Pink Girl Teaches | Nervous System & Healing

Welcome home.

Not to a place…

To yourself.

The woman who started this journey would hardly recognize the woman standing here today.

She no longer introduces herself by her trauma.

She no longer negotiates with what God told her to release.

She no longer waits at baggage claim hoping someone will return what heaven already replaced.

She knows who she is.

She knows whose she is.

She knows where she’s going.

That is what healing does.

It doesn’t erase your story.

It redeems it.

You didn’t travel all this way just to become a better version of who you were.

You traveled to become who God always intended you to be.

Whole.

Healed.

Grounded.

Disciplined.

Free.

This wasn’t a journey back to your old life.

It was a journey back to the woman God created before pain convinced you to become someone else.

So smile.

Take the picture.

Celebrate the progress.

Thank God for every closed door, every gate change, every season of turbulence, and every step of obedience that brought you here.

You made it.

Now don’t unpack what God told you to leave behind.

Don’t revisit gates He closed.

Don’t rebuild what He dismantled.

Don’t become a stranger to the woman you fought so hard to become.

🩷 Travel Advisory: Healing isn’t the destination.

Living as the healed version of yourself is.

Welcome home.

Govern yourself accordingly.
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Pink Girl Teaches | Nervous System & Healing

You made it.

Not because the journey was easy.

Not because there was no turbulence.

Not because you never questioned yourself.

You made it because you kept saying “yes” to God.

You left the baggage behind.

You surrendered the old identity.

You released what couldn’t go with you.

You trusted the reroute.

You boarded when your name was called.

You stayed seated through the turbulence.

And now…

You’ve arrived.

Here’s what I’ve learned…

Wholeness isn’t a place where life suddenly becomes perfect.

It’s the place where your peace is no longer dependent on your circumstances.

You stop chasing what God removed.

You stop mourning what no longer fits.

You stop introducing yourself by your wounds.

You stop living from survival.

You start walking in purpose.

This wasn’t just a journey to a new destination.

It was a journey to a new you.

Now hear me…

Don’t unpack the baggage God told you to leave behind.

Don’t return to gates He closed.

Don’t chase flights He never booked.

Keep walking.

There are still lives attached to your obedience.

🩷 Travel Advisory: Arrival isn’t the end of the journey. It’s the beginning of your assignment.

Welcome to wholeness.

Now go build what God brought you here to build.

Govern yourself accordingly.
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3 weeks ago | [YT] | 36

Pink Girl Teaches | Nervous System & Healing

You’ve left the baggage behind.

You’ve surrendered the old identity.

You’ve passed security.

You’ve trusted the gate change.

You’ve boarded the plane.

Now…

The seatbelt sign comes on.

The plane begins to shake.

And suddenly you start wondering if you heard God correctly.

But hear me carefully…

Turbulence is not proof you’re on the wrong flight.

It’s proof you’re in the air.

No pilot turns the plane around because of turbulence.

They stay the course.

Why?

Because they know what’s waiting on the other side of the storm.

So does God.

Don’t confuse discomfort with danger.

Don’t confuse pressure with punishment.

Don’t confuse resistance with rejection.

The enemy wants you to panic.

God is calling you to trust the Pilot.

Keep your seatbelt fastened.

Stay grounded in His Word.

Pray instead of panic.

Worship instead of worry.

Be still instead of becoming impulsive.

The shaking isn’t the destination.

It’s part of the journey.

🩷 Travel Advisory: Don’t make permanent decisions in temporary turbulence.

Your destination hasn’t changed.

God is still in control.

Govern yourself accordingly.
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1 month ago | [YT] | 39

Pink Girl Teaches | Nervous System & Healing

For years, I have shown up here and encouraged you to listen to your body, honor your capacity, rest without guilt, and refuse to abandon yourself in the name of keeping everything and everyone else going.

Now I have to practice what I teach.

Over the past several weeks, I have been navigating a significant and unexpected health situation that has changed my day-to-day life in ways I wasn’t prepared for. I am still searching for answers and determining what the road forward looks like.

So, for a season, I am stepping away from Pink Girl Teaches. And before I do, I need to pause and honor what these years have meant to me.

Look at what God allowed us to build.

From the REBUILD Conference to workshops and retreats, we created spaces where survivors could come together, learn, heal, worship, laugh, cry, and begin imagining life beyond narcissistic abuse.

I wrote books and created journals, resources, and the PGT Academy because I never wanted to simply tell people to heal. I wanted to put practical tools in their hands to help them do the work of rebuilding.

We gathered around microphones for podcasts and around the Word of God through When Queens Convene Bible Study. And then there was The Healing Lounge, a space created intentionally for community, connection, safety, and the conversations that sometimes could only happen among people who understood.

Through all of it, we talked about the things people often suffer through silently and the long, sometimes messy work of finding yourself again after survival.

But PGT became more than content, events, books, programs, or resources.

We became a community.

We built a safe place where women and some incredible gentlemen could finally exhale and realize, I am not crazy. I am not alone. Someone understands and some of the bonds formed through this community will, I believe, last a lifetime.

It has been one of the greatest honors of my life to serve you and walk alongside you.

I don’t take lightly that you trusted me with some of the most painful chapters of your stories. I don’t take lightly every testimony, every message, every hug, every person who traveled to sit in a room with us, every person who logged on from somewhere in the world, or every person who took something I taught and used it to lay another brick in their rebuilding.

Pink Girl Teaches has always been about Building Bridges to REBUILD Lives After Narcissistic Abuse and my goodness… we built.

Which is why I can step away for this season knowing that what we built does not disappear because I need to rest.

I don’t have a return date, and I am intentionally not giving myself one, I need the freedom to focus on my health, get the answers I need, and establish a new rhythm and yes, The Road Back to Me is still coming.

I will complete the book. The assignment to write it has not changed. The book will become available when it is ready, but I have decided to postpone the official launch and everything that would require me to publicly promote it until my health and capacity allow.

The irony of that is not lost on me. I am writing The Road Back to Me while having to find my own road back to myself in a way I never anticipated.

Maybe there are seasons when God allows us to teach from what we’ve survived, and maybe there are seasons when He asks us to become a student of the very things we’ve been teaching.

This is one of those seasons for me.

So I’m going to practice what I’ve taught, take care of Joy, and let God meet me here.

This isn’t goodbye. It’s see you later.

Because sometimes the Road Back to Me requires actually taking the road.

“A little one shall become a thousand, and a small one a strong nation. I, the LORD, will hasten it in its time.”
Isaiah 60:22 NKJV

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Pink Girl Teaches | Nervous System & Healing

You left the baggage behind.

You surrendered the old identity.

You made it through security.

You trusted the gate change.

Now…

Boarding has begun.

There comes a moment when preparation has to end and obedience has to begin.

You can spend your entire life praying for open doors while standing outside the very one God opened.

You can overthink yourself out of answered prayers.

You can talk yourself out of your assignment.

You can let fear convince you that you’re not ready.

But faith doesn’t wait until every question is answered.

Faith gets up when its name is called.

Some of you have been sitting at the gate long after your boarding group was announced.

Not because God hasn’t spoken…

Because fear has been louder.

Your seat has already been prepared.

Your next season isn’t waiting on another confirmation.

It’s waiting on your obedience.

Get up.

Pick up what God told you to carry.

Walk through the door He opened.

And don’t look back.

🩷 Travel Advisory: Don’t let hesitation cause you to miss what obedience has already made available.

Your seat is ready.

Your season is now.

Govern yourself accordingly.
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Pink Girl Teaches | Nervous System & Healing

You Don’t Have to Defend Yourself From Every Lie

One of the most painful parts of narcissistic abuse often comes after you finally decide to leave, establish boundaries, or stop participating in the dysfunction.

The story changes.

Suddenly, the person who harmed you becomes the victim, and you become the villain.

Details are twisted. Conversations are retold without context. Your reactions are discussed while what provoked them is conveniently omitted. People who never asked you what happened may form opinions about you based on a version of the story designed to protect someone else’s image.

And everything in you may want to correct the record.

But hear me:

You do not have to attend every trial where someone has appointed themselves judge, jury, and storyteller.

There are times when wisdom requires us to speak. There are lies that need to be addressed, especially when safety, children, employment, ministry, legal matters, or someone’s well-being is at stake.

But there are also times when God says, Be still.

“The LORD shall fight for you, and ye shall hold your peace.” - Exodus 14:14 KJV

A smear campaign depends heavily on your desperation to be understood.

It wants you explaining.
Defending.
Posting receipts.
Calling everybody.
Trying to convince people who have already decided which version they prefer.

And before you know it, although you escaped the relationship, that person is still controlling your nervous system from a distance.

Sometimes healing looks like refusing to participate.

David understood this.

Saul misrepresented him, pursued him, and treated him like an enemy despite David’s faithfulness. Yet David did not make destroying Saul his life’s assignment. He trusted God with his name.

And God knew exactly who David was.

That matters because vindication does not always mean everybody eventually apologizes and admits you were right.

Sometimes vindication is God preserving you while the lie collapses under the weight of truth.

Sometimes it is God giving you peace while they are still talking.

Sometimes it is God rebuilding your life so thoroughly that you no longer feel compelled to turn around and argue with people committed to misunderstanding you.

Scripture says:

“No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper; and every tongue that shall rise against thee in judgment thou shalt condemn.” - Isaiah 54:17 KJV

Notice that Scripture never promised the weapon wouldn’t form.

The tongue may rise.

The accusation may come.

The story may circulate.

But it does not get the final word.

God does.

So if someone is rewriting your story because they can no longer control your life, remember this:

You don’t need to launch a counter-campaign.

Keep healing.
Keep building.
Keep becoming.
Keep walking with God.
Tell the truth where truth needs to be told, and release the rest.

The people assigned to your next season do not need you to spend that season proving who you were in the last one.

God is your defender.

And when God handles your name, you don’t have to spend your life chasing every person who heard the lie.

Sometimes the most powerful response to a smear campaign is a life that kept moving forward anyway.

“But thou, O LORD, art a shield for me; my glory, and the lifter up of mine head.” Psalm 3:3 KJV

Let them talk.

You’ve got rebuilding to do. 🩷
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Pink Girl Teaches | Nervous System & Healing

You can leave the relationship and still live like you’re in it.

You can block the number.
Change the locks.
Go no contact.

And still wake up bracing for something that is no longer coming.

Because your body did not receive the memo that you are safe now.

For years, survival taught you to study faces, anticipate conflict, overexplain, keep everyone else comfortable, and prepare for what might happen next.

Then you got out.

But your nervous system kept doing the job it learned to do.

That is why healing after narcissistic abuse cannot only be about understanding what they did. Eventually, you have to understand what surviving it taught your body to do.

Some of what you have called your personality may actually be survival patterns that stayed long after the danger left.

Now you get to teach your body something new:

We are not there anymore.

Leaving was only the beginning.

Now begins the road back to you.

If you are ready to move beyond surviving and begin restoring safety, identity, and trust within yourself, stay close.

The Road Back to Me begins here.

Pink Girl Teaches
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Pink Girl Teaches | Nervous System & Healing

August has arrived, and perhaps the work before you now is not about escaping. Perhaps it is about learning how to live in the freedom you prayed for.

Leaving Egypt and getting Egypt out of your nervous system are two different journeys.

You can be free and still flinch. Safe and still scan the room. Loved and still expect abandonment. Resting and still feel guilty for doing nothing.

Freedom does not immediately erase what survival taught you.

For a long time, your body learned to anticipate danger, read the room, and prepare for what might happen next. Those responses helped you survive a place you no longer live in.

So when they appear again, do not assume you have gone backward.

Sometimes healing is recognizing an old survival response and realizing you no longer have to obey it.

Your body is learning what your spirit already knows:

We don’t live there anymore.

You already crossed the sea.

Now, learn the rhythm of freedom.

Welcome to August, Builder. 🩷
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Pink Girl Teaches | Nervous System & Healing

The story of Israel was never meant to end with their departure from Egypt.

Neither the Red Sea nor the wilderness marked the conclusion of their journey. Even the manna that greeted them each morning and the pillar that guided them through the night were not the destination.

They were provisions along the way, the true work was taking place within them.

For generations, slavery had shaped Israel’s understanding of life. It influenced the way they trusted, the way they responded to uncertainty, and the way they saw themselves. Though Egypt was behind them, its influence remained.

God was not merely leading His people into a new land, He was restoring their identity. Healing often follows the same path.

Many people believe recovery ends when the relationship ends, when the papers are signed, or when the abuse finally stops. Yet freedom begins long before the heart fully believes it.

Leaving the place of bondage is only the first step.

The deeper work is allowing God to untangle everything fear, trauma, and survival have woven into your identity.

Over time, almost quietly, something changes, you stop apologizing for taking up space. You no longer mistake chaos for love.

You discover that rest is not weakness, boundaries are not selfishness, and peace is no longer something to fear not because life has become easy but because your nervous system has begun to believe what your soul has known from the beginning:

You are safe.

Perhaps the greatest miracle of the Exodus was never that Israel entered the Promised Land.

It was that God transformed a people shaped by survival into a people who could finally live in freedom.

Perhaps that has been His invitation to you all along, not simply to leave Egypt but to become someone who no longer needs it.

The Road Back to Me: Restoring Safety to the Nervous System
Coming Fall 2026
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1 month ago | [YT] | 26

Pink Girl Teaches | Nervous System & Healing

For years, we have spoken about the emotional wounds left by narcissistic abuse. We have acknowledged the grief, the confusion, the shattered identity, and the long road back to safety. Those conversations matter. They always will.

But healing invites us to widen the conversation.

Trauma is not experienced by the heart alone. It is carried by the body as well.

Chronic stress has a way of settling into places we never expected. It can influence the nervous system, disrupt sleep, affect hormones, alter digestion, impact blood pressure, and researchers continue to explore how prolonged stress may influence immune function and long-term health.

This does not mean that trauma guarantees disease. It does mean that the body should not be ignored while the soul is being restored.

For too long, many survivors have become experts at extending compassion to everyone except themselves. We pray for others. We encourage others. We show up for others. Yet we neglect the very body that has faithfully carried us through every battle.

Healing asks something different.

👉🏾 Go to therapy.
👉🏾 See your doctor.
👉🏾 Keep your appointments.
👉🏾 Get the labs.
👉🏾 Rest without guilt.
👉🏾 Nourish your body.
👉🏾 Pray without ceasing.

These are not competing acts of faith. They are expressions of it. Scripture teaches us that our bodies are a trust from God. Caring for them is not fear. It is stewardship.

So if God has brought you into this season, trust that He will also walk with you through it and when your testimony is written, may it tell more than the story of a healed heart.

May it also tell the story of a woman or man who learned to care for the body that carried her through the storm.
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