Sami Wunder

💎First video of 2026 is up - The mistakes you make when you like somebody - https://youtu.be/G89Pm6tVFxA?si=_xjj7...

Enjoy and love you all!

So happy to be back divas 🎈

7 hours ago | [YT] | 2

Sami Wunder

Omg! I’m actively back on YouTube! Happy new year my darling YouTube family! Let’s make this your best year ever in love 🥰🩷✨🦋 I am so grateful for you!

Tell me below 👇 - What’s the one burning desire you have to experience in your love life or relationship this year?

7 hours ago | [YT] | 9

Sami Wunder

When I was a beginner coach, 11 years ago, I used to get a lot of DMs asking me for stuff — and I answered far more than I should have. Today life looks VERY different after having built what will soon be a multi-8 figure brand.

My DMs are such a clean place of only high level, INTENTIONAL conversations and relationships.

And still, once in a while, an odd message lands in my inbox....

Some from women asking me to help them in their situation (even if they are not private clients).

Some from fellow coaches asking if I would promote them to my audience.

Some from people asking for “a quick call.” (😂)

In principle, this isn´t bad.

I actually love people who reach out and ask — vs. passively waiting for life to bring them what they desire.

However… HOW this reach out is done matters. A LOT.

And I’m not just saying this as an established business owner who has a lot to offer (if you have a relationship with me) — but also as a relationship coach.

Because the truth is:

Smart, successful, busy people have a lot of experience of people wanting to take something from them.

And most of us have two buckets in which we place relationships:

Bucket 1 — Transactional & Transient

(Most people we meet will naturally end up in this bucket.)

Bucket 2 — Value-Based & Constant

(This is a rare bucket. You don’t “accidentally” end up here. You make effort to be in this bucket.)

For example — I have a lot of people asking me to…

“Would you be open to investing in my business?” If they have seen my other business investments.

OR

“Can I pick your brain on my marriage situation as a friend?” (But hey… you are NOT a friend. LOL)

“I would love to collaborate with you.” (Of course you would but is that your value proposition?😄)

So here’s the thing:

You are going to massively FAIL if your messages only ask to TAKE from the person of influence.

Our antennas are HIGH.

And guarded.

Especially against people trying to “get something” — without offering any value in return.

So if you’re going to make an approach, here are three Wunder tips for building real relationships with people you admire or would like to collaborate with or be seen with :

1) ❤️‍🔥Acknowledge that they do NOT owe you their time, money, or attention.

I really appreciate when a woman says something like:

“Sami, I know you don’t have to do this as I’m not your private client, but it would mean a lot to me if you could take an interest in my case right now in the Elevate FB group. The team has been so supportive but your opinion would also really count right now.”

This inspires me to help — because she is respectfully acknowledging that I don’t owe it to her.

That’s already a plus 1.

So whoever you write to — acknowledge that they would be doing you a favor.

Don’t show up and burden them with obligation.

2) ❤️‍🔥Offer value first. Always.

Don’t ask someone to give you something without offering value first.

Invite them to YOUR podcast.

Join their program.

Introduce them to your audience.

Promote their book.

Make a public post appreciating them. (Yes — that gets attention.)

GIVE FIRST. Look GENEROUS first.

That’s how you build a relationship with a person of influence.

Multiple such micro gestures is what moves you into Bucket 2.

And that’s when big doors open.

3) ❤️‍🔥Make sure your actions match your words. Show up in integrity.

I’m very watchful of the words people drop at me.

I’m immune to both flattery and criticism.

I just observe actions… over time.

If he said: “Reach out anytime you need help with software…”
…and he actually helped?

Awesome. Bucket 2. (Value-based and constant relationship in life.)

If not — He goes into Bucket 1 (Transactional and transient.) No worries. Just data and observation.

Or another example…

If she said she would invite me to her wedding when she was single — did she actually DO THAT now that she has a man?

Yes → Bucket 2. (value based, long term connection)

No → Bucket 1. No drama. Just data. Observe and learn 😉

Long story short:

Relationships with other people are a real, alive, dynamic thing.

Consider them like a tree.

If you don’t nurture it with water, sunshine 🌞, and healthy soil… it will die.

Even your social relationships are like that.

And people with influence are very smart and adept at sensing who is here for long-term connection and who is here for extraction in the moment.

Play the LONG GAME. Be kind, generous and offer value first. Those principles NEVER go out of fashion....and will always make you win with people!

Now on to you - What´s the most bizarre request you got in your inbox and how did you handle it?

18 hours ago | [YT] | 25

Sami Wunder

“How much feedback should a man be allowed to give you in a relationship or marriage ?” I want to share what happened on my private client calls today — because the same theme showed up again and again with my married clients and women in long-term relationships.

One married client told me her husband said:
“You’re extremely intense. Judgmental. Critical! Too much in your masculine.”

She felt instantly triggered. Furious. Resentful. Like he was attacking her character… not sharing his experience.

And then, in the safety of our coaching, she admitted something that changed the whole conversation…

“Sami, it is true! I have this heavy, critical, judgmental side from my mom… and when it comes out, it unleashes wrath on anyone in its path, my husband included.”

Another long-term partnered woman shared something similar — her husband tried to tell her what it feels like to be with her in certain moments… and she could only hear it as:

“I’m not good enough.”
“I’m being judged.”
“He wants to change me.”

And I get it.

Because feedback can hit the nervous system like shame.

I’ve lived this too.

After my pregnancy in 2016, I put on weight. Chris told me there was time for me to hit the gym again.

I hated him that day.
It felt like he was judging my body. Judging me.

And then the next day, something softened in me.

I realized: this man loves me!!

And he gets to want his wife to feel like herself again — to come back home to her radiance, her self-care, her aliveness…

The truth is I had abandoned myself and had let myself go and him pointing that out to me was a form of love for our connection, not judgement…

But I had to trust in our love and in his intentions before I could relax into this truth …

So here’s my honest take for long-term love:❤️

In a healthy marriage or long-term relationship, feedback is not only “allowed”… it’s often a sign the relationship is still alive… 🧪🧪🧪

Feedback should not only be okay but WELCOME when it’s coming from love and aimed at closeness…

Feedback is healthy when:
• it’s specific (about behaviour, not your worth)
• it’s present- behavior-focused (not “you always / you never”)
• it’s repair-oriented (it includes a desire, a request, a next step)
• it’s not laced with sarcasm, superiority, or punishment…

Of course feedback becomes harmful when it turns into contempt, humiliation, threats, or constant fault-finding….

And here’s the part many women don’t expect:

Sometimes the reason feedback feels unbearable isn’t because he’s cruel…

It’s because it touches an old wound — a mother-voice, a lifetime of being judged, a fear of not being lovable.

So you don’t hear: “I want us to work.. that’s why I still stop to give feedback.. .”

Instead you hear: “You’re failing.” 💔

But often, feedback is actually care in disguise.

Because when feedback disappears completely, it’s not necessarily peace.

Often … it’s emotional indifference or distance or even apathy .

If you want to become the kind of woman who can hear truth without collapsing…

who can stay soft without becoming a doormat…
and powerful without becoming sharp…

💋Join the Unforgettable Woman here: start.samiwunder.com/register-to-the-unforgettable…

It starts today and everyone is welcome to join regardless of relationship status!

3 weeks ago | [YT] | 28

Sami Wunder

OMG !! I've been prepping this with my team ALL day and I am so glad I can finallyyyyy announce it ... If you are excited to enter 2026 feeling a soaring sense of confidence in your feminine power around men and in your relationship ...

Then you will love my brand new experience - The Unforgettable Woman - Give me 15 days and I will help you become THE WOMAN men cannot shake out of their heads …

This is for you, whether you are single, dating, in a relationship or married but ready to be the woman that men obsess over ...

The one who lingers on his mind—long after the date is over or long after he’s left home for work...

When you sign up today for the Unforgettable Woman Experience (it´s free and my gift to you in this holiday season!), you'll receive a short, sassy love note from me for the next 15 days straight into your email inbox….

Each short email will give you one practical tip to step into the energy of the woman who is:

* emotionally unforgettable – the one he keeps thinking about *soft, radiant and self-possessed in her own skin…
* the woman men lean in for, chase and commit to… * unforgettable to her man – in the most special way.

No heavy homework during the holiday season...

No long lectures on attachment styles…

No ‘aunty’ scolding you on why you are still single or when will kids come 🙄

Just one loving, powerful email a day that feels like a wise, loving hug from a sister who wants the best for you and your love life.

Want to join me on this 15 day journey through the holidays into the new year?

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3 weeks ago | [YT] | 13

Sami Wunder

There’s a version of YOU that men don’t forget….

She doesn’t beg to be chosen.

Doesn’t spiral when he pulls back.

Doesn’t over-give to win his love …

Doesn’t over-explain, over-text, or audition for him to choose you …

She walks into a room and it changes…
She laughs loudly.
She likes herself…
She dresses to please herself …
She knows she’s the prize – in dating, in her relationship, in her marriage…

She’s soft. Kind..
She’s radiant.
But hey she’s got standards …
She’s quietly powerful in a way that makes a man sit up and think:
“How do I get closer to her?”

I rebuilt that version of myself slowly…
between work calls, after the baby went to sleep… after moments of heartache..

I built this version through tiny choices in how I spoke to myself,
how I dressed,
how I stopped chasing and started receiving love …

Now I want to help you remember your version of her …

I’ve created a brand new, free 15-day experience called✨ The Unforgettable Woman ✨ 💋

It’s starting this Monday … !

When you join me inside it, for the next 15 days I’ll send you a short, sassy love note straight to your email inbox to help you become the woman:

• he keeps thinking about after the date is over or after he’s left home for work …
• men lean in for, chase and commit to
• her partner can’t believe he gets to come home to…

No heavy homework.
No shaming.
No long lectures on attachment styles!

Just one powerful email reminder a day that feels like a loving hug from a wise sister who cares about telling you that you are so much more than the woman who overthinks men….

🧪Want to join me on this empowering experience over the holiday season and enter 2026 feeling completely and utterly UNFORGETTABLE? 💋

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3 weeks ago | [YT] | 37

Sami Wunder

One day before my period and, honestly, if it were up to my feelings, I’d cancel life for 24 hours 😅

I’m bloated, holding water in my face, and my body just wants the bed, the blanket and zero responsibilities.

But here’s what I actually do.

I still get up, hydrate with my minerals…
Go for a 45-minute walk…I move
Come back and lead my team meeting ..
Get on a 1–1 call and support my private client..

Don’t get me wrong – I love resting, dark chocolate, and watching “Lord of the Rings” with popcorn too… thats the plan for tonight …

and there are days when that is the only medicine and I give it to myself fully….

But the point I’m making here is this:

If it were up only to my feelings in a moment like today, I wouldn’t do a lot of the good things that actually support me, my body, my wellbeing, my mission.

I show up and do them anyway.

That, to me, is the quiet, unsexy secret of success.

Not forcing yourself…

Not pushing hard …

But being devoted enough to your vision and your wellbeing that you keep showing up for yourself — even on the bloated, low-energy, not-so-cute days….

That’s what makes the difference.
Not motivation.
The discipline. The devotion. 🤍

And it’s the same in love….

My Elevate clients date and swipe even when they “don’t feel like it… “

even when the app is only serving them “ugly ogres” that day 🤣

They keep showing up for their desire for love anyway — and when you show up for your dreams, no matter what the day or emotional weather, that’s when the universe can’t help but notice the steadiness of your vision and desire …

Because in the end, it’s not luck that brings your dream man or dream life to you — it’s the woman you choose to be on the hard days.🩷🦋

3 weeks ago | [YT] | 31

Sami Wunder

We messed up. And there’s no cute way to say it except being honest about it....

In the last weeks, we hired a new marketing company and started scaling our message around empowering women in their love lives in a much bigger way – especially around feminine communication and the way you speak to men, express your needs and create emotional safety in love.....

And as you can imagine, it’s not always a straightforward road when…

• I’m a mum who wants to be present with her boys and hubby
• I’m paying deep attention to my Elevate clients’ love lives
• AND I’m also the CEO of a growing love-coaching brand, trying to scale our mission and message at the same time

In the process of scaling the Feminine Communication Bundle, a few mistakes happened:

🌀 Some parts of the deliverables were presented in a disorganised way at the bottom of the page so some customers couldn’t find them ....

🌀 One of the ads for the bundle said “60-minute training”, while the checkout card correctly said “35-minute training”😭

Result: two dissatisfied customers in the last two days …

And THAT does not sit well with me at all !!! 😭😭😭

It´s not just the perfectionist within me (I DO have a bit of THAT)... but also the part within me that cares A LOT about my clients and customers....

So this morning, I cleared my entire schedule and got my team to fix this – because when you trust me with your heart and your money, I take that very seriously!

Here’s what we have done:

1️⃣ We’ve cleaned up the back-end and messaging so this doesn’t happen again. Youll be able to see the training and all pdfs clearly on one page all together 😇😇😇😇

Plus …

2️⃣ I decided not just to “patch” the mistake, but to surprise and delight the women who’ve already grabbed this incredible feminine communication bundle ..

Today ….

I’ve created an incredible Scripts Checklist that is now part of the Feminine Communication Bundle:

💌 Inside it you get 20 of the most common situations in your love life – in dating and in relationships
(he cancels, goes quiet, pushes for sex too soon, talks about his ex, shuts down, dismisses your feelings, etc.)

🗣 Each one scripted word-for-word using the Respectful Request tool I teach in the video training of this bundle –

so you can see exactly how to say what you feel and what you want, without blame, drama or him getting defensive !

💚 If you’ve already joined the Feminine Communication Bundle:
You’re in for a treat.

This new Scripts Checklist has been added to your bundle.
Just log in and download it.
We are emailing it to you as well!

💚 If you haven’t joined yet:

This new 20 Feminine Scripts Checklist is now part of the Feminine Communication Bundle, together with the core 35-minute video training, the feminine energy meditation and the live Q&A bonus with me (happening this weekend!)

👉 You can snag the bundle here - samiwunder.thrivecart.com/fem-com-bundle-em/
🩷🩷🩷

I’m so proud of the brand I’ve built and the real loving relationships our work helps women create.....

And while I’m human and will sometimes make mistakes as we grow, you are safe with me and my team.

Your love life – and your experience with us – matters to me ! A lot 💚
🩷

4 weeks ago (edited) | [YT] | 20

Sami Wunder

What do you even say when a man tells you all the time:”You’re overreacting.” 🙃

Last month, my Elevate client Nina came to our call furious and hurt.

Whenever she tried to share something that bothered her – him being late, scrolling on his phone at dinner, a joke that stung – the pattern was always the same:

She’d open up…
He’d get uncomfortable…

And then out would come:

“You’re overreacting. It’s not a big deal.”

Old Nina either:
• exploded and turned it into a full-blown fight, or
• shut down, went cold and didn’t talk to him for two days.

Neither option brought them closer.

Both left her feeling “too much” and him feeling attacked.

This time, she decided to do it differently….

Instead of firing back, she put her phone down, opened my Feminine Communication Bundle and watched the 35-minute training on how to use the Respectful Request tool.

Then she sent him this text:

“When I hear ‘you’re overreacting’ or ‘it’s not a big deal,’ I feel really dismissed and start to shut down. I’m not asking you to agree with my feelings, but it would help me so much if you could say something like, ‘I can see this is important to you, let’s talk about it,’ even if you see it differently.

I want us to be able to talk about things without either of us feeling attacked.”

No essay.
No name-calling.
No “you never / you always.”

Just clean, honest feminine communication + a clear request.

He replied:

“I’m sorry. I honestly didn’t realise how that landed. I don’t want you to feel dismissed. I’ll try saying it the way you suggested.”

And here’s the part that made her cry on our coaching call:

A week later, another tense moment came up…
Nina braced herself for the usual “you’re overreacting”…

Instead he took a breath and said:

“Okay, I can see this is important to you. Let’s talk about it.”

Same man.
Same relationship.
Completely different emotional climate –
because of HOW she communicated.

This is feminine communication in action.

Not manipulation. Not silencing yourself.

Just speaking in a way that honours your feelings and invites a good man to step up instead of defend himself.

Inside my Feminine Communication Bundle I teach you the exact shifts I made in my own marriage (12 years together now) and that I’ve taught to over 19,000 women across the globe:

✨ A powerful 35-minute video training with my core communication shifts + my Respectful Request tool
✨ The most common mistakes even smart, successful women make with men – and what to do instead
✨ A soothing feminine-energy meditation to regulate before you speak, so you don’t send the text you regret
✨ PLUS a brand-new Scripts Checklist with 20 of the most common dating + relationship situations, fully scripted for you 💖

If you’ve already joined the Feminine Communication Bundle, you’re in for a treat – the new Scripts Checklist is now waiting for you inside. 💚

If you haven’t joined yet and you can feel how this would change your communication & texting with men…

👉 You can snag the bundle here - samiwunder.thrivecart.com/fem-com-bundle-em/
🩷🩷🩷

4 weeks ago (edited) | [YT] | 8

Sami Wunder

“Sami, I’ve read the books.
I understand attachment styles.
I’d call myself a feminine, embodied woman. So why am I still single at 42?”

I can’t tell you how many women inside Elevate say this to me.

And the truth is – if this is you, it doesn’t mean you’re broken or something is wrong with you ….

It usually means you have blind spots that books and theory don’t touch!

Here are 5 blind spots we often see in our Elevate clients (even when they feel like they’ve ‘done the work’) – and they might be the reason you’re not attracting the love of your life: 👇

1. You’re “ feminine embodied”… except when you really like him.
When there’s no emotional risk, you’re soft, open, relaxed, radiant.
But When you actually like a man? Your nervous system flips into performance, overthinking, analysis and control. That’s not feminine embodiment – that’s hardcore masculine energy in operation and even the smartest women fall for this.

2. You’re still doing the emotional and logistical heavy lifting.
You don’t call it chasing…
But you’re the one dropping hints, hanging on to every word and promise of his as it gives you hope, “nudging things along,” holding the emotional space, and excusing his inconsistency….

On paper, you’re feminine.
In practice, you’re still the one running the show while he’s passive …

3. You confuse intensity with compatibility.

Cognitively you know about trauma bonds and chemistry addiction…

And yet, the men who feel “safe, steady and available” often feel “boring” to you – while your body still lights up for the unpredictable, sparky, avoidant ones….

4. You’re not actually dating in a way that gives love a chance.

You say you’re open to love – but you’re barely meeting new men, or you’re staying emotionally married to one confusing man while telling yourself you’re “working on your feminine.”

Love can’t happen if there’s no intentional energetic space for it.

5. Your deeper beliefs about men & commitment haven’t shifted.

On the surface, you affirm, “Great men exist.”

Underneath, there’s still: “Men leave. Men disappoint. If I really relax, I’ll be hurt.”

Men respond to your real time energy , not the affirmations you repeat in your head …

If you’re reading this and thinking, “Ouch… that’s me,” you’re not alone.

These are exactly the patterns we diagnose and shift with our clients inside Elevate, using my 6-Pillar Love Success Framework.

If you want 2026 to be the year you stop doing this alone and start dating with strategy, support and a proven framework…that helps you call in your husband …

👉🏼FREE consultation call link: www.samiwunder.com/contact?utm_source=YT&utm_mediu…

On this confidential call, we’ll help you spot your blind spots, map out your love strategy and reveal to you how we have helped over 1300 women break such patterns and attract healthy love 🩷

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