Darante' LaMar

Christians call Jesus the Savior of the world.

But that claim raises a pretty obvious question: if Jesus saved the world, why does Christianity still describe the world as lost?

In this video, I’m looking at the gap between what Christianity claims Jesus accomplished and what Christianity still says is true about reality.

This is not just a question about whether Jesus rose from the dead. It is a question about what Christianity claims his resurrection accomplished. Because if every enemy Jesus supposedly defeated is still active, still preached, still feared, still weaponized, and still necessary to the system, then maybe Christianity has redefined victory so that victory does not have to look like anything was actually won.

Let’s talk about the problem with saying “Jesus saved the world.”

2 hours ago | [YT] | 20

Darante' LaMar

When I wrote Affirmation Song last year, I was trying to help a few members in our community who miss the worship culture of religion replace self-deprecating lyrics with words of affirmation and agency.

I shared a simple video of me sitting at my keyboard and belting out the lyrics with a broken morning voice. And even through all the imperfect notes, within a few days, it was clear that we were on to something that could be incredibly helpful for people deconstructing and reconstructing.

In February, we decided to release it officially as a reference track so that our global members could stream it, learn it, practice it and eventually perform it. That's how Bridge City Music was born.

Since then, we've released nearly two dozen tracks and as of this month, we've started experimenting with member performed versions. Our emerging music team has started hosting song writing sessions to support new music and as a person who was extremely active in church music, I couldn't be more excited.

And as of now, Affirmation Song is holding the lead for our most streamed song across all platforms. Take a listen and find out why!

2 days ago | [YT] | 11

Darante' LaMar

I was the child of a single parent who was a drug addict, physically abusive, and emotionally neglectful.



I have more childhood memories of being abandoned than being accepted.



In fifth grade, during the height of the DARE program and the child abuse prevention ads, I gathered enough courage to dial 911 and tell them what was happening at home. I snuck out of the house my parent shared with the girlfriend of her drug dealer, who lived next door, and walked up the street to a local foreign-owned store connected to a laundromat. There was a payphone outside.



That is where I made the call.



Within minutes, the police arrived and took my statement.

Within an hour, they returned me back to my parent.



And after they left, I endured an assault so violent that I could not speak for weeks.



The next day at school, I remember children picking at me because I had lost my voice. I remember teachers asking if anything was wrong. But by then, I had learned my lesson.



There was no out for me.

911 didn’t exist to protect kids like me.

The DARE program wasn’t concerned with kids like me.

Child abuse prevention didn’t apply to kids like me.

I was alone in this world.



I endured that level of abuse for three more years, until eighth grade, when I made the decision that I was enough to protect myself.



We were living in an apartment shared with two other families. My parent had become upset because something about my existence had become an inconvenience in their life. They attempted to assault me with a piece of lumber, and something about that moment became defining for me.



I caught the lumber midswing. And I declared that I would not be allowing them to hit me with it.



They were shocked.

Stunned into silence.

Stilled by my resistance.



And in that moment, I learned something that no child should ever have to learn. I learned that even if the world was not predisposed to protecting kids like me, I had grown capable of protecting myself.



And as grateful as I am for surviving long enough to learn that lesson, my hope is that no child ever has to learn it that way again.

3 days ago | [YT] | 921

Darante' LaMar

New video is up.

This one deals with a question many of us have heard from Christians:

“If you don’t believe in God, how do you explain the universe?”

I wanted to take this question seriously because it reveals a lot about how apologetics works. It often takes a real mystery, turns it into a challenge, and then treats uncertainty as if it belongs to Christianity.

But “I don’t know” is not evidence for God.

And “God did it” is not an explanation just because it feels emotionally satisfying.

In this video, I’m unpacking the assumptions behind the question and why atheists do not need a theory of everything to reject an unsupported claim.

5 days ago | [YT] | 86

Darante' LaMar

New video is live.

And this one is going to ruffle some church feathers.

I’m talking about 10 Secrets Megachurch Pastors Don’t Want You To Know — from manufactured miracles, to “paid for before prayed for,” to the way ordinary organizational systems get baptized as anointing, favor, and revival.

If you’ve ever sat in a church and wondered, “Is this really God moving, or is this just a really well-built machine?” — this video is for you.

Come watch it with me.

And after you do, I want to know which one of these 10 hit you the hardest.

1 week ago | [YT] | 57

Darante' LaMar

How Do You Approach Memorial Day?


A discovery by a Yale University professor at a Harvard archive suggests the earliest observance of Memorial Day was held by a group of formerly enslaved people in Charleston, South Carolina, in 1865. Records show that the group transformed a racetrack that had once served as a prison for Union captives into a proper burial site.



On May 1, 1865, thousands gathered for a procession led by 3,000 school children carrying flowers and singing patriotic songs.



In 1966, the federal government declared Waterloo, New York, the official birthplace of Memorial Day when President Johnson signed a presidential proclamation stating Waterloo celebrated the first Memorial Day. That day, in 1866, the city closed all businesses so residents could decorate the gravesites of soldiers with flowers and American flags.



Other records show that the first Memorial Day came after the Civil War, when communities came together at Arlington National Cemetery on May 30, 1868. It remains one of the country’s most notable Memorial Day ceremonies.



Memorial Day is a reminder of the brave men and women who joined the military and gave their lives in service.

1 week ago | [YT] | 72

Darante' LaMar

Today, we're having the Shame conversation at Bridge City and you're invited!

Over the past few weeks we've explored purity culture, patriarchal norms, and even performative sexualization in a culture with such strong and sacred opinions about sex.

Every week, we've brought our shared experiences to the table in curiosity instead of condemnation. And today will be no different.

If you're ready to name the shame, join us for an interactive community conversation at noon cst!
Join Here: youtube.com/live/RwkoPkAjHSk

And if you're looking for community to connect with others, build bridges and explore ways to live better beyond religious limitations, check out our global community: www.bridgecity.app/hello

1 week ago | [YT] | 13

Darante' LaMar

New video is live.

The Unforgivable Sin Is Worse Than You Think

Most Christians are taught that blasphemy against the Holy Spirit is some mysterious spiritual line you better not cross.

But when you look closely at Mark 3, Matthew 12, and Luke 12, the doctrine becomes even more disturbing.

It turns criticism into blasphemy.
It turns doubt into danger.
It turns disbelief into damnation.

And for people deconstructing religion, this idea can become one of Christianity’s most powerful anti-exit mechanisms.

Check it out!

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