Trina Brettnell

You knew it was a no.

You felt it in your body before you ever said anything.

That tiny tightening.
That hesitation.
That quiet little voice saying…

“I don’t actually want to do this.”

And then somehow…

you said yes anyway.

Not because you wanted to.
Not because you had the energy.
Not because it was good for you.

But because in that split second, keeping the peace felt easier than choosing yourself.

And later?

You sat there annoyed.

Not just at them.

At yourself.

Because you knew.
You saw the pattern.
You understood what was happening.

And you still overrode yourself.

That is the loop.

Not a lack of awareness.

The trap is being aware of the pattern…
while still getting pulled right back into it.

That is exactly what my workshop is built around:

The Insight Paradox: When Self-Awareness Keeps Us Stuck

We’re going into why deep feelers and highly self-aware people can understand their patterns so clearly…

and still repeat them.

And more importantly…

how to catch the loop before it takes over.

If you are tired of knowing your boundaries but still not following them…

this will help you make it make sense.

Check out the link below to learn more.....if you know you keep repeating patterns that don't serve you, then this workshop is for you.

www.infjsunfiltered.ca/live-webinar/the-insight-pa…

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Trina Brettnell

I don’t know if this is just me… but rejection hits me hard.

Like not surface-level hard…

I’m talking that deep drop in your stomach, tight chest, can’t stop thinking about it kind of hard.

And it’s not even always obvious rejection.

Sometimes it’s just…
a shift in energy
a little distance
someone pulling back

And you can feel it instantly. And then your mind goes,
what did I do?

I’ve had so many moments where I thought something went fine…and then later I’m sitting there replaying it, feeling like I somehow got it wrong again.

That feeling of being pushed away…
especially when you were just being yourself…
it sticks.

For a long time, I thought it meant something was off about me.

But lately, I’ve been seeing it differently.

There are certain things we do… not bad things, not wrong things…
but things that can unintentionally make people pull back.

And the wild part is… most of us don’t even realize we’re doing it.

I want to talk about this more openly, because I know I’m not the only one who’s felt this.

I’m going live this Friday inside the community to dig into it… not from a “you need to fix yourself” place
but from a “let’s actually understand what’s going on here” place.

Because once you see it, it changes how you move through these situations.

And honestly… it takes some of that weight off.
If this hit you even a little… come join me 🤍,

youtube.com/channel/UCZJDsnaoy3DcNO1TcbplR5Q/join

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Trina Brettnell

I knew I was doing it… and I still couldn’t stop.
I could feel the pattern starting.

The same thoughts.
The same reaction.
The same place I’ve been in before.

And instead of stopping…

I started analyzing it.
Why I was feeling this way.
Where it was coming from.
What it meant.

And just like that…I was gone.
Back in my head.

Trying to figure it out.

And the frustrating part?
I wasn’t unaware. I could see it happening the whole time.

That’s the part no one really talks about.

👉 You can be fully aware of a pattern…
and still not be able to stop it.

Because in that moment…
you don’t shift it.
You analyze it.

And the more you analyze it…
the deeper you get pulled in.

So nothing changes.

You come out the other side thinking:
“Why did I do that again?” That’s the loop.

This is exactly what I’m walking through in my workshop:
The Insight Paradox: When Self-Awareness Keeps Us Stuck

Not more ways to understand yourself…But:
• how to catch the loop while it’s happening
• how to stop analyzing without ignoring yourself
• why nothing has been changing (even though you’ve been doing the work)
• and how to interrupt the pattern before it takes over

If this is something you keep finding yourself in…
👉 this will help you finally understand what’s going on
…and how to actually shift it.

Check out the link to learn more www.infjsunfiltered.ca/live-webinar/the-insight-pa…

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Trina Brettnell

You know that moment where you already know you don’t want to do something…

…and then somehow you still hear yourself say yes?

And the second it’s out of your mouth, you’re like…"Wait, why did I just do that?”

I’ve done this more times than I can count.
I’ll be sitting there, helping someone with something I didn’t even want to say yes to…
and in my head I’m thinking about the 100 other things I could be doing.

The things I actually wanted to do.

And there’s this quiet frustration that starts building…because it’s not like I didn’t know. I knew.

That’s the part that gets me.

I’m aware of my boundaries.

I can feel when something’s a no.
…and I still override it.

And then later…
I sit there trying to figure out why I did it again.

That loop? That’s exactly what I’m breaking down in my workshop:

The INFJ Trap: When Self-Awareness Keeps Us Stuck

If you’re tired of knowing your boundaries…
but still not following them…
this will finally help you make it make sense.

Learn more here: www.infjsunfiltered.ca/live-webinar/the-infj-trap-…

3 weeks ago | [YT] | 35

Trina Brettnell

How many times were you told…

“Stop being such a crybaby”
“You’re too sensitive”
“You take everything too personally”
“Grow thicker skin”
“You wear your heart on your sleeve”

And after hearing it enough…
something starts to happen.

You don’t just feel things deeply…
you start questioning yourself for it.

You start wondering:
“Did I overreact?”
“Why did that affect me so much?”
“Why does this stick with me when everyone else seems fine?”

So you try to push it down.
Brush it off.

Convince yourself it shouldn’t matter.

But it still does.

And that’s the part no one really explains.
Because this isn’t just about being “too sensitive.”

There’s actually a reason some moments…
stay with you
loop in your mind
hit deeper than they seem to for others

And it’s something called
rejection sensitivity dysphoria.

I’m going live tomorrow inside my community to talk about this in a way that actually makes sense.

Not surface level.
But what’s really going on underneath… and why it can feel so intense.

If you’ve ever questioned yourself for how deeply you feel things…
this is a conversation you’re going to want to be in.

My community links in the comments, check it out.

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