Being Chloe Barksdale - Life Over 50 Diaries




Being Chloe Barksdale - Life Over 50 Diaries

Life Over 50: When Desire Quietly Changes - A Conversation We Don’t Have Enough

When talking to my seasoned sistas, I’m finding that many of us are going longer periods of time without — clears throat — intimate connections.

Especially we single ladies who aren’t regularly dating anyone special. Some of it comes from now requiring more than just a warm body in our beds. We want real intimacy, because we long ago outgrew jumping off the dresser just for the sport of it.

No judgment here. None.

But for many, the desire is simply no longer there. And one day you look up and realize you haven’t even thought about it in weeks… then months. And like me, you find yourself sitting there trying to remember — now exactly when was the last time I shared physical closeness with a man — if you’re picking up what I’m putting down, sistas.

For me personally, days turned into weeks, weeks into months… until I was just sitting here thinking, well dang — it’s 2026, and it won’t be long before it’s been a full year since a man last touched my skin in that way.

When we were in our 30s — hell, even our 40s — did we ever imagine we’d reach this point? I know I didn’t.

And I’m going to keep it very candid here — I can’t even remember the last time I touched my own self like that. Toys be damned. When I crawl into bed at night, my routine is YouTube, a few games on my phone until my eyelids start sticking together, then I reach over, cut off the lamp (if it’s even on), roll over, and drift off into la-la land.

There is no DJ’ing. No personal human turntables below the waist.

At some point — and I don’t know when — things shifted from intentional abstinence to a “dang girl… do you even care about that part of your life anymore?”

And I don’t want to not care.

What if I meet the love of my life, and he wants me to become his wife? Will I even enjoy that part of me anymore, or will it feel like a chore?

— Hey… that rhymed, and I didn’t even try. —

Anywho… I remember when you’d be talking to a man, and the topic of “when was the last time” came up. If you said anything longer than a few months, they’d swear you were lying. Some women were — not wanting to seem loosey-goosey — but now?

Now that I hear women saying it’s been 2, 3, 6… even 10 years, it’s not hard for me to believe them. Not at all.

And I do wonder if men would even believe it, especially with everything being so hyper-“intimate” these days. For a while, I honestly thought I was the only one not regularly jumping off the dresser.

So here I sit… 12:37 AM, January 8, 2026, wondering if that desire will ever return — where I can fully enjoy this second season of life, carefree, without the worry of creating another human.

Or will one year turn into two… then suddenly it’s ten — and not only have I not missed physical closeness, but I no longer desire it at all.

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I’m answering many of you who’ve asked me privately what happened to THAT friendship and why I chose to walk away. This conversation isn’t about dragging anyone — it’s about clarity, boundaries, and protection.

We’re also talking marriage vs long-term relationships, accountability, and why asking to see a divorce decree is not being “extra,” it’s being smart. Because when women don’t protect themselves, they run the risk of ending up listed as his “little friend” in the obituary… if they’re listed at all.

Take what applies, leave what doesn’t, and keep the comments grown and respectful. This is a safe space for real talk and real lessons.

Now tell me 👇🏽
- Do you believe long-term relationships offer enough protection, or does marriage matter more?

- Are you okay with being listed as the "LITTLE FRIEND" or the family saying you can't attend?

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Shout out to all the daddy’s girls who have forever memories that have or will last, long after life on earth is done. 🕊️

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Tonight’s Video Drops at 7 PM EST

Good morning, Beautifuls

Before I start my day, I wanted to share what’s coming to the channel tonight — a video I’ve been working on for a little while, but was inspired by one of my beautiful followers  ⁨, @kishaburnett9879⁩  , to create. In a previous video, I asked you all to submit questions you'd like me to answer about me, or just in general, my thoughts on. Kisha, gently and caringly asked about a painful chapter from my childhood… one I’ve publicly spoken on but without much detail.

Tonight, I’m answering it.
Not with graphic details, not with shock value, but with clarity, honesty, and the strength that comes from surviving what tried to break me.

If you’ve ever had to heal from something you couldn’t even name as a child, this video is for you.

I’m speaking from a place of growth, protection, and power — and I pray it reaches whoever needs it.

The video goes live at 7:00 PM EST.

Thank you for being here on this journey with me.

— Chloe

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🔥 The Hard Truth Is HERE! 🔥
PODCAST PREMIERE OCTOBER 10, 2025 @ 6 O'CLOCK PM!

Sis… we said what needed to be said. 👏 From Black women waiting to be “saved,” to masculine energy, single mothers, snooping phones, and even dating rapper Special Ed 😅—we left NOTHING off the table.

💬 Now it’s YOUR turn:
👉 What’s YOUR truth about men, marriage, and respect?
Do you agree with us—or nah? Drop your thoughts below ⬇️ because we’re reading every single comment.

✨ Don’t forget to LIKE 👍🏾, SUBSCRIBE 🔔, and SHARE this convo with your sister circle—because the mic is on, the mic is hot, and NOTHING is off limits.

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🚨 It’s almost here! 🚨
Welcome to U-Factor with Chloe Barksdale—your unapologetic space for grown women in our second season of life. 💃🏽✨

🎙️ Real talk.
🎙️ No filters.
🎙️ No scripts.
🎙️ No apologies.

We’re diving into love, dating, intimacy, friendships, menopause, money & more. Because grown women talk different.

Hit that follow/subscribe—the mic is on, the filter is OFF. 🔥

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Hey beautiful people,

Today’s vlog is one from the heart—because sisterhood, friendship, and the way we love one another have been sitting heavy on my spirit. Some of the women I’ve called “sisterfriend” are still in my life, others are part of my past... but every single one has shaped me in some way. I carry them all with me.

I’m not here to pretend I’ve gotten everything right. Like my old podcast name said, I’m flawed as fck*—and I say that with love and honesty. Every day, I ask God to quiet the noise of my ego and let more of Him shine through me. I want people to feel His love when they meet me. I pray to be a better mother, a more patient friend, a more open-hearted sister... and maybe, just maybe, someone’s peace one day.

I ask God to reveal the real me—the parts still healing, the pieces that need more grace, more growth, more softness.

And if I’m going to talk about friendship, I’ve got to tell the truth: I’ve fumbled. I’ve been jealous. Possessive. Controlling. Insecure. I’ve had to look those parts of me in the eye and do the work to rise above them. It hasn’t been easy, but it’s been necessary.

I’m still becoming. Still evolving. Still learning how to love better. And honestly, I’m proud of that.

Let’s get into this vlog, y’all. I hope something in it speaks to your spirit.

With love and grace,
Chloe 💛

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This year, I am focused on getting myself into the best shape of my life physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. When I awakened this morning, January 5th, I prayed and meditated for God to remove all negativity, past and present, from my life. I asked that he reduce me and increase him in me.

I am also planning to date freely, and no one person gets all my attention until someone steps up and steps out to show me he is WORTHY of who I am as a woman, and even then, it will be a longer vetting process. I am about to have FUN leading up to turning 55, and it's on ME to ensure it happens.

No more woe is me or carrying around stuff from the past that broke me. I have been living in denial and fear and holding myself back from receiving what God has for me. I won't do that anymore. I am manifesting and speaking nothing but positivity in the elements. I am focusing on positive thoughts, inviting positive energy ONLY, and praying to exude positive energy in my daily walk. I will create a notebook of personally written manifestations of things I will repeat aloud daily. No one except ME has been holding me back from getting what I deserve! I will not let anyone deter me from having what God has already deemed mine.

This morning, he showed me a vision for remodeling my house.
This morning, he showed me a vision for my life. This morning, he showed me my purpose and spoke to me so clearly. I've loved and filled others so much that I have neglected myself. I have been so concerned with making sure that others don't feel like I have felt all my life - used, unpretty, an outsider, not worthy, carrying around low self-esteem.....while have not TRULY taking the time needed to pour sincere LOVE into myself. I've accepted less, not genuinely believing I could receive more. I've let my growing age and the negativity that surrounds women - black women aging, beat at my self-confidence. At times, I've found myself mirroring and adjusting who I am to men's likes and dislikes instead of doing what makes ME feel good. That HAS stopped. If you can't see the AMAZING woman I am as I am, that's YOUR issue, and not my cross to bear! You're not the one for me! I am no longer accepting subpar, half-behind efforts from ANYONE! Find someone else DAUGHTER to play with, not Clifford Castleberry, Jr's, because if he had lived, he would have definitely not allowed me to accept the BS that I have. THAT is MY daddy issue...I had a father who showed me a vision of what a man is supposed to be and I allowed myself to stray from that. If you are NOT going to step up and be a MAN to me like I need you to be, don't bother.

I have reconciled my feelings about the tumultuous relationship with my mother that I rarely speak of out of respect for her. I have prayed to the heavens that she knows how much I love her and told her that I forgive her and hope she forgives me for the times I fell short. I've prayed that she is now at peace, that all things in the past are simply the past, and that I can stop obsessing and let go.

I have prayed to God to help me forgive myself for my many mistakes as a mother, especially since my daughter told me she forgives me. I still carry a lot of guilt, but this year, I will forgive myself and work even harder to ensure I give my child the best version of me she deserves from a mother.

I have asked God to impart even more compassion, grace, and understanding into me so that I don't judge others whose story I have no clue about but instead pray for them that they will receive whatever blessings, coverings, healings, or guidance that HE sees for them, i.e., decrease me and increase him in me. I have asked God to help me grow my channel in a way that will draw other sisters, especially to me, because they see the GOD in me yet understand that I am an imperfect human no less and that I'm just out here trying to live the best life that I can while I can. I pray to God to let me tell my life stories in a manner that will help others relate and freely open genuine and sincere dialogue that is freeing and healing in ways that I have no clue about.


I can FEEL God's favor, and 2025 IS beyond measure the YEAR of Change and Manifestation! I pray the same for ALL, and I mean it!

So yes, this is my NEW YEAR NEW ME POST! And it matters not what ANYONE else thinks about it. It's MY story to write and tell, not yours!


Happy New Year Sister Friends!

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A Letter to @MoPerspective in response to chopping and screwing my video with hopes of getting likes and subscribers.

Let me drop it here so you can get the SHINE you were seeking since after one month you only have 563 views.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bxyv6...

So yeah, Hey Girl HEEEEEEYYYY!


I wasn't going to address this because I understand that a girl gotta do what a girl gotta do, to try to get to where they are "trying" to go, using the BAMN (By Any Means Necessary) method, so hats off to you for your nasty work using my video to try to gain followers. Funny that you have close to 500 videos, to my 37, 1.27K subscribers to my 2.8K of which my FIRST video was published only three months ago. However, my FOLLOWERS have repeatedly brought your stitching of my video to my attention, so I figured I'd give you more of the attention you seek.

You see, when you are authentic and don't NEED to try to grow off the backs and tear down of others, people - gravitate to you, go hard for you, and want to protect you.....and you get blessings as well. Thankfully, I don't need to use OTHERS to grow my channel. I am not afraid of simply being ME; it works well for me.

You see, just based on your thumbnail, it speaks volumes of who YOU are as a person and WHY you aren't growing, and this video that you say was a beast to edit, at one month, only has 563 views, even after your having posted nearly 500 videos on this red app.

I liken you to Love and Hip Hop and The Real House Wives series, because you chopped and screwed my video in a manner that you FELT would be beneficial to you and get you LIKES and FOLLOWS, but I see that you fell short of your goal so baby girl....here is ONE more comment for the books, and I even gave you a full view and watched it to the end so hopefully it helps get your watch hours up! I am not sure if you have commercials in it yet and are monetized because I pay for the non-commerical versionYouTube, but hopefully, at nearly 500 videos, those 78, 200, 56 views you're getting on your 500 videos have added up to the 4000 watch hours you need since you, at some point, reached the 1000 subscribers - I think you're over by 270, which is great. Keep posting because those ones and twos do add up, if you are not already monetized. I was monetized in two months, so I expect my next check to drop on January 21-26. And to think I didn't have to downtalk or try to shame or degrade anyone to do it. It came sheerly from life conversations. As a matter of fact, my video that you used to get your 563 views is now sitting at 25K....keep pressing, and hopefully, you can get 20K more, and we can be twins!

Sweetheart, At 54 years old, I've had more than my share of experiences and I've grown from them. At the same time, I don't judge other women because at the end of the day, we all - well maybe not you, but most of us are simply trying to find love. However, when I said that I was NOT looking for a relationship, I wasn't and I still am not. If it happens, it happens, but for now I truly AM better than good, so please don't try to speak or think for me for your gain. I don't, as young people say CAP (that little emoji with the cap was cute - childlike for a grown woman, but cute no less, although my 29 year old daughter would never! She's too classy for that)

One thing I accepted when I started my page is that I would encounter people like yourself, so I was already mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and even VERBALLY prepared. I can go all day because I have the life and wisdom behind me to know that a person who has to tear another person down to build themselves up is lacking in ways where all I can do is PRAY for them to evolve. But if that doesn't happen, it's not for me to be concerned with.

So KUDOS to you Hon because you really did some NASTY work with my video. Here is your round of applause - your views. I even left a few comments, hoping they will help your algorithm.



Here's to a HAPPY NEW YEAR and doubling your watch hours in 2025!

Chloe Barksdale

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