FOLASHADE ORINGO

got married at 29, and my husband was 37 in the journey of this we have three Children.

Our marriage is 21 years now. For the past four years, he has not been taking care of me or the children.

He even told us that we are not his family, he said his relatives are his family; he no longer comes home, and he is living separately, focusing on his relatives while we are left on our own. He has even told people that he has another wife and children, and he is now talking about divorce.

I have prayed for years and tried to be patient, but I am emotionally and physically tired. I feel like I have been living as a single mother, carrying all the responsibilities alone. At this point, I am surrendering everything to God's will, but I also need practical advice.

I need guidance on what to do next. Should I continue waiting, or should I begin to consider rebuilding my life? If remarriage is an option in the future, how should I go about it wisely?
Please, I sincerely need your honest advice.

God bless you, Ma.

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2 days ago | [YT] | 5

FOLASHADE ORINGO

Only this moment matters.
Life is a walk; they promise there is a prize for it. We walked and walked, but there was nothing to hold onto. After every achievement, they show us another ahead. They keep moving the goal post.
I come to know something profound. Only this moment here matters—my peace, joy, and happiness.

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FOLASHADE ORINGO

Don't let them stop your shine. They will throw shades to dim your light.
Don't give up. It's your season and your time. Don't look back, I am talking about you.❤️

2 days ago | [YT] | 2

FOLASHADE ORINGO

Men are tired.

Tired of meeting a woman who is “cool with everything” while dating…
Only for her to suddenly discover standards, boundaries, and expectations after marriage.

Before marriage:
“She’s understanding.”
After marriage:
“She has changed.”

No, she didn’t change. She was pretending.

Many women hide their real standards because they’re scared it will chase men away. So they lower the bar, act agreeable, and play the “easygoing” role just to secure a ring.

Then after marriage, the real list comes out.

And when men complain, society says:
“She’s growing.”
But when men say she changed, they’re called insecure.

This is why many men feel trapped in marriages they didn’t sign up for.

You cannot build a life with someone who auditioned for the role instead of being honest from day one.

Any relationship where a woman has to pretend to be happy just to keep a man is a ticking time bomb for that man.

Your standards are your filter — but if you hide the filter to catch a man, don’t blame him when he feels deceived later.

Men don’t hate “standards.”
Men hate surprises.

Be real from the start, or be ready for resentment, regret, and eventually divorce.

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4 days ago | [YT] | 3

FOLASHADE ORINGO

In marriage, always seek Bible-based methods to show the Lord the love you both have for each other, and do not focus on the pain.

Also learn how Men get damaged by remarks, disrespect, rejection, lack of touch, and lack of interest both emotional and physical.

Many women want Men to do all sorts of things and then women turn around to gaslight them and give them silent treatment.

When Men want accountability and responsibility things get turned around on them and over time they close down, drowning in pain, and can even start drinking to block the hurt...

while the longing for connection, healing, love and to have a haven of peace with their wife/partner keeps on dying.

You lose a good man when he starts saying he is busy for a long time because you guys can not sit together to talk without getting into arguments or fights.

Once he lets go he won't come back again. Seek God, please do, even if you don't believe the gospel.

The Bible told us in Jesus's own words that anything is possible with God.

Save the marriage and your family.

The Kids need their dad as a leader (let him also lead you), teacher, and priest.

Learn to communicate at each other's level and learn each other's love languages.

Marriage can be restored, you and your partner can heal from a wounded heart... It's possible.

❤️&💡
F.O

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FOLASHADE ORINGO

I'm a 36-year-old lady who got pregnant last year with my supposed boyfriend and when I told him he insisted I abort it and even sent money for the abortion but I refused to do so. I'm okay and can take care of the child but I really do not want to go through it alone as I'm an orphan.

After so much back and forth with the guy and his insistence on the abortion, I agreed and went for a D&C session but they couldn't even find where the foetus was let alone remove it.

Later a big sister who's from my village whom I have not spoken with for months out of nowhere called me that if I try to abort the baby, I'll die and I was having strange dreams about it too.

So I left it and I informed the guy that this was the situation on the ground and I can no longer go through with this abortion.

This guy immediately stopped talking to me and blocked me everywhere after claiming that he was not ready to be a father as nursing a child needs consistency and he can't afford that.

Truly he's not financially okay and during our time together I ran most of our expenses. That was how I had to take full responsibility for the pregnancy till I put to bed 1st of January this year.

The actual problem now is, I have one of my sister’s male friends that I know very well, who took my number from her with the intention of checking up on me as I was in a delicate position according to him and I needed someone to always check up on me.

This guy eventually called me and kept checking in on me for a whole week around December last year before opening up to me that he had loved me for 2 years that he doesn't mind assuming the position of my baby's dad, and that we should just keep it to ourselves and also marry me.

I asked him if he was sure of that and he said he had thought about it hard and that's what he wanted but I'll later give birth to his own child for him. I was very close to delivering then so I told them that we should see how it goes as I can't think straight at the moment due to the money I needed to raise for delivery as I just paid for an apartment around October last year.

Fast forward to this year, the guy was with me all through the labour period of 31st December till I gave birth around 8am on the 1st.

He paid 90 percent of the hospital bill and still did naming for my baby girl. I was so grateful and was willing to give the relationship a trial and watch him during my maternity leave period that was when I started noticing so many lapses.

He's always coming to check on me and the baby oozing an alcoholic smell every time, immediately he started telling everyone who cares to hear that his wife is pregnant and had just delivered even to his parents and family.

I got scared as it was a bit rushed. I've always been reserved with how I feel about him since the beginning, I increased the coldness as he was rushing things.

Fast forward to now I'm going through an emotional breakdown at the moment. There's this feeling of staying away from everyone and an inability to sleep which is draining me. And it's affecting the relationship between us.

Fola, I am so confused. I don’t know what to do.

6 days ago | [YT] | 5

FOLASHADE ORINGO

have been married for 9 years now no kids. We are medically fine, but spiritually we did a lot. I am depressed and I also have a friend I do talk to and last year we mistakenly got drunk she fell pregnant for me.

She blocked me immediately and aborted the pregnancy, her reason is that, she is the first child and her father is a pastor and that's her reason for aborting it. However, she taught me that I can't perform well and we did it once she got pregnant, she showed me evidence that she was pregnant and aborted it.

Ma, I know having a kid outside my marriage is wrong, but Ori omo lo pe omo wa ye, we haven't try IVF bcos I don't have the money, I work with government and my salary is not enough to take the loan, but if I can see any mature girl that is financially stable that want to marry or have kids u can link us together but I will do my part as a man not that I wish to married 2nd wife but sometimes life gives us what we don't want and depression is higher daily, am a cool and handsome person but i have to take bold steps, or if I see someone that can help us with IVF I will be glad, Ma.

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FOLASHADE ORINGO

Attention bloggers: please cease copying the stories featured on this page.

These stories are the personal property of individuals who do not wish to have their experiences shared publicly without permission.

This is a sincere appeal to respect their privacy and
intellectual property.

Thank you for your understanding,
and may you be blessed.

1 week ago | [YT] | 1

FOLASHADE ORINGO

Good morning, Fola.
I trust that you and your family are doing well.

I recently came across a post on your page concerning a man who mentioned that he could not afford counseling, while his wife was expressing concerns about intimacy in their marriage.

I am unsure whether the post was related to my husband, as he tends to be very private and uses different names on social media.

However, I find myself in a very similar situation in my own marriage.

Since the beginning of our marriage, we have struggled with certain issues, particularly concerning intimacy and communication. I have made several attempts to seek help by reaching out to both his family and mine, as well as confiding in some pastors.

Unfortunately, despite these efforts, there has been little to no improvement.

At this point, I feel emotionally exhausted. I am not tired of my marriage, but I am deeply weary from the ongoing challenges and the lack of resolution. I strongly believe that we need professional counseling to help us navigate these difficulties and rebuild our relationship.

I would sincerely appreciate your guidance on how we can begin the counseling process.

Any advice or direction you can provide would mean a great deal to me.

Thank you very much for your time and consideration.

God bless you for all you do, Ma.

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FOLASHADE ORINGO

Fola, I kindly request your attention to a matter. I noticed my story has been posted on another Instagram page.

Could you please clarify whether you are sharing stories with others, or explain how they might have access to private documents?

I entrusted the story to you, and I was not aware that it would be accessible to third parties. I apologize if my tone appears abrupt.

I would appreciate your prompt assistance in addressing this issue.

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