Nazneen Irani

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4 hours ago | [YT] | 2

Nazneen Irani

The real reason you keep quitting right before your breakthrough? You don’t trust yourself yet.

I used to do this constantly. I’d start a project, get clients, start gaining traction, and then I’d drop it. I told myself it just "it's not meant to be," but that was a cover story.

The truth? I didn't fully approve of myself. I thought I had to pick one single box and stay in it forever. So when my soul wanted to coach and serve people, but also craved the hands-on creativity of doing makeup, and later, the passion to write children's books to teach kids self-worth, I felt broken. I felt messy.

Because I was waiting for some massive, roaring, undeniable "HUGE WIN" to validate my worth, I completely ignored the actual shift happening right in front of me.

I was looking for a mountain, completely blind to the real evidence:

👉A client finally stopped over-giving and found the power to set a hard, unshakable boundary with their partner.
👉A client finally found the courage to stop talking to their toxic ex.
👉Someone stopped abandoning themselves and started their own business.

Those aren't small wins. Those are the seeds.

I had to learn to stop walking away from my own life. Being multi-passionate isn't a flaw, and waiting for outside permission to feel successful will keep you looping in circles forever.

If you are constantly abandoning your goals because you don't think you're doing "enough," you are demanding the harvest before the seed has even had time to break through the dirt. Stop looking for the mountain.

Be fully present in the pain and the joy of your journey. Talk to God. Look at every single challenge that stands in front of you and say, "Oh, this is interesting. What am I meant to learn from this?"

2 weeks ago | [YT] | 8

Nazneen Irani

I know we love to blame men, but the root is way deeper. It’s how men AND women are raised.

It’s the lack of boundaries they saw at home, the way they watched their mothers lose their identity, or just zero accountability. It’s in the music, the friends they hang with, and the scripts they grew up on.

And let’s be real, the movies. We’re fed this constant script where control = "passion" and jealousy = "protection."

Most men never learned what real love is. They think love is about dominating and possessing. When you finally stand your ground, they get angry and call you the villain because you’re challenging their dominance.

But we have to talk about the other side too. Women are allowing this, right now, all over the world. We’re letting it happen because we think we don't deserve better. We think being "chosen" by a man, even a toxic one is the goal, even if it means losing ourselves.

It gets dark because we keep trading our autonomy for a false sense of security.

This is a massive cycle and it’s time to stop it. We need to be having these uncomfortable convos in our homes, our schools, and our relationships. We have to do better for the next generation. It starts with the boundaries you set today.

Are you ready to stop accepting "control" as love?

Drop a '1' if you've lived through this exact flip.

#breakthecycle #conditioning #truth #relationshipdynamics #selfworth

3 weeks ago | [YT] | 4

Nazneen Irani

I’m hosting a 10-minute guided reset on Instagram today at 11:00 AM EST to help you clear the noise and reclaim your energy.

Just a quick, intentional space to breathe before you tackle the rest of your day.

Join me here:
www.instagram.com/nazneenirani?igsh=bTZxMDBlOG04eG…

#burnoutprevention #boundaries #mindfulness

3 weeks ago | [YT] | 4

Nazneen Irani

You can’t ask for a soulmate and your entire checklist but then hide the parts of yourself you’re embarrassed about.

If you want to attract an honest partner, you have to be willing to be an honest partner, too. It’s okay to be a work in progress, that’s where the real connection actually happens.

3 signs you might be holding back without realizing it:

1. You’re editing your personality to keep the peace. You might be softening your edges so you don’t "scare them away," but the right person will love you exactly as you are.

2. You’re afraid of being "too much." You might feel like your true self needs to be managed, but I promise, the version of you that’s authentic is the only version worth falling in love with.

3. You’re waiting for them to go first. You want them to open up, but it’s hard for anyone to be vulnerable when you’re still keeping your own guard up.
You don’t get to call in what you aren’t willing to be.

You’re worth knowing, all of you.

Link to my latest video is in my bio.

4 weeks ago | [YT] | 4

Nazneen Irani

If you are a high achiever who keeps ending up in relationships where you feel completely drained, exhausted, and resentful, stop scrolling.

You aren't tired because you’re a loving person. You are tired because you are over-functioning.

There is a massive difference between loving someone and mothering them.

When you over-explain, shrink, and bend until you break just to keep the peace, you aren't actually being "nice." You are operating out of a subconscious fear of the chaos.

Here is exactly how the cycle plays out:

1. The Rescue: You see a partner struggling, dropping the ball, or failing to handle their own life.

2. The Takeover: Because the anxiety of watching them fail is too high, you step in. You manage their moods, anticipate their needs, and solve their problems. You become the manager.

3. The Resentment: Eventually, you burn out. You realize you are carrying 100% of the emotional weight, and you feel completely lonely, exhausted, and unchosen.

The hardest truth you will ever have to face is this: You cannot fix a cycle you are actively funding.

Every time you step in to absorb the consequences of someone else's choices, you guarantee your own exhaustion. You are betraying your own body and ignoring your own intuition just to keep them comfortable.

True boundaries aren't about trying to fix or change the other person. They are about deciding what you will no longer participate in.

In my private sessions, we don’t sit there talking in circles or intellectualizing your pain. We get straight to the root of the pattern, build the backbone to set firm boundaries, and get you back to the truth.

I offer intensive, one-on-one session for people who are finally tired of abandoning themselves:

👉 The 45-Minute Relationship Session

Stop waiting for the cycle to change on its own.

Send me a direct message right now with the word "BACKBONE" and let’s talk about what needs to change today.

1 month ago (edited) | [YT] | 8

Nazneen Irani

Let’s be real for a second. Here are the top 4 things I would do for the rest of my life, even if I never got paid a single dollar:

1️⃣ Creating & Editing Content — Sharing raw messages to inspire you to raise your consciousness, live your most authentic life, say NO, set hard boundaries, and be exactly who God created you to be.

2️⃣ Dance — It is the one thing that instantly makes my soul come alive. It clears out all the heavy energy, grounds me, and brings me straight back into my body.

3️⃣ Coaching & Speaking Truth — Working with my 1:1 clients, but also just out in the world. If I’m in a group and see a message that can help someone, I’m going to say it straight, even if it’s hard to hear.

4️⃣ Writing & Illustrating for Kids — Creating and building things for the next generation to help them become more loving, conscious beings. Real, lasting change in this world starts entirely with them.

Money or no money, this is just who I am.

Now I want to know about you. Take away the job, the stress, and the pressure to make money, who are you at your core, and what makes your soul come alive?

Drop it below.

1 month ago | [YT] | 12

Nazneen Irani

You aren’t ignoring red flags because you have a "big heart."

You are ignoring them because you are terrified of rejection. You mother your partners and fix their lives so they become too dependent to ever leave you.

It’s not selflessness; it’s an emotional transaction. You pay for their peace with your own sanity. Stop fixing people who are comfortable breaking you.

Drop a 💔 if you needed to hear this today. Who are you trying to control by "saving" them?

1 month ago | [YT] | 6

Nazneen Irani

Hi loves, I’m Nazneen. For those of you who are new here…welcome! 🤍

A lot of the work I speak about now came from having to face my own patterns first.

The irony of my life is that while I was going through a separation and completely rethinking love, relationships, and who I was… I got hired to work as a matchmaker 😭

And honestly? It taught me a lot.

I started seeing why so many people struggle to connect.
Why people stay in toxic cycles.
Why emotionally unavailable people feel exciting.
Why some people confuse anxiety with chemistry.

I used to chase chemistry, butterflies, intensity, potential.
I had weak boundaries, overgave, ignored red flags, and slowly became a man’s therapist, mother, and emotional support system instead of his partner.

That pattern humbled me.

So I started changing.

The first thing I did was get closer to God and spirituality. I started journaling, meditating, questioning everything, and asking:
Why are we here?
Why do we abandon ourselves to be loved?
Why do we stay in situations our body already rejected?

The second thing I did was become “selfish” in the healthiest way possible. I got honest about who I was, who I wanted to become, what I needed, what kind of life I wanted, and stopped abandoning myself trying to save everyone else.

If I don’t love myself properly, I can’t truly love or help anyone else. I had to put my own oxygen mask on first.

The third thing I did was say no.
Hell no 😭

No to draining people.
No to disrespect.
No to connections that cost me my peace.
No to giving my energy away so freely.

Having my daughter helped too because it made me protective over my time, energy, peace, and purpose.

I’m still learning, still growing, still human.

If you’re here, chances are you’re trying to understand your own patterns too.

And honestly, that’s where everything starts.

If you’re feeling stuck in the same cycles and want clarity on what’s actually keeping you there, DM me “Clarity.” ✨

1 month ago | [YT] | 14

Nazneen Irani

Your life will keep feeling like a failure until you stop running and actually look in the mirror. Nothing changes until you accept where you’re at and say the truth out loud,

“Yes, I lied. I betrayed. I hurt someone.”

That’s the part people avoid, but that’s also the only way the internal war stops.

You can’t build a peaceful life on actions you know are out of alignment. The guilt will eat at you no matter how successful you look. Integrity is what gives you peace, not money, not status.

At the end of the day, your word is everything. If you’re ready to own your part and stop the cycle, book a private clarity session. Link in the bio 🤍

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