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"The individual doesn't really realise they're inflated. See, that's what we don't have so sufficient understanding of. That is, we're not empathic enough with ourselves or other people about these matters because we usually think that when somebody is coming on in an arrogant way that they know it, that they know they're being arrogant, and they're just choosing to rub our face in it and their arrogance. But that's really not the case."

Listen to the full lecture here: https://youtu.be/BAw9DVdQS30

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You started life being told to be a good boy and make your mother happy. Now you ask your woman "did you come?" If you need to ask whether she reached orgasm, you're displaying a childhood need to be told you're a good boy.

This is obviously a passion killer for both parties.

Inner Workout: Discover your Lover’s needs

First understand what your Lover within needs in terms of intimacy and erotic sensuality—only then can you satisfy your lover's needs and desires. Reflect on what turns you on and it becomes easier to turn her on.

Break away from your infantile complex when it comes to relationships with women, especially sexually. When sex is framed as performance instead of intimate experience, neither person will be fully satisfied. It’s this performance-over-intimacy mindset that makes the likes of Bonnie Blue and OnlyFans antithetical to mature masculinity.

To develop intimacy within your Lover energy, have an open, honest talk about sex with your woman. Express your thoughts, feelings, and needs clearly and respectfully to build:

trust
emotional intimacy
and mutual understanding

This creates a solid foundation for more Lover energy between you both, allowing erotic sensuality to fully enter the bedroom where Warrior energy may have been occupying it through conquest and performance.

Dr. Robert Moore used to say accessing more Lover energy is hard for men. Watch him explain why and what you can do about it here: https://youtu.be/MyK70576_3k

In strength, endurance, and wisdom,
- Maelduin, founder of EmpowerMen

PS: I had this tune stuck in my head the whole time I was writing this: 🎵 “I’m talkin’ ‘bout my lover…” https://youtu.be/a0jxbliRYg0?si=M6g9b...

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Robert Moore on initiations into the Army: "There are a lot of ritual processes that you do, and one of them is you make them do push-ups until they, you know, can't see. Well, it's not just ritual humiliation. Though it is that. It is the capacity to stand pain. You know that little shibboleth that you get in weightlifting rooms? No pain, no gain. That's the motto of the archetype of the warrior.

No pain, no gain. And if you think about this in the context of your creative work, it is true there. No pain, no book."

Listen to the full talk by Dr. Robert Moore: https://youtu.be/MZh_16DbglE

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Only a mature masculine man - not the feminine mother - can provide a boy’s fragile mind with the nourishing it needs to fully develop the warrior impulse within. But with so many boys raised by single mothers, absent or fucked-up fathers, many men have grown up without a positive role model for their warrior within.

If this is you, and you struggle with accessing your own aggression, or you repress it because you view it as something bad, this is an area you need to look at.

> Inner Workout: Find a warrior to admire

Warrior energy can be viewed in men not just who have the ability to fight, but who possess mental fortitude too. Men who have been really plugged into this energy have been lauded as heroes throughout history. Their lives are documented in detail. Your task is to:

Find a man popular in culture, present or past, and delve into their story.
Read a book about them, an autobiography, or watch a documentary about their life.

For example, you could pick Muhammad Ali and choose to watch the recent HBO docuseries on him, “What's My Name: Muhammad Ali”. Following that, do the following:

Reflect on all the warrior attributes he displayed that you found positive.
Find a quote or an image of him that inspires that warrior energy in you.
Place it somewhere you’ll cast your eyes on it daily - a notice board, the fridge door, your phone screensaver.

Purpose of this practice: The goal is to integrate the qualities you lack into your psyche. The men who display these qualities are often far from perfect. We all are. It’s the admiration of demonstrated traits such as strength, fortitude, and courage that we are looking for.

Want to see some examples of warrior quotes I collect? Check out these screensavers I made for myself: masculinetest.com/home/warrior-quotes-screensavers…

In strength, endurance, and wisdom,
- Maelduin, founder of EmpowerMen

PS: Listen to Dr. Robert Moore outline more ways you can get into your Warrior energy here: https://youtu.be/gjOyyfPyD_o?si=-mXlk...

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It’s been documented that some tribal cultures would initiate the boys of the tribe into manhood through a terrifying ordeal that literally sees the boys kidnapped from their mothers in the middle of the night. On completion of the initiation and a return to the village, their time under their mothers is over, and they are looked upon as men by everybody.

Many men today stay under the care of the risk-averse tendencies of the mother.

> Inner Workout: Break away from your mother

Some red flags you are still psychologically on your mother’s teet are if you make big decisions based on whether they will please her or not, if you rely on her for shelter, or your financial wellbeing. Determine if you are and do these things:

• Find time for self-reflection - what are you relying on your mother for still?

• Embrace solitude to cultivate self-reliance - this helps develop confidence in your own abilities and decision making.

• Take personal responsibility for your own actions and decisions.

• Prioritize your own goals over the expectations or desires of your mother.

By doing these practices, you’ll be developing the areas of personal responsibility and power within the King quadrant of your psyche.

What this boils down to is personal sovereignty. Want to know how you can become a sovereign man? We’ve got a plan to help you here: masculinetest.com/home/sovereign-man-a-shadow-work…

In strength, endurance, and wisdom,
- Maelduin, founder of EmpowerMen

PS: If psychological sovereignty sounds a bit vague, watch this youtube.com/shorts/O3EHdkHyG7...

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You've got to harness your aggression, not repress it.

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I read the attached quote in a book called Ego and Archetype by Edward Edinger. To which he added “it is the willing endurance of the opposites within oneself, the acceptance of one’s shadow, rather than indulging in the cheap way out by projecting it onto others, which brings transformation.”

To physically develop your body, you have to train your muscles. You make them suffer by lifting heavy weights that literally tears them apart. This, in time, makes them stronger.

And so it is with the mind. You can develop the muscles of your masculine psyche (King, Warrior, Magician, Lover) with an “inner workout”. That’s the aim of this series of posts called the Soul Gym - quick tips to apply masculine depth psychology into your life. Helping you move from theory to taking action with your personal development as a form of fitness.

The first inner workout tip has to be this.

> Inner Workout: Ask these mythic questions

If you’re feeling like you’ve lost your way, think of yourself as a pilgrim embarked on a hero’s journey. You’ll need a roadmap to get to your destination. Ask yourself these five questions first and the answers will lead you towards becoming the man you’re supposed to be:

What do I really want?
What brings me joy?
Who am I when I dream?
Why do I feel the way I do?
What do I fear?

Sit with each of these questions this week. Write down what comes forth in your mind and you’ll have the beginnings of a vision for your life. You’ll also be accessing the power of the sovereign man, because it’s this King energy within that helps you see the big picture.

Want to stew with more of these “pilgrim’s questions”? Look at the full list of 24 here: youtube.com/post/Ugkx6LA7lCWpp97Tf4ptjcJrs-MDukesi…

In strength, endurance, and wisdom,
- Maelduin, founder of EmpowerMen

PS: Listen to Jungian psychologist and creator of the King, Warrior, Magician, Lover framework, Dr. Robert Moore, explain “an inner workout” for personal development here: https://youtu.be/P-wtnpfUs1I

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In the excellent book, Fire In The Belly, by Sam Keen, he describes the need for a man to embark on a "pilgrim's journey", a hero's journey, when finding himself lost in life. The start of this new path you need to walk could be called a midlife crisis, depression, alienation, or the dark night of the soul. He calls on you to ask - what he calls - the perennial, mythic questions:

What do I really want?
What brings me joy?
Who am I when I dream?
Why do I feel the way I do?
What do I fear?
Who has wounded me?
Whom have I injured?
How do I deal with guilt?
Do I need to have enemies?
How do I forgive?
Whom and what will I love?
How wilI I express my sexuality?
Who are my people? My family?
Where is my place?
What is the source of my power? My self-esteem?
What is sacred? Worthy of respect? Inviolable?
For what, or whom, would I sacrifice my time, my energy, my health, my life?
What can I do to lessen the quantity of evil in the world?
What are my gifts? What is my vocation?
What must I do to die with a sense of completeness?
What myth have I been (unconsciously) living?
In what measure are my "values" mere prejudices, my duties blind commitments to unexamined norms?
What have I sacrificed to win the approval of others? To become "successful?"
In what ways have I blinded myself, disowned my power, denied my potential?

To be on a personal quest, Sam Keen explains, is "nothing more or less than to become an asker of questions.

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I am obviously feeling this. Music from a subscriber ‪@KundaliniKing42‬ to the channel. Inspired by watching the movie Excalibur for meaning using the acrhetypal framework of Dr. Robert Moore. Give it a listen.

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What can King Arthur teach you about leadership?


King Arthur is a timeless symbol of the King archetype — a leader who strives to create just order, protect his realm, and empower those around him.

In The Sovereign Man course, we invite you to explore King archetype characters like Arthur through movie assignments. Watching these stories helps you see the King’s qualities in action — both light and shadow.

Your challenge:

Watch Excalibur or another King archetype film from our recommended movies list. Reflect on:

One shadow trait the King exhibits and its impact.
A moment you related to or were challenged by.
A positive quality you want to develop in yourself.

Share your insights with the EmpowerMen community to connect with like-minded men on the same path.

Ready to deepen your understanding and leadership? Join The Sovereign Man course now with the Independence Day Special Offer ENDS IN A FEW HOURS → masculinetest.com/home/sovereign-man-a-shadow-work…

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