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brinyheart.

Do hard things with your friends.

Trust me.

In this picture we climbed the top of Mount Bogong, a nearly 2km mountian, and slept at the peak.
Stupid idea, I know.

It was so cold, and my legs felt like they were on fire.
But my goodness- the view.
I can remember the feeling of getting to the top and look behind us.
A camera could never do it justice.
Imagine looking around to see no mountian higher, and to see the clouds resting below you, and coming towards you.

It was hard- but that shared challege and ones like it forged our bonds in steel.
Pushing each other, experiencing that level of difficulty together.
It was something else. It was worth it.

Try something challenging with your friends.

A long hike, a competition, a tough workout. Something that sucks even.

Plan it right now. Get a loose time frame and set a date for a week to a few months.
Text and call people.
Have date locked in by tomorrow night.
You won't regret it.

Cheers, Jay.



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brinyheart.

How do you feel about listenable, longer videos? Ones that you can just switch on and listen to, without worrying too much about missing a visual that would be important?

I feel like I retain stuff a lot better doing mundane tasks while I listen to things. Think I might move more towards that kind of stuff, but I'm not a viewer.

Or do you prefer visual videos more?

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brinyheart.

We need more people like Tony.

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brinyheart.

Fun stuff to do with new people.

Of course your level of familiarity depends on what you'd both feel comfortable doing.

Cheers, Jay.

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brinyheart.

How to meet people.
Everyone says 'just meet people' and then end it there.
Here is exactly what I did.

A few years ago I came back from overseas. I had friends from high school, but we'd meet once in a blue moon.
I had to do something. So I did.

Here's my advice: go to a place where you will meet people consistently, and who are in a similar demographic (similar age group, similar interests, similar 'stage' in life)

Sports/Group activities.
This is the best place in my opinion. I have met so many great people boxing and volleyball. In sports, it's hard to avoid building a connection with someone, unless you are rather shy or anxious.

Hobbies.
Dig deep into hobbies. I have a nearby 40k and Dnd place that runs events weekly. Great guys- I'm considering joining. Check Facebook. Many people use it to find people interested in the same hobbies. My suburb/council group on facebook has book clubs, volunteering events, and even people looking to hire.
Social media is powerful when used correctly.

Customer facing jobs - Hospitality, retail.
These jobs can suck sometimes, but it's almost always a worthwhile experience. I've met some people years ago that I'm good friends with to this day. Seriously a lifechanging job. Made me hate 90% of food industry business owners lol.

The reality is: if you want to meet people FAST, and get into a new bubble/circle FAST, you need to take action/initiative.

It takes two.

You cannot wait for someone to come to you. And you cannot blame the world forever.
You're not broken.
It's tough, and it stinks sometimes.
But after that first circle/bubble, it gets easier.
Then you can start forming real connections with people.

Cheers, Jay.

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brinyheart.

Keeping yourself in a little bubble...

Set yourself up for the future. This is a topic I discuss in the upcoming video about loneliness, which I am still unsatisfied with but people need it.

One of the best decisions I ever made was sticking my pinky toe outside of my social circle every now and then.

If someone I didn't super know invited me to an event, I'd go.
If I met with a mutual friend that I barely knew, I'd give it a crack at getting to know them, instead of being quiet.
I said no to 'testing' people and cutting them off if I didn't need to (making my bubble smaller)
and I stopped giving my time as much to people who didn't reciprocate.

And gradually, that bubble expanded.
Then, feeling lonely and misunderstood on a regular basis wasn't only a distant memory, but actually difficult.

Your people are out there. They exist.
I thought they didn't. But I was proven wrong.
I want to make them easier to find for you, and you easier to find for them.


Cheers, Jay.

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brinyheart.

If I could make something that would help you fix the biggest challenges in your social life, what problems would it tackle?

I want to know. My brain must expand.

Cheers, Jay.

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brinyheart.

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brinyheart.

Hope you're all doing okay.

Nothing else today.

Cheers, Jay.

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brinyheart.

Being liked by everyone is a scam.
To buy into it, you need to give away your personality and happiness.

Freedom comes at the cost of universal likability.
Universal likability comes at the cost of freedom.
You cannot have both.

Will you submit to others insecurites?
Or will you be your kind, authentic self?

More people dislike me than ever, especially now that I own a channel of this size- I'm sure that there are plenty more that I've never even met.

But I am happier than I have ever been.
Because I can be me, and I've found people that like that.
I don't really think about people who don't. That's not my task.
What about you?

Cheers, Jay.


p.s if you want to see more stuff like this, you can here: brinyheart.com/

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