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Wishing you and your family a Merry Christmas. I appreciate you today, and every day.

With gratitude,
Ryan

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Read the article here 👉www.adhddude.com/blog/understanding-adhd-child-out…

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This is the video I sent to parents most frequently, because it's the most common problem I see in families of kids with ADHD. There are three separate Creating Daily Expectations courses, based on age. You can learn more about them at: adhddude.com.

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Many parents are trying to help their child and feel overwhelmed by the amount of conflicting information online.

Online conversations about diagnoses, labels, and identities are often led by vocal, identity-driven voices without enough context, leaving parents unsure what guidance to trust.

This post isn't about right or wrong.
It's about clarity.

A diagnosis helps guide evidence-informed treatment.
Labels provide comfort because they help people make meaning of traits.
Identities provide a sense of belonging and allyship.

They serve different roles to meet various needs.
When those roles get blurred, parents are left sorting through opinions instead of clear, skill-building guidance.

The focus of ADHD Dude is on skill-building strategies grounded in research, not opinions.
Skills are taught based on what helps kids function and realize how capable they are, regardless of diagnosis.

You don't have to figure this out alone.

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Chag Sameach to your family, from ours. Let us be reminded of the warmth and light that Hanukkah brings during our darkest times.

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It can be heartbreaking to watch your child struggle socially.
They want friends.
They don't understand why things keep going wrong.
And you're left trying to help without damaging their confidence or making them feel blamed.

Many parents were actively searching for help on this topic and couldn't find anything useful. Most advice focused on behavior, compliance, or surface-level social rules, without addressing the actual skill that was missing.

When kids with ADHD come across as bossy, controlling, or too much, the issue is often perspective-taking.
Not attitude.
Not intention.

Perspective-taking is a core social executive function skill. ADHD is an executive function developmental delay, which means this skill develops later and in an inconsistent manner. Many kids are not automatically tracking how they're coming across in the moment, even though they care deeply about belonging and connection.

This is one of the most misunderstood topics in the ADHD field. It's why I began creating content for ADDitude. Parents needed clarity around what was really happening and what actually helps kids grow socially.

It's also important to be honest.
Improving perspective-taking takes time, often years. ADHD is a condition of inconsistent performance, not inability. With your steady scaffolding, these skills can strengthen over time.

The sooner you start teaching these skills, the sooner your child can begin to understand that they are likable and capable of having meaningful friendships.

The Socially Smarter course is designed to help parents teach the core social executive function skills that can be challenging for kids with ADHD to develop and maintain friendships. The first three sections and all of the downloadable tools are fully dedicated to building perspective-taking in a way that kids can actually learn.

This is not about fixing your child.
It's about giving them the skills they need to succeed socially, starting now. Socially Smarter is part of the ADHD Dude membership.

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When a child continues to push, argue, or destroy things at home, emotional reactivity gives the behavior momentum.
When parents stop providing an audience, that momentum starts to break. The behavior may escalate briefly. Then it loses power. (This is why I say "things may need to get worse before they get better.")

Not giving attention to their negative behavior does not mean completely ignoring your child as if they're not there.
It means staying steady and not engaging with the behavior itself.

When you step into your parental authority, your child feels emotionally contained.
They know where the boundaries are.
And that clarity helps them meet expectations for how family members and the home are treated.

𝗙𝗼𝗿 𝗣𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗕𝗲𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗶𝗼𝗿 𝗧𝗿𝗮𝗶𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗱𝗮𝗶𝗹𝘆 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗲, 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲:
𝗖𝗮𝗽𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲 & 𝗖𝗼𝗻𝗳𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗻𝘁 for ages 4 to 7.
𝗦𝗰𝗮𝗳𝗳𝗼𝗹𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗕𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗕𝗲𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗶𝗼𝗿 for ages 8 to 17.
And the 𝗖𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗗𝗮𝗶𝗹𝘆 𝗘𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 courses for daily structure that you can stick with.

Start today at adhddude.com

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𝗕𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿
Behavior
Cooperation
Flexibility
Social Skills
Executive Functioning
𝗦𝘁𝗮𝗿𝘁𝘀 𝗧𝗼𝗱𝗮𝘆: www.adhddude.com

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Read the article here 👉
www.adhddude.com/blog/why-your-adhd-child-is-still…

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In part 2 of “Your Child Is Not Your Co-Parent,” we dig into why so much popular parenting advice conflicts with how ADHD brains actually work:
🔹 How heavy emotional validation and “talking it all out” can overstimulate ADHD kids
🔹 Why acting like an "armchair therapist" often backfires at home
🔹 Why negotiating everything raises kids’ anxiety
🔹 What the research says about leadership, predictability and behavior in ADHD
🔹 Why avoiding discomfort keeps kids stuck and less flexible
🔹 How to lead with calm authority without needing your child’s approval
This episode leans heavily into the resaerch, as did Part 1 and we think you'll find it to be an eye-opening episode.
🎧 Listen to part 2 of “Your Child Is Not Your Co-Parent” and please subscribe to ‪@TheADHDParentingPodcast‬

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