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Genuine question/comment





A person is in a terrible relationship with a narcissist . They develop all the trademark symptoms.



Then they leave the relationship, and get into a new one far sooner than they should, because they FEEL better, so they must be healed right?





They then repeat the symptoms of the narc abuse but with a good partner. The get angry easily, take many innocent comments as a threat, and generally act like a narc but in reality they are only defending their old wounds.





The good new partner says " she is a narc" and leaves, watches online videos and sees the whole list of matching behaviors and says YEP, she was a narc.





Then they get into a new relationship far sooner than they should, because they FEEL better, so they must be healed right?





rinse and repeat





Now one could say, don't get into the new relationship until you are healed. However, there is so much content out there that will affirm anyone's suspicion that their former partner was a narc, that once they say " oh he was a narc", they think they are healed, that he was the only problem, and the cycle continues, regardless of gender.



How we fix this is beyond me. I think one way would be if we created a personal boundary of not getting into a relationship with someone new for at least a year, and/or to not get into a relationship with someone new who has not been out of their relationship less than a year.



Thoughts?

1 year ago | [YT] | 3

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For those who do not follow me on SM or the hockey channel, just wanted to say that I have not abandoned this channel and will be back as soon as I can. Fluffy my 11 year old Saint Bernard is in his final days and I am caring for him 24/7 like hospice, so once he passes I will be back here creating. I keep trying to get another Story of Life podcast out but he is very vocal and I generally don't have enough time to record something without him interrupting. I will see you again soon.

1 year ago | [YT] | 10

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One of the reasons I started this channel was for men to be able to share their stories so that we know we are not alone. Now that we are at 300 subscribers and growing, I feel like we can add a little bit of that in. So a few times per week I will post here with a question for you men to share your personal experiences relative to the subject/story that I bring up that day. I will then collect them & when we have enough, your stories will be the subject of a video, anonymously of course. If you do not want me to share your story simply put " don't share" at the end. Here is today's question.

How many of you have experienced your wife/GF lying about you to others in order to make herself look like the victim? I will share one thing that happened to me.

Back in 2009/10 I was married and contracted Lyme disease, but we did not know what was wrong with me. I was constantly dizzy, slurring speech, could not drive, and faced almost constant migraines for just over 2 years. Due to these circumstances, sex rarely happened and when it did, I was not great at it, because of the migraine meds. I had brain scans because they thought I had MS but those proved negative. I eventually put myself on a strict anti-candida diet for 18 months and the problems eventually resolved except occasional migraines like most of us.

My ex and I ran a business together so we had shared computers, email accounts ect. Long story short, I found out that she had been complaining to a female friend about the lack of sex. Not surprising. I was however surprised to see that the reason she gave was that I was addicted to porn, and not my health issues. At that point I probably had not watched porn in at least 10 years as it was not part of our sex life, had no reason nor desire to, she just completely made it up in order to get support from her friend. Her friends advice of course was to leave me, big shocker. That was the moment I realized my wife of 16 years at that point and mother of my 3 children, would lie about me in terrible ways if it bought her even the smallest amount of sympathy. It was a hard lesson to learn, and while we stayed together for the kids until 2017, my heart was done with her after reading that email.

Tell me your similar stories if you got em.

1 year ago | [YT] | 10

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We all know someone like ‪@barbarahartlen4052‬ don't we lol? This was her comment after watching one of my shorts that featured Fluffy at the river with me, because he has a long /leash rope attached so I can keep him safe. Don't be like Barbara.

1 year ago (edited) | [YT] | 13

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Just passed 100 subscribers this morning and wanted to take a second to thank you all! I hope to continue to increase the content on this channel to eventual daily videos, with coaching live streams coming soon as well. If there are any creators who produce content that you would like me to review please let me know. See you tomorrow with another episode of Confessions of a Male Massage Therapist.

1 year ago | [YT] | 9

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Hey everyone, just a heads up that I have not forgotten this channel lol! Got a little behind with helping Kyle prep for his trip. I will be back Monday with more videos....Funny thing happened that I can share as a reminder to us all...

So for 2 months now, I have been stressed about not getting to the gym. We have a brand new YMCA here in town that is spectacular and I love going. Hard part is timing. My mornings involve an hour with the dogs at the river, an hour with Stu and the podcast usually takes 2 hours from start to finish. So by the time I am done, it's 1-2pm and I still gotta do pack & ship and prepare for the stream that night. Point is, by the time I am done I have been on my feet or working for 8 hours and am not really motivated to get to the gym.

Every day, racking my brain...How will I fit this in? Should I commit to getting up earlier? Cut out the 45 minutes of coffee time with Karan in the morning which is usually all we get until late in the evening? Its complicated by the fact that NO way in hell is Kyle getting up at 5 with me to hit the gym, which would be my preference.

Round and round I have gone for two months. I have dumbbells that I use on the streams so my arms are staying in shape. My legs are solid from walking in the water at the river 3-4 times a week. But upper body, especially chest, is a struggle for me....I went over it time and time again....drove myself nuts...A couple times at night I committed to getting up early, but when it is 5am and 25 degrees outside, and I have a perfectly good warm naked body next to me, yeah, I ain't moving!

Then, on Tuesday, to my shock, I actually remembered that I have been beating myself up for nothing. I just out of nowhere remembered that I have a bench with 200lbs sitting on the porch just waiting to be used. I had bought it before the YMCA was built. I was flabbergasted that I had spent MONTHS trying to figure this one thing out simply because I had forgotten something so simple. Honestly am still hitting myself upside the head because of it.

The point is, STRESS will make you forget things more than anything else ever will. It is one good reason why talking with your partner/friends is smart when you seem to be stuck somehow. Odds are had I talked to Karan about my frustration, she would have just said "why don't you use the bench like you used to do before the YMCA was there"

Such a DUH moment lol...

And oh yeah, my titties HURT! But it's a good hurt lol

2 years ago | [YT] | 4

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Hey guys, got a question for ya. What is the longest amount of time that you have worked on something and then had to admit it was never going to happen and had to quit? I pride myself on never quitting but in the last few years I have been faced with situations where I either had to quit something, or make massive changes to my life that I was unprepared to make. I finally gave up after about 3.5 years of hardcore daily trying to make this thing happen. Curious what you all think? Do you feel you should never, ever give up under any circumstances, or do you feel that some things you just have to let go? The trick to not being a quitter I suppose is to know when to quit maybe?

2 years ago | [YT] | 2

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Firstly I want to thank everyone who has subscribed so far! Now my original idea was daily content and I am still going to strive for that, however....I have learned that I will need to batch my videos , filming them 3-4 at a time and then schedule the releases as opposed to trying to record every day. With the schedule I keep for ‪@flyingfluffyhockey‬ I cannot guarantee myself that I will be free to record every afternoon. So I will be back at it tomorrow. Thus far it seems the dating videos are much more popular than the actual " tips" videos but I will continue producing both and then see how it goes. My hope is to have 100 subscribers by the end of March and then start the weekly support live streams. One tip I can give you here, especially for those who are self employed.....FORCE yourself to take down time. When you work for yourself, you are never done, so waiting to be done before taking a break is a quick and easy way to burnout. One of the videos I will be producing tomorrow is about how to "repurpose" your time for better productivity. Stay tuned! Thanks again for all the support!

2 years ago | [YT] | 2