Xtraxen

Hiii I’ve been focusing on work this week, and I struggle with negative thoughts A LOT. Something that’s really been helping me lately is listening to subliminal music & messages. I listen to many different types, but this one in particular has been on repeat for me for the past few weeks.

If you struggle with negative thoughts around money, I would really suggest giving this a try. Hope it helps you as much as it’s been helping me! Wishing you all a great week✨💸✨

https://youtu.be/-klpFRSzbuU?si=WcMeZ...

4 weeks ago | [YT] | 1

Xtraxen

Here’s the spectrum as I see it now, from Straight → Gay:

1. Straight

Fully heterosexual and comfortable with it. Attraction and sexual activity are exclusively with women. Healthy outlook on women overall and also emotionally aware of themselves.

2. Traumatized men who are willing to heal (LIGHT BLUE)

Men who genuinely desire a relationship and family with a woman. They want a healthy partnership but recognize that fears, resentments, or past trauma are getting in the way of deeper connection with women. Even if they don’t know how to change, they’re willing to take accountability and learn if someone can guide them. They WANT help.

3. Bi (PURPLE)

Men attracted to both men and women. I’m placing them here because many bi men I’ve observed feel women are homophobic, so they hide or lie about their sexuality. They’re not necessarily DL, but the way they approach dating women (and the way they talk about women) can mirror DL men and incels.

4. Incels (RED)

Hetero-leaning or bi men who feel resentment toward women because of sexual frustration. Misogyny often overshadows any desire for healthy connection.

5. DL

Men who secretly engage in same-sex activity while presenting as straight or hetero-leaning. They’re often in DENIAL and lack the ability to self-reflect on whether they’re gay. Women are used as a tool to validate and maintain their “straight” identity, and they often treat women with resentment & AGGRESSION.

6. Closet (DARK BLUE)

Primarily gay men who have not come out. Their resentment is often toward society for making them feel they cannot be “real men” because of their attraction to other men NOT toward women themselves. They may feel guilt about using women to maintain a straight image, and often struggle to have satisfying sexual lives in heterosexual relationships because they genuinely don’t desire women sexually. This is a subtle but important difference from DL men.

7. Gays who hate women (PINK)

Openly gay but carry misogynistic or competitive attitudes toward women. They often see women as competition for men’s attention and primarily desire to date “STRAIGHT men.”

8. Gay

Fully homosexual-identified and open about it. Attraction and sexual activity are exclusively with men.
Healthy outlook on women overall and also emotionally aware of themselves.

Please feel free to share your thoughts or let me know if you’ve observed other types of men I haven’t mentioned in the comments!

1 month ago (edited) | [YT] | 9

Xtraxen

How I See Male Sexuality Now (DL, Bi, Straight, Gay… and more)

Since my last episode (“DL vs. Closeted Men: What’s the REAL Difference?”), I’ve been thinking a lot about the spectrum of male sexuality that I mentioned in that discussion.

When I used to think about male sexuality, it was simple: Straight → Bi → Gay.

I thought DL men were basically just bisexual men in hiding.

But the more I’ve studied men, listened to them, and observed their behavior, the more I’ve realized… that view was way too vague.

And honestly, it made it feel impossible to figure out if a man was gay or not while dating.

Now, I see a spectrum that isn’t just about who a man is sexually attracted to. It’s also about his:

• Emotional/ Spiritual health
• Level of self-acceptance
• Honesty with himself and others
• Attitude toward women

When I factored all that in, the picture changed for me completely.

I want to be clear, I didn’t get this from anywhere else, and I’m NOT a professional in any way. This is based on my own interactions with men and what I’ve learned from other women’s experiences.

I’m sharing this to help women understand that a man’s position on this spectrum isn’t only about attraction. It’s also about whether he’s open, closeted, conflicted, in denial, carrying trauma, or harboring resentment toward women.

If you’re a straight woman who wants a healthy relationship with a straight man, I want you to see that two men in the same sexual category (e.g., both bi, or one DL vs. one straight but traumatized) can have wildly different impacts on women depending on the individual man’s inner world and level of self-awareness.

📌 In my next post, I’ll break down my definitions of each category on this spectrum and how they tend to show up in dating & relationships.

Feel free to share your thoughts or let me know if you’ve observed other types of men I haven’t mentioned here!

1 month ago | [YT] | 5