Some books don’t come gently. They find you in the wreckage—when you're raw, worn thin, and barely holding things together. Forgiving What You Can’t Forget by Lysa TerKeurst showed up in one of those seasons for me. I didn’t go searching for a book on forgiveness. Honestly, I didn’t want to forgive. I wanted justice, closure, or maybe just someone to say, “Yeah, what happened to you wasn’t fair.” But somehow, this book landed in my life like a whisper—soft, steady, and persistent. I decided to listen to the audiobook, and hearing Lysa’s voice narrate her own journey made it feel like I wasn’t alone in mine. She doesn’t rush you toward healing or shame you for how long it’s taking. She just sits with you in the ache and gently shows you that it’s still possible to move forward—even with the pain.
Here are seven lessons that helped me take small, trembling steps toward freedom:
1. Forgiveness Isn’t Saying It Was Okay—It’s Saying You’re Ready to Be Free. I always thought forgiving meant excusing the person who hurt me. Like saying, “It’s fine,” when it absolutely wasn’t. But Lysa reframes it—beautifully. She says forgiveness isn’t about what they deserve; it’s about what your soul needs. That one truth changed everything. Forgiving didn’t mean the pain didn’t matter—it meant I mattered more than the pain.
2. You Don’t Have to Forget to Forgive. This lesson hit like a breath of relief. There’s so much pressure to “let it go” and pretend like it never happened. But Lysa reminds us that memory isn’t the enemy. You can remember and still forgive. You can honor the wound without living in it. That gave me permission to stop fighting my memories—and instead, start making peace with them.
3. Your Healing Doesn’t Depend on Their Apology. This one hurt—but in the best way. I had been waiting for an apology that might never come, tying my healing to someone else's willingness to acknowledge the hurt. Lysa helped me see how unfair that was to myself. She taught me that closure doesn’t always come from them—it comes from God, from courage, and from choosing peace even when there are no answers.
4. Unprocessed Pain Will Leak Into Your Life. I saw myself in the stories Lysa told—the irritability, the anxiety, the bitterness that crept into places it didn’t belong. She says unhealed pain doesn't stay neatly tucked away—it finds its way into relationships, decisions, even self-worth. That woke me up. I had been carrying hurt that was shaping how I saw the world. It was time to stop bleeding from wounds I refused to treat.
5. Boundaries Aren’t Ungodly—They’re Necessary. For the longest time, I believed forgiveness meant keeping the door open to everyone, even those who consistently hurt me. But Lysa is clear: forgiveness and boundaries can coexist. You can forgive someone and protect your heart. That’s not harsh—it’s wisdom. It’s how you stop letting someone’s chaos become your constant.
6. Forgiveness Is a Process, Not a One-Time Event. I wanted to check forgiveness off a list—say the words and be done. But Lysa shows how forgiveness often has to happen over and over, especially when the pain resurfaces. She calls it “the daily decision,” and that phrase stuck with me. Some days, I still feel the sting. But now I know that doesn’t mean I’m failing. It means I’m still healing. And that’s okay.
7. God Can Redeem What Feels Unredeemable. The most beautiful thread running through this book is the belief that God can create beauty out of brokenness. That nothing is wasted—not even the worst parts. Lysa shares her pain without sugarcoating it, but she also offers hope that restoration is possible. That your story doesn’t end in bitterness or grief. That something good can still rise from what broke you.
Listening to Forgiving What You Can’t Forget felt like sitting with someone who didn’t judge my pain or try to fix it too quickly. It reminded me that forgiveness isn’t weakness—it’s strength. It’s bravery. It’s the quiet, gritty work of choosing freedom one day at a time. And maybe, just maybe, it's how we start to reclaim the parts of ourselves we thought we’d lost.
BOOK: https://amzn.to/4jXswPc
You can also get the audio book for FREE using the same link. Use the link to register for the audio book on Audible and start enjoying it.
Imagine a world where you're surrounded by people who truly celebrate your successes and offer a helping hand during tough times. It's possible, and it starts with recognizing that you deserve to be surrounded by positivity and genuine support. You don't have to tolerate negativity, belittling remarks, or relationships that are one-sided. Protecting your peace and well-being means setting healthy boundaries and prioritizing those who uplift you. Letting go of toxic relationships, whether it's online or in person, isn't cruel; it's an act of self-love. By surrounding yourself with genuine support, you create space for growth, happiness, and a truly fulfilling life. It's time to embrace a positive, supportive circle and leave the negativity behind.
Bogie & Ozzy’s Momma
Some books don’t come gently. They find you in the wreckage—when you're raw, worn thin, and barely holding things together. Forgiving What You Can’t Forget by Lysa TerKeurst showed up in one of those seasons for me. I didn’t go searching for a book on forgiveness. Honestly, I didn’t want to forgive. I wanted justice, closure, or maybe just someone to say, “Yeah, what happened to you wasn’t fair.” But somehow, this book landed in my life like a whisper—soft, steady, and persistent. I decided to listen to the audiobook, and hearing Lysa’s voice narrate her own journey made it feel like I wasn’t alone in mine. She doesn’t rush you toward healing or shame you for how long it’s taking. She just sits with you in the ache and gently shows you that it’s still possible to move forward—even with the pain.
Here are seven lessons that helped me take small, trembling steps toward freedom:
1. Forgiveness Isn’t Saying It Was Okay—It’s Saying You’re Ready to Be Free. I always thought forgiving meant excusing the person who hurt me. Like saying, “It’s fine,” when it absolutely wasn’t. But Lysa reframes it—beautifully. She says forgiveness isn’t about what they deserve; it’s about what your soul needs. That one truth changed everything. Forgiving didn’t mean the pain didn’t matter—it meant I mattered more than the pain.
2. You Don’t Have to Forget to Forgive. This lesson hit like a breath of relief. There’s so much pressure to “let it go” and pretend like it never happened. But Lysa reminds us that memory isn’t the enemy. You can remember and still forgive. You can honor the wound without living in it. That gave me permission to stop fighting my memories—and instead, start making peace with them.
3. Your Healing Doesn’t Depend on Their Apology. This one hurt—but in the best way. I had been waiting for an apology that might never come, tying my healing to someone else's willingness to acknowledge the hurt. Lysa helped me see how unfair that was to myself. She taught me that closure doesn’t always come from them—it comes from God, from courage, and from choosing peace even when there are no answers.
4. Unprocessed Pain Will Leak Into Your Life. I saw myself in the stories Lysa told—the irritability, the anxiety, the bitterness that crept into places it didn’t belong. She says unhealed pain doesn't stay neatly tucked away—it finds its way into relationships, decisions, even self-worth. That woke me up. I had been carrying hurt that was shaping how I saw the world. It was time to stop bleeding from wounds I refused to treat.
5. Boundaries Aren’t Ungodly—They’re Necessary. For the longest time, I believed forgiveness meant keeping the door open to everyone, even those who consistently hurt me. But Lysa is clear: forgiveness and boundaries can coexist. You can forgive someone and protect your heart. That’s not harsh—it’s wisdom. It’s how you stop letting someone’s chaos become your constant.
6. Forgiveness Is a Process, Not a One-Time Event. I wanted to check forgiveness off a list—say the words and be done. But Lysa shows how forgiveness often has to happen over and over, especially when the pain resurfaces. She calls it “the daily decision,” and that phrase stuck with me. Some days, I still feel the sting. But now I know that doesn’t mean I’m failing. It means I’m still healing. And that’s okay.
7. God Can Redeem What Feels Unredeemable. The most beautiful thread running through this book is the belief that God can create beauty out of brokenness. That nothing is wasted—not even the worst parts. Lysa shares her pain without sugarcoating it, but she also offers hope that restoration is possible. That your story doesn’t end in bitterness or grief. That something good can still rise from what broke you.
Listening to Forgiving What You Can’t Forget felt like sitting with someone who didn’t judge my pain or try to fix it too quickly. It reminded me that forgiveness isn’t weakness—it’s strength. It’s bravery. It’s the quiet, gritty work of choosing freedom one day at a time. And maybe, just maybe, it's how we start to reclaim the parts of ourselves we thought we’d lost.
BOOK: https://amzn.to/4jXswPc
You can also get the audio book for FREE using the same link. Use the link to register for the audio book on Audible and start enjoying it.
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