Jillian Turecki

I can't stress enough how important it is that we feel special to the person we're in a relationship with.

If you struggle to do this, then likely you're resentful.

Which is one of the most painful things to experience in a relationship because it usually means we feel helpless too.

This is when I recommend couples work, even if it means reading books and doing my workshops or other people's workshops.

I see you.

If you truly believe that your partner is toxic, narcissistic, abusive, incorrigible, and just not a team player, then you shouldn't be with them.

It's that simple. But I know, it's not easy. If this is the case, you need help - people on your side who can support you as you break ties.

I mention this because when we love someone, telling them how wonderful and lovely we think they are should feel effortless.

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1 month ago | [YT] | 1,703

Jillian Turecki

We don't do the work to become worthy or deserving of healthy love.

We do the work to slowly untether ourselves from unhealthy patterns, to make better decisions, and to have the confidence to never settle for unrequited love.


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1 month ago | [YT] | 1,569

Jillian Turecki

Buying their favorite snack is romantic...

What does it mean to romance someone? We know what we've been told it is by art, film and literature. Yet, the grand gesture is so overrated. What most of us really want is subtlety, rich with connection, intention and attention.

What do you find romantic?


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1 month ago | [YT] | 1,671

Jillian Turecki

Not just a relationship skill but a life skill.

Everyone, regardless of attachment wounds, will struggle at various points in their relationships and when they do, it can be extremely overwhelming. We will then often feel compelled to control or withdraw in an effort to restore emotional security. Again this is extraordinarily common, which is why practicing sitting with discomfort is foundational in ancient spiritual teachings. To resist the impulse to control our environment and the other person in order to orchestrate a particular outcome is for many a huge undertaking, yet necessary. To resist withdrawing from the problem or the relationship is equally a huge task. Both are reactions that may give us temporary relief but guarantee long term pain because relationships - even the best ones, will go through cycles of unsteadiness.

They will have moments of riff even when things overall are "good". This is part of the deal which means we have no choice but to learn how to sit with the discomfort when we don't have a solution, feel overwhelmed, feel needy, or we can't connect with someone exactly when we want to.

Call a friend instead. Take a couple of hours to cool off if you need to cool off. Go for a long walk. Breathe. I know it can be extremely uncomfortable sometimes, but let it be for just a little longer.

(And no l'm not suggesting staying in something that wrecks your nervous system. This is not about that today).


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1 month ago | [YT] | 1,918

Jillian Turecki

I'm posting this again because so many of you are facing heartbreak during the holidays. I see you.

Trust that I understand what you're experiencing which is why I wrote a heartbreak recovery workbook, did an entire podcast episode on heartache, and dedicate a lot of my content to mending a broken heart.

So, please try to stop scheduling more talks.

Stop breaking up over and over again.

It doesn't mean they're "bad". It doesn't mean they weren't a soul mate. It just means they were meant to walk with you for a specific amount of time, not more.

Letting go is complicated, messy and hard. Yet, holding on when it's clearly over is harder in the long run.

A new chapter awaits you.


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1 month ago | [YT] | 2,622

Jillian Turecki

And who you're compatible with. Who you play well with. Who you fight well with.


We have all these rules about how people need to be in order to be considered safe or "conscious". Replace them with standards that are best for YOU.

Every single client who has ever come to me wanting a relationship is either in the best relationship of their lives, or has walked away from patterns and situations that were not serving them. 

Ps - you might meet someone.


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1 month ago | [YT] | 2,035

Jillian Turecki

If self-reflection, awareness and caring about being a better person and partner are important to you, then dating and being in a relationship with someone who values that also will increase your chances of being happy together.

But saying it's important is not the same thing as living it.

This is an important distinction.

Remember, though, everyone has a different path to their healing. So it's important not to judge their process or what they have learned helps them to grow and stay/get healthy.


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1 month ago | [YT] | 926

Jillian Turecki

We unconsciously break each other's hearts all the time.


Afraid, protective of our hearts and egos, we will say and do things we later regret.

More commonly we'll get so caught up in our "stuff" that we become mindless when it comes to the person / people we love and we'll forget to meet their needs for love.
We'll break our own hearts too in an effort to be enough.

To be loved and accepted.

Self - awareness is the acknowledgment of when we didn't do our best, and owning it.
And sometimes, we'll have to feel a little healthy shame.

We have to because if we really did someone or ourselves wrong, we need to feel that. Feel it so we do better next time.

But remember, staying in that state of regret and shame helps no one, and

life always wants us to play in it again. Own it. Then let it go.


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2 months ago | [YT] | 1,333

Jillian Turecki

Accountability heals and repair isn't possible without it. Not the same thing as self blame.

I have a variety of content here all on the topic of love and relationships. If you suspect you're being mistreated or with the wrong/ bad person, I have plenty of content to help you find your power and strength. This doesn't apply to that.

Today is about how we unconsciously make our partner/ spouse/lover responsible for the relationship, for making us happy, and for making us feel whole.

How we project our internal conflicts about our worthiness on to them and then expect them to change so we feel better.

On how easily we can blame them for their attachment style, communication style, or for their eccentric habits that we once liked but now we're sick of.
Whatever you're experiencing with your significant other that you wish would change, ask yourself:


"what's my role in this?"
Because what I promise you is that when you do, it's a game changer.

It begins with US.


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2 months ago | [YT] | 958

Jillian Turecki

When you end a relationship with someone who didn't treat you as well as you deserved...

You break-up with a pattern.

And that's worth honoring, deeply.

Even if they were a good person but they just were not available to you - No matter how much you took responsibility for your part and no matter how much you tried.
Whether or not this a pattern you've had for a long time or just a pattern you've had in this particular relationship..

You likely broke up with an old story that convinced you that you had to work tirelessly to be loved.

Onward.


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2 months ago | [YT] | 1,453