Tongue of Fire Podcast by Lorna Vaughn

There are two Biblical grounds for divorce.

1️⃣ Abandonment by an unbelieving spouse (“If the unbeliever departs, let them depart. The brother or sister is not bound in such cases. God has called us to peace.” 1 Cor 7:15) and

2️⃣ A wife’s infidelity (“And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.” Matthew 19:9 and 5:32). God divorced Israel under the second grounds for divorce. (“I gave faithless Israel her certificate of divorce and sent her away because of all her adulteries.” Jeremiah 3:8).

Unfortunately nowhere in Scripture is a *husband’s* infidelity grounds for divorce. Doesn’t mean it’s moral. But it isn’t grounds for divorce.

Abuse or violence is also not grounds for divorce. That is not based in Scripture.

We are to guard our hearts and if abuse is happening we should separate and even go no contact if necessary. But divorce under these conditions is not Biblical.

And it’s not because the Lord is mean.

It’s because where He assigns great responsibility, He bestows great authority. Through the creation story we see Eve is created in covenant. Adam was not. Adam’s identity is not defined by the covenant of marriage. Eve’s is. When the Lord calls her “a helpmeet for him” even before she is created, He is defining her in relation to her husband and to marriage.

Adam was created single.

Eve was created *as a wife.*

As such she is more bound to the covenant of marriage than Adam is. This is reflected in the grounds for divorce being less “in her favor.”

But that’s only if you see this with earthly eyes.

The Lord wasn’t consigning women to misery in marriages they could never get out of.

He was expecting them to use their mighty power and authority in the spirit to go to war — and to the courts of Heaven — to gain rulings of victory over their marriages and their husbands. *And to win.*

“Helpmeet for him” is “Ezer Kenegdo” in Hebrew. Ezer is helpmeet. Kenegdo is “perfectly paired with, corresponding to.” Ezer is then used over and over to describe *God* delivering or protecting the Israelites from their enemies. That is the level of Eve’s authority and privilege. And responsibility.

She is more bound to marriage, because she has more spiritual authority to protect and petition for its deliverance from demonic influence.

If you are in horribly toxic marriage and you feel the Lord is asking you to contend and you’re confused about whether you have grounds for divorce and what the Lord is saying, come find me on TikTok (www.tiktok.com/@lornavaughnofficial). I was in a severely toxic and narcissisticly abusive marriage that took everything from me in three short years. I was sure divorce was condoned because living with my husband was literally killing me. But on my way to file papers, the Lord ambushed me.

He taught me the holy pattern for how His glory falls on a marriage, promised me total transformation in my marriage, put me on assignment to contend for it, and showed me the true identity and authority of a Kingdom Wife.

He gave me my marriage miracle and now I have an online ministry community of hundreds of wives all contending for their marriages and being equipped for spiritual war like never before. And the transformations and breakthroughs they are seeing are miraculous.

Find us on Skool — look for Tongue of Fire — and come join us. I would be honored to help you war for your marriage miracle AND WIN 🙏🏻❤️🗡️💍

1 week ago | [YT] | 3

Tongue of Fire Podcast by Lorna Vaughn

🔥🕊️🔥Announcing Tongue of Fire ministry’s inaugural WISDOM SOPHIA Symposium, “Unveiling the Bride: The Holy Spirit as the Feminine of God.” 🔥🕊️🔥

DATE: Wednesday, 10.22.25
TIME: 8pmCST
COST: Free to all

I’ve had many ask me why I’m preaching about the Holy Spirit as the feminine of God — and others arguing for various reasons that I shouldn’t be or that I’m wrong (saying God has no gender so we shouldn’t be calling the Holy Spirit “She;” implying that by saying the Holy Spirit is WISDOM SOPHIA I am mixing in New Age because many New Agers revere a goddess named Sophia that they claim created God, as well as other reasons and arguments and objections)…

so it is time to give this incredibly important End Times topic of the Unveiling of the Bride its due.

It is far too complex and important of a topic to treat in a Facebook post or even a livestream.

This calls for an INTENTIONAL GATHERING.

And deep time in the Word — because I teach nothing that is not backed by Scripture.

And I am also thrilled to announce that Jenny Goncher of Women of Armor Ministry will be joining as a guest speaker to share her prophetic revelations on this topic, as she has been speaking on this for several years through her ministry.

Here’s what we’ll be diving into:

🕊️ The Holy Spirit as the feminine of God as revealed in Scripture

🕊️ The real reason the Holy Spirit is referred to as “He” and “Him” in Scripture, and why it in no way contradicts the truth that the Holy Spirit is feminine

🕊️What the Holy Spirit being the feminine of God reveals about why the religious spirit is fundamentally a *rejection of the feminine*

🕊️ Why the Holy Spirit manifests as thick darkness in the Old Testament and the incredible revelation about the timing of this manifestation with the Isrealites’ rejecting initimacy with God (and what they were actually rejecting)

🕊️ Deep dive into the arguments against the Holy Spirit as feminine, directly addressing Scripture where the Holy Spirit is referred to as “He” or “Him.”

🕊️ The difference between the Holy Spirit being feminine versus being FEMALE.

In this Seminar-style gathering there will be a time of teaching and then I will open the virtual room up for discussion, and we will go until the Spirit closes the room.

I welcome all who are open to hearing what the Spirit has to say on this. (Revelation 2:7)

I welcome all those who doubt this is true but who are open to a civil, respectful, and Scripture-based conversation.

And I especially welcome New Agers and those who are Christ curious.

A huge reason why I left the church for New Age is because I knew in my bones — as many New Agers do — that there has to be a feminine of God and that there was something very wrong, distorted (and now I would say demonic) that the feminine of God has been NEUTERED (which is literally what happened when we moved from Hebrew to Greek in the Bible), that the only way we refer to God is “He,” and “the Father,” and that the Trinity is made of three masculine Persons.

When I came to Christ, I laid down the belief or insistance that there is a feminine of God. I called the Holy Spirit “He” up until a few months ago when the Lord began putting it on my heart insistently and repeatedly to look into this question, and then when I began to realize the truth that the third Person of the Trinity is in fact feminine, I resisted mightily what the Lord was urging me to do, which was to share this publicly.

When I tell you I did not want to do this, I mean it.

I still don’t, if I’m being honest.

I’ve had my share of public outrage against me over the years. And I used to revel in it. Welcome it. Take glee in it. Look forward to it.

I do not revel in, welcome, take glee in, or look forward to it now.

But it is my assignment. It is in fact one of the pillar assignments of my ministry.

And it is being given its own place within my ministry as “WISDOM SOPHIA: A Kingdom Mystery School” in which I will continue to teach on the ongoing revelations of the Holy Spirit as feminine and the hidden of Scripture.

This inaugural symposium is free to all, and while WISDOM SOPHIA, the Kingdom Mystery School, will be a paid offering, I have been instructed by the Lord to make it a very affordable $22/month, so that all who seek the feminine of God and the hidden of Scripture and who seek deep community around this can participate.

I will be announcing the details and opening of the WISDOM SOPHIA school at the end of this inaugural symposium.

🕊️ WISDOM SOPHIA SYMPOSIUM DETAILS 🕊️

DATE: Wednesday, 10/22
TIME: 8pmCST/6pmPST
COST: Free to all

While the Symposium is free you do need to register in order to get the Zoom link. You can do that via the link in the comment below.

Come join us for a FIERY time of revelation, teaching, and discussion. Your faith will never be the same. 🕊️🔥🕊️🔥🕊️

3 months ago | [YT] | 0

Tongue of Fire Podcast by Lorna Vaughn

The yoke of Jesus gives birth to a metaphysical ZYGOTE that carries the life force of the universe and mirrors the physics of new life creation.

The other day I was studying the famous verse in Matthew 11:30, “For my yoke is easy and my burden is light” and got curious about that word “yoke.”

What does it really mean to be yoked to Christ?

Turns out it means something pretty incredible.

“Yoke” in Greek is “zygos” and it means, simply, a beam that two animals are attached to in order to pull an object or accomplish some kind of teamwork.

That isn’t what caught my eye, though.

What caught my eye is how similar that word “zygos” is to the English word for ZYGOTE. 🤯

A zygote is the *very first cell* of a *new living organism* that is created when two gametes — a sperm and an egg in humans — combine. And this single cell, this zygote, this *new creation,* contains the complete set of genetic material from both parents, everything that is needed for the new life.

When the two separate, life-bearing organisms — the sperm and the egg — are yoked together, new life is the inevitable outcome.

So then what is the yoke here, exactly?

In traditional terms the yoke is the beam of wood (🤯 THE BEAM OF WOOD. The CROSS.) that links or joins two separate beings — who *remain separate* while linked — to do work that is more easily done together.

But in this expanded meaning, if we consider that this yoke is the cross and creates a spiritual ZYGOTE, we see something new come into focus.

The TWO become ONE.

“But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him.” 1 Corinthians 6:17

Us + Jesus Christ = a new creation.

The yoke of Jesus Christ is the plus sign, the beam of wood that is the cross, and it doesn’t just link us to him, it is what takes our human and his divine and activates a supernatural birthing process in which we are born again as a third new thing, a NEW CREATION.

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has passed away; behold, the new has come.” 2 Corinthians 5:17

There’s something else that strikes me as I look at this, because I am suddenly reminded of this verse:

“I have been crucified with Christ.” Galatians 2:20.

Which means that meta-physical equation— “Us + Jesus = a new creation”— LOOKS like an equation of ADDITION.

But it is in fact one of SUBTRACTION.

To be yoked (zygos’d) to Christ, we first negate ourselves through the cross and become one with Him.

And this surrender, this negation, activates a powerful creational force — a force of not just addition but MULTIPLICATION (the zygote instantly begins to divide and subdivide to form the new body) — as the Holy Spirit, the breath of life, blows over this moment — our dead-ness —and brings it to NEW life.

And so we go from subtraction of the human self to multiplication of a new creation through the addition of the cross.

Where was once impossible is now possible, where what there was once nothing, now there is NEW LIFE.

Physics mirroring meta-physics.

Pretty cool.

….

The second I posted this I noticed the verse of the day on my YouVersion Bible app:

“A new heart also will I give you, and a new spirit will I put within you: and I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you an heart of flesh.” Ezekiel 36:26

A Holy Spirit wink of confirmation. 🕊️

3 months ago | [YT] | 2

Tongue of Fire Podcast by Lorna Vaughn

“I’m your Huckelberry.”

One of the most iconic lines from a movie ever.

And tomorrow Andrew is taking me to the SECRET OUTDOOR STUDIO WHERE IT WAS FILMED!!!!!!!

And the reason this is happening is because, number one, God worked a miracle in reuniting us, and number two, I now know how to inspire my husband’s devotion.

It has been a long hard road from constantly saying and doing things that shut him down and triggered him to put up ten-inch-thick walls, and now, where I swear I feel like the most treasured thing.

My mind is not plagued with “why is he so distant? Why is he withdrawn? Why does he seem to want to focus on anything else and anyone else but me? Why won’t he pay attention to me??”

It’s *so* not plagued with it that I literally forgot that earlier this week he’d said he’d plan Saturday date nights.

Which is not normal for me.

Normally the moment he’d have made a promise like that I’d start wondering and worrying whether he’d actually do it. Part of me wishing he’d never said anything because his track record of follow through wasn’t great.

I mean how could it be when everything kept burning down around us.

But still it hurt when we’d talked about him planning something and he didn’t.

Is he thinking about it? Is he planning it? Should I remind him? (In other words, should I help him give me what I need?) we’re the thoughts that swirled around in my mind obsessively.

I was so plagued with this that even when he did make plans for us it felt like a Pyrrhic victory. Yes, I “won” his attention. But at the cost of my peace for days.

This time? Totally different.

I’d mentioned to him in passing early this week that I loved it when he planned adventures for us.

How about I plan Saturday date nights? he said.

Amazing! I said. And then forgot all about it.

Today we were talking about the weekend and it suddenly popped in my head.

So what do you have planned for tomorrow night, babe? I asked. Half expecting him to say he totally forgot and was so sorry — Because if he had forgotten he absolutely would have said he was sorry, which isn’t what he would have done before — and frankly not even concerned if he had. (Because that’s the other thing that happens in a truly healed marriage. You don’t take EVERY disappointment or let down as a referendum on your worth or value. You let it go easily, without resentment. Unless of course there’s a pattern playing out and even then the claws don’t come out because a HEALED woman can speak to a man about her feelings in a way that he actually WANTS to listen to them. Even when they’re about how he’s let her down. Imagine that. 😁)

Andrew didn’t miss a beat.

Actually I have plans for us for the whole day, he said. Our Saturday “date night” had turned into an all-day affair.

And I was struck with two thoughts almost at once.

“Oh my gosh he was thinking about this and planning this even though I’d completely forgotten about it. That is insane. What a strange feeling. And such a nice one.”

And

“Really??!! ALL DAY?? Where are you taking me???!!”

Which is when he told me that first we are going to visit a place almost no one knows about where not only “Tombstone” but also “The Outlaw” and “The Quick and the Dead” were filmed. (Eeeeek!!! So fun. So mysterious. So enchanting.)

And then he’s taking me to an abandoned mine where you can break off chunks of black onyx. (Like what. Okay Cowboy.)

And then he’s taking me to see an old train trustle and to explore a hidden stretch of landscape that he said feels like you’ve just traveled from Tucson to some lush, green, cool part of the earth with majestic willow trees and a bubbling creek. (I’ve been there once before with him. It felt a slice of heaven. Which he clearly picked up on and remembered. Swoon.)

And while the “alpha boss crusher of business revenue” Lorna somewhat rolled her eyes, I literaly squealed like a little girl.

Because he thought of me. And of us. When I had completely forgotten about it.

This is one of the things I loved most about him when we met. His sense of adventure and knowledge of secret places and hidden treasures in and around Tucson. When we first started dating, he was constantly taking me to one after the other.

But then all hell broke loose.

And the adventures stopped.

We were in such free fall that we couldn’t plan anything because even though in the moment things might be good, there was no telling the condition our marriage would be in even a few days later.

We started a million wonderful rituals and abandoned them all by the second or third try.

Two stepping.

Going out shooting.

Horseback riding.

Hiking.

Playing pool.

All of them wonderful. And all of them collateral damage in the nuclear fallout of our fights.

But now?

Now that things are stable?

And not just stable, but great?

The adventures are returning.

And the little girl in me is soooo happy.

He has told me many times since we reunited that I’m different. He can’t quite put his finger on it, he says, but something has changed. (Because God didn’t just need to deal with my husband’s demons, He also had to deal with mine. The demons of control and manipulation and anger and spiritual pride that made me constitutionally incapable of showing up in a way that inspired his devotion.)

He might not know what’s different, but I do. And he doesn’t need to know. Because men naturally respond to a healed woman who knows how to awaken his desire to please her and sweep her off her feet.

And if you want to know how to do that, I would be honored to show you.

My 1:1 mentoring space is where you will

- learn how to talk to your husband in a way that inspires him to listen, even when you need to tell him you’re hurt or disappointed

- stop doing the things that trigger his distance and stonewalling and start doing the things that naturally cause him to treasure you, romance you, and make you feel young and in love again

- discover all the ways you can powerfully influence his treatment of you — without him even knowing what you’re doing. (This is *not* to condone manipulation. We are women of honor and do not use our influence to do anything but lift up our husbands and our marriage in a way that delights the Lord.)

Within weeks your marriage will go from good to great.

From being amicable roommates to experiencing honeymoon love.

From same-old, same-old to whatever adventure and play and fun and being courted looks like to you.

I’m telling you, experiencing your husband’s devotion NEVER GETS OLD.

And there’s no woman no matter what age that doesn’t want to feel sixteen-in-love again.

There is a place where you can find sisterhood and support in transforming your marriage. It’s my free online community and I would be honored to have you there.

The link to join us is in the comments. ❤️‍🔥

4 months ago | [YT] | 0

Tongue of Fire Podcast by Lorna Vaughn

Why women who CRUSH it in business often suffer in love

It’s an age-old problem. One I lived out for years and saw so many of my business clients struggle with as well.

They had highly successful businesses, were admired by their clients and respected by their peers, made great money and could afford to buy themselves anything they wanted …

but when they closed their laptops and changed out of their Jimmy Choos into their UGG slippers and went from “boss babe” to wife ….

none of that mattered.

The accolades of the masses were drowned out by the silence in the home. The loneliness. The fights. The distance.

The man who adored her at the beginning of their marriage, who brought her flowers just because, who took her out on dates, who romanced her, who cherished her and made her feel like a Queen, a beloved, a treasure, had disappeared, only to be replaced by a sullen, distant man who shut down every time she tried to talk about … anything. Anything real, anyway.

And the topics that couldn’t be discussed without a fight erupting and then days of silence… mounted.

Couldn’t talk about money. Couldn’t talk about feelings. Couldn’t talk about the kids. Couldn’t talk about the future. And certainly couldn’t talk about anything he’d done that had hurt her.

And there was always one common remark they made to me — even on our business coaching calls, because I could tell their marriage disconnect was impacting their confidence behind the scenes and was causing their business to slow — was this:

He can’t handle my power. He just wants me to be this quiet, submissive wife with no edge, no ambition, no success. Who I *really* am intimidates him and he just wants to stifle my growth.

And while that might seem like it’s the case, and make all the sense in the world based on all the “evidence” of how he’s behaving and what’s he’s complaining about, to that I say, “That’s not it, my friend. That’s not it at all.”

And if you feel this way, I have good news. 😁

As a recovering alpha woman myself, I said and believed those things for years. But then I discovered the truth about why men *seem* to be dead set on “suppressing” their alpha wife’s “real” personality, and it changed everything.

Now, there *is* the outlier husband who actually does take joy in demeaning his wife and keeping her down. But that’s the minority.

The chance that your husband is that kind of man?

Is very low. ❤️

What’s a far greater likelihood is that it’s due to the way you’re showing up with him.

And when you shift that, everything changes. And usually very quickly.

The number of women I’ve mentored in marriage who come back to me just weeks after putting these changes in place who say they’re blown away at the radical change in their husband’s treatment of them … is too many to count.

In fact I can’t remember a single instance where there wasn’t a rapid and profound transformation in him and in their marriage.

Even if he didn’t know anything about the changes she was making (and I always counseled her not to tell him, because it doesn’t matter and would only create conflict).

Even if the two of them never “talked about it.” (Which I also counseled her not to do because let’s face it, when does “talking about it” ever really work? 😆)

And even when the marriage seemed desperately lost.

In one case, the couple hadn’t been intimate in YEARS and was on the brink of divorce. And yet within four weeks of the woman making some changes to how she showed up, they were madly in love, were being intimate regularly, and she felt like she was floating on cloud nine from the way he was treating her.

He was listening to her again. Letting her vent without shutting down or trying to fix her feelings. Buying her flowers again. Making her dinner. And he was also doing that thing we all long for most from our men but that seems like the hardest thing for them to do: He was being PRESENT.

Did she have to make some changes that were uncomfortable and that challenged her? Yes.

Was it worth it? Absolutely.

And did she have to abandon her alpha role in business? Nope. 😁

In fact in every case her business flourished and grew. Without her doing anything different *in* business.

In one recent case with a current 1:1 client, simply by changing the way she showed up with her husband their business went from $75K months to a $180K month and the best quarter they’d ever had, with buyers “coming out of nowhere.”

Pretty cool.

In business, your alpha traits are often necessary. And there’s nothing wrong with them in that sphere.

But they’re also the very ones that will tank a marriage faster than that infamous iceberg that sank the Titanic.

And it all boils down to this: When you approach your husband while you’re still in “work, produce, provide, prove” mode (which you probably don’t even realize you’re doing because it just feels like you’re being “you,” but which is only an aspect of you, and not how you’re most invaluable and influential in your marriage), it feels to your husband like there’s another man in the home. And two men in the same space automatically creates a power play. Which is not what you want with your beloved, amiright? 😁

Your alpha energy is *great* for the boardroom.

But not, as I’m sure you’ve discovered, for the bedroom.

There’s a way of being with our husbands that absolutely will inspire their devotion and adoration and romance. And where you don’t have to sacrifice what makes you brilliant in business.

It’s just a dance. Not a battle. ❤️

I might be building a business and a ministry, but I am not the same woman in those arenas as I am with my husband. Which is not to say I’m mousy. Or act like a doormat.

In fact, I get every need met without effort.

Things he absolutely resisted doing before that caused me SO MUCH anxiety and stress - like not going to the doctor, not taking care of his health, not wanting to talk about finances or plan for the future — he now does willingly.

And what’s more? I never “pay” for these conversations later.

Our marriage is nearly devoid of conflict. It is full of joy and laughter and connection and intimacy and peace. He plans dates for me. Takes me on adventures. Buys me flowers. Romances me. LISTENS to me. And cherishes me.

This is what your husband WANTS to do for you, too. Because contrary to what you may believe (and for good reason because he’s not showing up this way now), men are wired for devotion. For adoration. For protection. For provision. Your husband has a noble heart that truly desires to treat you like a Queen.

You just have to first stop showing up to him…like a King. 😉

There’s so much more to say on this, which I can’t possibly capture in a single post. But I hope this has at least opened your eyes to a new way of seeing your husband and what’s truly possible for your marriage.

And if you are seeking sisterhood and community and support as you walk out your marriage journey, I would be honored to have you inside my free community on Facebook. Simply click the link in the pinned comment below.

I would be honored to help you turn your marriage from a battlefield between alphas into a ballroom dance between a man and his beloved. ❤️‍🔥

4 months ago | [YT] | 7

Tongue of Fire Podcast by Lorna Vaughn

THE TRANSFORMATION OF A MARRIAGE

If you’d have told me back in January when I’d been praying for a marriage miracle for months, not even knowing where my husband was, what he was doing, or if he even wanted to reconcile, that not only would he return but that EVERYTHING we’d struggled with would be transformed instantly —

everything we fought over to the point of nuclear war now resolved with a simple, kind, calm conversation;

everything I was too afraid to bring up now met with understanding and validation;

all the ways I suppressed my needs and “too much-ness” that used to be shamed and judged now celebrated and given space;

I’d have said, “Yeah. That’s what the Lord is promising me. But honestly? It just seems impossible.”

It isn’t impossible.

It just takes a miracle 😉

Every morning I wake up stunned. How are we so happy? How is there so much joy? How am I speaking my mind so freely without worrying about World War III? Why are things so EASY? And peaceful? And wonderful?

He is a different person.

I am a different person.

We are a different marriage.

And I’m here to tell you: IT CAN HAPPEN FOR YOU, TOO.

When he returned out of the blue after six and a half months of being estranged and after a major explosion in the fall that blew us miles apart (285 miles to be exact. On opposite sides of the state.), the Lord told me, “This is it. The miracle I promised you is happening.”

We didn’t take one marriage class.

We didn’t go to a single therapy appointment.

We didn’t read a single marriage book.

And yet the way we are with each other now you’d think we’d taken ALL the marriage classes and gone to YEARS of marriage therapy and read EVERY marriage book.

But that would have given the glory to man, not God.

It would not have demonstrated the INCREDIBLE power of the Lord to TOTALLY SHIFT a marriage literally overnight from hell to heaven.

And it certainly wouldn’t have shone a light on HOW SERIOUSLY the Lord takes the covenant of marriage and how much He will move heaven and earth to restore them.

No matter how broken, dead, or dying they may seem.

I’m here on assignment from God to tell you that NOTHING is more important to Him in this season than working absolute crazy “impossible” miracles in marriages and that the MORE “impossible” the miracle, the more FAVOR He will bestow on its transformation.

Hear me when I say: The warfare on your marriage is a SPIRITUAL BAROMETER for how ANOINTED it is and how MIGHTY its assignment is!!

The enemy doesn’t attack useless marriages. Or assignments. He goes most heavily against the ones who are wired to do him the most damage.

So honestly?

The MORE DISCOURAGED you are about your marriage ever being transformed,

The MORE HOPELESS it looks in the natural,

The MORE HOPE you should have!!

Because while the enemy is arraying his mightiest demons (leviathan chief among them) AGAINST you…

The LORD OF THE ANGEL ARMIES and the GOD OF WAR has assigned HIS mightiest angels to destroy their camp and obliterate their attempts to take you down.

There’s just one little thing standing in the way of that happening.

You. ❤️

You carry an anointing, a favor, an authority, and a privilege in the Spirit to petition Heaven for a RULING OF VICTORY over your marriage and if you partner with the Lord in the way He is calling you to, He WILL send down a ruling of victory and work a miracle in your marriage and SET YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND FREE.

When I had no one and was all alone after my marriage imploded, the Holy Spirit taught me exactly what to do — the holy pattern that causes glory and favor to fall on a marriage — and IT WORKED.

And The Lord was very clear that I was not to keep this to myself but was to go out and teach it to other wives and lead them through how to contend for AND RECEIVE their own marriage miracle.

So that is what I’m doing.

If you feel inexplicably drawn to this message, it’s because it’s FOR you.

And because it’s time to step into what God is calling you to — the resurrection of your marriage.

My high-touch 1:1 mentorship is where that will happen.

Check the pinned comment for how to apply. And together, with the favor and blessing of the Lord upon your destiny, we will walk you through the holy pattern that will set your marriage free. 🔥❤️🕊️

5 months ago | [YT] | 3

Tongue of Fire Podcast by Lorna Vaughn

My heart grieves for the way wives diminish and dismiss their husbands and the men in their lives as spiritually “slow,” emotionally immature, and never measuring up. It is unbiblical, prideful, and destructive to a man’s spirit.

Eve was made from Adam’s rib because we are meant to protect our husband’s heart, not add to his burden and pain.

And it is our *most important* role.

More important than building our businesses. More important than our ministry calling. And more important than our mothering.

I believe women seek purpose, meaning, and relevance in their work and talents and mothering because finding those things in how they support, cover, uplift, and serve their *husband’s* calling and destiny first and foremost means the fruits of their labor are seen in him and his rising, not in hers.

And because in this sphere she is not the “hero” or the “savior.” He is.

It is the most difficult role a woman will ever play. Especially if she has prodigious gifts and talents of her own. Ability to build a multi seven or eight or nine or ten figure business. Speak on large stages. Launch life-changing movements.

How can my most important work be supporting my husband? we think. Why do I have to submit to him and his leadership when he is clearly SO BLIND most of the time? Why wasn’t *I* put in charge? Everything would run much more smoothly if I were.

I have thought all these things. And still sometimes do.

I believe there are answers to these questions and many like it. But those actually aren’t the right questions to be asking.

“Why” questions of any kind often aren’t. (Why is this happening to me? Why won’t God do XYZ? Why did God make the world this way and not that way? Why did He allow evil? Why is He requiring XYZ of me?)

The better question is “how.”

How can I walk this path in a way that most delights and honors the Lord? How can I handle this pain with grace and wisdom? How can I put my questions down and pick my cross up?

In my decades-long search for some kind of peace in my relationships with men, and with my current husband, I went on the search in order to find out how to fix them.

Because if I could do that, I’d be happy.

Because obviously they were the ones who needed fixing.

They all had low spiritual IQs. They didn’t seem to be hell bent on seeking and striving for more spiritual insight, awareness, and understanding. (when it was this very seeking thing that brought the first woman down. Our insatiable hunger for more wisdom and hidden knowledge, and the way we *elevate this to a virtue* and judge men for not doing it, when it’s the very thing that caused Eve to sin and fall *away* from the Lord, is worth paying close attention to.)

They were also all emotionally stunted. They either couldn’t (which I disdained as some kind of emotional slowness) or wouldn’t (which I judged as shallowness) talk about their emotions the way my girlfriends did. The way I wanted and (thought I) needed them to.

And I had no idea how arrogant and self-focused this was of me.

If they’re “resistant” to talking about their emotions (and characterizing it that way is still seeing them through the lens of how I as a woman am wired, which is still arrogant and self-focused) it may be because the way we approach them shuts them down.

Because contrary to popular wisdom, women have only slightly more emotionally vocabulary than men (about 1.2-1.5x more). But women are quite a bit more emotionally *expressive* than men. And that is likely because we were raised in a different environment than they were. Girls are encouraged to feel and to freely express their feelings. Boys are not.

So shaming and judging them for not being as emotionally vulnerable as we are is the height of privilege.

It’s like expecting someone with no formal education to be able to speak Greek. And yet we roll our eyes and complain about how our husbands are so shallow or shut down.

In fact they’re not shallow at all. Men feel deeply. They just don’t have the vocabulary —or the feeling of safety based on years of being taught to suppress them — to express their feelings.

And if they can do it but won’t, we also judge that.

Who’s to say processing emotions endlessly is “the right way” to be in relationship? It’s certainly the female way. But men have deep bonds with each other that aren’t based on sharing emotions and we have no right to judge those relationships as less deep than ours just because they look wildly different.

When my marriage fell apart and the Lord had me all to Himself these were the things He convicted me of.

My arrogance. My disdain. My spiritual pride.

And then He performed some silent and invisible heart surgery on me that I didn’t even know was happening. But it was profound, and it turned my heart of stone to a heart of flesh, and by the time my husband returned six and a half months later something had changed so fundamentally that I was a new woman with him, without even trying.

I do not judge him for not being at some spiritual or emotional place that *I* think he should be but isn’t. I do not inwardly sigh when he keeps his feelings to himself or doesn’t open up the way *I* think he “should.”

I don’t push and prod and nag him into decisions *I* think he “should” be making.

And surprise, surprise, he is more open emotionally than he’s ever been. He listens to my feelings. He holds me when I’m a “random mess” (his term of endearment for my feminine chaos) instead of shutting down or shaming me for it (a defense mechanism agaisnt being totally overwhelmed with emotions he hasn’t been shown how to handle). And day by day he is growing in every way. At his own pace. Which is no better or worse than mine.

And our marriage is a place of joy, peace, intimacy, and laughter daily.

Because I have grace for him. And he has grace for me.

As it should be.

This might be a deeply personal journey for us, but the struggle — and the promise of total transformation — is universal.

There is no marriage so broken the Lord will not and cannot redeem it.

But it will require from you the greatest humbling you have ever known.

And I’m here to say it’s worth it.

It is true that our husbands are our assignments

But they are not our projects. ❤️

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Tongue of Fire Podcast by Lorna Vaughn

THE ROYAL ANOINTING: The Yoking of the Apostle and the Prophet in marketplace ministry and in Kingdom Marriages

There is a new anointing ready to be released and being released now. It is requiring something new. A Union. A yoking. It is a DUAL anointing. (And as the two who are practicing being one walk it out, it will first erupt into DUELS.) This anointing is more potent than any that has come before it, because it carries two “competing” qualities that must operate as one.

It is the anointing of the Apostle and the Prophet.

The King and the Priest.

And it is called The Royal Anointing.

“The Royal Anointing” came to me as a phrase a year ago in prayer. The Holy Spirit spoke it into my heart as my assignment, though I had no idea what it was.

I wonder if it’s a real thing, I thought.

I looked it up and lo and behold, it is.

The Royal Anointing is the last and most sacred part of the coronation ceremony of a British Monarch. And it occurs beteeen two people, the Arch Bishop and the soon-to-be King or Queen, under a canopy, veiled from view, with the Lord as the only audience.

In this sacred moment the Archbishop anoints the monarch’s forehead with royal oil crushed from olives near Bethlehem.

It is time for the Queens to be crowned, I heard the Lord say. For His daughters who are cowering in the corner, afraid to take their rightful throne in their kingdom business, to rise up into their calling.

The Lord is speaking this word to many of us now.

My business partner Jenny Goncher received the word “royal oil” several months ago. And she just did an epic interview with Lady Jones who without knowing about either of these words from the Lord, was directed by Him to name her interview with Jenny “A Royal Anointing.” 😳

In the mouth of two of three witnesses shall a thing be established. (Deuteronomy 19:15)

The revelations of what this anointing is have been coming in fast and furious lately. With an urgency and a mandate.

Here’s how it unfolded…

A few days ago I was listening to Chuck Missler’s Bible teaching on Isaiah and he was comparing throne room visions in Isaiah, Daniel, Ezekiel, and Revelation and said that it’s interesting to note that the only difference is that in the New Testament the 24 elders appear in the Throne Room vision of John.

They were of course there in the Throne Room all along but for some reason they were invisible to the Old Testament prophets.

And we know, he said, the elders are both *priests and kings*.

And I went 😳

There it is again. In the British coronation ceremony there is a priest - the archbishop - and a king. (Or queen.)

Then Jenny told me about a vision she had of a table with *24* seats.

It is no coincidence that she and I are currently running a year long prophetic mentorship and business accelerator called The Royal Anointing, that just a few days before I listened to this Isaiah teaching she had done her interview with Lady Jones, and now this revelation about the elders being both kings and priests and how they were HIDDEN — like the archbishop and the monarch behind the veil — but are now VISIBLE.

Clearly the calling and release of this new anointing is accelerating and gaining momentum.

I believe the Lord is sending down a new mandate and is UNVEILING this new anointing so it can be released into the body of Christ.

And it has to do with two operating as one. I believe it is the anointing of the prophet (the priest) flowing together and becoming one with the anointing of the apostle (the King). But not in and through one person who carries both these oils, but through two people, who each carry their own prophetic or apostolic oil.

Why do I think this?

Well first of all because this is what the Lord has assigned Jenny and me to do. We came together in a thunderclap of recognition of deep calling until deep and within weeks had formed a partnership, because it was clear her gifts needed mine in order for her full business assignment to be realized and that my gifts needed hers in order for my full ministry assignment to be realized.

As we have been walking this yoking out it has become more and more clear what this is. She brings the prophetic and I bring the apostolic. She operates in the third heaven. I bring what is declared and mandated in the third heaven down to the ground so it can take root, bear fruit and flourish on the earth.

And then just now another revelation and confirmation of this new — but also ancient — anointing came through in a very unexpected place.

I was writing my book about the restoration of the Kingdom Bride identity and the restoration of broken marriages and in a flash I saw it AGAIN:

The wife as the PROPHETIC VOICE to her husband’s KINGLY assignment.

The prophet and the Apostle. The priest and the King.

Operating in separate vessels but also as one.

Here is what I see so far about how this anointing operates:

The prophet/priest lives in the Spirit much of the time, walking in the UN-ORDERED realm and reporting the visions and supernatural mandates the Lord is creating.

The apostle/king lives in a sense between the Spirit and the earthly realm and walks out his spiritual gift of ORDERING that realm so it can land on the earth. (Prophets have visions. Kings give orders.)

And they are meant to work and walk together.

In their yoked and unified Royal Anointing.

Expressing two distinct, often totally opposite spiritual gifts and callings that must operate as one in order for Heaven’s blueprint to be made manifest on earth.

In terms of marriage, this is not to say that a husband is meant to make manifest the *wife’s* prophetic visions.

The visions are the Lord’s. But they are often given to the wife first because she is the one who sees in that realm *and because* it is her noble assignment as intercessor to declare those visions in the Spirit and go to war against any obstacles to them. This is an essential part of her Ezer K’negdo identity as a Kingdom Bride.

Her role is to declare these visions in the realm in which she is meant to operate and where she has great authority, which is in the Spirit (NOT to go tell her husband she’s just had a vision and he now needs to walk it out 😁)

When she does this effectively, the mandate and word and vision is then released from the Throne Room into the husband’s heart and he moves on it and makes it real.

It is not an easy dance. But it is an essential one. And if you feel drawn to understanding the meta-physics of a Kingdom marriage and the way a wife and husband are meant to operate do you can truly come together as one and declare heaven’s blueprints on earth, I’m writing a book on this and you can drop your email in the comments if you want to know when it’s ready.

The point of this post, though, is simply to raise the awareness of this new anointing and to add some revelation to what it is, how it works, and who it’s falling on.

It seems to me it is falling on prophets and apostles who are meant to walk out a greater marketplace ministry than either of them could do alone AND it is clearly also falling on Kingdom marriages, and for the same reason. Because what the Lord wants to do in these End Times is requiring something new of us. And also as ancient as it gets.

To yoke ourselves to a God-appointed partner in unions that call Heaven to earth and bring about the great re-union of the Bride of Christ with her Bridegroom.

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Tongue of Fire Podcast by Lorna Vaughn

Nervous system deregulation, aka mental illness, is due to an evil spirit and needs deliverance, not medication. (And definitely not EFT, chakra clearing, or any other New Age technique that just opens doors to more deregulation and mental illness)

God makes it clear in 2 Timothy 1:7 that nervous system deregulation is demonic.

“For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a SOUND MIND.” (Emphasis mine)

God gives us the spirit of a sound mind.

So unsoundness of mind? Comes from an evil spirit. Which can come in through trauma, generational sin, unforgiveness, unrepentant sin, occult and New Age practices and many other doorways.

Evil spirits can be medicated into a certain level of tameness, but that dulls access of the Holy Spirit and its ability to animate us with the spirit of LOVE AND POWER, which is why they are meant to be cast out …and then kept out through a lifestyle of repentance, prayer and fasting and making our thoughts captive to Christ. (2 Cor 10:5)

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Tongue of Fire Podcast by Lorna Vaughn

Satan, the OG narcissist: “No, baby. I didn’t cause you to sin and fall from grace. Baby I SAVED you. I set you FREE. I’m not your worst nightmare, I’m your knight in shining armor. You shouldn’t be cursing and damning me to hell. You should be THANKING me you ungrateful witch. I bring you WISDOM and you accuse me of destroying your life??!! How dare you. *I’m* the evil one??? YOU’RE evil. You accuse me of ruining your life when all I’m trying to do is open your eyes and give you wisdom and enlightenment and understanding?!?!!!! Look what I gave up for you. I gave up HEAVEN for you. And why? Because I loved you and I wanted you to know the truth. And here you are calling me evil and hateful. You’re deluded. You disgust me. You’re vile. You’re wicked. You’re not even worth saving. I should have never helped you in the first place if this is the thanks I get. Do you think I did this for MYSELF? I risked HELL to come rescue you from the man you think loves you ha ha. That’s rich. He doesn’t love you. He wants to keep you in prison. He wants to keep you under his thumb. But I want to FREE you. Because I love you, baby. I love you to hell and back. You’re my baby. You’re my soulmate. I gave up heaven for you.

Here. Read this. It’s called The Gnostic Gospels and the Baghavad Gita and the Koran and the I Ching and learn this, it’s called New Age. Because I love you, baby. And I want you to be free.

….

We all know Satan was assigned to leading worship before he fell but how come no one talks about the fact that he was an angel *assigned to protection*?

He was a COVERING cherub. “Thou art the anointed cherub that covereth.” Ezekiel 28:14

Covereth means to hedge (as in hedge of protection), to fence about, to block, overshadow, screen, stop the approach, shut off, cover, protect.

He also was the wisest angel.

“Thou sealest up the sum, full of wisdom, and perfect in beauty.” Ezekiel 28:12

To seal up the sum means to be the epitome of.

This means that Satan, more than any other angel, KNOWS SPIRITUAL LAW AND HOW TO UNDERMINE IT AND *DESTROY* SPIRITUAL PROTECTION.

This is why he came up with New Age.

This is why he came up with “wisdom” traditions that speak of the serpent as bringing wisdom and critical thinking. Which, once you know Satan as the OG narcissist, is the ultimate narcissistic move.

“He that breaketh an hedge, the serpent shall bite him.” Ecclesiastes 10:8.

Yes he will, baby. And he’ll help you break that hedge and tell you that hedge isn’t for your *protection* but is your *prison* and he’ll whisper lies using all his cunning and the “sum of distorted wisdom” until you break the hedge thinking you’re going to go running into the arms of your true lover only to be met with the face of evil and the deadly bite of the serpent.

But because you’ve been so brainwashed, you think those bites are “ascension crises” and “consciousness upgrades” when they’re nothing more than being abused in the spirit, beat up, slapped around, kicked and screamed at by a gang of demons and the whole time you’re gaslighting yourself telling yourself this is evidence of all the light you’re radiating which is why you’re being attacked when in fact your lover is your abuser you just can’t see it.

Because it’s dark in New Age.

It’s pitch black.

So black it seems light.

And you’ve convinced yourself you can see in the dark.

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