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Have you tried EMDR? Please share your story here if you don't mind. Recommendations would also be greatly appreciated! I'd love your opinion before I sign up for it. #emdr #scapegoatabuse #narcissisticfamilyroles

7 months ago | [YT] | 6

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#spiritualwarrior #whyarescapegoatschosen #whydoscapegoatsoccur #narcissisticfamilyroles #dysfunctionalfamily

7 months ago | [YT] | 8

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In the words of Margaret Atwood, "The handmaid's tale is about the persistence of humanity in the face of dehumanisation."

If you've ever felt unseen, unheard, or objectified, I have a video for you. In this video I talk about how The Handmaid's Tale mirrors narcissistic family systems, corporate culture, relationship and friendship dynamics.

Our story is not only about survival, it's about transformation. We were assigned a role from the beginning. We learn to adapt in order to survive, but the time comes when we realise we have a choice. Do we remain as the Golden Child, Invisible Child, Enabler, Flying Monkey, or become a full blown Narcissist ourselves? Or do we choose to triumph over evil, as Scapegoats do?

Our triumph is not only in overthrowing a corrupt system but in proving that no system can erase our will to be free. See you on my channel, Road Least Travelled. Cheers, Su Li.

#scapegoat #narcissisticfamilysystem #thehandmaidstale #corruptregime #scapegoatrecovery #narcissisticabuse #Margaretatwood #narcissisticfamilies #scapegoatstrength

8 months ago | [YT] | 8

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The other day I had a slice of 7-E cake. It was a big celebration with the most luxurious item available out here in the boondocks, for a small achievement. That day marked my first 1k views on a video. I know it’s not much to most people, but to me it’s a big deal and I’d like to tell you why.

It means a cheap piece of cake can taste exquisite, not because of where it’s from or what it’s made of or how Instagramable it is.

Most of the day was spent at the doctor’s for almost 20 hornet stings on my head. I made the 12km drive without fainting. All the way I thought of my kids and why they are not ready to be orphaned.

The excruciating pain, karma giving me what I managed to avoid - the pain of childbirth - dampened (slightly) my joy as I saw the numbers climbing, the impressions, the views, the subs, the comments.

I had killed that life-long voice in my head ridiculing me that I’d never amount to anything, repeated by others who sensed my subconscious vibes for more of the same. Took a very long time but I finally did it. The voices became smaller, fainter, less coherent, to finally shrivel in weakness to my growing spirit.

How strange life is. The moment you truly, in your heart, stop needing validation, you get buckets full of it. From the most unexpected of places.

You can chant mantras of gratitude as much as the day is long. You can dream of riches as far as the moon is high. But nothing is as big as what lies within, waiting patiently to be acknowledged. To be loved the way your soul loves you so completely and fiercely.

When I first started my channel, my objective was that if I could help one person, even ONE person, I would count that as an achievement no matter what naysayers tell me. It still warms my heart every time someone tells me how grateful they are, how validated they feel, how much I make them feel they matter.

In spite of having no marketing strategy, even in this day and age, you can reach and touch people by just having the purity of intention, by just being yourself. The hardest work of all that brings the most ROI, is to be ourselves.

I didn’t know that my decades of branding, marketing and advertising experience had only one lesson to teach me - that purity of intention is really all that we need to know.

I want to reach and touch the millionth person and still feel they are the first. I want to monetize doing what I love, benefiting others at the same time. As a child this was always my dream. What I didn’t realise was to achieve that, we need to reach out to those that want what we have to give.

So many words. And all I wanted to say was how delicious a cheap piece of cake can be.

1 year ago | [YT] | 21

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1 year ago | [YT] | 4

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How to choose a great therapist for narcissistic abuse and scapegoating. Avoid being re-traumatized! #scapegoat #therapy #dysfunctionalfamilies

1 year ago (edited) | [YT] | 0

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As the scapegoat, do you have any hope in reconciling with your GC sibling?

1 year ago | [YT] | 1

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Would you rather be the Scapegoat or the Golden Child?

1 year ago | [YT] | 1

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Sometimes magical, sometimes illogical, sometimes withholding, but never unloving. Like a cookie crumb trail, divine messages, one crumb at a time. No promises for the future but ever loyal to each moment. One takes us to the next.

I remember this day. Utterly lost. Utterly devastated. A lifetime of deeply buried and profound sorrow surfaced all at once. Something told me to pick up the broom. Too exhausted, I did so without questioning this strange request. As I was sweeping the deck and sobbing, another "voice" told me to turn around. And this was what I saw. Time stopped. Everything stopped. For a few moments it was just me and You.

Then this appeared out of the blue and put into words what I was becoming, but never thought I'd ever achieve. If you are moved by this favourite poem of mine, then you too have more to celebrate than you think.

"The time will come when, with elation you will greet yourself arriving at your own door, in your own mirror and each will smile at the other's welcome, and say, sit here. Eat.

You will love again the stranger who was your self. Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart to itself, to the stranger who has loved you all your life, whom you ignored for another, who knows you by heart.

Take down the love letters from the bookshelf, the photographs, the desperate notes, peel your own image from the mirror.

Sit. Feast on your life."

- Derek Walcott

#derekwalcott #thepowerofnow #divineguidance #divinemessages #synchronicity

1 year ago (edited) | [YT] | 2

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When I first arrived in the wilderness I had no idea what I was doing. Only, that I was here to change my life. As a corporate professional chasing the same tired illusion, in the monotone of a crowded rat race, I knew my future was somewhere else. I didn't know where, I didn't know how.

Thrown into the midst of nature - sweet, soft and loving - I awakened to the beauty that had been waiting for me all my life. Patiently, quietly, as loyal as every dawn that ever blessed this earth. Here, I screamed out all my anger, squeezed out the last drop of tear, wiped my oily, soil sodden forehead on the sleeves of designer shirts that no longer mattered, and tasted the sweetness of the fruits of my labour.

The rambutans, mangosteens, and passion fruit, the sunrise, the clouds, the gentle breezes made visible by leaves and reeds, the sounds of birds fresh as the day is new, to the star spangled sky otherwise as dark as ink, cicadas and crickets mark the end of the day.

With love they all wait. With enormous patience they wait. And wait and wait, for us to see them, hear them, feel them. To awaken to the consciousness that we all share.

But nature is as harsh as it is beautiful. Unyielding yet endlessly forgiving, gentle yet violent. These are the polarities that show us who we are. Unlike the veneer on a plastic table, nature is wood with grain that tell a million stories. Which story is yours? Run your finger along it and you will feel the richness that binds us all.

This journey is not for the faint of heart, but for those that seek meaning deeper and broader than the one you knew yesterday. Awaken! I hope you too will be blessed with beauty every morning for the rest of your life. #TheRoadLeastTravelled #awakening #awakenyoursoul #healyourself

2 years ago (edited) | [YT] | 4