Sami Wunder

There are actual flamingos here! 🦩 @neckerisland

In 2022, I went there worn thin and came back home light and uplifted…

My little one was two. My body was still tired. I was the first multimillionaire in my family, running a multi-seven-figure company in a body still recovering.

I was carrying a LOT.

And then: lemurs. Flying between the trees over breakfast like nobody told them this was a billionaire’s island.

Giant tortoises taking forty minutes to cross a path and apologizing to no one. Honestly, a role model for me!!! 😄

That water. That blue. I still think about that blue....everywhere!

And then the chats with Sir Richard Branson. @richardbranson

Dancing on tables, because on Necker that’s the ritual. Cracking jokes.

Asking questions like a curious eight-year-old. Making mistakes out loud and laughing at them.

A man who built an empire, carrying it that lightly. Like he had understood the whole point of it all !

Everything he said that week seemed to come down to the same thing:

Play more.
Take the risk.
Make the mistake.
Stay curious… 👀

He married Joan on this island in 1989. They spent nearly five decades together.

And when he lost her last November, the man with the empire didn’t write about the empire.

He wrote about her.

About love. ❤️

And that’s the whole thing, isn’t it?

Build the life.

Then actually go LIVE in it.

I have more fun Necker stories to share. Another day. 😄

For now, laugh more.

Hold it all a little lighter.

This life is a gift and we’re here to enjoy it. 🤍

I'm so excited to travel next week to Croatia to see my girls for our next Wunder Luxury Retreat! We always have so much fun. It's definitely the part of my work I love the most.

When was the last time you played?

Like properly played. No reason. Nobody watching?

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23 hours ago | [YT] | 13

Sami Wunder

If you're in my world, I imagine your biggest desire is for your man to step up more (either with a ring or with more romantic effort and connection) so that you finally feel cherished and desired by him, inside a relationship that's deeply loving, stable, emotionally safe and passionately alive.

The number 1 way to get my live coaching support to help you achieve this is to work with me and my brilliant team of personally trained relationship coaches inside Elevate Next Level Love.

Enrollment is closing soon (live coaching starts Oct 1st), so here's everything you need to decide if Elevate is right for you.

🎉 Here's who Elevate is for:

Smart, successful married or partnered women who love their man, but find themselves over-giving in the dynamic, feeling taken for granted or frequently triggered and irritated by their partner. This leads to recurring conflicts, disconnection, reduced physical intimacy, and worry about the overall state of the relationship.

👏 The main goal you'll achieve with us:

For your partner to step up more, either with a ring or with more romantic effort and connection, so you feel cherished and desired by him, in a relationship that feels deeply loving, stable, emotionally safe, and passionately alive. If you want to transform your relationship or marriage in as little as a few months, Elevate may be perfect for you.

🎉 Here are some of the shifts we help you make inside it:

✅ Becoming aware of the ways you may be subtly controlling, criticizing, judging or trying to "fix" your partner, and softening into your feminine energy. This makes space for him to step up and restores the polarity between you.

✅ Reducing over-giving (financially, materially, or care-taking wise) so you feel less taken for granted, with real tools to ask for help, draw boundaries, or renegotiate finances.

✅ Becoming less emotionally reactive during conflict, with tools to regulate triggers, communicate needs effectively, and fight fair. This lowers conflict and makes conversations more productive.

✅ Learning to express unmet needs vulnerably instead of bottling up or blaming, so he can actually hear you and respond with compassion.

✅ For unmarried clients: a strategic path to the proposal you want, plus stress-free wedding planning support once he does (and he will).

✅ Practical tools for the everyday stuff of living together, like chores, money conversations, kids, and keeping intimacy alive in the bedroom.

Together these make up the Love Success Framework, with 1,350+ client success stories from this program alone.

Here's what live coaching is actually like:

My biggest gift as a coach is spotting the "embodiment gap," where someone's behavior isn't reflecting what they already know cognitively, and helping close it fast. I can help you see your blind spots quickly, name what's blocking you, and get results faster than you could alone or in standard couples therapy.

Most clients tell us Elevate helped them make shifts therapy didn't, for years, because we're results and forward-movement focused, not focused on hashing out the past unless it's genuinely necessary for progress.

Even though it's a group program, the coaching is highly intimate and personalized. I'm in the private Skool group myself, almost daily, supported by four more Wunder coaches, all personally trained by me, all former Elevate clients, all happily married. We remember your history and your story. That's the high-touch support that sets us apart.

⭐ Here's who's genuinely a good fit:

⭐ You don't have deep, unresolved trauma, or you have your own support system for it. That's not our area of expertise; we're experts in healthy romantic relationships.

⭐ You're ready to be lovingly challenged on your patterns and follow our advice.

⭐ You already know the basics of polarity, feminine energy, boundaries and self-love, and you're ready to embody them in real life.

If you know Elevate isn't the right fit for you right now, that's okay too.

If you're reading this and know this is for you, or you have questions, we're here to help. There's no pressure. You have to want this for yourself to actually show up and succeed, and it's important to me that you're excited about doing this!

Message us the word ELEVATE on whatsapp and we'll send you all the info wa.me/+442080584749

1 day ago | [YT] | 11

Sami Wunder

I was 24 when a man I thought I was going to marry told me I was a lovely woman, but that I needed to learn how to receive love.

Then he dumped me over text.

I had a masters, a career across three continents, and I could not get one good man to stay.

So I did what I had always done when something was not working. I worked harder at it.

I read the books. I did the inner work. I learned to communicate better. I became more understanding, more available, more impressive.

None of it moved a single man one inch closer to me.

And that is the part nobody explains. It was not that I needed more information. I already had more information about love than most of my friends who were getting married.

I was drowning in knowledge and starving in my actual love life.

What finally changed everything was the exact thing that man said to me. A masculine man does not fall in love with what you DO for him. He falls in love with how he feels around you. And he cannot feel like a man next to a woman who is already three steps ahead of him, running the whole thing, leaving him nothing to do.

I stopped efforting and I learned to receive. Chris proposed within nine months. We have been married thirteen years.

And I never had to act dumb, play small or appear weak to get any of it.

Here is why I am telling you this today…

If you are single and you are the one who texts first, keeps it going, asks where this is going, and you keep ending up with passive men who will not step up, this is your problem, not your personality.

If you are partnered or married and you plan it, remember it, start every hard conversation, and you feel taken for granted or quietly invisible in your own home, it is the same problem. You are doing his half. And it is not making him love you more. It is making him relax and get lazy around you.

Over three nights I am going to show you exactly where that is happening in your life, what to stop doing without going cold or distant, and what actually makes a masculine man move toward a woman and claim her out loud….

👏 3 DAYS WITH ME. MY FINAL LIVE EVENT OF THE YEAR.
LESS EFFORT, MORE LOVE

How Powerhouse Women Can Receive MORE Love By Doing less

🎉 Tuesday 22nd, Wednesday 23rd and Thursday 24th September. 8pm Berlin, 45 minutes a night, live on Zoom with me.

And if you want me looking at YOUR specific situation, not love in general, go VIP.

On Thursday Sep 24th …you bring me your actual man, your actual pattern, the thing you cannot work out on your own, and I tell you what I can see that you cannot.

That is a 90 minute intimate Q&A with me, plus the replays for life.

My Elevate clients invest 8888 for six months with me and my team. The last time a private client hired me one to one, she paid over 60K.

Ninety minutes with me for fifty five dollars. I am not doing this again this year.

We start on Tuesday 22nd Sep. Join now samiwunder.thrivecart.com/less-effort-more-love/

2 days ago | [YT] | 20

Sami Wunder

So, what’s going on for me personally and professionally? You have probably been seeing me everywhere lately. Well I have the most brilliant team who make it look like I am ON 24/7 😄🥂

The truth? I haven’t been here much !!

I have been travelling, building the team, and mostly just living my actual life behind the scenes …

In the last few weeks I’ve gone back to speaking on big stages again, been making big collaborations for the brand behind the scenes, setting up systems, getting the team stronger, and enrolling for our legacy program ELEVATE 20, which is finishing soon.

Whatever spare time I have, I want to spend with my kids and Chris… 🧘‍♀️💃🏻

My elder son Aaron started his class 5 high school here in Germany, which was very special for us.

Aditya is in his last year of kindergarten, and I like helping him learn his words, writing and ABCD.

Chris and me went to Cannes and Nice for 3 days on the beach, just us, while my mom was here with the kids.

On the weekend we went to Holland to learn kite surfing, which was great fun !!!!✨

Life is really good, but also really busy.

I think sometimes I disappear just to really live and enjoy my life, and actually stand for the holistic success I always talk about…

It cannot just be our careers and what we achieve.

It must also be health, well-being, family time, and love.❤️

Next week I’m traveling again (Hooray!!!) to gorgeous Croatia for our Dubrovnik luxury retreat! Women are flying in from the US, New York, Las Vegas, the UK, Hungary and other countries to be with me.

Oh and I’m also running a brand new 3-day live event, “Less Effort, More Love”, Tuesday 22nd to 24th September. What might be my final live event of the year...
(Join it if you’re curious about Elevate - samiwunder.thrivecart.com/less-effort-more-love/ )

And this is the final enrollment time for ELEVATE 20th edition (congrats to the 70+ amazing women who have joined - you have opted for the most life changing journey for yourself as a woman🔥!)

We had 3 engagements 💍in the last 2 weeks in the program. Talk about results !!! 🙂

Either way Thanks for being here, for trusting me with your love lives, marriages and relationships. It is the privilege of a lifetime ♥️

3 days ago | [YT] | 23

Sami Wunder

Nobody wakes up the next day & has a great marriage! A great marriage is built through multiple daily aligned choices …

Communication / truth speaking / respecting polarity / drawing healthy boundaries and more !!

But hey .. many people do wake up to divorces … from one day to the next!

Cause when you're not intentional about it, the daily bad choices and misalignment just pile up!

❌Fighting with your guy daily isn't harmless …
❌Being ok without physical intimacy for weeks in a relationship isn't harmless …
❌Being a good girl and over giving builds resentment and isn't harmless...

That stuff piles up over time and hurts you and the relationship over time….

Bottomline - ✔️💚

if you want a good thing, AT ANYTHING really, get intentional about what you're creating ✅💙💜

And on the flip side? The daily aligned choices pile up too. That's how you get back to red wine, marshmallows, and snuggling up to a Christmas movie with a man who actively adores you and shows up for you. Consistently. 🎄❤️

It starts with one choice today.

Click here to chat on WhatsApp: wa.me/+442080584749

3 days ago | [YT] | 23

Sami Wunder

I've had so many people asking me about Elevate this week.

What's actually inside. How it works. Whether it's right for them.

So I opened up a spot on my calendar for tomorrow, and I'm doing something I don't do very often.

A live, open house on Zoom.

I'll give you a full tour of the program, no pitch, just an honest walkthrough.

You'll see exactly how it works in the backend. The lessons, the structure, all of it.

I'll also show you my Skool community, where our clients get supported every single day.

And you'll meet my AI. Sami Queen AI is trained on my full framework, and she's part of the program now.

Then I'll open it up and answer whatever you're wondering about. Live, in real time.

Here's when to join me.

Tomorrow at 5:30pm Berlin time.

That's 4:30pm London, 10:30am New York, and 8:30am Los Angeles.

Comment "RSVP" belowand I'll save your spot.

5 days ago | [YT] | 12

Sami Wunder

You cannot control how a man or anybody perceives you. 👋 Watch this 8-minute training on The Three Types of Women That Don't Get the Proposal and grab your personal marriage map👉 book-a-call-page.replit.app/

The ones who like you will find a reason to like you despite your perceived mistakes.

✅ The ones who dislike you will find a reason to judge you despite your amazing heart and kind deeds.

So stop trying hard to control perception.

You cannot...

❌Stop trying hard to decode other people's words and actions.

❌Trying to control how others think of you or decoding their confusing actions is a HUGE energy drain in life. 💙

All the time that goes into psycho-analyzing other people's behaviours, words, why they do something or say something, is energy lost from focusing on your own life, your passions, your self-care, your hobbies, your joy... 💙💙💙

Here's what a healthy, relationally intelligent man looks like and here's how he behaves in the courting process. ✔️✔️✔️

He's going to ask you out on real life dates, stay in touch in between (a little, if he's truly masculine and has a job) and he will move the connection forward and do the relationship talk, "Where is this going with you?" ✔️

✅ This is what I call the 'White Zone.'

⚠️ Then there's the clear 'Black Zone.' Can't text, can't call, can't offer a real life date, will spark chemistry but majorly push boundaries or become rude and abrasive when he doesn't get his way with you.

🔴 Anything else in the middle, silence, long silences between dates, very few irregular dates, workaholic, not over his ex, avoiding commitment, feelings are there but no action, this is 'the Grey Zone.'

The grey zone is literally not worth decoding or wasting energy on with a man if you are looking to attract a serious partnership.

Yet millions of women spend decades in the grey zone with men, hoping they will grow up, change, get better, offer better, you name it.

Living in the grey zone because you have feelings for a man is not loving a man.

It's NOT loving yourself. 🔸

All that energy spent decoding somebody else's reasons for not showing up as a solid partner for you, that same energy could be spent meeting more available men, ready to show up, ready to bring a smile to your face.

If you have to spend a lot of energy figuring a man out, he is not your man.

And that's the hardest thing for the female ego to accept: he is just not that into me.

Watch this 8-minute training on The Three Types of Women That Don't Get the Proposal and grab your personal marriage map👉 book-a-call-page.replit.app/

6 days ago | [YT] | 15

Sami Wunder

"You'll be lucky to date again, let alone remarry."

That's what everyone told her after her divorce at 42.

She proved them wrong fast. Within a year she was in a real relationship. Good man. Good chemistry. Her kids got along with his.

Everyone said she'd landed on her feet.

Two years in, still no ring. That relationship ended.

She met someone else. Same story played out.

💔 Great relationship, no proposal.

💔 "He's just scared after his own divorce."

💔 "Give him time, he got burned before."

She believed it. Both times.

By the time she came to me, it had happened twice since her divorce. Two real relationships. Years of her life. Zero proposals.

When she told me her story, I didn't hear two unlucky relationships.

I heard the same mistake, repeating itself with two different men.

She wasn't choosing badly. She was doing one specific thing in both relationships that kept them comfortable, but never made her essential.

Comfortable doesn't propose. Comfortable stays.

Once she changed it, everything shifted.

Six months later, she was engaged. (Swipe photo to read Jessica's own words!)

Not to a man without baggage. To a man with just as much history as her, who finally felt like he couldn't lose her.

Starting over after divorce was never her problem.

Want to know the exact shift Jessica made so your next relationship doesn't cost you another few years? 👋 Message me TIP on WhatsApp - wa.me/+442080584749 and I'll send you the details.

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1 week ago | [YT] | 21

Sami Wunder

You are NOT 'anxiously attached'!

You're just dealing with a man who isn't showing up consistently for you.

Only an unsure man comes into your inbox and disappears for days or weeks...

NOT the man who wants to win your heart and values the connection!

The labels on the internet make you feel like you're the broken one, the anxious one, the one with too many needs and how you need to give him spaceeeeee forever to choose you... I call B.S.!

If he needs soooooo much space, he can go to Space!

A real connection is built on presence, NOT absence...

The healthy masculine men I dated who were into me, treated me with attention, consistency, showered me with gifts and love, not SPACE that left me feeling anxious!

This is why inside Elevate Next Level Love we don't work with attachment styles! We hold the standard for all men to show up like healthy adults in our lives... I don't care about his 'fears.' I'm NOT his mom...

If he can't text me when he likes me, can't call me, doesn't have the courage to show up consistently for me, then he can't do life with me and I can't depend on him as a woman...

And that's all I need to know when qualifying a man - does he care enough to show up above his fears for me or not? When my clients hold this standard in Elevate, they get results like this...

You deserve an empowered man who is ready to invest wholeheartedly in a truly loving relationship. And yes! Healthy love can be passionate, exciting, and completely free from toxicity!

If you're ready to drink red wine, eat marshmallows, and snuggle up to a Christmas movie this holiday with a man who actually adores you and shows up consistently, it's possible.

But you have to start now.

👋 Blissful marriage, lifelong commitment and earth shattering romance… this is what we help you build. Let's chat on WhatsApp - wa.me/+442080584749

1 week ago | [YT] | 22

Sami Wunder

"I paid 10K a month to be in the room. Nobody in that room even knew what my business was..."

It's 2018. I was already at seven figures and I wanted to scale to multi seven figures.

So I joined a business coach's group program. The marketing was excellent. It spoke straight to my pain points. I really believed he could help me.

I have always been brave with money. I have never once said "I can't afford it" about something I knew would take me closer to my goals. So I paid. Happily.

There were over 400 people in that cohort. I got to speak for barely one minute. And the leader of the group put me back in my place. Reminding me that there were SO many people in the room and everyone deserved a chance to speak. Mind you. This was after I had spoken for one minute.

I respected the no refunds policy but I still quit after a month. That experience left a scar on my heart that I still remember eight years later… Not because of the money. Because of what it felt like to be brave, to invest, to show up… and be treated like a seat number.

I scaled to multi seven figures anyway. Without them and with a new mentor by my side!

But that day I made myself a promise: No woman who is being brave and vulnerable and investing in herself will EVER feel that way in a room of mine.

Which brings me to something deeply personal about Elevate. The women who come to us ask us the same three things:

💔"Will I just be a number in a big group?"

💔"Will I actually get enough attention?"

💔"Should I just hire a private coach instead?"

I hear you. I have been you. 💚

So let me tell you what personal actually means in my program. You could pull out the name of any woman in Elevate and I could tell you her history. Her patterns. The exact thing she is doing right now that is about to sabotage her relationship. Or the brave thing she is doing right now that is about to take her to the next level.

That is how well me and my coaching team know our clients.

Here is how we build that. On purpose.

👉 A full onboarding process where you drop your entire history, and the coaching team and I personally read it.

👉 A curriculum that already answers 80% of your questions about dating and relationships.

👉 For the other 20%, you talk to us every single week on the live coaching calls for 6 months, and every single day in our private Skool community where we personally hang out and answer your questions… what to say, what to do!

And we protect the room itself.

💎 We never take more than 60 women per group anymore.

💎 We run midterm surveys because we want to know how you feel and what you need, and we revise the curriculum to meet you.

💎 And for the entrepreneurs and the wildly busy women, there is the Platinum track. Everything in the group, plus private 1-1 coaching on top…

There is too much personalized support in Elevate. Never too little.

There is a reason my clients get the results they get. It is not because we leave them alone. It is precisely BECAUSE they are seen, known and coached that closely.

This is not standard bro marketing group coaching. This is a room of movers and shakers where deep love, zero judgment and emotional safety are practised while you go through the most vulnerable part of your life. 💍

Plus, the biggest needle mover is that you get access to my repeatable process, the Love Success Framework that has led to 1,350+ client engagements and happy marriages.

So if you have been holding yourself back because "group coaching isn't for me"…

Whether you are a career woman exhausted by trial and error dating that leads nowhere, or you are married or in a relationship and you want the tools to take your connection to the next level,

👋 Blissful marriage, lifelong commitment and earth shattering romance… this is what we help you build. Let's chat on WhatsApp - wa.me/+442080584749

Live coaching begins 1st October. 🥂

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