Abhishen

We normalized destroying ourselves and called it a social life.

If you do not drink or smoke you already know what I mean.

The awkward silence when you say no. The jokes. The subtle way you are made to feel like the odd one out for simply choosing not to damage your body.

And somewhere along the way people started believing that if you are not high on something you are missing out on life.

But here is what they do not realize.

Substance use is not experiencing life more fully. It is escaping it.

Being completely present in your own consciousness, fully aware, fully alive, not numbed or altered, that is the greatest high you will ever experience. Most people have never felt it. And because they have not, they cannot imagine why anyone would choose it over a drink.

And those friendships built around shared habits? They are not friendships.

They are conveniences. The moment you stop participating they quietly disappear.

If you are living a clean life and feel like you do not fit in, hear this.

You are not the one who is wrong.

You are just in the wrong rooms.

🙏

#consciousness #awareness #spirituality

13 hours ago | [YT] | 41

Abhishen

Every time I sit with someone who feels completely lost, the same thing happens. The moment they calm down, they already know what to do.

Not always immediately. But within the space of one honest conversation where they finally stop running from what they are feeling, something shifts.

The clarity was always there.

It was just buried under the anxiety, the overthinking and the constant noise of a mind that never gets a moment of stillness.

This is something I want you to really sit with.

You are not stuck because you do not know what to do.

You are stuck because your nervous system is so activated, so flooded with stress and fear and urgency, that you cannot access what you already know.

The mind in panic cannot think clearly. Not because it lacks intelligence. But because survival mode is not designed for clarity. It is designed for speed. And speed and wisdom rarely arrive together.

The solution you are looking for is not in another podcast or another book or another conversation with someone telling you what to do.

It is already in you.

But you will not find it by thinking harder.

You will find it the moment you become still enough to hear yourself.

🙏

#calm #spirituality #awareness

1 day ago | [YT] | 29

Abhishen

The people I have seen transform completely in my therapy sessions all had one thing in common. They were willing to feel what they had been running from.

And if you are reading this, something in you already knows what you have been running from.

Acceptance.
Not of what happened to you. But of the fact that it did. The moment you stop fighting reality, something in you stops breaking. That is where resilience comes from.

Understanding.
Not just surviving what hurt you but genuinely asking what it revealed about you. When you seek to understand rather than escape, everything becomes a teacher. That is where insight comes from.

Forgiveness.
Not for the other person. For yourself. Holding onto what hurt you costs you far more than it costs them. The moment you genuinely forgive, you get that energy back. That is where freedom comes from.

Surrender.
Not giving up. Giving over. Releasing the grip on what was never yours to control. When you stop holding on so tightly, fear quietly loses its power. That is where fearlessness comes from.

I have never seen anyone truly heal by avoiding these four things.

But I have seen what happens when someone finally stops running.

It changes everything.

🙏

#acceptance #surrender #forgiveness #spirituality

2 days ago | [YT] | 31

Abhishen

Someone came to me recently wanting to be enlightened. They were in their sixties.

And I had to be honest with them.

The desire was real.
But unfortunately, the expectation was NOT.

They wanted a spiritual teacher to do something to them.

Maybe touch them, transmit something and suddenly decades of unchallenged conditioning would dissolve..

That is not how it works!

Enlightenment is not a destination you arrive at.

It is the result of years of consistent inner work.

- Purifying the mind
- Dissolving conditioning
- Working against patterns that have been reinforced for decades

And starting this journey late is often not the ideal thing to do. I’ll tell you why..

The older the mind, the more rigid its patterns.

Neuroplasticity decreases with age.

The intensities built up over a lifetime become a kind of snowball that is increasingly difficult to reverse.

It is not impossible. But it is significantly harder.

And when someone comes seeking enlightenment while holding onto their ego, their dogmas, their conditioning.. the desire for enlightenment itself becomes another expression of that ego.

This is why I always say this:

Start young. The moment you realize the world is conditioning you, begin the inner work.

Spiritual progress is not something you start after retirement, please. 🙏

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#elightenment #spirituality #awareness

3 days ago | [YT] | 51

Abhishen

People pleasing is not kindness. It is guilt.

And and and..

That guilt was never even yours to begin with.

Someone in your life, at some point, could not handle your disagreement or your boundary.. And instead of accepting that you were a separate human being with your own needs, they made you feel responsible for how they felt.

So you learned. Without even realizing it.

You learned to say yes when you meant no.

To make yourself smaller so the people around you could feel more comfortable.

And somewhere along the way you started calling that kindness.

But I want to ask you something honestly..

When was the last time you said no to someone and did not feel guilty about it for the rest of the day?

That guilt is not a reflection of who you are.

It is a reflection of who you were told you had to be.

The real work is not about learning to say no more often.

It is about finding the voice inside you that still believes your needs matter. Because they do.

🙏

#peoplepleasing #awareness #spirituality

4 days ago | [YT] | 48

Abhishen

The most terrifying thing about burnout in tech is not the workload. It is that the people experiencing it know exactly what it is doing to them and still cannot stop.

A 34 year old security engineer in Vietnam described catching his reflection at 3am.

Sunken eyes
Pounding heart
Blood pressure consistently above 140/90

He knew he was destroying himself but kept going anyway.

Because stopping meant being replaced!

This is the reality of the age 35 curse in tech.

The industry wide belief that after 35 you are too slow, too expensive and too inflexible to compete.

So professionals are burning through their health before 35 just to survive past it.

And it is landing them in hospitals with hypertension, prediabetes and depression before they are even in their mid thirties!!

Here is what I want to say as a psycho-spiritual therapist.

Your body is not a productivity machine you can drain and refill later.

The damage chronic burnout causes to your nervous system, your cognition and your mental health is often irreversible.

No career is worth that trade. 🙏🏼

#burnout #awareness #spirituality

6 days ago | [YT] | 46

Abhishen

The most successful people you see are completely lost inside.

From the outside everything looks sorted.

Career. Status. Reputation.. The kind of life most people spend years chasing.

But sit with them for an hour and something else emerges.

Maybe they cannot sleep properly.
Maybe their relationships feel hollow.
Maybe they keep achieving and still feel empty.

And they have no idea why!!

I have worked with these people..

I’ve seen them giving the most brilliant advice to others because when they are helping someone else they operate from their prefrontal cortex which is clear and rational.

But when it comes to their own life they are operating from fight or flight mode which is reactive and anxious. Running on autopilot patterns they have never once examined.

And that is not their fault.

Nobody ever taught them how their mind works.

The education system taught them everything except that..

So they spent decades becoming excellent at their profession and never once turned inward.

And then one day they have everything. And they sit with the question nobody prepared them for.

“Why am I not at peace?”

These are the people I work with in my 1:1 consultations.

And what I have seen is that once you genuinely understand how your mind works, the patterns that were running your life unconsciously become visible. And the moment you can see them clearly you are no longer at their mercy.

🙏

#awakening #spirituality #mindfulness

1 week ago | [YT] | 55

Abhishen

If you follow one guru and reject all others, you don’t understand spirituality.

Spirituality was never about finding the right teacher and following them blindly.

Rather it’s about developing the discernment to take what resonates with you from whoever you encounter and leave behind what does not.

From one teacher you may take a meditation technique. From another a philosophy.

And from some you take nothing.

But the moment you start rejecting wisdom simply because it did not come from your chosen source, you have replaced seeking with belonging.

And that is religion. Not spirituality.

Religion tells you what to believe. It gives you a framework and asks you to stay within it.

Spirituality asks you to find out for yourself.

Question.
Explore.
Take full responsibility for your own inner journey without outsourcing it to anyone.

No guru can do that work for you.

Not even the best one.

🙏

#spirituality #wisdom #awareness

1 week ago | [YT] | 92

Abhishen

Every expectation you have is a leash. And you handed someone else the other end.

I learned this the hard way.

For years I expected people to understand me. To see what I was doing and why. To meet me where I was.

They did not. And I kept suffering because of it.

And then one day something became very clear to me.

Nobody is responsible for meeting your expectations. The moment I stopped waiting for people to show up in a certain way, something I cannot fully explain happened.

I stopped being disappointed. Not because people changed. Because I did.

That is what dropping expectations actually does.

It does not make you cold or indifferent. It makes you free. Free from being at the mercy of what someone else does or does not do.

And from that freedom you start giving without needing anything back. You start loving without keeping score.

That is the only freedom that actually lasts.

#awareness #spirituality #expectations

1 week ago | [YT] | 42

Abhishen

We raise boys to be half human. And then wonder why so many men feel so empty inside.

Think about what we tell them growing up.

Don't cry. Be strong. Stop being so sensitive.

And the boy learns. He tucks it all away. The softness. The tears. The parts of himself that feel too much.

And then he grows up. And he does not know why he feels disconnected from his own life. Why his relationships feel hollow. Why success feels empty even when he achieves everything he was supposed to want.

I have sat with men like this.

And what I have seen underneath all that armor is not weakness.

It is grief. For the parts of themselves they were told to abandon a long time ago.

The man who can access his softness, his empathy, his vulnerability, is not less of a man.

He is the one who actually knows who he is.

And in my experience, that man loves differently. Leads differently. Lives with a kind of depth that no amount of toughness can produce.

🙏

#spirituality #mentalhealth #awareness

1 week ago | [YT] | 45