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For months, I have seen videos about avoidance. I am not sure why it keeps popping up, this could be for someone who is working through this.

This is one of the attachment styles, being presented as a coping mechanism that people use.

Today I felt called to click on this one specifically to understand human psychology, especially from different gender. Most women tend to have anxious attachment while men have avoidance attachment. Isn't that interesting? And the two always draw to each other.

It's quite obvious that the 2nd guy in this video has been doing his internal work and he's showing us how he's processing through overwhelming emotions..instead of running away as he has always been, he sits with it.

A person runs away from his/her own intense emotions by using logical sense to justify why things won't work. The mind is simply lying to you in order to protect you from disappointments that may never happen.

https://youtu.be/yPFZ76IbvKg?is=KterF...

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Living the life according to your own terms is NOT an overnight process as what most of us understand.

For many, it requires us to go through many challenging life experiences to understand what make us satisfied and not satisfied.

Oftentimes, that can take years or multiple failures and even pain to know.

Sometimes we think we know exactly what we want, but without going through such experience, we don't truly know what it is like.

For example, you may think you want to be a doctor, but after a year or 2 in a medical school, you find out it isn't for you.

Or you love kids and want to have children of your own one day, but when you work as a school teacher, you have a change of heart.

There's a gap between what we think we want versus what we actually experience.

Without the actual experience of going through it, it's hard to know whether that's how you truly want to live your life or not.

Our friends and family often lovingly share their experiences, hoping to prevent us from going down the wrong path or out of their best intentions, they suggest what work best for them.

But each of us is different we have our own unique path to experience certain life events. What work or didn't work for others may produce totally opposite outcomes for you.

This isn't to say...be stubborn and don't listen to them at all.

Take their wisdom and experience as valuable information or what to look out for, just don't turn everything into your ultimate blueprint or a map. Tweak as you see fit.

When we live the life that works for others and try to force it, the success that makes others happy and fulfilled, they may leave you feeling empty and tired..because it doesn't answer your true calling.

It may be the time to define your own success, what it means, what that looks like.

Societal and other people's definitions of success may mean....to make a 6 figure salary, to be at the top of corporate ladder in a big city, a big house, an expensive car, a handsome or beautiful spouse. Nothing is wrong or bad with this, if this is what you want.

But after being in that experience for a while, you may want something totally different. What truly makes your heart sing with joy may be to live a modest life out in a quiet countryside, to have a sustainable lifestyle in a tiny home with pets.

Or that can be reversed.

You may want to go from living a modest life for so long and now you want to be ultra rich and globally famous. Once again, nothing is wrong or bad with that either.

Things can change, what yoy experience at one time may not be what you want 5-10 years from now.

You may want to be single the rest of life, but one day you find someone that makes you no longer want to be single.

You may be in a relationship and one day you no longer want to be in it.

You may work at this company and totally love it, but one day, you want to start your own business.

The idea of stability, limits, and societal norms limit how you experience life.

It's okay to change, to shift, to experience new things in life.

What and how do you want to live?

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I have really enjoyed Dr. K's contents these past several years, he has interesting perspectives about people's psychology and behaviors. Although his channel is geared more towards men, it still find it very informative and useful. Maybe that's because I am a masculine woman

https://youtu.be/Tzo_s9q4fwM?is=JK7kN...

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When resting takes MORE effort and energy than resting itself! Every mama needs a break. Struggle is so real 🤦‍♀️😂

https://youtu.be/bXVIltUfU9E?is=BUSAz...

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Roses in Houston

There are times in life when you may have to go on a solo journey, to fully lean into yourself, to trust that everything will be okay even when you don't know or see the clear picture ahead.

This message may reach someone who needs it. I am not a religious person by any means, but something really made me believe that there's an invisible power behind what we can see or believe since 2022.

A few years back, I dropped my phone face down on a concrete and it had bad cracks on my phone screen. I thought "crap, it looked so bad I had no idea if it could be fixed". I was so worried with the thought and cost of having to get a new phone.

I found a phone repair shop and headed there. They examined it closely and said "Oh you had a screen protector, and the cracks were the screen protector."

I was like "no freaking way, I didn't remember I had one or I forgot." 

But I was sooooo happy I didn't have to get a new phone.

On my way driving home, this thought came to my mind "this is like an invisible force that protects us even when we can't see."

This morning as I was thinking about something, there's a fear that rose up in the back of my mind.

Then I thought "no, I am guided and protected. It's okay to have discernment, but trust in the higher powers."

As I walked out to the hallway, I saw the word  "protecting" on the screen. It isn't a coincidence.

Trust....✨️

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A yoga fam welcomed a new yoga student this weekend. 

Within a year, I've met quite a few individuals who joined temporarily and those who stick and stay around.

M is a millennial coming from a different career background. We share similar childhood experiences/upbringings which allowed us to connect and exchange ideas. 

M has been doing internal work and recently incorporated physical elements of yoga. We talked about fear, insecurities and how yoga could help calm the overthinking, anxiety and nervous system.

M has a TikTok to share self-care journey. M would like to hear more about my yoga journey as I've been in it for a year now and the YouTube side of things, I am sure there's a lot for us to share/learn from each other.

With all that said, I have been working on opening up to people more without being paranoid, but with discernments.

For 1 1/2 to 2 years, I slowly backed out and decided to cut/block off many people in order to internalize.

Throughout my life, there has been an obvious pattern in which I trusted people to quickly, drew in the wring people, poured too much and I felt hurt.

When you isolate for so long, it's easy to go to another extreme of not allowing people to get close due to the fear of over-giving, over-sharing, people-pleasing and end up feeling hurt again. 

I got burned so many times it scared the crap out of me...backstabbing, cheating, lying, two-facing, betraying, taking advantages. 

I didn't know what to look for, being too naive and trusting in people's goodness. 

I learned the hard way that not everyone was going to be nice to you or gave back at the same level you have them.

When some people feel hurt, they choose to hurt others be it verbally, emotionally, mentally or physically. Or they can just flip to be against you because something triggers certain emotions. I was on both ends so I got it.

If you over extend yourself and go through such experiences, you fully pull back and don't know how to balance it without getting hurt.

You give to people 100% in the past and now you don't give at all. You slam the door as soon as you open it.

Both ways aren't healthy. 

How to allow people in life while not being too naive and learning to spot them if they're safe or not, is a new skill to navigate.

What I have learned now is to let people reveal their true self through their actions, not just words. 

How consistent/inconsistent they are, how they respond to stressful events and etc.

Observe and listen.

I have always been an observer while everyone is chittinhg chatting away. 

While everyone says Tat, you're so quiet, it allows me to observe people's interactions and behaviors. 

In the past I just didn't know what I needed to look for, but now I do, how much space I allow with specific people.

People can say impressive things to you or show how nice/amazing they are in a short period of time. If you lack or are desperate about something, people can use your lack, guilt or shame to manipulate you as well. Don't tell everything about your personal life too soon.

The true character will come out and the mask falls off when they're under pressure or unexpected events.

Isn't crazy what we do to go from one extreme to another before we learn to find a sweet spot again.

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Messages that are meant to reach you. I pulled these Oracle cards last night. You may reasonate with some or all, or not at all. Take what your heart feels most drawn to.

Perhaps you need to establish your boundaries with not just people, but work.

The work that we love may distract us from spending time with our loved ones or making time for ourselves to rest/restore.

Being ambitious or having goals aren't a bad thing, but we can easily get carried away wanting to do more and more, and forget about other things in life like

✨️Our inner-self and our health

✨️Family that won't be there for us forever. I used to think if I buy stuff for my parents or send money, that will help some. But it isn't the same as spending time with them. Just to be there.

I live so far away from my aging parents and can't afford to travel as often as I want. If you have a family closer to you, I hope you don't take them for granted.

People won't be there forever. I experienced it the gard way when my mom had stroke and it triggered so much guilt and shame. I don't wish it upon anyone.

✨️ Long lost dream: you may wish to do something when you were young and now you're too busy with work. It may be your life purpose, a soul mission or your bucket list.

✨️ Meaningful connection: as we grow older, our friend cycle shrinks as everyone is dealing with life and challenges. They may not be time first priority we put on our list. If they're important to you, don't let the busyness of life stop you from sending a short caring message.

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It's okay to be different, although it's hard because you don't or can't fit with those around you. One day, your soul family will come ✨️

https://youtu.be/tY49PsrjEso?is=ZPw_I...

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The yoga class turned into a HIIT session this past Sunday, my entire body was screaming from head to toes after.

What I realized was I finally learned to incorporate both strength and flexibility.

From 2018 - 2022, I focused on cardio and strength training to build muscle strength.

From 2022 - 2025 I switched to meditation, flexibility and mobility. Started dipping my toes into yoga, stretching, Qi Gong, pilates at home prior to going to yoga classes.

Since starting yoga, the focus was to combine strength and flexibility together.

Cardio and weight focus on stiffness,rigidness, toughness, roughness and physical power, fast pace, intensity - very masculine.

On the other hand, flexibility and flow is about softness/flexible movements, moving body to your natural flow, breathing, slowing down - very feminine energy.

When two polar opposite elements come together, they create magic. You learn to breathe better through intense exercises instead of shallow, fast, open mouth breathing.

Your body has more endurance, but you also know when to slow down to take it easy, not push myself to death like a bootcamp fitness instructor..you gotta push..push..push.

You know you can keep going, but you're more compassionate towards yourself without criticizing it for getting weak or tired.

You stop and rest or slow down to recuperate.

It's like I've found a more balanced version of myself through this.

A masculine meets a feminine, the yin meets the yang, the strength meets the softness, the seriousness meets the silliness.

I don't have to be extreme towards one perspective, thinking or belief. I can combine the two and be more neutral.

This song "All my life" by KC & Jojo has been playing in my head for 2 weeks.

All my life
I prayed for someone like you
And I thank God
That I
That I finally found you

I finally found me...in another version...a more balanced version that I've prayed for. The version of me that I dreamt of becoming one day.

She's emerging and leaping to meet the new exciting journey up ahead.

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"Never judge a book by its cover" is an understatement for this girl.

https://youtu.be/TKgAas-84D0?is=a-QoQ...

Kids these days are so talented, some of them discover their talents at such young age. I am just mind-blown.

With her sweet appearance, you may think she would sing a sweet song.

Wait until she started playing that guitar, her energy and the look in her eyes shifted like another version of her took over.

I said I am not going to a concert....

BUT girl!!! I'm going to yours if you come to Texas!!

I'll drag my body out of a calm meditation/quiet/soundbath mode. Throwing on a leather jacket, a skirt, boots and become a rocker chic!


Unleash your talents, you just never know what this world is lacking until you offers your gifts ✨️🎁💝

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