ANNA LECAT

Wandering a library or a bookstore with my son is my favorite way to be with him.

Sasha is 12 now and completely obsessed with Tolkien. We can get lost in the stacks for hours, and these quiet moments feel like a miracle. We are standing right next to each other, totally silent, yet we’re traveling through the same world someone else built.

I love that we can be together without needing words. It is just the smell of the paper and the specific hush of the shelves.

In a world that is usually so loud, these minutes of just being in Middle-earth together are everything.

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"Pay attention to what binds us and makes us human, and the rest will follow."

That's how PW's BookLife summed up Loving Conflict, and they placed it alongside Scott Shigeoka's Seek and Robert Fersh and Mariah Levison's From Conflict to Convergence. I am honored to be in that company.

"Warm, inviting approach to embracing and resolving conflict." - PW's BookLife

They gave it straight A's on production, which is really a tribute to the incredible team at Greenleaf Book Group who brought this book to life.

I loved that the reviewer connected the tango thread to the bigger message about conflict and collaboration. That parallel is at the heart of the book, and seeing someone read it exactly the way I meant it made me smile.

Link in comments.

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Esther Perel included Loving Conflict in her newsletter this week.

I need to say that again because I'm not sure I believe it yet. Her latest piece, "Alive or Just Getting Through the Day?", asks a question I keep coming back to in my own work: how do we stay connected when everything seems to pull us apart? Her answer is that relationships ask something of us. They ask us not to drift into indifference.

I wrote Loving Conflict because I believe the conversations we avoid are the ones keeping us from feeling alive in our most important relationships.

Seeing Esther name the book in her Conversation Starters alongside Stephen Grosz and Sarah Forbes is something I will be smiling about for a very long time.

Thank you, Esther Perel. I am deeply honored.

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"If you are a chronic people-pleaser or someone who shuts down at the first sign of a disagreement, this book will force you to realize that your avoidance is actually a barrier to the life you want."

That's how Bookstr described Loving Conflict, and they nailed it better than I sometimes do myself.

They included Loving Conflict as #1 on their list of "10 Books That Will Force You to Face Your Truth," alongside Carol Dweck's Mindset and Glennon Doyle's Untamed. I keep rereading that sentence.

I wrote this book because I spent 25 years watching brilliant, caring people destroy their most important relationships by avoiding the very conversations that could save them. The avoidance always felt like kindness, but it was creating distance that nobody knew how to name.

Grateful to be on this list with Craig Robinson, Tori DaCosta, Carol S. Dweck, Merle Yost, Glennon Doyle, Jon Frederickson, Joseph Nguyen, Rachel Hollis, and Mark Manson.

If that line describes someone you know, I'd be grateful if you'd send them the link.

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ANNA LECAT

I often find that the people who need my work the most are the ones least likely to ask for it.

They are the "strong" ones who hold it all together for everyone else, smiling in the meeting yet feeling heavy in the car ride home.

They think they have to be perfect.

I created a private space specifically for them. It is a 1:1 container where they can drop the mask and deal with the real friction in their life or work.

If you have a friend who is walking that path alone right now, would you gently pass this link to them?

You might be the bridge they have been looking for.

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#Leadership #Support #TheStrongOnes

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Saint-Exupéry said that love doesn't consist in gazing at each other, but in looking together in the same direction.

Seventeen years together, and that feels like the truest thing anyone has ever said about partnership. We aren't just standing next to each other, Jerome LECAT. We are dreaming together. And somehow it keeps getting better.

I am grateful for every moment with you. For the direction we've chosen, for the way we keep choosing it, and for the intensity you bring to everything you touch.

Thank you for moving through it with me, exactly the way you do.

#Partnership #LovingConflict

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"We are opposites in everything," he told me. He was talking about his business partner of twenty-five years, a man who is his complete opposite in social background, lifestyle, and politics. I find myself thinking about their partnership often as I research how people stay connected through deep, fundamental disagreements.

Most of us are taught to avoid conflict or search for common ground, but these two have found a floor beneath their differences that has nothing to do with agreeing. They have discovered that you can disagree on almost every value in life, as long as you share a single value about how to treat the person standing across from you. Read the full story in my newsletter.

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Demetris Papadimitropoulos wrote a review of Loving Conflict that made me put my tea down and read it twice.

"Anna Lecat argues a paradox with the calm insistence of someone who has watched too many relationships die of politeness."

I've read endorsements, blurbs, early feedback. This is different. This is a reader who took the book apart, examined how it works, and then told me what he found, the strengths and the places where the seams show.

He called the book "less a book than a curriculum." He described tango as "tension as the necessary pressure that makes art." He noticed things I didn't know I'd done, like how the "cup of tea" traces from a Shanghai tea house into a principle about slowing down before doing something emotionally difficult.

And then he wrote something I will think about for a long time: "The conflicts you do not create often metastasize into the conflicts you cannot control. Avoidance has a cost, and the cost is intimacy."

He also challenged me. He noted that my cross-cultural examples can lean toward the tidy, that asking for clarification is sometimes a privilege, and that the book's emotional gravity tends toward connection as the answer when sometimes the loving act is to separate. He's right. These are the edges I want to sharpen. His critique is already shaping how I think about my next book.

Demetris, thank you for reading with this level of care. You gave me the rarest kind of feedback, the kind that makes the work better going forward. I am deeply grateful.

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Several people have asked me how to buy Loving Conflict in bulk for their teams. My publisher already has this covered through Porchlight Books, where you can order at a wholesale discount. Link in the comments.

For a relatively small investment, you give your team something that will help them in their personal relationships and in how they work together. It's the kind of gift that looks like care and actually improves how your organization handles the conversations that matter most.

When teams avoid conflict, the cost shows up in slower decisions, duplicated work, missed opportunities, and disengagement. Research consistently puts the price in the hundreds of thousands per year for mid-sized companies. When teams learn to engage with conflict instead of avoiding it, decisions get made faster, trust grows instead of eroding, and the real issues get named in the room instead of in the hallway afterward.

People come back and tell me their partner thanked them for reading it, and then they bring what they learned into their next difficult conversation at work. That's what I love about this book. It travels between the office and the kitchen table.

A book about loving conflict, given by a leader to their team, is a message in itself. It says: I want us to be able to talk about the hard things.

Link in the comments.

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Sylvie di Giusto wrote that Loving Conflict "reveals how tension can become a doorway rather than a dead end, and how curiosity can transform even the most difficult conversations."

Sylvie is an internationally recognized Hall of Fame keynote speaker. She understands audiences, and she knows the difference between a book that sounds good and one that actually lands.

Sylvie, you said my perspective is "generous, grounding, and beautifully human." I read that sentence several times and my chest got tight. That is exactly what I hoped this book would be. Coming from you, those words carry real weight.

My book Loving Conflict: Creating Collaboration Where Others See Division, an Amazon Best Seller and #1 New Release in Business Conflict Resolution & Mediation. Link to the book is in the comments.

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