Abhishen

I can't get rid of my negative thoughts, especially before meetings or any important events where I have to present something or speak in front of many people.

I've had not one but 3-4 clients say this during consultations.

And there is a reason why this happens with them.

If you keep trying to suppress the thoughts without understanding the reason, nothing will change!

Because the problem was never "THE THOUGHT."

It is the relationship you have with that thought.

This is exactly what CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) addresses.

The core idea of it is that your thoughts, emotions, and behavior are all connected. If you work on and change even one of these three, the other two begin to shift too.

So when your mind says, "I am a failure; I always mess everything up..." CBT does not tell you to ignore that thought or replace it with a positive one.

It asks you to examine it honestly.

- Is this thought actually true?
- What is the evidence for it?
- What is the evidence against it?

And through that honest examination, the thought loses its grip because, most of the time, the thought comes from fear and nothing real.

When your brain sees that again and again, your emotional response changes, and slowly your behavior changes too.

This is why CBT is one of the most researched and effective therapeutic approaches in the world. (Not medication)

But it works on the surface level of the mind.

Now tell me one thing: Have you ever tried CBT? If yes, how did it work out for you?

In my next post, I will tell you what happens when you go deeper than that.

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#mentalhealth #spirituality #CBT

23 hours ago | [YT] | 31

Abhishen

Many of you ask me how I stay so calm in difficult situations.

The answer lies in one distinction that most people never make.

The difference between indifference and detachment.

Most people think they are the same thing. They are not.

Indifference means you do not care. You are emotionally numb. Disconnected. The situation does not touch you because you have switched something off inside.

Detachment is completely different.

In detachment you are fully present. You feel everything. You see the situation clearly. But you are not swept away by it. You observe it from a place of inner stillness rather than reacting from a place of fear or anxiety.

Think of it like this.

A person standing on the bank of a river watching the water flow is detached. They see the river. They feel its presence. But they are not being carried away by the current.

A person who has jumped into the river and is being pulled by it is neither indifferent nor detached. They are reactive.

And a person who pretends the river does not exist is indifferent.

Detachment is what meditation and genuine spiritual practice builds over time.

It took me 15 years to truly understand this difference. Not intellectually. Experientially.

And once you do, difficult situations stop being something that happens to you.

They become something you can actually navigate with clarity.

#spirituality #detachment #awareness

1 day ago | [YT] | 59

Abhishen

Tell me something. If a woman can work, earn, and live independently but cannot choose who she marries, is she actually free?

I have 5 sisters. All of them married into the same caste. Arranged marriages, I mean. Our parents decided everything, and my sisters had no say in it. And I have been thinking about it since.

We talk about women's freedom like it is about careers and independence. It is.

But what I'm trying to say also matters. Actually, Dr. Ambedkar said it clearly. Caste reproduces itself through people marrying within their own group. Generation after generation.

And for that to keep working, someone has to control who women fall in love with.

A woman can have a degree, a career, her own opinions. But the moment she tries to marry outside her caste, suddenly the whole family has something to say.

I am not saying every arranged marriage is oppressive.

My point is whether it was actually a choice. Or whether the choice was already made before she was old enough to make it herself.

Maybe real freedom also means the freedom to decide who you love.

And maybe the most honest question we can ask is not what tradition says. But why that tradition exists in the first place. 🙏

#feminism #caste #awareness #spirituality

3 days ago | [YT] | 78

Abhishen

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4 days ago | [YT] | 8

Abhishen

5 uncomfortable questions that will show you who you really are.

Even I ask these questions to myself at regular intervals. So, you need to sit with them, return to and find a different answer every time you have grown a little more. :)

1. What am I most afraid people will find out about me?

I’m not talking about your failures here.

The thing you hide most carefully. Because what you hide most is usually what controls you most. Maybe your fear.

2. Who would I be if nobody was watching?

Strip away every role you play.
Every expectation you carry.

What is actually left?

3. What am I pretending not to know?

You already know the answer to the question you keep asking. You just do not want to act on it.

4. Whose life am I actually living?

How much of what you are doing right now is genuinely yours? And how much belongs to someone else’s idea of who you should be?

You have no idea how much we’re influenced by social media or the people around us.

5. What would I have to give up if I truly committed to my own growth?

Not what you want to gain.
What you would have to let go of.

Now… Sit with these honestly.

Don’t judge yourself. But finally see yourself clearly.
Because you cannot change what you refuse to look at.

If this was useful, share it with more people who need to answer the hard questions.

#selfreflection #spirituality #selfawareness

6 days ago | [YT] | 56

Abhishen

Yesterday I talked about the eight steps of meditation. Today I want to be brutally honest about something.

Most of you are failing at step one.

Not step five. Not step six.

Step one.

And here is what most people do not understand about the first two steps.

Yama is about purifying your external environment. How you live in relation to the world around you. Your honesty, your integrity, how you treat people. Everything that happens outside of you.

Niyama is about purifying your internal environment. Your thoughts, your intentions, the quality of what is happening inside you when nobody is watching.

One is outer purification. The other is inner.

And both are prerequisites for everything that follows.

Because a mind that is still producing dishonesty and impurity in its daily life cannot be stilled through meditation. You cannot clean the inside of a glass while the outside is still dirty.

Patanjali put these two steps first for a reason.

Meditation is not something you add to an unchanged life.

It is the result of a life that has already begun to transform from the outside in and the inside out.

Start there.

#meditation #yoga #selfrealisation

1 week ago | [YT] | 62

Abhishen

If you have tried to meditate even once in your life, you know it is not easy.

And there is a very specific reason for that.

Most people sit down, close their eyes and expect something to happen. And when the mind refuses to cooperate, they conclude that they are bad at meditation or that it is simply not for them.

But here is what nobody tells you.

Meditation is not something you sit down and do.

It is something that happens after years of preparation.

Patanjali laid this out precisely in the Yoga Sutras. There are eight steps to reach the state of meditation. And ध्यान, which is what we call meditation, is the seventh step.

Before you can meditate you need to master Yama, Niyama, Asana, Pranayama, Pratyahara and Dharana.

Six complete steps. Each one building on the previous.

Yama and Niyama are about how you live. Asana is about the body. Pranayama is about breath and energy. Pratyahara is about withdrawing the senses inward. And Dharana is sustained concentration.

Only after all of that does ध्यान become possible.

And beyond ध्यान is Samadhi. The ultimate state of liberation.

So if your meditation practice feels like a struggle, you are probably not failing at meditation.

You are just missing the steps that come before it.

That is not your fault. Nobody told you they existed.

#meditation #dhyan #spirituality

1 week ago | [YT] | 72

Abhishen

How to break mental patterns- Part 2

1 week ago | [YT] | 11

Abhishen

What if your spiritual evolution isn’t about how “spiritual” you look?

I recently came across the concept of “densities” in the Law of One. A spiritual framework that describes consciousness evolving through different stages.

The progression is fascinating:

3rd Density → Choice
Learning through free will, relationships, conflict, suffering, and the fundamental choice between service to self and service to others.

4th Density → Love
Moving beyond separation and developing compassion, interconnectedness, and a deeper sense of unity with others.

5th Density → Wisdom
Learning to combine love with discernment, understanding, and deeper awareness.

6th Density → Love + Wisdom
Integrating the two, understanding that compassion without wisdom can become blind, while wisdom without love can become cold.

7th Density → Unity
The gradual dissolution of the perception of separation and movement toward the realization of the One.

But here’s the part I found most interesting:

You can’t simply look at yourself and say, “I’m 4th density.”

According to the Law of One, a human incarnation is still a 3rd-density experience, even if someone has profound spiritual experiences.

So perhaps the better question isn’t:

“What density am I?”

It’s:

“What direction is my consciousness moving in?”

Am I becoming more compassionate?

Less controlling?

More accepting of people who are different from me?

More capable of respecting another person’s free will?

More interested in understanding than judging?

More willing to serve without needing recognition?

Maybe spiritual growth isn’t about achieving a higher “level.”

Maybe it’s about the choices we make when nobody is watching.

And perhaps that’s the real lesson of 3rd density:

We don’t get to know exactly where we are going. We get to choose who we are becoming.

The Law of One/Ra Material is an esoteric spiritual framework, not scientifically established fact.

What do you think, is spiritual evolution more about knowing where you are or observing the direction in which you’re moving?

#lawofone #spirituality #spiritualprogress

1 week ago | [YT] | 52

Abhishen

A client asked me something that stayed with me long after the call ended.

"Why can't others see what I can?"

He was not being arrogant. He was lonely.

And I understood exactly what he meant.

There comes a point in your inner journey where you start seeing through the material world. Not rejecting it. Just seeing it for what it actually is.

And when that happens, something uncomfortable follows.

The people around you are still completely inside it. Running after the same things with the same urgency. And you can see where that road ends. But you cannot take them there with you.

That loneliness is real. And it is one of the most difficult parts of genuine spiritual growth that nobody prepares you for.

The reason most people cannot see what he sees is simple.

You can only observe something when you have enough distance from it.

And that distance is earned. Through genuine inner work. Through the kind of questioning that most people find too uncomfortable to sit with.

His awareness did not come from nowhere.

And neither did yours.


#awareness #spiritualgrowth #spirituality

1 week ago | [YT] | 59