Stella Dove is an Inner Child Healer, specialising in trauma-informed inner child healing to support recovery from attachment wounds, grief, burnout, and nervous system dysregulation.
This channel explores how childhood trauma shapes adult relationships, emotional patterns, functional freeze, and self-worth — and how somatic awareness, hypnosis, and nervous system regulation can support emotional healing.
If you feel stuck in repeating patterns, struggle with boundaries, or experience relationship triggers that don’t seem to match the present moment, inner child healing helps you explore the unmet needs and survival responses beneath them.
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Stella Dove | Inner Child Healer
There is something particularly moving about meeting a younger version of yourself with the compassion you may not have been able to offer her at the time.
Mandy very kindly sent me this after our recent session and gave me permission to share her words.
She also wrote:
“I also felt stronger listening to, and reading your observations of the emotions I’d been experiencing and your analysis of how I’ve been feeling.”
What stayed with me particularly was her description of seeing her younger self from afar and wanting to wrap her in her arms and tell her that things would be okay.
Sometimes Inner Child Healing isn't about changing the past.
It's about finally being able to meet the person you were there.
Thank you, Mandy, for allowing me to share this. 🕊️
90-Minute Online Inner Child Healing Session — £195.
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Stella Dove | Inner Child Healer
You learned early that speaking up had consequences.
So you became accommodating.
You kept the peace.
You swallowed the objection.
You overlooked behaviour that hurt you.
You became very good at understanding everybody else’s point of view - while quietly abandoning your own.
You're just so unbelievably accommodating and easy going...
And years later, you may find yourself wondering why you tolerate so much in relationships.
Sometimes the adult who “puts up” with too much was once the child who discovered that protest wasn’t welcome.
That pattern can follow us into friendships, families, work and intimate relationships - until we begin to recognise it.
Inner Child Healing gives us somewhere to explore where that silence began, what it once protected us from, and whether we still need it now.
90-Minute Online Inner Child Healing Session — £195.
One session. No discovery call. No programme to join.
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Stella Dove | Inner Child Healer
We don't always remember the moment we decided what something meant.
I'm not safe.
I'm not enough.
I have to keep everyone happy.
People leave.
My needs don't matter.
The event may have happened decades ago.
But the meaning we gave it can quietly become the voice through which we interpret ourselves, our relationships and the world around us.
Inner Child Healing gives us somewhere to meet that meaning again, as an adult, rather than from inside the experience of the child who first created it.
90-Minute Online Inner Child Healing Session — £195.
One session. No discovery call. No programme to join.
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Stella Dove | Inner Child Healer
What happens when an adult child finally stops protecting a narcissistic parent?
In some families, loyalty means silence.
You learn not to question the family narrative.
Not to expose what happens behind closed doors.
Not to criticise.
Not to refuse.
And those rules can survive long after childhood.
When you finally begin setting boundaries or telling the truth about your own experience, you may find yourself recast as the difficult one — ungrateful, unstable, disloyal or influenced by somebody else.
That can make independence feel extraordinarily costly.
But recognising the rules you learned as a child can be the beginning of choosing differently as an adult.
If this feels familiar, I work online with adults exploring these patterns through Inner Child Healing.
90-Minute Online Inner Child Healing Session — £195.
One session. No discovery call. No programme to join.
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Stella Dove | Inner Child Healer
People pleasers were often parent pleasers first.
They learned to read the room.
Is Mum upset?
Is Dad angry?
Have I done something wrong?
What can I do to make everything okay again?
A child who becomes highly attuned to the emotional temperature of the adults around them can become extraordinarily skilled at anticipating what other people need.
And that skill can follow them into adulthood.
You notice the change in someone's voice.
You sense when somebody is displeased.
You explain yourself before you've been accused.
You change your plans to avoid disappointing someone.
You try to make everybody comfortable — and call it being considerate.
Sometimes it is consideration.
And sometimes, underneath it, is an old belief:
“If I can keep them calm, I will be okay.”
The work isn't about becoming selfish or ceasing to care about other people.
It's recognising that you are no longer responsible for managing everybody else's emotional world.
You can let somebody be disappointed.
You can let somebody misunderstand you.
You can let somebody have a feeling without rushing in to fix it.
And you can ask a very different question:
What do I want?
Sometimes that's a surprisingly difficult question to answer when you've spent much of your life anticipating everybody else's needs.
If you recognise yourself in this, this is exactly the kind of pattern we can explore in an Inner Child Healing session.
90-Minute Online Inner Child Healing Session — £195
One session. No discovery call. No programme to join.
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Stella Dove | Inner Child Healer
Why do I imagine problems in my relationship that aren’t there?
A message goes unanswered.
Someone’s tone changes.
A partner seems distracted.
And somewhere between what actually happened and what we fear it means, the mind begins to write a story.
The feeling can be completely real.
But the story we create to explain the feeling may not be.
I’ve written a new article about relationship anxiety, hypervigilance, attachment wounds — and why uncertainty can sometimes activate something much older.
One of the questions at the heart of it is:
What do I actually know?
Read the new article here:
www.emotionaltherapy.uk/post/why-do-i-imagine-prob…
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Stella Dove | Inner Child Healer
I work individually with people who recognise these patterns in themselves.
My 90-minute Online Inner Child Healing Session is now £195.
No programme to join. No discovery call required.
The booking link is first in my bio.
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Stella Dove | Inner Child Healer
You can be fifty years old and still feel five when someone rejects you.
You can know perfectly well that a relationship isn't right for you — and still feel abandoned when it ends.
You can be accomplished, capable and independent, yet criticism from one particular person can reduce you to the child who never felt quite good enough.
This is often how an inner child wound shows itself.
It isn't necessarily a memory you think about every day. It can live in the reactions that seem bigger than the moment you're in — the fear of being left, the need to please, the inability to say no, the relationships you keep repeating, or the voice inside that tells you you're somehow not enough.
I'm opening my diary again.
After three months away from my work, I'm opening a small number of online Inner Child Healing sessions.
These are 90-minute individual sessions for people who recognise that an old emotional wound is still affecting something in their life today — relationships, rejection, grief, abandonment, self-worth, or the feeling that however much they understand intellectually, something inside them hasn't caught up.
There is no programme to commit to and no discovery call required.
90 minutes · Online · £195
I'm opening a small number of appointments each week.
You can book directly using the link in the comments.🕊️
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Stella Dove | Inner Child Healer
The concept of contemporaries choosing team members has left many of us traumatised.
A client recently recounted how how inferior and excluded he felt when not selected for the school football team by his peers.
I still remember sitting nervously on the bench, as the netball bibs were handed out, knowing I wouldn't be chosen.
This type of selection still happens in corporate team building events, and it can be very stressful for many. It's more often a popularity contest rather than an ability contest.
It's very demeaning for the people waiting to be picked, and can also be a massive pressure on those who have to make the choices, knowing they are doing so for all the wrong reasons.
I hate all that stuff. Picking teams that way should be banned forever.
Perhaps this is why being chosen still matters so much in adulthood.
Many of us carry memories of waiting to be selected, hoping to be wanted, wondering if we were enough.
The school playground may be long behind us, but the inner child often remains on that bench, quietly watching, still measuring worth through acceptance, approval, and belonging.
What happens when we believe our value depends on being selected?
For some children it was:
being picked for football.
winning the race.
getting the prize.
receiving the party invitation.
For adults it becomes:
being chosen in love.
being promoted.
being successful.
being wanted.
The form changes.
The wound doesn't.
Healing happens when we realise our value was never determined by who picked us, who overlooked us, or whether we came first.
It isn't easy to untangle this but here might be the place to begin.
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Stella Dove | Inner Child Healer
The Myth of Forever 🕊️
We have convinced ourselves that forever is the benchmark for success.
A marriage that ends is called a failed marriage.
A business that flourishes for a season and then closes is called a failed business.
A dream we once pursued but later abandoned is called a failure.
But what if success was never about duration?
What if something could be meaningful, beautiful, transformative, and complete without lasting forever?
I've changed my mind about countless things over the years.
Where I wanted to live.
What I wanted to wear.
How I wanted to work.
Who I thought I was.
I've left careers.
Ended relationships.
Abandoned projects.
Started again.
Some things lasted years.
Some lasted weeks.
None of them were failures.
They were chapters.
They taught me something.
They shaped me.
They led me somewhere else.
Perhaps the inner child clings to forever because forever feels safe.
But life isn't static.
Life moves.
People change.
Dreams evolve.
Sometimes the bravest thing we can do is allow an ending to be an ending without turning it into evidence that we failed.
Perhaps it simply fulfilled its purpose.
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