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"Without abiding commitments and vows, there are arrangements but no marriages, child care but no families, associations but no friendships, housing developments but no communities, a present but no memory of the past or hope for the future, a collection of experiences but no spirit or soul.”

- Sam Keen

(To Love and Be Loved)


The reason so many men struggle with commitment—either fearing it or being unable to stay in it, moving between the buzz they get from each new fleeting experience—is not so much a problem in the Lover part of their psyche (though it is that too) but an underdevelopment of the Warrior part of them.



It also points to the man of puer aeternus psychology, unwilling to limit the potentialities in life open to him, through a deep psychological avoidance of growing up and deciding his own path and what he wants to bind himself to.



➞ Inner Workout: Discover your loyalty



Engaging in the practice of finding out who and what you're loyal to can best develop the boundary formation ability of your Warrior energy. Essential for healthy relationships that last. This practice helps you:



➞ define and assert your personal space
➞ concretise your values and beliefs
➞ ensure more respect for yourself and from others


You take a risk with your limited energy when you decide who and what you will continue to care for and protect through thick and thin.



But without loyalty, you have no real children, friends, or mates. You become a mercenary. So you see this is a Warrior development concern, not a Lover one.

By exploring and identifying the people and things you're loyal to, you establish non-negotiable terms and boundaries.



You also hopefully don't become the man who only realizes what deserved his love and loyalty after it has been lost.



Watch Dr. Robert Moore explain how true committed relationships really hinge on the Warrior energy within a man here: youtube.com/shorts/G5PFxGMmL70

In strength, endurance, and wisdom,

Maelduin

PS: Loyalty is just another word for dedication. Every man, every age should be dedicated to taking care of his physical fitness. Commit to yours with this: masculinetest.com/home/warrior-energy-free-workout…

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If you’re not accessing the energy of the King within you and you’re a father - you risk leaving an awful legacy behind for your children. On the other hand, if you take responsibility for the welfare of your family, then your legacy may be the admirable words your children’s children speak of you after you’re gone. That’s a simple but achievable legacy for most men.

🡒 Inner workout: Leave a legacy
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To help you work out what kind of legacy you would like to leave behind, so you can start living it today, try this practice:

• Ask yourself who are the extraordinary men you admire from history?
• And of contemporary men (culturally or who you know personally), who do you admire today?

Sit down with a pen and list your heroes and inspirational men together with a virtue or aspect of their character that strikes you the strongest.

Use these qualities as waypoints in navigating your own life path. This will help you develop into the best man you can be and frame how people will remember you.

If you want to leave something more meaningful behind, choose one practical way to impact lives beyond your immediate circle:

• mentorship
• philanthropy
• creative works

Pick the one that calls to you and commit.

This is where you step fully into the King’s energy. You take full ownership of your actions and their ripple effects. You become accountable for how your influence shapes the people around you. You make sure that whatever direction you set actually serves the future, not just your ego.

This creates impact that outlasts you. Your community feels it. The men who come after you feel it. That’s legacy.

Watch this short conversation about what it means to leave a legacy (Jim passed away a few weeks after this was recorded, which makes it quite poignant). >>> https://youtu.be/ndTO7fkfSNk?si=yyj3W...

In strength, endurance, and wisdom,
- Maelduin, founder of EmpowerMen

PS: I’ve just remembered about the time a kid asked Mike Tyson about the legacy he wants to leave… is this the response of a wounded fighter or a wise philosopher? >>> youtube.com/shorts/UNVbIEhDwC...

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2 weeks ago | [YT] | 19

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The shadow side of the Magician is driving modern culture, through the technology we are all connected to. And it’s driving us mad. Our minds are completely overwhelmed with information from the TV, social media, and the phone glued to our hand. It’s causing us to mentally burn out and even break down.

➞ Inner Workout: Relax your mind

One way to protect yourself from the draining manipulation and always-on culture we find ourselves in is to regularly make space to meditate for calmness and transformation.

Make it a daily habit to find 30 minutes where you can recharge your drained battery. Not your phone - but yourself. All you need to do is find a time where your energy levels have dropped, or grab a moment before you’re about to start a new task in the afternoon and engage in a restorative, relaxation practice such as:

➞ a guided meditation
➞ mindful journaling
➞ breathing exercise
➞ non-sleep deep rest

Mindfulness is a key aspect of your Magician within and by engaging it daily, you'll be transforming your psyche from one of clouded thinking to one of charged clarity.

A member of our Sovereign Man community recommended a very effective YouTube video for achieving rapid deep nervous system relaxation called non-sleep deep rest (NSDR). It’s a practice I now swear by to relax and recharge my mind, and you can use it to reset your calm and focus by listening to it here ➞ https://youtu.be/pL02HRFk2vo?si=BDGI3...

In strength, endurance, and wisdom,
- Maelduin, founder of EmpowerMen

PS: Dr. Robert Moore warned of a dark side to excessive meditation which leads to a Magician inflation when discussing Ken Wilber’s work here ➞ https://youtu.be/L189hYej_1M

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"The individual doesn't really realise they're inflated. See, that's what we don't have so sufficient understanding of. That is, we're not empathic enough with ourselves or other people about these matters because we usually think that when somebody is coming on in an arrogant way that they know it, that they know they're being arrogant, and they're just choosing to rub our face in it and their arrogance. But that's really not the case."

Listen to the full lecture here: https://youtu.be/BAw9DVdQS30

3 weeks ago | [YT] | 23

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You started life being told to be a good boy and make your mother happy. Now you ask your woman "did you come?" If you need to ask whether she reached orgasm, you're displaying a childhood need to be told you're a good boy.

This is obviously a passion killer for both parties.

Inner Workout: Discover your Lover’s needs

First understand what your Lover within needs in terms of intimacy and erotic sensuality—only then can you satisfy your lover's needs and desires. Reflect on what turns you on and it becomes easier to turn her on.

Break away from your infantile complex when it comes to relationships with women, especially sexually. When sex is framed as performance instead of intimate experience, neither person will be fully satisfied. It’s this performance-over-intimacy mindset that makes the likes of Bonnie Blue and OnlyFans antithetical to mature masculinity.

To develop intimacy within your Lover energy, have an open, honest talk about sex with your woman. Express your thoughts, feelings, and needs clearly and respectfully to build:

trust
emotional intimacy
and mutual understanding

This creates a solid foundation for more Lover energy between you both, allowing erotic sensuality to fully enter the bedroom where Warrior energy may have been occupying it through conquest and performance.

Dr. Robert Moore used to say accessing more Lover energy is hard for men. Watch him explain why and what you can do about it here: https://youtu.be/MyK70576_3k

In strength, endurance, and wisdom,
- Maelduin, founder of EmpowerMen

PS: I had this tune stuck in my head the whole time I was writing this: 🎵 “I’m talkin’ ‘bout my lover…” https://youtu.be/a0jxbliRYg0?si=M6g9b...

3 weeks ago | [YT] | 23

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Robert Moore on initiations into the Army: "There are a lot of ritual processes that you do, and one of them is you make them do push-ups until they, you know, can't see. Well, it's not just ritual humiliation. Though it is that. It is the capacity to stand pain. You know that little shibboleth that you get in weightlifting rooms? No pain, no gain. That's the motto of the archetype of the warrior.

No pain, no gain. And if you think about this in the context of your creative work, it is true there. No pain, no book."

Listen to the full talk by Dr. Robert Moore: https://youtu.be/MZh_16DbglE

1 month ago | [YT] | 12

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Only a mature masculine man - not the feminine mother - can provide a boy’s fragile mind with the nourishing it needs to fully develop the warrior impulse within. But with so many boys raised by single mothers, absent or fucked-up fathers, many men have grown up without a positive role model for their warrior within.

If this is you, and you struggle with accessing your own aggression, or you repress it because you view it as something bad, this is an area you need to look at.

> Inner Workout: Find a warrior to admire

Warrior energy can be viewed in men not just who have the ability to fight, but who possess mental fortitude too. Men who have been really plugged into this energy have been lauded as heroes throughout history. Their lives are documented in detail. Your task is to:

Find a man popular in culture, present or past, and delve into their story.
Read a book about them, an autobiography, or watch a documentary about their life.

For example, you could pick Muhammad Ali and choose to watch the recent HBO docuseries on him, “What's My Name: Muhammad Ali”. Following that, do the following:

Reflect on all the warrior attributes he displayed that you found positive.
Find a quote or an image of him that inspires that warrior energy in you.
Place it somewhere you’ll cast your eyes on it daily - a notice board, the fridge door, your phone screensaver.

Purpose of this practice: The goal is to integrate the qualities you lack into your psyche. The men who display these qualities are often far from perfect. We all are. It’s the admiration of demonstrated traits such as strength, fortitude, and courage that we are looking for.

Want to see some examples of warrior quotes I collect? Check out these screensavers I made for myself: masculinetest.com/home/warrior-quotes-screensavers…

In strength, endurance, and wisdom,
- Maelduin, founder of EmpowerMen

PS: Listen to Dr. Robert Moore outline more ways you can get into your Warrior energy here: https://youtu.be/gjOyyfPyD_o?si=-mXlk...

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It’s been documented that some tribal cultures would initiate the boys of the tribe into manhood through a terrifying ordeal that literally sees the boys kidnapped from their mothers in the middle of the night. On completion of the initiation and a return to the village, their time under their mothers is over, and they are looked upon as men by everybody.

Many men today stay under the care of the risk-averse tendencies of the mother.

> Inner Workout: Break away from your mother

Some red flags you are still psychologically on your mother’s teet are if you make big decisions based on whether they will please her or not, if you rely on her for shelter, or your financial wellbeing. Determine if you are and do these things:

• Find time for self-reflection - what are you relying on your mother for still?

• Embrace solitude to cultivate self-reliance - this helps develop confidence in your own abilities and decision making.

• Take personal responsibility for your own actions and decisions.

• Prioritize your own goals over the expectations or desires of your mother.

By doing these practices, you’ll be developing the areas of personal responsibility and power within the King quadrant of your psyche.

What this boils down to is personal sovereignty. Want to know how you can become a sovereign man? We’ve got a plan to help you here: masculinetest.com/home/sovereign-man-a-shadow-work…

In strength, endurance, and wisdom,
- Maelduin, founder of EmpowerMen

PS: If psychological sovereignty sounds a bit vague, watch this youtube.com/shorts/O3EHdkHyG7...

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