Welcome to Coffee with Carey—where we talk about dating, relationships, and all the weird, funny, hopeful stuff that happens when grown-ups try to find connection.
I’m Carey. I’m a dating coach and matchmaker with over a decade of real-world experience — not someone who crowned themselves a dating expert after two messy breakups and a $39 lighting kit from Amazon. I teach what I know and that’s from working with thousands of clients over the years.
This channel is for anyone who’s ever been ghosted by someone they weren’t even sure they liked, spent an hour writing a thoughtful message only to get “lol,” in response, or needed a reminder that texting someone “Good morning” doesn’t make them your soulmate.
You’re not doing it wrong. But you may be doing it wrong. Check out an episode or two and let’s figure it out.
Oh, and if you need something more personal? The link is around here somewhere.
Warmly,
Carey
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Best day of the week for a first date?
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Today is the summer solstice. The longest day of the year, and the exact middle of it, which means half of 2026 is already gone. Isn't that wild?
At the very start of January, did you happen to make yourself some promises? Was this the year you were finally going to sort out your love life and meet someone special? Was this the year that was going to be very different?
Picture sharing tapas on a warm summer night, sipping a sparkling beverage, and laughing as you enjoy great company and the start of romance. If you're not there yet, no judgment. But December is coming, whether we want to think about it or not, and it's going to get here sooner than any of us can imagine. If you want the next holiday season to look different than the last one, you don't have the luxury of just watching the months fly by. That is exactly what we would start working on together now, so that the December holidays finally deliver on the promise you made to yourself.
You have been telling me you are ready. Some of you have wanted this for a while, and the leap felt like a lot. I see you standing there at the edge of the pool, one toe in the water, not getting in. I've seen you and I've heard you, and I made it even easier to say yes to Be Your Own Matchmaker. You know who you are.
If you have ever thought about hiring a matchmaker, let me save you the $25,000 to $250,000 fee and hand you all my insider secrets instead. Be Your Own Matchmaker is over 50 chapters of everything I do for my private clients. It teaches you all the steps you need to take full control of your dating life:
- Finally understanding what you truly need in a partner
- Knowing exactly where to find them
- Showing up to every date as an engaging conversationalist, someone who is genuinely comfortable in their own skin and fully present
- Building the kind of mutual spark that has you both walking away already looking forward to the next date
Right now, I am launching my Summer Sale, so you can get started today with plenty of time to learn all my secrets before the holidays. And you can still take advantage of the three easy payments.
Here is what the transformation looked like for my client, Sarah.
"For two years I sat on the fence about hiring a private matchmaker, and we are talking tens of thousands of dollars. I am so glad I stalled, because I took this course instead. A matchmaker would have handed me a few dates and then disappeared, and I would have been right back where I started. This taught me what I had been getting wrong, and now it is mine for good. Once I knew that, I just had to get out there, and that is how I met Jacob 🙂❤️" — Sarah K.
The warm summer nights are here, but winter will be here before you know it. Let's make sure that when the holidays arrive, you're walking into the room with a hand to hold, knowing you finally kept that promise to yourself.
Learn what a professional matchmaker knows so you can take control and change your future before another year slips away:
👉 BeYourOwnMatchmaker.com/ ✨
Happy Summer. See you on the inside.
Warmly,
Carey
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While scrolling Social Media You see an ex-partner looking completely happy in a new relationship. You
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You’re at a wedding and someone across the room keeps making eye contact.
You…
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You haven’t been on a date in over a year. That feels…
If you answer anything other than choice number four I encourage you to check out my master class. 🤎
You may have heard about it…
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You finally download a dating app. First 20 minutes you:
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Your friend says I want to set you up. You say sure. Then you:
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The thing nobody tells you about starting over is:
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Which situationship label feels a little too familiar?
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Tomorrow is June first.
Dining alfresco with a glass of wine and the warm breeze hitting just right. Long walks in nature where everything is lush and green and alive. 🌿Cocktails on a sun-drenched patio. Warm starry nights that feel like they were literally designed for romance.
The next three months hand you opportunity after opportunity to meet someone.
And if you’ve been waiting for the “right time” to finally prioritize your love life, I mean, come on. It doesn’t get more right than this.
Which brings me to an email I got from my student Nancy that honestly brought me so much joy this week.
“Carey, I just want to thank you. I am honestly so proud of myself for once because I usually procrastinate, but this time I didn’t make any excuses about the timing or pretend I wasn’t ready. I just took the course and it’s crazy because now all the nonsense actually makes sense. I would have been stuck doing the same thing over and over trying to figure this out on my own. Thank you so much! Nancy”
That’s what happens when you finally get a real roadmap for your love life. You get completely clear on who you are and what you actually need in a partner, you learn where to find that human, and you know everything a bout how to create a great first date. No more spinning your wheels or guessing.
The patios are ready. Are you?
👉beyourownmatchmaker.com.
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