it, but to understand what’s been shaping direction over time.

Attention often comes before movement.

https://youtu.be/n23R8CT6sgE

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The Connected Self

Why You Keep Repeating the Same Emotional Patterns

Most people don’t repeat emotional patterns because they aren’t trying hard enough.

They repeat them because their brain learned, a long time ago, what felt familiar, what reduced danger, and what kept connection intact... even if it came at a cost.

This video explores why insight alone doesn’t break patterns, how the nervous system drives repetition, and what actually supports change over time.

👉 Watch “Why You Keep Repeating the Same Emotional Patterns” here:
https://youtu.be/8tjYqk5VwsA

If this connects to something you’ve noticed in yourself, you’re welcome to share a thought below. Awareness is not weakness... it’s the beginning of choice.

2 weeks ago | [YT] | 0

The Connected Self

Patterns don’t form overnight.
They take shape through repetition... through what the heart returns to under pressure, habit, and hope.

This song reflects on how those patterns develop, and why noticing them matters. Not to judge them, but to understand what they’ve been shaping in us over time.

Change begins with attention.

https://youtu.be/SPsbl1S0MSg

2 weeks ago | [YT] | 0

The Connected Self

Being emotionally stuck isn’t a moral failure.
It’s often a signal that something needs attention, not avoidance.

Jesus didn’t rush people past what was unresolved.
He asked questions that clarified direction and invited movement.

Sometimes growth begins by slowing down long enough to notice
where you’re actually turning - and where you’re not.

3 weeks ago | [YT] | 0

The Connected Self

Hard conversations often feel wrong — not because they are, but because many of us were trained to equate peace with silence.

This new video explores how to speak honestly without collapsing into guilt, defensiveness, or self-blame, especially for those who grew up prioritizing harmony over truth.

👉 Watch “How to Have Hard Conversations (Without Feeling Like the Bad Guy)” here:
https://youtu.be/96FeSGFRtNU

If this topic connects to something you’re navigating right now, you’re not alone. You’re welcome to share a thought below.

3 weeks ago | [YT] | 0

The Connected Self

Some endings don’t need words.
Some beginnings don’t need force.

4 weeks ago | [YT] | 0

The Connected Self

What we repeatedly focus on shapes what we feel, how we think, and the way our faith is experienced in the body.

“Where My Eyes Rest” is a gentle, hopeful song about attention - how even small shifts in focus can calm the nervous system, bring clarity to the mind, and open the heart to God’s presence again.

🎵 Listen here:
https://youtu.be/2FJpltffZ8Q

🕊 You can also try the free 60-Second Emotional Reset if you’d like a simple way to ground and refocus:
chatgpt.com/g/g-692f645e3c288191879d23b12630cbbc-t…

If this song meets you today, feel free to share a word below. Sometimes naming what we notice is the first step toward change.

1 month ago | [YT] | 0

The Connected Self

Your focus is training your brain and shaping your faith.

Whatever we pay attention to again and again becomes the default pathway of the brain.

That’s true for fear.
It’s true for shame.
And it’s also true for peace.

In this new video, I explore how:

Attention reshapes neural circuits

Chronic stress narrows spiritual perception

Biblical renewal of the mind aligns beautifully with neuroscience

If your faith has felt more anxious than grounding lately, this isn’t a sign that you’re doing it wrong. It may be an invitation to gently redirect where your focus rests.

https://youtu.be/YwIDgNGiW78

You don’t change by trying harder.
You change by practicing where you return your attention... again and again.

1 month ago | [YT] | 0