Trina Brettnell

I used to think purpose was something you search for —
like a single calling you were meant to find and cling to forever.
And if you couldn’t find it, you were failing at life.

But the older I get, the more I realize something different:

Purpose isn’t found by following the path others expect of you.
Purpose reveals itself when you finally step into who you actually are.

I lived a long time trying to be what everyone else thought I should be.
That was their vision of my purpose — not mine.
And INFJs aren’t built for that kind of life.

Our purpose doesn’t look like other people’s.
Our path isn’t linear or predictable or traditional.
It’s intuitive.
It’s slow-unfolding.
And honestly — it’s terrifying.

Because stepping into your real purpose means
becoming a version of yourself you’ve been afraid to be.

The version who stops shrinking.
The version who risks being seen.
The version who might get judged or misunderstood or abandoned again.

But here’s the part no one tells you:

When you step into that version of yourself —
not only do you find your purpose… you find your people.

The ones who recognize you.
The ones who value you.
The ones who see you where you once felt invisible.

I’m working on a workshop for January all around this —
for INFJs who feel like there’s more inside them than they’re currently living
and they’re ready to lean into it.

If this hit something in you, stay close.
We’re just getting started. 🌿

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1 month ago | [YT] | 74

Trina Brettnell

Hey everyone 💚
I know it’s been a few weeks since I’ve posted — life has been busy. I’m still here, still creating, and I’ll be back to uploading soon. Thank you for your patience and for sticking around.

In the meantime, I’m working on some upcoming INFJ & neurodivergent INFJ workshops, and I’d love your feedback.
What topics would you want a workshop on next?
Your input genuinely helps me decide what to create.

I’ll add a poll below with a few ideas — feel free to vote or comment with something different. 💫

Thank you for being here. Truly.

1 month ago | [YT] | 13

Trina Brettnell

On the outside, INFJs often look like we’ve got it all together.
But inside? It feels like one big knot of stress....which most days feels like an understatement.

We don’t just attend things — we absorb them.
We replay conversations until 2am.
We worry about everyone else’s needs before our own.

And after a while, tension feels like our personality. We start to believe this is just who I am.

But here’s the truth: it’s not who you are.
It’s your nervous system stuck in survival mode.

That’s why I’m hosting my live workshop: Calming the INFJ Nervous System. 🌿
We’ll dive into why INFJs carry so much tension — and I’ll share practical tools I have used for years to finally feel calm in your own skin, became life doesn’t have to feel this heavy.

✨ Replay included if you can’t make it live.

If you want to learn more follow the link in the comments.

3 months ago | [YT] | 51

Trina Brettnell

Ever walked into a room and instantly felt like the weirdest duck in the pond?

For INFJs and neurodivergent INFJs, social situations often feel less like connection and more like survival. We notice everything, we feel out of place, and before long, anxiety kicks in. We start asking ourselves:
✨ Do I even belong here?
✨ Why does it feel like I’m the only one who thinks this way?
✨ Maybe I shouldn’t even try…

That feeling of being misunderstood runs so deep that it can make us question our very place in the world. And the truth is—it’s not that we’re broken. It’s that we’re rarely in rooms where people actually “get” us.

That’s why I created the INFJ virtual Meet-and-Greet for INFJs and neurodivergent INFJs.
🌿 Casual.
🌿 Fun.
🌿 Zero pressure.
🌿 100% filled with people who see the world through the same lens you do.

If you’ve been craving real connection with people who won’t make you feel like the odd one out, this is your space. Come join us—you don’t have to do “weirdest in the room” alone anymore.

I left the link in the comments to learn more.

3 months ago | [YT] | 53

Trina Brettnell

For years, I didn’t even realize I was stuck in survival mode. My body felt like one big stressful knot — wrestling with anxiety every single day.

I thought it was just “normal” to overthink, overanalyze, and worry until my stomach hurt. But INFJs live with constant tension because our nervous system gets stuck on high alert.

That’s why I created Calming the INFJ Nervous System. 🌿 We’ll dig into why INFJs carry so much tension, how shame and survival patterns fuel overthinking, and simple tools to finally find calm.

✨ Replay is included if you can’t make it live.

Check out the link I left below to learn more.

3 months ago | [YT] | 49

Trina Brettnell

Ever feel like there’s nowhere you truly belong?

One of the most common things I hear from INFJs — and honestly, something I’ve struggled with myself — is how hard it is to find our people.

A place where you don’t have to explain yourself.
Where people get your deep thoughts, your sensitivity, your quirks.
Where you can just be you — without shrinking, masking, or feeling “too much.”

I created the INFJ Meet & Greet for that exact reason. It’s a safe, private space to connect with other INFJs who get it — people who understand the way you process, feel, and see the world.

Registration is now open for September’s INFJ Meet & Greet. If you’ve been craving real connection with people who truly understand you, this is your space.

Check out the link below to learn more.

3 months ago | [YT] | 19

Trina Brettnell

For years, I thought everyone else had life figured out… and I was the one who was broken.

Before I understood I was an INFJ, I honestly believed I was beneath everyone.
I watched people move through life like it was effortless — careers, friendships, small talk, fitting in. Meanwhile, I was struggling to function in a world that constantly overwhelmed me. I thought what I had to say wasn’t worth hearing. I thought something was wrong with me.

But there was nothing wrong with me. I was just wired differently.

If you’ve ever felt like your mind works differently than the world around you…
If you’ve ever believed you were never, ever going to find your people because maybe they didn’t even exist…
You’re not broken. You’ve just been trying to navigate life without a map designed for someone like you.

That’s why I created Divergence Rising — a private off social community for INFJs and neurodivergent INFJs who are ready to:

Feel seen without over-explaining

Connect with people who just get it

Learn, grow, and find tools designed for the way you’re wired

It’s a space where you finally belong.

✨ Come check it out. You deserve to be understood. Link is below.

3 months ago | [YT] | 99

Trina Brettnell

Why does grocery shopping feel like climbing Mount Everest? 🏔️🛒

I used to think something was wrong with me because simple things — like picking up a few groceries — felt so overwhelming.
The lights, the noise, the endless choices, the people everywhere…
My body would tense up, my mind would freeze, and I’d leave the store completely drained.

For years, I blamed myself.
I thought I wasn’t trying hard enough… that I was weak, damaged, or somehow broken.

But here’s what I’ve learned:
💜 Nothing is wrong with you.
Your INFJ brain and nervous system are just wired differently.
We process everything — lights, sounds, people’s moods, unspoken tension — all at once. It’s no wonder the smallest tasks can feel monumental.

Once I understood what was actually happening, everything started to make sense… and I finally stopped being so hard on myself.

🌿 If this sounds like you, there’s a Guide to Navigating Sensory Overload I highly recommend.
It explains why this happens and gives you practical tools to create more calm in your daily life.

✨ Comment “calm” below, and I’ll send you the link.

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4 months ago | [YT] | 48

Trina Brettnell

💭 You want to do the thing… so why can’t you start it?

Not the chores.
Not the obligations.

The thing — the one your heart’s been quietly asking for.

Start your business.
Go back to school.
Pick up pottery.
Write the book.
Move somewhere new.
Be you, more fully.

And yet… you stall.
You scroll. You overthink. You freeze.
Then you tell yourself you’ll do it tomorrow.
But tomorrow feels just as heavy.

It’s not that you’re not motivated.
It’s not that you don’t want it badly enough.
It’s that your INFJ brain is stuck in an overthinking loop —
spinning every outcome before you even begin.

💡 That’s what my latest workshop is for.

🌿 The Overthinking Loop will help you:

Understand why your brain spirals (and why it’s not your fault)

Learn how to calm your nervous system when your thoughts won’t stop

Create a reset plan so you can take action without the mental fog

💛 Replay included if you can’t make it live.
🔗 Click the link in the comments to learn more.

Because your future self isn’t waiting for you to be “less sensitive.”
They’re waiting for you to break the loop and start living.

4 months ago | [YT] | 22

Trina Brettnell

Hey weirdos and non-weirdos 😁

Do you ever wonder why we feel so misunderstood all the time?
Like—we can’t even explain it half the time, but it’s there.
Lurking.
Every time we speak. Every time we show up.

And the worst part?
It’s not just once in a while.
It’s often.
Sometimes multiple times a day.

And when it happens that often? It starts to feel personal.
It starts to feel like maybe we’re the problem.

So we overthink.
Everything.
“If I say this, will they get it?”
“If I do this, will it come across the wrong way?”
“What will they think of me if I just… show up how I actually am?”

And that overthinking?
It doesn’t just cause anxiety—it starts to shape our identity.
Because when you’re constantly adjusting to avoid being misunderstood,
you start to lose touch with who you really are.

I’ve been there.
And it’s not just frustrating—it’s emotionally exhausting.

That’s why I created a workshop called
👉 Breaking the Overthinking Loop: How to Find Calm When Your INFJ Brain Just Won’t Shut Off.

This isn’t just a workshop about “thinking too much.”
It’s about the emotional weight of being misunderstood, misread, and mentally stuck in loops you never asked for.

If this post feels like I just read your mind—
it’s because I am you.

And if you’re tired of the loop,
tired of constantly questioning yourself,
and ready to finally feel more grounded in who you are—

This is your next step, follow the link I left below to learn more.

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