Melissa Indot - Fearlessly Authentic Heal Emotions

Is anyone even here?

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Melissa Indot - Fearlessly Authentic Heal Emotions

Because endings are simply beginnings waiting to start.

There’s nothing worse than feeling down and out from the end of a relationship - whether personal or professional.

Yes it’s normal to grieve what’s past but if we stay in this feeling for too long, it can be demoralising, create stagnancy and affect self worth and confidence.

When you take endings personally you attach your value to why things end.

Perhaps you start to think you’re not good enough, that it’s something you did or didn’t do.

Although some of this may be true, attaching your value to a decision, person or relationship serves no one.

One thing in life thats guaranteed is change - evolution.

As a coach-mentor, I don't "lose" clients, it's simply our season together has reached a natural ending.

People will often reach to monetary measure as an excuse or reason, but ultimately when it's time to part ways, it's time.

In my line of work, for long term clients, I take it as positive feedback they are ready to move to new pastures.

My "work" is done.

I don't extend clients if I feel they haven’t been able to reach their goals with me - it could mean we've done all we can together, and I happily refer them to someone in my professional network.

They continue to be members of the private community platform with access to :

- Reflective self awareness prompts
- Monthly emotional healing masterclasses with guest speakers
- Live podcast recording sessions
- Monthly Mindful Living “Clinics” with me for on-going life strategy tips, feedback & support to thrive in life authentically, on your terms

Nature shows us how life functions in seasons and cycles.

When one door closes, another opens.

How do you feel about endings?

P.S. Don't forget to watch Part 2 of this Short video

1 year ago | [YT] | 0

Melissa Indot - Fearlessly Authentic Heal Emotions

They said "work on the Hard Stuff" so I did it their way and learned the HARD WAY about what they don't tell you ⬇


Whilst pushing through and working on the hard stuff has its purpose, what’s more important is effort in whats effective.

Discerning whats hard and what's not aligned is imperative.

Especially if the cost is your mental & emotional wellbeing.

I did the "hard stuff", got the results I wanted and burned out.

Was it effective? For my bank account yes, for my health NO.

I learned health & wellness is TRUE WEALTH.

What are you finding hard right now?

Now ask yourself - Is it effective?

1 year ago | [YT] | 0

Melissa Indot - Fearlessly Authentic Heal Emotions

What has been the most life-changing moment in your life?


I went from 4 figure months to 6 figures in 2 months and then back to nearly zero.

For me it is zooming out and refocusing on the big picture.

My why.

Hyper focusing on the failures on the road to success, without taking action can be demoralising and debilitating.

Give every step a purpose.

Your wins are evidence of what is aligned towards achieving your goal.

Your failures hold valuable data for refinement towards achieving your goal.

My 6 figures showed me it is possible.
My zero showed me the cost to my mental health and well-being of getting 6 figures.
It showed me it was time to rest, reset, refine.

Keep going!

Resting is a part of the process that allows you to keep going, sustainably.

You are living proof that success is possible.

Be mindful of the price you pay along the way.

Love,
Melissa

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1 year ago | [YT] | 0

Melissa Indot - Fearlessly Authentic Heal Emotions

Did Opening My Heart to Love Derail My Entrepreneurial Success?

My entrepreneurial journey sky rocketed in 2022, after years of committing fully to it. I was also single. I enjoyed my client success, my business success and the financial success that came with it!

Life was perfect.

Stability with the 5 Fs -
Freedom
Finance
Friends
Family
Fun

I wanted for nothing more ... than to share this with someone.

You see I said to myself I didn’t need a partner because I had everything else.

The authentic truth is I was afraid to love again because when I open my heart to love I go all in.

I fall hard and deep.

2 x 10 year relationships & painful breakups to match, left scars on my heart.

That I could deal with.

But losing love because my partner died… well that wound had not yet healed.

I realised as long as I was afraid to love, I was literally afraid to LIVE.

My clients often feedback the amount of love they feel from me in our sessions.

Maybe it was time to love myself at that level too?
Is it love to deny myself the gift of falling and being in love? Of Receiving love?

With my values realigned, & much personal healing over the years I decided to open my heart to love again.

After all it’s better to have had love & lost love, than to never love at all

Poetically, Love arrived.

I was warm, fuzzy and in bliss.

I was forced to recalibrate life from single to relating.

Some would say my business and finance took a hit as my attention shifted.

Not going to lie, the numbers dropped.

My quality of life improved.

And in the months of integrating a new partnered lifestyle here are the overarching plus points :

- Complementary skills
- Unconditional support
- Interconnected values
- Collaborative Resilience
- Amplified Joy in Partnership

I'm ready to refocus with a strong shared and inspired foundation, with an excitement to see my business and finance shifting.

I reviewed & am practising for myself what I have been coaching my clients to success with by their unique design.
And I'm tasting a similar success.

My 5 Fs have been upgraded to 6 Fs -

Freedom
Finance
Friends
Family
Fancy
Fun

Why Fancy?

Because I definitely “fancy” my partner who has brought a new level of joy, meaning, depth, intimacy, wisdom and love into an already incredible life.

No matter what society tells you, your family, peers and even your past, what matters most is how you listen and serve your heart

Thank you to Justin Welsh on LinkedIn for inspiring this reflection.

Has your belief about love and business changed now?

love,
Melissa

1 year ago | [YT] | 0

Melissa Indot - Fearlessly Authentic Heal Emotions

How different might your path to success be if you learned to CELEBRATE your Failures?

Focusing on what went wrong is a double edged sword.

With the wrong mindset it'll keep you in a negative loop.

We all need a pity party sometimes, no doubt.

Honouring your emotions is important.

Why? Because only THROUGH feeling what you need to feel, fully are you able to move OUT of the heavy emotion of life not meeting your expectations.

Clearing the heavy energy creates space to create anew.

I poured my heart and soul into being a successful recording artist.

I've had a career in both the UK and Malaysia.

A successful one in both regions, but was not able to see this for the longest time because I kept pushing through without giving my feelings of failure a space .

So there was always a part of me that felt unseen, unaccomplished.

When you create space to honour your authentic feelings, you allow the emotions to move and in doing so you unstick yourself.

From here you'll see how your Failures provide Feedback.

Priceless data offering infinite opportunities for refinement.

Wins are a result of a series of refined failures and proof anything is possible.

The truth is, I may never have become the Grammy winning artist I dreamed to be.

Focusing on that perceived failure left me blindsided to the amazing successes I had achieved.

My music videos were played across the UK and Europe - “Not in Blue” on MTV Europe & “Window” on Channels VH1 & The Box.

I have been the opening act for for Grammy winning artists, Sean Kingston and the late Legendary Natalie Cole (daughter of Legendary Nat King Cole)

I’ve collaborated with Eric Kupper who’s mixed two Grammy winning Dance Records of the Year

I was awarded an AIM for Best English Album - A music industry award in recognition for my debut solo album in Malaysia. You could say, the Malaysian version of a Grammy.

When I realised this, it fueled me to continue taking action towards my dreams, keeping my mind and heart open to the different ways success can look like, aligned to my unique path; living life MY WAY.

Because You only fail when you stop trying.

I'm curious, what's been your greatest Failure to date and why?


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1 year ago | [YT] | 0

Melissa Indot - Fearlessly Authentic Heal Emotions

Why is assumption the Mother of all F*** Ups?

Because assumptions are unconscious perceptions and they dictate many of the decisions we make.

5 facts about assumptions :

✔️Assumptions contribute to gross miscommunication.
✔️Assumptions are based on past experiences.
✔️Assumptions are NOT based on fact.
✔️Assumptions are a form of bias.
✔️Assumptions cause conflict.

Ever noticed how quickly assumptions can escalate into conflicts?

Misunderstandings fueled by assumptions can strain even the strongest relationships.

When we react based on what we think others are feeling or intending, we often end up in unnecessary disputes, eroding trust and respect.

They create barriers in communication and often result in emotional reactions that do more harm than good.

This constant cycle can prevent us from truly understanding and connecting with others.

Curiosity is the key to preventing these conflicts.

By taking a moment to ask questions and truly listen, we can navigate through our interactions with clarity and empathy.

I invite you to embrace curiosity when communicating, especially when you sense tension in a conversation or situation, knowing it will nurture peace, and build stronger, more resilient relationships.

love,
Melissa

#CommunicationSkills #Curiosity #ConflictResolution

1 year ago | [YT] | 0

Melissa Indot - Fearlessly Authentic Heal Emotions

The pain of Inaction

"Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy" - Zig Ziglar

What sense is there in facing your fears when you just want to run from them?

What if you befriended your Fears and changed not just how you see them but FEEL about them?

When in fear you're either living in a past memory that may not happen again or in a future that may never happen!

When you live in the present, with self awareness you have choice & the opportunity to prevent both from happening .

When you learn to connect with your Fears you create a sense of safety and this allows for you to listen to the wisdom behind your Fears.

This wisdom is what will lead you through Fear.

It's what I learned from navigating through addiction, people pleasing, imposter syndrome and toxic co-dependent relationships.

It's what revealed my unconscious blocks and blindspots

It's how I found my way back to who I really am from who I thought I should be and the unhealthy, trauma-based strategies I adopted to cope with the pain my Fears were unable to bridge.

What Fear lives in you right now? When you learn where it comes from, you'll have a clear picture of how to move forward.

love,
Melissa xxx

1 year ago | [YT] | 0

Melissa Indot - Fearlessly Authentic Heal Emotions

𝓢𝓪𝓵𝓽 𝔀𝓪𝓽𝓮𝓻 𝓱𝓮𝓪𝓵𝓼 𝓪𝓵𝓵 𝔀𝓸𝓾𝓷𝓭𝓼

Drop 3x 🤍🤍🤍 if you agree

Are you an island / ocean lover too?

I hope to make it back to Ibiza soon to treat myself to a private retreat with my yoga teacher LilyPod Yoga and Ayurveda .

Time flies by and I realise it’s been bloody ages since I nourished myself with a retreat. It’s the best way prevent emotional burnout in particular

The work I do is powerfully because I guide people to meet their emotional pain without the need to fix.

Clearing unconscious blocks to their joy almost instantaneously.

Because you don’t see what you can’t
And it’s hard to feel when you’re fearful

Sometimes all you need is gentle reassurance and nudge from someone who has unwavering faith and confidence in the unknown and intangible.

Someone who believes in the unseen, hidden magick that happens when we realign to our needs, values & purpose - to thrive as the person you’re born to be

Before all conditioning & trauma

That someone is me. Here for you.

Love,
Melissa

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1 year ago | [YT] | 0

Melissa Indot - Fearlessly Authentic Heal Emotions

Who REALLY wants to be an adult?


Are you adulting or are you just a big kid figuring out this crazy life?

It’s ok to need your parents. ( I definitely need my mum's cooking and I'm 50)

Whats important is what you do if they can’t meet your needs. (have an empty tummy and be sad, not gonna lie)

In the adulting journey, you have to learn to disentangle yourself from your parents if you want to live a life thats authentically your's.

Many parents unknowingly foster co-dependent relationships as they repeat the patterns fo their parents. This may have started more than several generations before them and will continue many more after you, without awareness.

You can choose to be the cycle breaker and liberate yourself and your children from the burden of living out co-dependent patterns of behaviour out of loyalty to you ancestors.

Just because you can carry a burden, doesn't mean you must!

Often simply seeing that you are living out the patterns is enough to create an energetic shift within you to break the cycle.

Sometimes extra action steps are required.

Whatever way you approach it whats important for you to know is that Generational trauma exists and can be healed by you.

In this hashtag#fearlesslycuriouspodcast episode, a coaching client is struggling with not being able to move forward in life without validation from their Father. Father energy is related tomaking money and beliefs around abundance.

Because she wasn’t receiving the validation they needed, they felt they were unable to be successful financially and was there living in scarcity.

I took them through an awareness process and provided a guide as to how to shift from this limiting belief and co-dependent entanglement.

After walking them through the while process you’ll hear say they’re already struggling.

Their focus was misplaced and stuck in a negative narrative loop.

Want a different outcome? Change your strategy.

This includes, patterns of unconscious thinking & trauma based behaviour, before you even address action steps!

It’s ok to need your parents.

Whats important is what you do if they can’t meet your needs.

As an adult now you can’t change the past or your parents parenting style

You CAN change the effect its had on you by reparenting yourself and changing the way you look at what happened with an open mind and a compassionate heart.

We’re all just big kids trying to figure out this crazy adventure called life.

Your parents too, before you.

When you can face what you think you’re lacking, you can start to gain clarity on how to meet your need.

What can you proudly claim you need from your parents that perhaps you’re still no getting from them?

love,
Melissa

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