Emily Bettdur

Age 21: I got married to a good man and graduated with my Master's degree.

Age 27: We had our son.

Age 33: I "blew up" my "perfect" life. I got divorced and came out as a lesbian. I moved into my own home. Started sharing custody of my son and learning how to be my REAL self.

Age 35: Met my now wife.

Age 36 (almost 37): Married my wife.

Present day (Age 39, almost 40): Living life as my real, full authentic self with a life that's truly right for me.

These are 4 lessons I learned in this process...👇🏻

1️⃣ I had to release everything I had been told I was "supposed" to do so I could actually do what was right for me.

2️⃣ I had to fully embrace myself and the changes necessary so I could be the real me. I learned to fully trust myself and grew the confidence to do what's right for me.

3️⃣ I had to take action even when it felt scary or uncomfortable. Nothing changes without action and the more action I took, the easier things became.

4️⃣ Once I started living for me, everything became better! I felt peace, contentment, fulfillment, and has deeper more meaningful relationships. So while it was scary, it was SO worth it!

If you're ready to start living as the REAL you, I'm here to guide you. Send me an email (emilybettdur@gmail.com) Let's chat about how to make this your reality. 🩷

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8 months ago | [YT] | 62

Emily Bettdur

Happy St. Patrick's Day!! My wife thinks she got lucky, but I think we both did!

Actually, not really any luck in it when you take ownership of who you are and live as your authentic self!

Living as your true self puts you in alignment with the things that are meant for you. By being our true selves, we were able to find each other. 💚🌈

#stpatricksday #stpaddysday #happystpatricksday🍀 #lucky #solucky #authenticself #authenticity

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9 months ago | [YT] | 48

Emily Bettdur

Hiding your true self and not even sure what's actually right for you anymore?

Try this journal prompt...👇🏻

Without worrying about what anyone else might think, what would your picture perfect life look like to YOU?

Write out anything and everything that comes to mind and don't stop to second guess!

When you're done, read it back. This is what your authentic self is craving for you!

Now start taking small actions to make this your reality! Need help?

Email me: emilybettdur@gmail.com
Or send me a message on Telegram: t.me/EmilyBettdur

9 months ago | [YT] | 6

Emily Bettdur

I did all the "right" things.

The things I was told I was supposed to do.
But what I realized is that they weren't right for ME!

7 years ago, I said "no more!" And started to be the real me.

If you're ready to break free too, I've taken all I've learned and put it into a free guide.

Download it for free so you can start living in the way that's right for you! Https://emilybettdur.com/realframework

9 months ago (edited) | [YT] | 46

Emily Bettdur

Reminder! You choose your hard!

Hiding your true self, living a life that you know isn't right for you just to keep the peace and meet others expectations— HARD!

Breaking free from that life so you can prioritize yourself and live the life that you know is right for you and honors your true self— also HARD!

BUT...
What I can tell you from my own experience and the experience of the clients I work with...
one of these "hards" doesn't stay hard forever. The other does.

Which are you choosing?

If you're ready to break free but need help to do that, this is exactly what I'll guide you through in my Live as the REAL You program. Right now, only 5 spots available. Learn more and join the waitlist to be considered emilybettdur.com/realyou

9 months ago | [YT] | 4

Emily Bettdur

What if I regret this???

This is one of the most common concerns I get from clients who are at a crossroads and needing to make a big change in order to honor and live as their authentic selves...

These are 3 things I share with them to work through this....

1. Let's reframe and look at the opposite —
What if this is actually the best thing you ever do for yourself?
2. A study was done and people at the end of their lives report regretting the things they didn't do over the things they did do.
3. So for you, in 1 year, 2 years, 5 years, what do you think you'll actually regret? Staying where you are right now or making the choice to honor your authentic self?

I hope this helps.

PS... And speaking from personal experience, I've never regretted any of the big life changes I've made in order to be the REAL me. 😘

9 months ago | [YT] | 6

Emily Bettdur

I asked the question the other day if you were ready to finally start living as your REAL authentic self.

If your answer to that question is, "YES", but you've been struggling to actually make it happen, AND you're looking for personalized guidance and accountability, would you be interested in working together with me 1 on 1 to finally make this happen??

If so, I am launching a brand new and exclusive 1 on 1 program called Live as the REAL You!

In this completely personalized, high touch program,

✅That weight you've been carrying of hiding your real self will finally be lifted so you can breath easy
✅You'll take the bold action you've been avoiding (leaving a relationship, having a really hard conversation, making a career shift, or just showing up everyday as your real authentic self)
✅ You'll finally start prioritizing yourself and no longer be living to keep everyone else in your life happy.
✅And more!

I’m only taking 5 clients for this pilot round, so if you’re serious about stepping into the REAL you, join the waitlist now before spots are gone: emilybettdur.com/realyou

From my own journey of choosing to live authentically (and from working with so many others who have finally taken the leap) I can tell you this: Your future self is waiting and will thank you for finally saying yes to living the life that is actually meant for you.

9 months ago | [YT] | 8

Emily Bettdur

A year from now, will you…

1️⃣ Still be stuck- hiding behind the mask, shrinking yourself to fit others’ expectations, living a life that feels misaligned and unfulfilled?

OR

2️⃣ Finally free- having taken action, removed the mask, and stepped fully into living life the way that's meant for you?

Let me know!

If you’re ready for option 2, I’m here to help you make it happen.

9 months ago | [YT] | 2

Emily Bettdur

You KNOW you deserve to show up as the REAL you! Fully accepted and loved for exactly who you are.

BUT… you’re scared.
Scared of rejection.
Scared of change.
Scared of being judged.

So, you keep wearing the mask of your false self and pretending to be what everyone else wants, needs, or expects you to be.

I get it. I’ve been there. And it’s exhausting.
For me, it felt like I was dying a little inside every single day.😔

But here’s the truth...👇

👉 You don’t have to live like this.
👉 You don’t have to let fear keep you stuck.
👉 You CAN step into your real, unapologetic, authentic self.

And I can help you do it.

Inside "Live as the REAL You", I’ll guide you through your fear and help you take off the mask of your false self once and for all so you can finally:

✅ Feel confident in being the REAL you
✅ Speak your mind & set boundaries—without guilt
✅ Build deeper, more meaningful relationships
✅ Let go of the fear of rejection because you know your worth
✅ Find fulfillment by living in full alignment with who you truly are

If you’re ready to stop hiding and start truly living, take one small step today and visit emilybettdur.com/realyou to learn more

OR… you can stay where you are, feeling like you’re slowly fading away.

The choice is yours.

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10 months ago | [YT] | 37

Emily Bettdur

On a call with a client yesterday who has made the leap to live as her authentic self... I said,

"sometimes I feel like guiding people to live authentically is like coaxing a toddler to jump off the ledge into a pool. As the mom, you KNOW they're going to be just fine. You KNOW they're going to have fun. You KNOW they're going to be so proud of themselves, but they're often just so darn scared!"

Her response....👇🏻

She completely agreed now that she's made the leap for herself and told me I should share this analogy, so I am! 😁

If you're ready to make the leap, but you're still scared and want someone "in the pool" to encourage you, catch you, and let you know it's all okay, that's what I'm here for!

This is the support I'll be providing in my "Live as the REAL You" program. Learn more and join the wait-list for this program and know you don't have to make the leap alone! Https://emilybettdur.com/realyou

10 months ago | [YT] | 9