Pink Girl Teaches | Nervous System & Healing

The enemy thought he could erase you by sending someone who made love feel unsafe.

He thought the lies would make you stop trusting your own mind. That the betrayal would close your heart. That after spending so long trying to survive, you would forget how to live.

Jesus said, “The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life” (John 10:10, KJV).

What happened may have changed how you love and whom you trust. You are allowed to take your time. You are allowed to protect your peace.

But you have not been erased. Your desire for love, trust, and life can grow again in the presence of the One who came to give you life.

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Pink Girl Teaches | Nervous System & Healing

Hey, family. How are you doing really?

Before we get into anything else, I want to check on you.

Maybe something finally worked out, and you’ve been waiting for someone to ask so you can tell them. Maybe this week has taken more out of you than you expected. Or maybe you don’t quite have the words yet.

You’re welcome here in all of it.

Drop an emoji that matches where you are today and if you want to tell us a little more, I’d love to hear it.

What are we celebrating? What’s been heavy? How can we pray with you?

You don’t have to wrap it up in “I’m blessed” before you share. We can thank God and still tell the truth about how we’re doing.

I’m glad you’re here. Let’s catch up. 💬

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Pink Girl Teaches | Nervous System & Healing

You keep replaying the conversation. The day you found out. The moments that suddenly look different now.

How did I miss it? Was any of it real? If I had asked one more question, would they have told me the truth?

You were making decisions with the information you had. They were making decisions with information they chose to hide. Their deception is not proof that you were foolish.

I know your mind wants to go back and solve every contradiction. It is trying to protect you from ever being blindsided again. But you do not need to uncover every lie before you are allowed to believe what you have already seen.

Jesus said we recognize people by their fruit (Matthew 7:16). Pay attention to the pattern before you: the words that changed, the promises that broke, the way truth was handled when it finally came into the light. Let that wisdom guide your decisions, even if they never give you an honest explanation.

When the questions return tonight, remember this: “The Lord is near to the brokenhearted” (Psalm 34:18). You can bring Him the questions you cannot answer. He will not shame you for asking how this happened.

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Pink Girl Teaches | Nervous System & Healing

I keep seeing content about “signs of a Christian narcissist.” My question is: Why are we calling persistent, unrepentant abuse Christian?

Let me ask you this: If you sit in your garage for 24 hours a day, seven days a week, would that make you a car?

Then why do we assume that sitting in church makes someone a Christian?

Someone can know church language, quote Scripture, hold a title, and still refuse to submit their behavior to the Christ they preach.

The standard is found in Christ.

And to be clear, I am addressing a pattern of abuse and refusal to repent. A clinical diagnosis alone does not tell us whether someone follows Christ.

Do they exemplify the fruit of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control? Read Galatians 5:22–23.

Look at the pattern of their life. What happens when their behavior is confronted?

Do they take responsibility, accept correction, and demonstrate change over time? Or do they blame, manipulate, retaliate, and use Scripture to silence the person they hurt?

Christians are not perfect. We need correction and repentance, too. But repentance is more than an apology. It involves turning away from the behavior—not repeatedly demanding forgiveness while continuing the harm.

Jesus said, “By their fruits you will know them.” Matthew 7:20.

You do not need access to someone’s heart to examine the fruit of their life. And you do not have to excuse abuse because the person committing it knows how to talk about God.

They know Scripture. Do they follow Christ?

Look at the fruit. There is your answer.

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Pink Girl Teaches | Nervous System & Healing

Some survivors turn to Jesus in a season when they can barely imagine being seen again. They come to Him carrying the questions, the exhaustion, and the pieces of themselves they are still trying to understand.

Over time, His light begins to show through their lives. Someone notices the way they listen without judgment. Someone finds courage in their honesty. Someone encounters the kindness of Christ because they were there.

That does not mean every survivor must speak or teach about narcissistic abuse. Your pain does not have to become your platform for your life to serve God’s kingdom.

The light He places in you can reach someone through the work you do, the care you give, the truth you speak, or the life you live. What happened to you matters and there is more to you than what happened.

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Pink Girl Teaches | Nervous System & Healing

After abuse, you may arrive at the altar with a heart that no longer knows whom to trust. You have spent so long measuring every word and watching for a change in someone’s mood that even a quiet room can feel unfamiliar.

There is safety with God for the heart that is tired of bracing. You can tell Him the truth without defending it. You can grieve without being hurried. You can sit in His presence long enough to hear your own thoughts again.

When you rise from that place, you do not have to return to every door that opened before. The safety you find with Him can shape the decisions you make outside that room: whose words you trust, which boundaries you keep, and where you choose to go next.

Your heart can rest at the altar and still leave with wisdom.

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Pink Girl Teaches | Nervous System & Healing

Some people will call you selfish the first time you stop giving them what they have always taken for granted.

They enjoyed your patience when it cost them nothing. They praised your generosity while expecting you to go without. Then, when you set a boundary, they called you changed.

Perhaps you have changed. You are beginning to notice what it costs you to keep everyone else comfortable.

You can be loving and still say no. You can be generous and still have limits. God did not ask you to disappear so others could flourish.

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Pink Girl Teaches | Nervous System & Healing

After years of having your reality questioned, wanting someone to believe you is human.

You may still want an apology. You may still wish the people who saw only your reaction understood what led to it. None of that makes you weak.

But your life does not have to stay on hold while you wait for someone else to acknowledge the truth. God saw what happened before you had the words to explain it.

You can receive care from people who are safe, trust what you know, and take your next step without their permission.

Your worth was never theirs to approve.

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Pink Girl Teaches | Nervous System & Healing

You can know someone was wrong for you and still grieve that they did not choose you.

You can thank God for the clarity and still feel the sting of rejection. You may be grieving the future you imagined, the promises you believed, and the version of that person you kept hoping would show up.

Please don’t let “say amen and move on” become another demand to silence your heart.

Discernment can tell you to leave. Grief may need more time to catch up. God can hold you through both.

Their inability to love you well is not a verdict on your worth.

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Pink Girl Teaches | Nervous System & Healing

There is something deeply broken about a world where the harmed person is so often the one required to survive the trauma, explain it, prove it, endure the questions, and keep speaking until somebody finally listens.

We ask survivors why they waited.
Why they froze.
Why they stayed quiet.

Maybe, the better question is: why have we built systems that make disclosure feel more dangerous than silence?

This is part of why I chose to heal out loud.

When I began speaking about what happened to me, people asked if I was embarrassed and why not. Some said they could never tell their story because of the shame, but I had already lived with the shame. I had already carried what silence was doing to me and barely survived it.

So I spoke, not because it was easy but because I was no longer willing to hide what someone else did to me that is why I will never ask a survivor, “Why didn’t you say something sooner?”

I know what it can cost to speak and I also know what it can cost not to.

“Open your mouth for the speechless.” Proverbs 31:8

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