effortless parenting is a channel for parents who deserve to live in a calmer home.
What I will share are methods that will help raising children who are co-operative, willing to listen and feel resilient about overcoming challenges.
The approach is based on Adlerian Psychology.
What you will discover is nothing short of a miracle, at least this is what it felt like to me to try something different.
You can experience a different outcome if you are willing to open yourself to a more loving and peaceful parenting style.
This method will take your parenting skills to a new level of understanding your child's behaviour and truly allow you to connect with them.
Life as a parent is usually lived in the short-term paradigm.
What I offer you is a bigger picture approach reflecting whom you may raise in the long-term.
This parenting method is revolutionary to most of my clients.
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Would you like to know more about why sometimes reactivity gets the better of you?
Below is my latest parenting blog "Discouraged By Mistake".
Read why I decided to hurt back (as a young child) knowing that the consequence for my actions would hurt me even more.
As a young girl, I didn't know why I made decisions as a made.
Learning as a mum that children's behaviour is not random but has a purpose (a goal), is supporting my journey from reactivity to parenting with freedom and boundaries.
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Are you your child’s friend?
When I took a break from social media for most of last month, I pondered the question of worthiness.
Are you worthy without any achievements?
It took me weeks of journaling and diving within to come to a conclusion for the moment.
What I am about to share goes back to my earliest childhood memories.
For as long as I can remember I have been enjoying organising and creating systems & routines that work for me.
In the picture below I am tidying away new wellies the moment after receiving this Christmas gift.
This is not to brag or to give you the impression that I was the perfect 3-year-old.
You’ve probably been observing tendencies in your own child (from a very young age) that may give you a clue what her or his strengths are.
A close family member used to say that in creche and playschool, I was so busy arranging toys that by the time I was about to start playing - we were told to tidy up.
Becoming a mum, I struggled with creative and imaginary play.
Comparing myself to others growing, I often felt left behind.
Whether that was due to:
? Neurodivergence
? Trauma
? Depth of processing or
? Being a different body type,
it may have all kinds of reasons…
It resulted in me believing: I am neither playful nor creative.
We observe everything from birth and decide (based on our own logic) what behaviour we will repeat to find a sense of belonging and significance with others.
Over this last decade parents have been allowing me a front row seat.
The greatest joy and relief are felt when a caregiver becomes aware of what drives their own reaction.
It is never about a child misbehaving.
The struggle comes from our mental images of what we believe how parenting should be instead.
Years ago, freshly engaged, we spent time with friends who were parenting teenagers.
I asked for advice and the couple recommended to treat your child as a friend.
As a new mum, I was confused as to how to “discipline your friend”?
Here is what I have been learning over the last 16 years.
It is not to see a friend as someone whom I don’t have any boundaries with.
It is to see the relationships with my daughter & son having a foundation rooted in respecting myself and respecting them so both might choose me as a trusted friend.
I would love to hear what your thoughts are in the comments below or private message.
Another way to look at this post’s heading would be to ask:
Would I make this comment to a friend?
One lens to look at ourselves and our children rather than through psychopathology is the invitation to ask:
What life skill might be missing in a child?
I would like to leave you with another profound discovery a father whom I shared these skills with recently made.
When we explored the interaction with his young daughter and how to respond differently, he commented:
“I practise exactly what you are saying in my job. Why have not thought of this myself: to apply my skills at home?”
(Confirming humanity: written by annett)
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There Has To Be Another Way
- Overcoming feeling intimidated by teachers
- No social media accounts before 16 in real life
- Guiding adolescents' own intuition before reaching for A.I.
Read my latest parenting blog here:
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Demand Avoidant vs Autonomy Seeking
Have you ever practised something different as a parent that someone suggested or you saw online?
And it didn't work?
Or it might have worked once but not the next time?
You can't explain why sometimes your child co-operates and other times he or she avoids all your demands.
The idea for my latest podcast came from a mum whose child was recently diagnosed with ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder).
What you will hear about is why every child (including neurodivergent) is seeking autonomy and how you can give power in a constructive way.
What does making a demand sound like?
How many commands does a preschooler receive a day?
Finding that balance between parenting with boundaries, rules AND freedom can feel overwhelming.
This short video podcast is not to make you feel worse but to encourage you to say less and accomplish more.
Here is the why behind the strong-willed child's hidden reason why they resist and what you can do:
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Stop Doing vs. Enjoy
What do you do when you want to stop doing something that no longer brings you joy?
I found out that it is not enough to stop something, it needs replacing with what I can enjoy doing.
In Positive Discipline we say:
✅ No blame
✅ No shame
✅ No pain
✅ No judgement
✅ No punishment
✅ No permissiveness
✅ No pampering (rescuing or fixing)
✅ No praise (or almost never)
✅ No punitive time-out
✅ No taking away privileges as punishment
That’s 10 No’s!
The hardest part: you most likely know that the above parenting methods don’t lead to a child’s long-term co-operation and happiness.
Private or in a group setting, nurturing adults are often aware of how they don’t want to feel as a parent.
It always reminds me of shopping around for tiles over a decade ago.
Exactly knowing the tile that would break my heart when it came to cleaning, I had no clue how or where to find the opposite.
With the help and expertise of those who are around tiles all day, I found THE ONE 🤣 and could never “un-know” it.
If you come across parenting challenges where you hear yourself repeating the same over and over, why not try something different?
“The parenting training was great. I got fabulous ideas to adjust my way of engaging with my own child.”
“I learned to be less demanding and see the situation from my child’s point and now feel much calmer.”
“With Annett’s help I was able to listen to my child’s problem and find the ‘real’ issue.”
Positive Discipline is allowing caregivers to practise real life scenarios.
With over 50 parenting tools and skills to choose from, together with parents we’ve been finding solutions for the most difficult circumstances in current times.
To experience and get a taster of this incredible approach where we mutually respect each other, explore this January offer which ends in 3 days.
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(Confirming humanity: written by annett)
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Want to feel less reactive, more respected and reassured as a parent - then my services are for you!
Do you want to improve the relationship with your child?
Do you wish you felt less:
🔥 argumentative
🔥 demanding
🔥 controlling
🔥 lenient
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Feel more capable, competent and confident about your family’s co-operation.
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Revenge & Retaliation: Break the Cycle
Have you ever set a boundary and felt punished for it by the other?
In this podcast you will hear about ways to respond instead of retaliating or making the other pay.
We are at a shift of longer putting children down when they make a mistake or lack a skill.
This episode also touches on:
🌱 Parenting on a limited budget
🌱 A co-parent earning more than you
🌱 Why hurt children hurt others
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Read about my discovery on parenting children with AI
What I thought I could never figure out when it comes to making a decision
When you are loved for who you are
Latest parenting blog, click here: www.effortlessparenting.ie/post/know-your-own-stre…
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Solutions for despair and hopelessness are offered in my latest video podcast.
What can a parent do when their child retreats to the bedroom and feels utter despair and hopelessness?
I was that teenager.
Hear about this most discouraged stage in a child's development and what he or she needs to overcome it and find courage.
Watch latest episode here: https://youtu.be/L8gqFs2ytvo?si=f_XFp...
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