Lisa Bilyeu

And if they don't like it, well thats all the evidence you need!

14 hours ago | [YT] | 3,070

Lisa Bilyeu

It was finally date night! It was during the early Quest days when date nights were few and far between, so I was so excited! I planned what I was going to wear, and had chosen a new top i’d bought and was surprising him with. Damn... he’s gonna lose his mind with how sexy I’ve dressed!

But... nothing!

Not a word!

So half way through dinner I finally ask him... “Babe what do you think of my new top”. He looks me up and down... then shrugs! “Eh, it’s ok” EH???? My heartbroken self went quiet and somewhat offended. And of course he noticed! He proceeded to tell me that he never ever wants to lie to me even if it will make me feel good in the moment. We plan to be married FOREVER and so it needs to be built on 100% honesty and transparency. And so when I’m 90 years old and a bag of wrinkles, and I wake up with no make up on and he looks at me and tells me I’m beautiful, he needs those moments to carry WEIGHT. To not just be BS. He wanted me to know he is telling the truth. Ok the man knows how to phrase things right??

But the more I thought about it, the more I realized just HOW right he was! I never ever want to doubt or question his words and visa versa. From the big stuff to the tiny stuff like this! As long as we are ALWAYS respectful, kind and doing it in service of the other person, we agreed we would ALWAYS be honest with each other. No. Matter. What.

And now it has just become my ethos in life. And not just in my relationship but in friendships and the way I lead as a boss. I value trust and honesty over wanting to feel good about myself. Hell I live in discomfort so often that I know I can handle it AND I know that actually that’s when amazing shit happens!

Now the truth is not everyone actually wants this. Some would rather be lied to and made to feel better, than hear the truth and feel badly about themselves. And look… I GET IT! I really do! And if that's your jam then go for it! We just sadly can not be friends😞 Because…. I would rather you hurt me with the truth…. then comfort me with a lie!

1 day ago | [YT] | 7,156

Lisa Bilyeu

He's angry? He's stressed.

She's angry? She's emotional.

He withdraws? He needs space.

She withdraws? She's difficult.

He makes mistakes? He's human.

She makes mistakes? She's the problem.

Daaaamn, look Im not looking for women to get MORE then a guy but come on can we at least have an equal playing field???


Empathy should go both ways.

Grace should go both ways.

Accountability should go both ways.


It's a double standard. And maybe it's time we stop calling it anything else.

What's one double standard you wish people talked about more? 👇

2 days ago | [YT] | 9,204

Lisa Bilyeu

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To learn how to spot the signs that something’s off, before trusting the wrong person puts you at risk.

“There’s no magic formula here… for figuring out who the bad guy is.”

But there ARE signs. And sometimes the most dangerous person isn’t a stranger… it’s the person you love, trust, and share your life with.

None of us want to live looking at our partner wondering, Could this man be dangerous? But when something feels off, knowing what to look for could help you stop explaining away the very signs trying to warn you.

So I sat down with Gregory Hartley, former U.S. Army interrogator and human-behavior expert, to analyze REAL cases, including Scott Peterson and the shocking “Alpine Divorce” case, to show you what deception can actually look and sound like under pressure.

In this conversation, you’ll learn:

• The 4 ways a partner can lie to you, and the subtle language that can expose what they’re leaving out

• The 5 body-language signals to watch under pressure, and why a sudden change from someone’s normal behavior matters

• The 3 signs of an accurate memory, as Greg breaks down HIM vs. HER testimony to reveal what changes when a story actually holds together

Ladies, this isn’t about becoming paranoid of every man you meet.

It’s about having the tools to look at the person you’re trusting with your heart, and potentially your safety and ask: Does what I’m seeing actually match what he’s telling me?

Learn the signs. Question what doesn’t add up. And don’t convince yourself that “something feels off” means nothing. 🔥

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3 days ago | [YT] | 2,759

Lisa Bilyeu

I was 13 years old and I remember creeping into my mums room to tear up a photo she took of me a week before. I had sleepless nights knowing it existed because, after all, it was just MORE concrete evidence of how ugly I was! It was evidence that the "mean girls" in my school were right! I was ridiculed and called concord for how big my nose was. I was mocked for how flat my chest was. They called me Goofy for my buck teeth. So the laaaaaast thing I wanted was for the photo to be lying around!
This was 1992, and I would cry myself to sleep wishing I was different. Wishing I looked and was as pretty as the celebrity models...

Cut to 34 years later (& 20 years of building my confidence), and let me tell you something:
I love my nose. It's mine, it’s bold, and it makes a statement.
I celebrate my small boobs, because let’s be real, no bra in your 40s is an actual superpower 😉
And those buck teeth? Fixed them. But the real fix was how I saw myself.

Confidence isn’t built overnight. But it is built.
And every time you choose self-love over shame, you're laying another brick.

You don’t need to change who you are.
You need to learn to OWN who you are. Fully, loudly, and without apology!!!

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4 days ago | [YT] | 9,976

Lisa Bilyeu

Just because your heart is racing doesn't mean its love.

Your nervous system deserves to feel SAFE, not stuck in survival mode.

5 days ago | [YT] | 7,518

Lisa Bilyeu

Anyone can say "I love you."

The real question is... Do their actions make you feel safe?

The right person won't ask you to ignore their actions and cling to their words.

The right person's words and actions will speak of rthemselves

That's the kind of love that builds trust.

That's the kind of love that protects your heart instead of confusing it.

What's one action that makes you feel truly loved? ❤️

6 days ago | [YT] | 5,943

Lisa Bilyeu

Let's be honest, that bloody horrendous toxic phrase is exactly what kept me in a bad relationship for FOUR years before I met my hubby. I thought I wasn't a good "woman" if I didn't. And you know what happend? It LITERALLY just showed him that I absolutely woudl tolerate his crappy behavior! Becasue he could do horrible things and then after a day of tears and heartbreak, Id take him back and repeat the cycle.

Well NO MORE! If you hurt me deliberately. If you stab me in the back knowingly. If you betray my trust, then you can COUNT on me remembering! And that is EXACTLY how i have built boundaries and my confidence!

So please lets stop teaching girls that you are not a "good girl" if you dont forgive and forget. Let's actually arm them with the power of remembering!

1 week ago | [YT] | 9,771

Lisa Bilyeu

The moment every favor comes with a receipt... It stops being generosity.

The moment every act of kindness is used as leverage... It stops being love.

Real Love doesn't come with terms and conditions.

Real Love isn't transactional.

Real Love is organic reciprocation.

1 week ago | [YT] | 6,775

Lisa Bilyeu

Not ONE WOMAN has ever made history for being perfect! Incredible women who have made history did something BOLD. Out of the norm. Against the grain. Things no one approved of. So no they weren't perfect. But do you know what they were? BRAVE! Brave to be themselves. Messy. Controversial. Wild.

So the next time you think you need to be perfect just remember you actually dont. What you DO need though is to be YOU! Because theres no one on this planet like you!

1 week ago | [YT] | 7,358