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Below are a few of my favorite YouTube channels to stream while I’m working. Which of these is the most surprising for you?

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Over the past year, we've had a lot of internal conversations about turning some of my content into courses. And as of this week, we're officially experimenting with it. We now have a growing gallery of courses related to recent videos that include study guides, infographics and all types of helpful resources.

And the most exciting part is that this is just the beginning. Between this channel, BridgeCity and the other projects we have in the fire, I am more committed than ever to generating content and cultivating systems that proactively aid in decreasing harm and increasing wellbeing.

This small step is a small way to equip people with real resources to soften the blow of deconstruction and prepare the way for a better life afterwards. Thank you all for your support of this channel, this community and the content we produce.

Check Out The Courses: www.bridgecity.app/dl-courses

Keep Rising!

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In this critical deep dive, we unpack how mainstream Christianity mirrors every characteristic of a death cult — from glorifying suffering to rejecting the physical world, and from silencing questions to embracing authoritarianism.
This isn’t just theology — it’s cultural programming. Especially in Black communities, where death-centered doctrines were passed down like scripture and enforced like survival.
We’ll break down how these beliefs have distorted our minds, suppressed our joy, and laid the groundwork for Christian nationalism.
This conversation isn’t about hate — it’s about healing.
Because once we see the death cult for what it is, we can finally reclaim our lives, our bodies, our purpose, and our futures.

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Hi Community! Can you help me choose tomorrow's video! I'm torn. On title alone, which one would pick?

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70,000 subscribers.

That number is wild to me.

To everyone who has watched, shared, commented, challenged, supported, laughed, argued, learned, unlearned, or simply stayed connected to the work — thank you.

This channel has never just been about content. It has been about building a space where we can think more honestly, question more deeply, and refuse to let inherited ideas do our thinking for us.

I don’t take it lightly that 70,000 people have chosen to be part of that.

Thank you for helping this community grow. Thank you for trusting the conversations. Thank you for showing up.

We’re just getting started.
#KeepRising

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What happens when you stop trying to protect God from the story? For many of us, deconstruction did not begin because we wanted to be rebellious, bitter, deceived, or “lost.” It began because the explanations stopped explaining. The defenses stopped defending. The more we looked at the theology honestly, the more we realized we were doing a lot of emotional, intellectual, and moral labor to make God look better than the text, the doctrine, and the lived consequences actually allowed.

In this live conversation, I’m sitting down with HG Roberts to talk about his deconstruction story, religious trauma, apologetics, Christian nationalism, and what happens when people finally give themselves permission to stop defending the indefensible.

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I want to take a moment to acknowledge the pastors, mentors, and ministry leaders who played a meaningful role in my development during my years in Christian ministry.

From childhood through adulthood, I was shaped by people who taught me how to think, speak, lead, study, serve, build, organize, communicate, and carry responsibility. Some of them influenced me directly. Some influenced me through proximity. Some gave me language. Some gave me opportunity. Some gave me models of leadership that I still carry. Some also gave me examples that I have since had to question, critique, and outgrow.

But all of it was part of my formation.

Today, I am an atheist. I no longer believe in God, supernatural authority, divine calling, spiritual covering, or the theological framework that once shaped my understanding of the world. My current worldview is grounded in evidence, human responsibility, cognitive honesty, sociology, psychology, and a deep concern for how belief systems shape people and institutions.

But my atheism does not require me to pretend that my religious past did not matter.

It did.

I learned how to communicate in church. I learned how to command a room in church. I learned how to interpret people, systems, power, pain, hope, ambition, and community in church. I learned the force of language there. I learned the danger of language there too.

So this is not a rejection of every person who helped form me. It is an honest recognition that people can contribute to your development even when you no longer share their conclusions.

I am grateful for what was useful. I am honest about what was harmful. I am responsible for what I have become.

My life now is not an erasure of my ministry years. It is what happened when I took the tools I was given, examined the claims behind them, discarded the superstition, kept the discipline, and chose to build from reality instead of revelation.

To everyone who helped shape me: thank you.

To everyone who wonders how I can acknowledge that past while standing where I stand now: this is how growth works.

You do not have to deny where you came from to tell the truth about where you are.

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Have you ever had an experience that felt supernatural at the time, but later you understood it differently?

I’m interested in this because I’ve had vivid dreams with color, characters, emotional intensity, and occasional reorientation delays after waking since childhood. For years, because of my religious framework, many of those dreams felt supernatural when they seemed to map onto reality. But after deconversion, I came to understand them as subconscious pattern recognition: my brain processing small social, emotional, and relational cues before my conscious mind had language for them.

My brain was taking small details I had noticed but not fully processed and turning them into a story while I slept.

So I’m curious: what is something you once called supernatural that you now understand through psychology, memory, trauma, intuition, pattern recognition, or social conditioning?

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