Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach Inc

You’re not broken. You’re wounded.

Those wounds began long before you even learned the words codependency, abandonment, or insecure attachment.

If you’ve tried therapy, read every book, or chased healing that only skims the surface — but still find yourself attracting narcissists, losing yourself in relationships, or collapsing under guilt when you try to say no — my 12-week Breakthrough Coaching Program is exactly what you need to stop surviving and start truly healing.

This is deeper work. The kind that rewires your nervous system, breaks toxic cycles, and helps you finally own your worth without apology.

Early bird pricing ends June 15th. Save $500 and claim your spot in this transformational journey.

You’ll get full access, plus bonus live Zoom calls for real-time support, guidance, and connection as you heal.

Program Link: www.lisaaromano.com/12wbcp

You already have everything inside you. Sometimes, you just need the right container to remember.

This is your invitation to step into healing with courage, compassion, and a community that truly gets it.

Don’t miss your chance to save $500 and transform your life.

You’re not too broken. You’re exactly where you need to be.

All my love,
Lisa A. Romano
Breakthrough Life Coach
Author of The Road Back to Me
Creator of The 12-Week Breakthrough Codependency Recovery Program
www.lisaaromano.com/12wbcp

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Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach Inc

Today at 12 Noon Eastern, I am hosting a LIVE codependency recovery workshop!
If you're stuck, don't miss this!
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Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach Inc

Healing from inner child wounds is needing to become your own parent. This means you will need to outgrow the critical voice in your head, the one caused by the shame of not having your most fundamental needs met as a child.

Sometimes, our empathy and unconditional love for our parents will cause us to isolate and go within. We do not want to burden our overworked parents, and so we dare not appear to be a burden. So, we abandon the self and take responsibility for why our parents do not have time to love or care for us. We also take responsibility for their abuse.

As adults, our lack of self-awareness and propensity to stuff our emotions sometimes explode when life throws us a curveball. We have not learned how to deal with negative emotions, and so, when we are forced to deal with real-life challenges, we often feel unequipped for the challenges. This is not our fault. We stuffed our big emotions as children and had no one to help us process or learn to emotionally regulate…so yes, a wounded adult child, who has been programmed to stuff their emotions, will fall apart when stress comes knocking as an adult.

But this can be unlearned, and we can learn to become masters of our emotions, I promise!

Today, do what you can to begin to feel your feelings more authentically. Don’t react to them, just learn to observe them. Yes, you will feel awkward and uncomfortable, but this is an essential process if you wish to breakthrough codependency.

Only YOU can stop the cycle of self-abandonment. People like me and other coaches and professionals can help offer the tools, systems, and processes to heal your inner child, and learn to effectively deal with negative emotion, however, the one doing the mental olympics will be you.

Dear One, it’s time to feel your feelings, talk about them, stretch them out, observe them, and deal with them appropriately. You are stronger than you know, but suppressing emotions will weaken your ability to live a healthy, long, and passionate life.

On my healing journey, one of my first tools was meditation. That’s why today, I create healing, guided meditations for my personal clients and all of the students who participate in my healing programs. Today, you can explore some of those tools below. Slow down your mind Dear Ones, and learn to catch those thoughts your childhood taught you to ignore.

www.lisaaromano.com/meditation-bundles

All my love,
Lisa A. Romano
Breakthrough Life Coach
Author of The Road Back to Me
Creator of The 12-Week Breakthrough Codependency Recovery Program
www.lisaaromano.com/12wbcp

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Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach Inc

Thank you to these subscribers who are our top commenters this month. Your commitment to breaking through the chains of trauma and pushing your mind beyond the ego’s limitations is inspiring for us all!

Thank you again Helen and Walter!

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Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach Inc

Healthy mothers are healed mothers. However, for a narcissistic mother, her daughter's success will emotionally trigger her and may even cause her to find ways to sh** all over her daughter's achievements.

As a daughter of an unhealed mother, I could sense that my achievements offended my mother in some way. There were no genuine hugs, or smiles when I had a success. Instead, my mother would turn her eyes away, get rigid, and withhold any form of recogntion. This taught me to minimize sharing with her, because I could sense that any success of mine irritated her, although I never knew why, and ultimately assumed it was because I was not good enough or worthy of her love. Somehow, I caused my mother to be unable to be a warm mother.

It was crazy making!

On one hand, I thought if I did well, maybe that would be enough to gain her love or make her proud, and yet, on the other hand, when I did bring home Championship trophies, or blue ribbons from art fairs, it was as if doing so made her angrier with me.

She’d pierce her lips, send me a glare, turn her face from mine, ignore me, stop talking to me, and if my father praised me, she’d remain sullen as if his acknowledgment angered her further.

My mom suffered from a mother wound, and her ignorance and lack of awareness regarding how her mother’s alcoholism wounded her had serious consequences. I am lucky to be alive. There were days I could not imagine how to make the pain stop.

I am full of gratitude today, because unlike my mom, I made it through to the other side of emotional neglect, abandonment trauma, codependency, and living detached from my true self.

I also believe that my healing has helped her heal and my grandmother too, wherever they are. I also know that healing myself is healing my children.

Dear One, if you’re toning yourself down in front of your mom, just know why you’re doing it and then don’t forget to celebrate. Let go of trying to please her and show her what it is like to fully embrace your divine feminine power!

Who knows, she might even come around one day.

Shine on, Dear Daughters, shine on…

When I healed, I promised myself that I would create something others could tap into to help them find their authentic self! My most popular course is the 12-Week Breakthrough Coaching Program.

It can help you heal your life and stop living in the shadows of the past, the ones your brain and mind believed would keep you safe. This is the exact framework that took me from anxiety mode into learning mode. If you trust the process, this course will help you retrain your brain, nervous system and mind, bringin you into healthy alignment with self love. .
www.lisaaromano.com/12wbcp

All my love,
Lisa A. Romano
Breakthrough Life Coach
Author of The Road Back to Me
Creator of The 12-Week Breakthrough Codependency Recovery Program
www.lisaaromano.com/12wbcp

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Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach Inc

You've Been Programmed to Fear Wanting

You can't help it. You can't help but feel unsettled, questioning, wondering, pondering, and overanalyzing. You ask the big question that lots of people you know and love don't ask. You want to know why you are here, what your purpose is, why people hurt you, why you hurt others when you're disappointed, frustrated, or angry, and how you fit into the larger picture of everything that exists.

While others react to the thoughts, emotions, beliefs, perceptions, or expectations that filter from the subconscious into the conscious, accepting and responding to them as if they are the absolute truth, you feel differently. You sense that something much deeper is happening, and you want in on it...you want to understand how the inner creates the outer...

You are someone who has been called to dig deeper, seek further, and you know on an intuitive level that life is meant to feel good, relationships are intended to be mutually satisfying, loving, and nurturing. You understand that your career is meant to fulfill you, and that your mental, emotional, physical, and financial health should be balanced and reflect your innate worthiness. You also realize that consistent struggle indicates something is off balance...and so you look within.

Be Mindful of the Gap

With every new desire, you create a gap, from where you are now, and between where you'd like to be, or what you'd like to manifest. And in this space, is where most adult children find the most wobble.

When you have been brainwashed to not feel good enough, wanting activates the survival brain, and immediately puts the kabbash on what it is you desire. What fills in is shame, self-doubt, guilt, unworthiness, and a sense of powerlessness. And sadly, you can't get from point A to point B without learning how to accept and align with your desires.

Master Your Focus

Know that you are here to want. You are here to expand beyond what is so to push your life forward; however, when you notice a want, and especially if you are codependent, your wants and needs may cause your limbic brain to become activated. You see, codependents are not allowed to have needs, or so their brains tell them. Codependents are not allowed to dream. Dreams are for other people, and so, we tone ourselves down and often feel guilty for wanting more than we have. It's not us, it's a trauma response. As children, we were often labeled selfish for wanting, and at a subconscious level, we now tend to detach from our wants by default.

So, Dear One, try allowing yourself to want first. Then, as soon as you start to wobble in the space of the new want, rather than focus on where you are compared to where you want to go and doubting your right to get there, instead, in that space, fill it with the words, "I AM."

Don't get analytical. Don't question or try to figure out how to get what you want. Instead, open your heart, relax your solar plexus and say, "I AM."

Saying" I AM" in this space softens the resistance to the new desire. Since we are all here to master our energy, I wanted to encourage anyone out there who is struggling with codependency due to emotional neglect,or narcissistic abuse to try this self mastery technique the moment they notice the birthing of a new desire.

Want to end a toxic relationship? Rest and say, "I AM." This will send a quantum vibration out into the cosmos that is in alignment with your future goal.

Want to stop feeling guilty for saying NO or for not agreeing with others' point of view? Say, "I AM." This will help usher in self confidence, as it assumes you are already that person that no longer struggles with the fear of abandonment, rejection, or who needs to believe worthiness is tied to hustle, or how well you are able to prove your worth to others.

Give it a try, and let me know what you think.

We got this!

Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach
www.lisaaromano.com/

#codependencyrecovery #codependent #adultchildrenofalcoholics #manifesting #manifestationtips #ManifestationJourney #narcissisticabuserecovery #motherwound #personalgrowth #selfhealing #selfhelp

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Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach Inc

When a mother or father decides to heal their wounds from childhood, whether they be the result of childhood emotional neglect, or abuse of some kind, they are also healing their children.

True to codependency, when I learned that I had been modeling codependency for my children, I was ashamed of myself. I felt deep regret, sorrow, and remorse when I realized that for nearly 12 years, I had modeled a state of powerlessness for my children.

What I could not do solely for myself, I could muster up the courage to do for my children. Facing the fire-breathing shame dragon is not easy, but it is the only way , to the other side of codependency.

It was not my fault, I was an immature mother, who lacked mental and emotional skills to manage the significant, overwhelming stressors of wifehood, motherhood and that I attempted to take on these roles without realizing I had no foundation–no selfhood. It was not my fault I was unaware I was unaware and that my parents were wounded adult children in denial of how their childhoods had impacted them or that they did not care one ounce if their childhoods were impacting me or my siblings.

I carried the cross of generations of alcoholism, emotional neglect, and parental emotional immaturity, and the entire time, I felt like it was my fault I could not connect with or gain the love of my parents. So, codependency was my survival strategy, and sadly, I modeled immaturity for my children, until I had my breakthrough moment and knew I had no choice but to dive headfirst into healing codependency if my children were going to have a chance at living a life of authenticity and individuality.

Healing from emotional neglect, abandonment trauma, and mother wounds is a lifelong commitment to improving our relationship with the divine inner child.

Today, if you are a healing mom or dad, just know that you are literally healing and changing the world when you become someone who commits themselves to breaking the cycles of generational trauma.

If you’re ready to take that courageous step,I encourage you to invest yourself into The 12-Week Breakthrough Codependency Recovery Program. This is the exact framework I used to help me stay grounded while peeling away the layers of illusions created during a painful childhood, the ones that kept me safe, but also kept me stuck.

www.lisaaromano.com/12wbcp

All my love,
Lisa A. Romano
Breakthrough Life Coach
Author of The Road Back to Me
Creator of The 12-Week Breakthrough Codependency Recovery Program
www.lisaaromano.com/12wbcp
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Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach Inc

If your parents were disinterested, focused only on your behavior, and made you feel like it was your responsibility to make them feel good about themselves, you’ve been parentified. It was never your responsibility to make sure mommy and daddy felt good about themselves.

Yuck…but, so many parent-child relationships, and even the ones we think are healthy, are rooted in this type of blind narcissism. Parents who do not see their children’s innate worth, or who cannot empathize with whatever state of development a child is in, will have dumb, unrealistic, ridiculous expectations for the child and then use the child’s inability to ‘perform’ for their parents as a freaking exuse to criticize or withhold love from the child.

This is immature parenting and it wounds our babies to their core for lifetimes until we wake up, organize our minds, and stop pretending we don’t have wounds to heal.

Growing up with uninvolved or immature parents can be challenging and emotionally draininga and it’s common to experience feelings of shame as a result. Shame often comes with feelings of guilt or not being enough, and these emotions can feel especially intense when faced with our parents’ lack of attention or unrealistic expectations.

The first step in understanding why we might feel shame in this situation is to recognize that our parents’ lack of interest, immaturity, or neglect may not necessarily be a reflection of our own worth or value. Parents have their own struggles and issues that can impact how available they are for their children, and those issues may have nothing to do with us. It is important to recognize that we are not responsible for our parents’ behavior, and that our power lies in accepting what we cannot control and then doing everything we can to heal the shame that keeps us stuck in the past, feeling unworthy and powerless.

We may also feel shame because we want to be accepted and loved by our parents, yet they are unable or unwilling to provide that. This can lead to feelings of rejection and insecurity, which can be difficult to reconcile. We may also feel like our parents’ lack of interest means that we are not worthy of their attention, or that we are not good enough. These feelings can be especially difficult if we compare ourselves to other kids who have more involved parents.

It is important to remember that our parents’ lack of emotional intelligence and consciousness regarding parenting does not define us. We can still find love and acceptance from other sources, such as friends, family members, and mentors. We can also work to build our own confidence and self-esteem, which can help us to cope with the feelings of shame and inadequacy that come with our parents’ lack of interest.

Ultimately,we must all learn to embrace our inner critic, and to have tea with shame, becuase it is not shame’s fault it resides within our mental, emotional, or spiritual bodies. It is in the softening to the painful emotions that sets us free.

I have created a variety of free resources for you to explore for you to start taking your power back. Learn more by visiting my website below. And if you like, send me an email at coach@lisaaromano.com

www.lisaaromano.com/

All my love,
Lisa A. Romano
Breakthrough Life Coach
Author of The Road Back to Me
Creator of The 12-Week Breakthrough Codependency Recovery Program
www.lisaaromano.com/12wbcp

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Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach Inc

Daughters of narcissistic mothers often worry that others will blame them or disbelieve their childhood stories. We know our stories can be hard to believe, and it sounds crazy to tell the truth. Most people could never imagine our mothers would do the things they do or say the things they say—yet this is our reality.

We live in fear of being judged and misunderstood, which is why we try to pretend we are okay even when we are not.

Often, we keep our pain to ourselves because we know how hard it is to believe a mother can be unable to love her own child—but this is our reality.

Dear Daughter of a narcissistic mom, just know you’re not alone and know this too…NO ONE has walked in your shoes, so NEVER defend what you don’t have to defend.

When I finally learned to tell my truth, my life had already begun imploding. And when my therapist asked me to journal, I had no clue what that meant. But after years of perfecting my self healing journaling regimen, I now teach others how to acces their emotions, beliefs, inner child and higher self through specifically crafted journaling exercises.

For a limited time, you can download this 21 day inner child journaling workbook. People are loving it and some say it is exactly what they have been looking for. For only $27, you can start truly embracing the power of journaling with this workbook. Let me know how it helps you acess your inner child, heal shame, and assists with regulating your emotions while developing a deeper more compassionate relationship with the inner you!

www.lisaaromano.com/journaling-adventure
All my love,
Lisa A. Romano
Breakthrough Life Coach
Author of The Road Back to Me
Creator of The 12-Week Breakthrough Codependency Recovery Program
www.lisaaromano.com/12wbcp

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Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach Inc

Namaste Dear One!

Breaking Free from Codependency: How to Stop Abandoning Yourself and Start Living Authentically: 3 Day Challenge Starts June 11th.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in a loop of over-giving… feeling responsible for other people’s emotions… or constantly fearing rejection—you’re not alone. And more importantly, you're not broken.

Join the challenge here
www.facebook.com/groups/adultchildrenofalcoholics

You may be carrying something called complex trauma.

Unlike a single traumatic event, complex trauma is ongoing, often subtle, and rooted in the relationships we depended on for love and safety. It’s what happens when, as a child, you had to earn connection, manage chaos, or silence your needs just to keep the peace.

According to trauma expert Pete Walker, those of us who experienced complex trauma develop certain survival responses—fight, flight, freeze, or fawn—to help us cope. These responses shape our adult behaviors in ways we don’t even realize:

* You might become a perfectionist to avoid criticism (fight).
* You might stay overly busy to avoid feeling (flight).
* You might emotionally shut down when conflict arises (freeze).
* Or… you might bend over backward to keep others happy, even when it hurts you (fawn).

This last one—fawning—is at the heart of **codependency**.

Maybe, deep down, you’ve felt like:

* “If I say no, they’ll be mad.”
* “If I stop helping, I’ll be abandoned.”
* “If I don’t keep the peace, I’m unsafe.”

These aren’t flaws. These are brilliant, *adaptive* responses that once helped you survive. But now, they’re keeping you from fully living.

The good news? Your brain and body can heal.

Thanks to the science of neuroplasticity, we now know the brain can rewire at any age. Through tools like mindfulness, somatic healing, journaling, and compassionate inner child work, you can begin to reclaim your authenticity, worth, and peace.

🌱 And if you’re ready to start that journey...

I’d love to personally invite you to my FREE 3-Day Challenge happening inside my private Facebook group.

Together, we’ll explore how complex trauma shows up in everyday patterns—like people-pleasing and over-responsibility—and I’ll walk you through practical steps to help you feel safer, calmer, and more empowered in your own skin.

✨ You don’t have to untangle this alone. You just need a safe space, the right tools, and a little guidance.

Join the challenge, connect with others on the path, and take the first step toward a life where you no longer have to perform for love.

👉 Come find the pinned post in the group for all the details. I can’t wait to see you there.

You are worthy of healing.
You are allowed to take up space.
You are more than your survival patterns.

When one of us escapes faulty childhood subconscious programming, they light the way for others to do the same.
Join my Facebook Group to participate.

www.facebook.com/groups/adultchildrenofalcoholics

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